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Hey Pandas, What’s One Thing That’s Got You Stressed Lately?
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#1
coming out to my father. he has said to me before that he's fine with any of my sisters or me to have girlfreinds or boyfriends, but it's been difficult to tell him. I'm also the most trouble child out of my family (though I've never really done anything bad, I hardly speak my true feelings and battle very real depression, but no one believes a word I say. especially on my moms side)
Final score:
7points
Missy 2 years ago
That's tough. Not me, but I had a couple of friends in high school that were gay, and prior to them coming out it caused them alot of anxiety. Hiding a part of yourself (for whatever reason) consumes you, it's exhausting, and stressful. Maybe ripping off the bandaid and telling your father will lessen your depression. If it doesn't change, at least you can learn how to cope once you're honest with yourself and what you need. From your post, it seems like your father will accept it. It might be uncomfortable, and stressful, but if you don't that knot in your stomach will only get worse. I hope everything works out. Best of luck!
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#2
I haven't told my family this, or really anyone, but the stress of having my mom missing, even though she's a criminal I haven't seen for 6 years, takes a toll on me. I know she may be gone or dead, and she's a bad person, but that doesn't stop the natural attachment I have to her. After all, she's my mom, even if I barely know her. Am I wrong to be stressed about it?
Final score:
6points
Missy 2 years ago
Absolutely not! My father has his share of issues and while I did cut him out of my life, I still worry about him. As much damage as he caused, he's my father. I know it's not the same as what you have (or are) going through. But you are it's not 'wrong' to worry. I hope you can find some sort of peace.
#3
The standards i need to maintain at school to avoid bullying (i’m only thirteen and have to wear too much makeup)
Final score:
4points
#4
I had a year long project in my AP Human Geography class and I always told myself "You're fine, you've got time to do it." Now I have 8 days to finish a 20 page project and I'm to the point where I'm calculating how much it'll hurt my grade if I don't finish/do it.
Final score:
3points
Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago
Prof here, fwiw. You're overwhelmed, I'm sure, but it might help to beak this 20 page project down into smaller steps. You might even be able to get credit for partial completion this way. Instead of "I have 8 days to write this 20 page project," figure out what smaller elements you need to do: research, watching something, outlining, reading and making notes, putting together a presentation, whatever. Then you can break it down further by seeing you need 6 hours at the library for research and note-taking, two hours for outlining, 3 hours to find pictures for your presentation, and so on. So Monday is a library day, Tuesday is going over notes and an hour of outlining, Wednesday is finishing the outline and writing an intro paragraph, and so on. Because of COURSE you're not going to just sit down the night before and write one draft from the beginning to the end and turn that it, are you...? 😏
#5
I recently was contacted by an old friend to help him get his convenient store and dining room up and running. For some back stork, my friend is a doctor from Pakistan and he thinks Americans are always out to take advantage of him plus he doesn’t treat women as equals. Anyways, when we did our initial walk through, I told him I’d need a budget because he needed plumbing, electrical, rooming, HVAC systems, etc. for 3 weeks I came in and cleaned green and blue mold from ceiling to floor while enlisting the help of my Dad who is a Master Plumber and teaches the apprentice classes for welding in his field, had an electrician who owed me a favor, called in every single favor owed to me to get the smaller jobs taken care of. Finally I’ve done everything I can except for order the cooking equipment for this large industrial kitchen and have the plumber and electrician come for the final few tasks. All of this was done for free up until this point. I had informed him we would have to buy the remaining materials and pay my Dad’s help. This is when I got a hard ‘No’ and was told these guys should just finish it for him because he didn’t want to spend the money. The Health Department requires certain things in a kitchen when serving the public. He didn’t want to purchase those items either and told me if we just clean it should be all ok. He then asked me who this new person he was speaking to was, implying I was being unreasonable. After 3 weeks and still not receiving a paycheck, I finally bailed but not before I called about the business license to inform them of the things he wanted to skim over and hide, and called the health department to let them know the findings of the HVAC guys and everything else he thought he could cut out or just not do. I can’t be a part of people not being paid for their services or working in a place that gets people sick or where they don’t value the hard work employees are doing. All he had to do was pay the help which totaled less than $1,000. Now in order to get his business up and running it will cost him $100,000 or more. The HVAC systems are $80+ alone. We could have had it done in just our area but given I work with these contractors frequently, they were willing to help me. I’ve still yet to get paid from this guy but I did save my contractors and future customers. Should pay your help buddy!
Final score:
3points
Juan Hernandez 2 years ago
😨 that’s messed up. Like I’m at a loss of word just thinking about everything he did
#6
Mum recently lost our child support card, so money has been tighter recently
Final score:
3points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
That's hard. I can't offer much advice except for stay strong, and be there for your mom. It's probably a lot for her to have on her shoulders. If anything, this is a good opportunity to get closer and build a stronger bond. Maybe help her out around the house or apartment, if you can? Or if you're old enough, get a job if you have extra time, that way money isn't as tight. Anyways, keep me updated via the comments. I hope your situation turns out better
#7
Homework. Right now it's so hard- I can't even do it anymore. I don't think I'm the only person
Final score:
2points
#8
Well, I have two things stressing me out, but the most stressful thing is that I have a holocaust museum tonight! Everyone in my school had to make something representing the horrors that people had to go through for it. I made a painting, but I don't know if it looks good. I also wrote an essay but I am very scared that I will get a bad grade. It is a very important part of my grade for english AND social studies.
Final score:
2points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
If you were brave enough to paint an entire picture, I'm sure it's gonna turn out great. Try not to stress too much about grades though. They're important, but they shouldn't control your stress
#9
My AP Spanish test!!!!
Final score:
2points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
AP tests are hard. However, I'm sure you're gonna pass. You've got this!
#10
Not being able to find a full time job to replace the bad one I got, and not finding any customers for my art and photography.
Final score:
2points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
The job portion of that sucks. Keep looking there's gotta be one out there somewhere for you. Also, I would be a customer, but I'm incredibly broke. If you want, I have a YouTube channel and a website, and it's not very large, but I could put up an ad or a link to your art/photography so it gets more recognition. I can't promise it'll do much, but it might do something. Would you like me to do that?
#11
Cleaning. I stress about not getting it done in time. I have been cleaning and cleaning. I have taken breaks and all, but I get so stressed sometimes. I love doing it, but I'm afraid of not having it ALL done in "time".
Final score:
1point
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
Yeah, I feel the same when it comes to doing chores. There's hours of them to cram into one day, and I never have the motivation to do them because of my depression. It's one of the main things that stresses me out. I'd advise listening to music while you clean, stay upbeat, and take your breaks outside, if possible. Sometimes a breath of fresh air relives just a small bit of stress
#13
All of the lies
Final score:
1point
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
Just by those 4 words, I can tell you're stressed. Do you need someone to talk to?
#14
I have two things that are really sucking right now, finals for school with my strict parents and coming out. I'm more stressed out by coming out as bi because it's terrifying but lying to my family for the next three years (when I go to college, hopefully out of state) just seems awful.
Final score:
1point
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
I have strict parents as well, and if I had to come out, that would be a crappy experience. Since I don't know how strict your parents are, I'd say evaluate on whether telling them or hiding it is worse. How would they react? Would they react in a way that would make telling them not worth it? Lying about it for three years seems like a lot of stress though. If they're good parents, they'll accept and support you. If they don't, you've always got other people who definitely will. If you ever need my email for someone to talk to, you can reply via the comments. Anyways, good luck with your finals and coming out!
#15
I feel sick everytime I see anything about opioid or fetanyl use or deaths from drugs in general. Just a sinking, sad feeling for the addicts and their loved ones.
Final score:
1point
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
Yeah... that's stressful. I have a boyfriend who was on drugs before we got together, and though I managed to get him off them before he truly became addicted, it was painful watching him cough and get sick all the time.
#16
My Mom got married a few weeks ago, she got a new job in a different state so she's moving us to be closer to get job. Which means in going to have to go to an new school, and this is pretty much my first school year having friends. And I'm going to high school. So yeah . . . Thoughts on this?
Final score:
1point
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
Moving is tough, and making new friends is even tougher. As someone who is in high school, I'd say find a group of people, stick with them, and you'll be okay. If you want, I can be your online friend and we can communicate via email until you find a solid friend group. Would you want to do that?
#17
school :(
Final score:
1point
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
What aspect of school is stressing you out? If you figure out what particular part of something is stressing you, you might be able to take steps to make that thing less stressful
#18
My kids school, my middle child may have to go back to kindergarten next year. We put no on the paper first thing in the morning teacher calls us. I have my husband talk to her. Cause I am not good with talking to people. Her first reason was my child was too small, like why are you allowed to say that she is old enough and both me and her father are short people. My husband told the teacher we are a short people. I'm 4"11 and my husband is 5"7 it is a big chance we will have a short kid. But anyway that. And also work I want to keep the job I have I have began working fast food which I told myself I would not go back to. But I'll take what I can get when times get hard or when I have do what I have to do. Anyway we are very short staffed. An it puts so much stress on me. Sometimes I think today's gonna be the day I walk out. The people that working are grouchy because of the reasons. An some of them are just unpleasant to work around sometimes, and nightshift which we close at ten. Nightshift is still a joke and it slower than day shift. We have had people come from different countries and states to help out this branch. However I just feel so bad for them to one day to the next you don't know who gonna come in and who ant at nightshift. And I don't want to leave like three people to fend for themselves but I also want to go home to my kids when my shift is over. I am not a manger of any kind. I've only stayed once and did eleven hr shift but I know more are going to probably come in the future. An it so stressful.
Final score:
0points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
Go home and see your kids. Family is more important than work, and your kids want and need you these more than your workplace does. If your workplace truly needs you there that much, they should be hiring more people, not letting/making their employees work 11 hour shifts
#19
What's stressing me out lately is whether I'm moving back in with my mom and grandpa be cause i can't bear to be alone anymore and I have no friend's past a group of dudes who are better friends with my bf.
has anyone else just felt hollow?
Final score:
0points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
Yeah, I feel hollow too. Do you want a friend? I can't actually meet you anywhere, but we can talk via email
#20
My stress right now is due to a medical issue. My knee needs to be replaced. I won't get into all the details but it's pretty bad. Here's the stressful part...My doctor and I can not find a surgeon who is willing to do the surgery. My BMI is 46 (it used to be over 63) but all the doctors we have found so far, in my state, want my BMI to be 40 or less. They tell me "Oh just lose the weight really quick." If it were that easy no one one earth would have a high BMI. I don't understand why this is even an issue but it is. So, until I either lose the weight they want or my knee breaks completely I am stuck with no hope of getting the help I need. So yeah that's my stress at the moment.
Final score:
0points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
That...that isn't fun, and I'm sorry that you have to go through that.
#21
My stress is job related....the situation has worked itself out now, but it was super stressful at the time. I had to walk out of a job due to bad management and being treated bad. I got a new job within a week, but the supervisor there changed her mind and pulled the job offer. I got another offer the next day, which was great and I went through all the onboarding and began the training only to have that put on hold due to a problem in the company...I really wanted this job as I loved the supervisor there and the school program I would be teaching in. I was super stressed the whole week wondering if I was going to be able to keep this job or not...finally that Friday I got a message telling me everything was worked out and I could start the next week...I finished my first week and I love the job....so maybe I was wrong for getting so stressed out about it.
Final score:
0points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
You weren't wrong in getting stressed out. If I was in your situation, I would have been freaking out as soon as they put the job offer on hold.
#22
final tests for the year and the summer coming is just stressing me out for some reason
Final score:
0points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
Honestly, I feel the exact same. I hate summertime because of the lack of friend contact, and finals have got to be the most useless stressful thing school has ever invented
#23
This is gonna sound ridiculous but I keep having dreams (nearly every night for months now) about having a 3rd baby! I really really really don't want any more babies! My life is perfect with my family of 4 and I had 2 terrible deliveries already so I said no more. But these dreams got me freaked. (No I'm not pregnant... I had my Dr check)
Final score:
0points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
It might be your subconscious telling you that you've thought about it a lot, perhaps too much. If it's on your mind often, that could be the reason why you're having that reoccurring dream. I'm no dream specialist, but I'd say don't get too stressed about it
#24
My health, work, moving states away, my family, my in-laws, did I mention work?
Final score:
0points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
I can't help with most of that, but I can say to try to stay positive, and focus on what doesn't make you stressed. Also, if your family or inlaws are toxic, don't stay in touch as much with them (provided that's possible). They may be related , but that doesn't mean you have to put up with their antics
#25
Sending my baby to daycare. I have to go back to work soon and he'll be in the care of good people, but they will never love him as much as I do
Final score:
0points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
I'd say that them not loving him as much as you do is a good thing. He'll still be taken care of, but once he sees you pick him up, he'll be incredibly happy because you're the one who loves him the most. Now granted, I'm no baby, but I can assume that's how the baby might feel based off of how we adult/teenage humans feel when we see one person versus another one that we like better
#26
Finances. Oldest had a baby in September. Both working full-time & they still can't make it. Hubby is almost 60, but retirement is out of the question because we're helping them. I'm disabled & trying to apply for assistance, but didn't really work after I had kids, we'll see. Youngest has physical & mental health issues so has trouble working. Looking like she may be disabled because of it. All our savings went away w/ my cancer. Finally getting back on our feet, hubby had a heart attack. I swear you just can't make it on your own anymore
Final score:
0points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
Sounds like life just kicked you when you were down, which sucks. I'm not sure what the physical and mental health issues are, but is it possible that she could find a job where she can work at home via a laptop to make some money? If she could do that, it might help to get your family back on your feet. Depending on her situation, that may or may not work. I sincerely hope that your situation gets better and things stop going downhill.
Brenda (Submission author) 2 years ago
We'll make it. My parents moved back here & bought a house so we could live with them and pay off medical bills. Talking to Dr's Re: youngest, neurologist & orthopedic. Thank you for caring. The past 6-7 years have been hard, but with family we are getting there slowly but surely
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I have a 6 week old son with an incredibly controlling and emotionally abusive man. I am on welfare and only receive $700 a month. My rent is $500. My spouse pays for things but is bad with money and often treats himself to weed or electronics while I go without groceries. I wash all his clothes, clean, and take care of the baby. He works hard too but anytime he is stressed he uses me as a verbal punching bag. I'm tired, lonely, sad, and scared of what the future will bring.
Final score:
0points
ScrupulousScribbler 2 years ago
I can say I'm not an expert in that situation, and I can't help too much, but I would say start trying to save up any extra money. It's obvious you don't have much, but if you do have any, save it. Eventually you'll be able to get out of all of that. Your spouse is obviously abusive, and abusive relationships are never good for anyone. Get out as soon as you can, and keep going. I wish you the best.
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