Hey Pandas, What’s The Most Important Attribute To You For A Partner Or Spouse? (Closed)

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Good sense of humor, compassion, etc. But I think now, after being in a relationship with the same person for over 10 years it's the ability and willingness to evolve together... If that makes sense. Life happens, you change, (good or bad). Who you are, your priorities, your desires shift over the years.

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Bonesko

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Allow me to be my genuine self and speak. Let me know that you are listening to what I have to say. Have conversations that can be trivial or deep.
Good communication is important.

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Denise Wads

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Being able to love unconditionally

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CallaghanLive

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Bored Retsuko 2 years ago (edited)

I'm afraid that's not possible between adult romantic partners. 😔

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You have to have my same beliefs, be sweet and kind, give me quiet time, and love me for me.

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KittyKat

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Joshua Moore 2 years ago

Absolutely, I'm a mess, you're a mess, and we love each other completely, no matter what. 🥰❤️

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Be a decent human being.

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Sonia Ward

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Trust and communication!!Especially as someone who is polyamorous,we need to communicate and trust each other.My partner and I are both polyamorous and I have to trust them and they have to trust me to tell them if I’m dating someone.If you don’t communicate with the person you’re dating to me that’s a red flag. If you don’t trust them that’s kinda toxic

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Amber.exe (She/They)

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Show thyself 2 years ago

I don't get why someone downvoted you (back to 0). ||| You're right, a healthy relationship (in any form) requires a great deal of both - neither can exist without the other - and the constant effort of all involved parties. ||| speak with each other, if there are issues then try not to settle for a compromise but find a solution (maybe with professional assistance). Trust each other to be truthfull, be truthfull to trust each other.

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Transparency, honesty, sense of humor, open communication, affection, unconditional love, accepting of my numerous quirks and flaws, just as I do all of that with her and wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. 😁🥰

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Joshua Moore

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They have to be exactly, and I mean exactly(!) like my wife. Luckily my wife just so happens to fit that description.

She loves me for who I am, but also calls me out on my buIIshit, and is 100% behind me when I seek to improve myself. She’s generous, kind, the funniest person I know, smart as hell, and a total badass.

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UpQuarkDownQuark (he/him)

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Jynxiecat 2 years ago

That is awesome. You are very fortunate to have each other. I hope you have many many more years together.

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Honesty and trust are HUGE for me. Along with respecting me as an equal and being faithful, both physically and emotionally.

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Jynxiecat

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This sounds kinda weird, but if you can’t make garlic bread and noodles and have most of my beliefs I cannot marry you

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Bubblegum Witch

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Donkey boi 2 years ago (edited)

Well the first 2 are easy , so I guess it comes down to your beliefs. But if your beliefs are that you should serve garlic bread WITH noodles... well... then I'm afraid I can't commit. I'm won't look down upon anyone's eating habits, but I couldn't be a part of that myself.

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For me it's rationality and the ability to reason. That way instead of differences becoming a divide, you grow together.

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Donkey boi

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They need to be straightforward. I don't have time or energy for that "guess why I'm mad" bs.

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Dutchman Callypso

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I have anxiety and such, so if you get upset with me asking if you’re upset or angry, it’s a dealbreaker. I assume the worst when people are around me, and I’m always on alert to stop anger or anything from happening, so I need that reassurance sometimes. If you push me to do things that make me uncomfortable but not most people (like social gatherings can be hell for me, but “no one else has a problem with it”, and even certain foods can make me panic), it’s a dealbreaker.

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