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Hey Pandas, What Was The Most Hurtful Statement Someone Has Said To You? (Closed)
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"It's just that, you don't matter"
My mom told me that she didn't like hugs, she admitted that she never liked hugs.
She said she didn't mind hugging us when we were little because kids need affection to develop normally.
She told me this while I was in the middle of a panic attack and just wanted some comfort, when she offered to hug me if I really wanted it, I felt that kind of defeated the purpose.
Now, every year on my birthday I force a BIG AWKWARD HUG on her, she tolerates it well, I like to do the full body with a little rocking, just to make up for all the hugs I don't get from her year-round. :)
She's a great mom to tolerate cuddling us gross kids all those years though, purely for our wellbeing, but I'd be a lot happier if I never knew the truth.
"Best case scenario you end up an alcoholic, worst case, you end up a serial bomber." ~My mother.
My psychiatrist said something similar to me, said I was 'an emotional retard'.
When my husband used to call me a fatass. I weighed 115lbs and am 5'4". It hurt me badly and eventually I started believing it. I got down to 84lbs, nearly died and had to go into treatment for being anorexic and bulimic. This is something I still struggle with everyday. Words hurt.
my "best friend" (now ex friend bc she cut me off) told me when I came out as genderqueer that i was a girl and that was all i would ever be, i could never be anything else, even if i wanted to be, that god made me a girl because i was supposed to be a girl, etc. etc.
sounds like basic transphobia but it really hurt especially since literally two days before she told me she'd always be there for me no matter what
i thought she'd be okay since i came out as lesbian and she didn't made a deal about it but before she cut me off she told me i was going to hell for being gay anyways, even if i decided to stay a girl.
Now that I think about it - what shaped me was something my mother said. Not to me but to someone else. “Well (brothers name) will go far, and the best thing we can hope for for (my name) is that she marries money”. (Post note: I was the one who traveled through Europe)
When I was twelve I was in love with a boy in my class.
Took all my cottage and told him.
He said I was fast and disgusting and made fun of me with his friends even years later. like, how he wants to run home and take a shower, because he is so disgusted by the fact that i like him.
I am 34 now and still overweight. Not good looking, no pretty face or anything. I don't flirt, I don't even try.
When I have to go to a doctor I am constantly afraid they are disgusted when they have to examine me physically.
which they probably sometimes are, i am a doctor myself and i know how my colleagues talk about overweight patients.
My best friend's brother called me a s**t because I'm kinda boy-crazy. The worst thing is, he said it behind my back and my best friend (bless his heart
So I made my bully one his pants once. If you want details go to “Hey pandas, What is something you got in trouble for and have absolutely no regrets.” Basically he peed on the bus and yelled at me “you are a stupid 3rd grader and I’m a 4th grader.” And then he said “you couldn’t work the machine in the library dumb dumb, I bet you came here because you pooped yourself in 2nd grade!” The fact that he knew my greatest insecurity pushed me over the edge. He was suspended for a week because apparently 5 others said he was bullying them. My school had a strict no bullying policy.
I guess this isn't so bad. I was once told in high school by my best friend's girlfriend, "You can be handsome, if you lost some weight and fixed your teeth". That was like 17 years ago and it weirdly just stuck in my mind.
Other than that, it's the usual fat jokes but I've come to just accept that it happens and I ignore it.
You are, by nature’s design, inherently beautiful. Never let someone else’s insecurities become yours.
I was told I was hideous in fifth grade. I don't know why but that hurt more than anything anyone's ever said about me. I'm still super insecure about my looks now even though it's been about 4 years. Some people did try to make me feel better by yelling at him and asking if I was okay.
The phrase “it’s not like you are smart enough” - took me years, but, I got sober and went back to school. My roommate at the time, sent a pic of me in my cap and gown (I almost didn’t go) with a note I found after my mom passed. I didn’t even know she knew. BTW, I graduated with a 3.98 GPA, Perfect Attendance, and National Honor Society.
"smriti, he's a BOY! You shouldn't talk to him and act like him!"
-A best "friend" said this because I was talking to my COUSION.
Also, F**K YOU deary, I can talk to whoever I want and act however I want :)
My mother has commented on my
education
face
body
friends
art
preference of songs
since I was little till now. Wile other moms told their children how beautiful they were, my mom kept telling me I looked like a man/boy.
'You're not pansexual. I can't have you ass my sister if you are."
That I wasn't "loveable" and that happiness, peace and security were just never going to happen for me. My damages from a life full of trauma made me too damaged and my good qualities don't outweigh my baggage so I should just get used to knowing I'll die alone....YEAH THAT STUNG.
That I wasn't "loveable" and that happiness, peace and security were just never going to happen for me. My damages from a life full of trauma made me too damaged and my good qualities don't outweigh my baggage so I should just get used to knowing I'll die alone....YEAH THAT STUNG.