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Hey Pandas, What Is The Worst Thing Your So-Called Best Friend Said To You? (Closed)
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#1
“Reese we all know your an attention seeker,stop saying your trans”
Final score:
64points
hyperunknown 3 years ago (edited)
Not to pile on but you posted about it, and your name is about it, and your profile description is also about it, so.. Not sure your friend was that wrong :)
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#2
Not a friend but my mother. I told her my boyfriend of 8 years had cheated on me and the other girl was now pregnant. This was after we had had two miscarriages, which my mum knew. Her response was “oh well, what do you expect”…because I was fat. She felt I deserved it. 18 years later and I can still hear it like it was yesterday.
Final score:
49points
#3
I was dating a new guy, and we were talking
On the phone, but having a disagreement. It was the first disagreement we'd had. I said that I didn't want to argue, because he had become my best friend. His reply? You're a bitch, and you've always been a bitch.
Huh, I said, I just called you my best friend and you call me a bitch? I hung up. Needless to say that was the end of the relationship! Thank goodness I found out early on, what an ah he was!
Final score:
35points
#4
19 years ago, my daughter was born with Down Syndrome. My best friend at the time told me she knew how i felt, her son was just diagnosed with Asthma.
Final score:
32points
#5
I had a lifelong best friend, over text, in a group message, tell me that I was mentally and emotionally exhausting and that she needed some space while I “got my act together”. I know that some of that might have been justified? But this is after I walked with her through her own struggles, cleared my schedule for her. I never really opened up in detail what I was going through to her, as I thought it would be a burden. Naturally, however, I wasn’t exactly “myself”. Later in the year after I’d almost reconciled everything, she called me and acted like everything was completely normal and nothing ever happened. Needless to say, that was it. I’m in a WAY better place now, but man that really sucked.
Final score:
29points
#6
when i was stuff years old I was very happy because had finally found a friend in elementary school. it was the first friendship i ever had.
Once I was at her house and a friend of her mom's asked "oh, you have someone visiting, are you two friends?" and I, enthusiastically, answered "Yes, we're best friends" and she answered "well sadly we are best friends. i don't like her."
What made it worse was that the adults laughed about it and kept repeating it. The hours until my parents picked me up felt endless.
Years later I understand that she didn't hurt me on purpose. her parents made her have play dates with me because i was considered a "good influence". It's not her fault, but it was painful anyway. And I still think the adults should not have made so much fun of it. I needed comfort but didn't even dare to cry and did my best to hide my pain.
Final score:
25points
#7
Same "friend," the person I had known for 20 years. I helped her through her divorce, I was with her for every breakup with guys she dated, and I was the one she called in the middle of the night when she had to go to the emergency room. Someone in her life committed suicide when I was in the middle of a big crisis of my own and I dropped everything to run to her.
1. Four and a half months after my marriage broke up in a painful way, she told me to buy a ticket to a Valentine's Day Sweetheart's Dance with her and her new boyfriend. She thought I should go "because it was for a good charity." When I finally backed out, I told her that it would be too painful to be around a bunch of loving couples as a single person. Another friend, J, took my ticket. Later she complained to me that she didn't like J and I was selfish to make her put up with J. Later J told me that she said I should have just taken an anti-anxiety pill and sucked it up "because it was a good charity."
2. When I got breast cancer, she basically disappeared. She came with me to one chemotherapy when I was scared, and then left to go have lunch with somebody else as soon as the nurse took me back. I actually heard more from the nice little old man who ran the mailbox store I went to then I did from her. I wrote her an email to tell her that this hurt me and to ask why. She ghosted me. This led to some passive aggressive exchanges on Facebook (honestly from both of us, I did it too.) Finally she said, "Get down off the cross, someone needs to use the wood." I had never heard that saying before and I was devastated. I cried all night. The next morning I woke up and realized that she was right: I was making myself a martyr over a false friend. And that was that. Now my only regret is that I spent so much emotional energy on someone who was never really my friend.
Final score:
23points
#8
I had a friend that complained to me that she didn't have any friends. It made me feel like she was saying I wasn't her friend.
Side note: I couldn't help but notice that you were posting a lot about bad experiences with friends, if you need any advice or support, I'm here to listen and help
Final score:
22points
MaggieWest 3 years ago
I once had a roommate who complained that nobody celebrated his birthday with him, even though me and his other roommate had taken time off work to be with him.
#9
He didn't say anything. Just stopped talking to me completely.
Final score:
20points
Manndy Fisher 3 years ago
We went on holidays to the sea side. I was with a gut for a year then and we shared the same "Best Friends". On the first night he slept with his ex girlfriend who worked in the same village as her father owned some apartment building there. I broke up with him and felt pretty sh***y, but had to stay for another week to not be forced to travel alone for 12h in the train (they were dangerous then where I came from). My "Best Friends" stopped to talk to me and took my ex's side commenting how "cute" he and the other girl looked together. When I asked why they basically abandoned me in the worst time, my BFF told me she thought I wanted be alone. FFS really? Like I was listening to her moaning after her break up for a month so how the F she got that idea? Dumped her too after few years, no regrets. Fun twist? The girl, who my ex was with back there, was engaged and her Fiancée came to her 2 days before my departure. They pretended nothing happened.
#10
"You need to stop caring about what your parents think so much."
B*tch we were in third grade! She wanted me to go over to her house after school, when my mom had already said no. She tried to convince me to run away from my mom when she came to pick me up after school.
I was ten when I stopped talking to her, eleven when I told her to never speak to me again. She apparently didn't catch on the first time.
Final score:
19points
#11
You’re no one
Final score:
18points
#12
“You know… none of us really like you”
Final score:
18points
#13
I had just started dating a guy and he was on the cross country team. One day at the beach my friend turned to me and said, "I never thought you would be fatter than your boyfriend". I already had low self esteem previous to this, but it triggered many years battling eating disorders.
Final score:
16points
hellomynameisT 3 years ago
Omg no! That's no friend!! I bet the 'friend' was jealous.. no excuse though
#14
Background: she had been avoiding a real conversation with me for months, no matter how hard I tried. One day on the bus, I asked her if something was wrong at home and she said she didn’t want to be besties anymore. I was hurt but fine, until we had this conversation:
“Isn’t it weird how we’ve been talking everyday for 2 weeks are I’m already sick of you?”
I said “I’m sorry, but we didn’t have much conversation anyway.”
Her: “well, I was doing that on purpose.”
It might not seem like much, but I remember it word for word and it still hurts to think about.
Final score:
15points
#15
Nothing....never had one.
Final score:
14points
#16
My boyfriend cheated on me, and I was devastated. My friend if it was possible that he was emotionally attracted to me but physically attracted to her.
Final score:
13points
Dandelion Patch 3 years ago
Dump both of them. True friends should have your best interest at heart.
#17
After my ex dated me, he moved states and dated another girl for two years and then they broke up. He killed himself shortly afterwards. I cried for days. He was a sweet soul who meant so much to me. My friend asked me, “Do you think it’s partly your fault he killed him self?” He said we were soul mates after we broke up to her. I’ll never forgive her for asking that. I’ve since been putting distance between us.
Final score:
13points
hellomynameisT 3 years ago
Oh wow. It's good you distance yourself from her. It is unacceptable what she said
#18
First told me that she'd always be there for me no matter WHAT and that i was incredible
then a week later told me i was going to hell and ghosted me
we aren't friends anymore and ik i shouldn't be hung up on it but i am
Final score:
9points
Dandelion Patch 3 years ago
She showed you her true nature: she lied and then was cruel. Whenever you think about it, remind yourself that she's not a good person and you don't deserve to be treated like that.
#19
I don't like you anymore, but will you still be my friend? (What my sisters bestfriend/crush said to her)
Final score:
9points
#20
"I used to be selfish like you before I had children." Said to me after I'd spent many months supporting her through IVF treatments and had mentioned I was thinking about taking a trip to Nepal on my own. Because I was single. And had no kids.
Final score:
9points
Viviane 3 years ago
Your friend sounds jealous. Don't stop doing things you enjoy just because she thinks the whole world has to stop for her sake. Or does she seriously expect you to take her kids and their father with you? I had a good laugh years ago. A mother of two told me that she was going on vacation in Mexico. I asked her, "Are you taking the kids with you?" She said, "No, what kind of vacation would THAT be?"
#21
Their gender fluid but refuses to use my name and pronouns
Final score:
9points
#22
My only friends are my stuffies :D and they don’t talk. To much 🙃
Final score:
8points
#23
17 years my best friend. Her new boyfriend didn't like me. Always called her and demanded to come home for several reasons, when we were together. An she jumped immediately home to him. After a few months there were only short messages instead of calling or meeting. Last time I talked to her, she told me, her boyfriend thinks I would always try to manipulate her and I would be jealous of their perfect relationship. And SHE thinks, I would only be interested in myself, so in her opinion we have never been real friends. Thank God her boyfriend had openend her eyes... Didn't hear anything in the last 2 years and it still hurts.
Final score:
8points
Lord Mysticlaw 3 years ago
I'm not defending her but I am a bit worried that the boyfriend might be emotionally abusive – trying to keep her away from other people in her life might be a sign of that.
#24
This is less of what she said but more of what she and her friend did. So when I was in 2nd grade my "best friend" was teaching me how to do a handstand during recess. So I did a handstand and fell on my back (we were on soft grass so no injuries with that) So I thought my friend went to help me up, but instead she Stood on my stomach with one foot so her whole body weight was on me. My other friend with me didn't help me up but instead started laughing like it was the funniest thing alive.
Final score:
8points
#25
“You know how it is! We all do it.”
No, we do NOT all cheat on our partners
Final score:
8points
#26
One of my ancient chums ask this likewise ancient ole' ME for a sizable loan. Both over 80 year old, widowed, living on Social Security. There is absolutely no way either of us could repay a loan. She was very angry with me for deny her a loan. I lost 50 to 75% of my esteem for her.
Final score:
8points
#27
I had one write me and tell me we "were never friends", or he may have said best friends repeating what I had written.
I had another who said (by her action technically) her relationship with my parents, which was a Christmas card exchange and nothing more, was more important than our 20 year friendship.
Final score:
7points
PiscesMama 3 years ago
How did her actions tell you your parents were more important than you? I can’t think of how your friend had to pick between you and your parents? I’m a little confused???
#28
My mother, when I was 14 and told her I wanted to have a secondhand shop, said with disdain "you need to k.n.o.w somebody". Years later we bought a beautiful necklace at a secondhand shop run by a former classmate (I wonder who he knew). I never knew anyone I guess cause I never had a secondhand shop, but I have sold handcrafts at markets ...
Final score:
7points
#29
she pranked my about my dogs tails bleeding badly(I would do anything for my dogs btw)
Final score:
7points
#31
Your face...you always look like a bull.
Final score:
7points
hellomynameisT 3 years ago
Why would someone say that?! People really should stop making other people feel bad to make themself feel better!!
#32
I have none. I am really happy I have the best friend I do!
Final score:
7points
#33
When I was 16 my father told me no one would love me if I was fat
This was after I put on a stone after struggling with and getting over an eating disorder.
I can still Remember it like it was yesterday
Final score:
7points
hellomynameisT 3 years ago
Noooo! Im so sorry. I hope you're not struggling anymore with the eating disorder.
#34
"what church do you go to?"
"Actually, I'm Atheist."
*Look of confusion*
"But you're going to hell...."
Final score:
6points
Tom Jacobs 3 years ago
I find the classic "you're going to hell" threat a little redundant when you don't actually believe in such a place.
#35
I've known her since we were about 6 years old, so over 30 years. After she had a child she sent me pictures of her son telling me that she loves to take funny and unflattering pictures. When I told her via Whatsapp the next day that my father also thought that one picture was funny she BLEW UP on me. Told me that she thought better of me than body-shaming a baby, and asked me if I ever looked into a mirror, and other things like that. I never commented on the looks of her baby, and quite frankly I didn't even care. I only said that that one funny picture she sent me after she told me she likes taking funny pictures, is actually funny.
I was always insecure about my looks, and having my best (or so I thought) friend telling me that I am ugly completely broke me. I stopped texting her, because I physically just couldn't, and for over a year she did not reach out to me either. She texted me during the first Corona lockdown, and now we are writing back and forth about unimportant stuff, but for me, the friendship/connection is just gone. Also, she never apologized.
I let some friends and even my therapist read that conversation, just to ask them if I said something wrong, but every single one of them said now, it was her who completely overreacted.
Final score:
6points
Alexia 3 years ago (edited)
We were co-workers for several years, sharing the same office. I was her moral support after her fiance broke up with her just when they were planning the wedding. Comforted her and witnessed endless cries and complaints about her ex. Defended her when I heard others gossiping about her. Joined her in vacations and trips so she wouldn't be alone and miserable. Fast forward 3 years, she finds someone else and gets married. We went out at a restaurant one evening, and the owner casually asked her about me: "She is your best friend, right?" To which she replied bluntly: "No, she's not my friend." I was speechless. Later she tried to justify herself, telling me I shouldn't be upset, because in her opinion she really didn't have any true friends.
#36
"You looked so much prettier when you were skinny."
I was recovering from anorexia
Final score:
6points
#37
Sorry - not only something they said, but things they did all in one day
- We planned a day together only to find out she double-booked herself, so she chose the other person
….. it was my birthday
- Gave me a bday present she said she’d been looking forever for, it was a regift
….. that she showed me
- Woke up with hives on my bday, she said oh okay
Final score:
5points
Blaze Fitzwater 3 years ago (edited)
My birthday is exactly 7 days after Valentine's Day. My ex best friend gave me old chocolate covered strawberries she got from some guy the week before. Some people are only meant to be in your life for a reason or a season; not a lifetime.
#38
When I was 9 years old I was best friends with this boy. We both were in aftercare at school, as our parents worked late and could only fetch us from school late in the afternoon. My friend had fallen and skinned both his knees days before and he had thick scabs. One afternoon when his mother came to pick him up, she saw he had been picking at the scabs. He told his mother that I had been the one picking his scabs and eating them! She screamed at me before leaving. The next day there was an enquiry at school because of what happened. Luckily no one believed my now ex-bestfriend. The whole incident was traumatic and I still think about it to this day.
Final score:
5points
#39
It was my sister. My husband and I get back from the hospital after he has had a radical prostatectomy due to having cancer. She calls and wakes us both up at midnight to tell me that if he can never “do it” again, it’s OK to get a lover. He does not speak to her anymore ( it’s been 20 years).
Final score:
5points
Carol Emory 3 years ago
I would have said "Any information on my sex life or lack there of is none of your damn business!!"
#40
Sometimes my best friend glares at me. She uses me because no one else in our friendship group is in our class. She only talks to me cause she knows no one else. I’m friends with other girls in our class but I talk to everyone. Sometimes she just replaces me with them and if we’re in a group task she just disagrees with everything I say even if she knows I’m right.
Final score:
4points
Blaze Fitzwater 3 years ago
Why is "best friend" written in the present tense? She needs to be cut off immediately.
#41
My mother told me no man would ever love me.
Final score:
4points
Carol Emory 3 years ago
My mother told me that she gave my marriage a year. Happy to say she was wrong. My marriage has so far surpassed hers by 6 years (31 years and still going.)
#42
"You may be the worst person I've ever known."
Final score:
3points
#43
you cant be in the game you are banned
Final score:
3points
#44
I was ill in hospital and my boyfriend dumped me. He didn’t even tell me, just refused to take my calls.
My “friend” told me it was my fault for being ill and that he had her sympathies.
At the time, because of my job, I was quite well connected. This woman was very keen to meet them. She was never a true friend.
Dropped her like a hot potato.
Final score:
3points
#45
At first I thought it was the most awful and hurtful thing you could say to someone, but it turned out that it was great advice. I wanted to leave my husband, but was worried the divorce would ruin is life and he would be forever alone. He was a good guy, just not good for me and I was awful for him. My friend said, "you're not that great, he'll be fine." And she was right. I wasn't so awesome that it ruined his life. He ended up re-marrying - a girl from his small hometown and they have kids now.
Final score:
2points
Viviane 3 years ago (edited)
One of my relatives achieved self-awareness and I've really come to admire her. She recounted that during her acrimonious divorce, her ex called her a bitch in front of their children. She said, "I AM a bitch, I was a bitch to him, but don't say that in front of the children!" (she's always been a very good mother). She's still tough, but only to people who truly deserve it (such as folks who don't pay what they owe her workplace).
#46
Childishly said that if I were friends with so and so that we couldn't be friends any more. This is so elementary. She would say that about people who didnt have a nice enough car or didnt wear up to date clothing and such. Just petty s**t. I am friends with everyone. I've never met a stranger. I love all people and am true to the end except with childish, petty people like her.
Final score:
2points
hellomynameisT 3 years ago
I hate it when people only care about appearance and expensive stuff. I think they'll never learn what true friendship is.
#47
A woman I was in love with is fundamentalist Christian, but knew that I wasn't Christian. When I asked if she'd like to discuss it, she answered:
"No thanks. I don't want to think about you going to hell."
Final score:
2points
#48
We went on holidays to the sea side. I was with a gut for a year then and we shared the same "Best Friends". On the first night he slept with his ex girlfriend who worked in the same village as her father owned some apartment building there. I broke up with him and felt pretty sh***y, but had to stay for another week to not be forced to travel alone for 12h in the train (they were dangerous then where I came from). My "Best Friends" stopped to talk to me and took my ex's side commenting how "cute" he and the other girl looked together. When I asked why they basically abandoned me in the worst time, my BFF told me she thought I wanted be alone. FFS really? Like I was listening to her moaning after her break up for a month so how the F she got that idea? Dumped her too after few years, no regrets. Fun twist? The girl, who my ex was with back there, was engaged and her Fiancée came to her 2 days before my departure. They pretended nothing happened.
Final score:
1point
#50
My bestie said that I was a bich for having a boyfriend (she only started to like him after I started to date him)!!!!
Final score:
1point
Dandelion Patch 3 years ago
Never be friends with someone who drops friends for a relationship. It's a bad sign about their personality.
#52
My friend and business partner told me that because she care too much about our relationship she would no longer be my business partner by sending me a Whatsapp message. She said she did that because she didn’t didn’t care much to talk on the phone. Just that. Out of the blue. For me, at least.
She’s 54 for God’s sake, not 14, she used to come over to my place every single day to work and she didn’t have the guts to tell me that right to my face.
Final score:
1point
#53
When I was in 6th grade, my friends and I were messing around with markers. I thought it would be funny to do some blue marker on my face (skin safe of course) we all laughed and made jokes out of it. Later I walked up to my friend who wasn't in that class with me. I asked her if I had anything on my face. She said "Yeah, pimples. It's not rude, it's the truth."
Long story short, I ended up coming in for lunch that day and cried in front of my teacher.
Final score:
1point
#54
My adult daughter told me I 'ruined her life' but I've never been able to get the where and when I did this. In support of her, my adult son said, 'I think you're mentally ill and need to be evaluated.'
Final score:
0points
#55
“Don’t worry, I’ll save the top bunk.” So we were at a place called the landschool, where we slept over 1 night, twice a year. She did save the top bunk after pouring a gallon of water on it. Then she proceeded to tell me she was going to kill me. She’s in jail bc she accidentally cut me. DONT DO THAT CHARRLOTTE!
Final score:
0points
#56
“I’m not sure why I’m even friends with you.”
My best friend didn’t say that, but my kinda toxic closest friend did. She literally wondered why we’re friends at a sleepover at my house. The rest of the night she got upset that I tap on random things (I have a hard time focusing so I make ASMR to calm myself), make several death threats (supposedly jokes, not like that stuff should be joked about) and was overall not the nicest. Both of us are stubborn but she’s the one who’s plain RUDE. She also knows I’m on this site sooo…Grammar Girl? If you’re reading this? I’m counting down your mistakes until I yeet you out of my life. :)
Final score:
0points
#57
two days ago. I was on a call with my gf and friend, he(my friend) said (my name) faps to woman on the internet, you shouldnt do that you have a gf. I do not fap to woman on the internet btw. he kept on repeating this, it ended up in him being banned from my smp, me and my gf crying over a fake friend who was cool untill this, he was acting like the victim, I was the victim. eventualy I told him go f**k off and get a partner bcoz he had the time to mess with a couples feeling but not get a partner xd, I learned from it and am a better person now tho.
Final score:
0points
#58
Anti-vaxers , anti-maskers and Covid deniers.
Final score:
0points
#59
My born-again bestie told me Im a sinner & going to hell after she talked about her infidelity.
Final score:
0points
#60
i worked hard to lose 100+ pounds and she said "you need to eat a cheeseburger you look sick."
Final score:
0points
#63
In response to #12 (initially tried to post as a comment): Wow this totally sucks. Went through a similar experience in terms of feeling betrayed and how they try to make you feel like you’re the problem (although they are) and to get you to blame yourself. I too felt like a martyr and kept giving chances to my so called best friend of 20 years after she let herself get more and more mean, rude and plain old shockingly inconsiderate and it was because she needed a scapegoat (me). I just posted as well and I related to your post because for me as well it wasn’t just one isolated incident, it was a series of them that had you questioning yourself. I get it. I hope you feel better now and that you have better friends since then. I have lost a lot of trust in people and I really trusted her so this is scary. When a best friend becomes the most monstrous, toxic person you’ve ever known. She made my life a living nightmare on top of knowing I have depression and anxiety, knowing I’d blame myself for her unhappiness if she manipulated and exploded on me. (end of original comment) // (Oh and in 2016 there was a traumatic incident to my vocal cords (I’m a singer), and I recorded a cover song and sent it to her - she already knew about the physical trauma and immediately said I was off key even though it later turned out she’d never heard the original before so how would she know which part of the melody was off or not? It wasn’t true, she was just threatened, jealous, small and insecure.) and although she knew about the trauma, she looked irritated and spat out “you just need to practice” when it’s not a matter of practicing, my God…) I distanced myself from her for about a year but eventually felt guilty and came back and she just kept treating me like s**t and manifested her jealousy into my life by inviting herself over to cities I’ve been living in but still saying she considers my experiences even if they were full of hardship and depression as “fun vacations” just because I branched out and am no longer in our hometown. It’s not about me at all, it’s all for her benefit. She’s regretting whatever it was that led her not to have as much travel experience in life and somehow even though I have nothing to do with it blaming me. And I’ve known her since high school and she used to be so kind and sweet and unconditionally supportive that to see her change into this murderous demon type person scares the s**t out of me. I feel so sad and lonely since to be fair, the times she has been kind and helpful and a hint of her old self, I held onto and hoped she’d see I’m not the problem here, I’m not the cause of whatever pain or misery (oh yes…do I dare mention her saying to me soooo flippantly, out of the blue as I was laughing with her, “because you’re MISERABLE every SECOND of every DAY” when her comment had no context at all…shocking as I have clinical depression, so to hear that was such a demoralizing and hurtful as well as inaccurate thing to say)…ugh I wish she would back off and give me my money back…I also wish she would stop obsessing about what I’m doing and where I am, she’s the only one making it a competition here and I have no interest. It’s also been revealed that she’s been very jealous of the relationships I’ve had (even though I confided all the troubles within them to her) as well as my artistic skills as well as my personality in general AND it was revealed that she even stole some of my smaller items while she was helping me out the items upstairs in storage on my birthday…she feels entitled to steal my things but gives away a favourite sweater from Harry Potter to a random junkie like it meant nothing to her…she seethes over what she sees is my good fortune and family money (we do not come from old money, family is self made immigrants who worked hard) and apparently feels entitled to it as well and doesn’t see the problem in her gaslighting and manipulating me to feel bad and blame myself so she can get it herself :(
Final score:
0points
#64
When I was a film student at the top film school in India, my final project i.e. a short fiction film for which I did cinematography won a National Award!! The National Award is a HUGE HUGE thing!! It's given by Indian government and the director receives the award by the hands of our President!! Not even the Prime Minister!!! I was obviously super excited and I told this to my best friend (whom I considered best friend) her very FIRST reaction was - "how did your film get a National Award?" I was shocked beyond words!!!! I asked her to repeat what she said but she changed the topic and she cut the call in a haste!! Very soon after that I broke up very badly with her!! It was traumatic ... All the deep secrets I shared with her.. I considered her my sole mate and she turned out to be a REAL F*****G BITCH!! I
She was still in touch with my elder sister and recently I was told that she was gone missing from all social media for 3months now. She's not answering anyone's calls or anything. Also her entire family was affected by Covid. Even after all this I cannot resist the very deep tiny voice that I should call her..may be she is in some bad state of mind and needs someone to call her... I don't know...
Final score:
-1point
#66
“You always make me say what you want me to say! I’M NOT YOUR EGO FLUFFER!” Hands down the meanest thing she said to me (and a big part of why I cut her off). My so called best friend of nearly 20 years openly admitted how “jealous” she was of my life even though I struggle from severe depression and anxiety. She exploded this at me hours after I’d asked her on online chat to please let me that the abuse I was suffering was not my fault and that I didn’t deserve it, which I thought was reasonable to ask since she never told me she was sorry that was happening to me and acting like I had to toughen up. When she blew up I was shocked. She’s made a lot of other petty comments about my previous travel and my musical skills but since she was my best friend I always tried to consider her remarks and see if there was any truth to them (nope). Then I asked her if she could think of anything I “made” her say recently…I waited (because there was none), obviously she couldn’t think of any and looked embarrassed. She said a LOT of other crap as well (among many other things, she forbade me to ever travel internationally again…”stop rubbing off” she blew up in an irrationally angry, irritated voice) and I realized how manipulative, gaslighting, toxic and cruel she really was. She made me develop anxieties and guilt over her own dissatisfaction and unhappiness with life. I feel like she bound my soul and my feet so I can’t move. The other day I actually looked up how to do an exorcism because her rage filled, murderous, obsessive spirit following me to wherever I’ve lived and wanting to stop all I do has haunted my soul even after I cut her off. I’m sure there’s gonna be a character based on me in her horror stories she writes who is goaded to commit suicide so she’ll (I’ll) never do anything ever again…oh she also insulted my lack of work over the last few years (due to chronic pain and depression) and made assumptions blurting out I never deserved any of my previous trips and insulted my dad in the process too. And she knows I’ve been speaking French for 20 plus years but after witnessing a conversation I had with our Haitian Uber driver had the nerve to say, “Wow, you actually CAN hold a conversation in French” - excuse me, etc?! Trying to make me feel like I’m baseline idiotic but hey! Even though I have taught French and sing in French, wouldn’t it make less sense to not know how to hold a conversation in French? Oh and she tried to use my own Asian American “guilt” against me for not going into healthcare like my parents (I say that as a joke, I’m not serious) telling me I better be tied up in my previous job when I’ve told her sooo many times I want to work on a second artistic career and she knows this but keeps ignoring my wishes and pushing me (not for my sake but for hers, presumably to prevent me from ever traveling again - she doesn’t want me to have what she doesn’t have, I realized) and looking desperate to try to stop me by any means necessary when I said, “I’m not sure I want to return to teaching yet,” in a desperate voice she grasped for straws, “well, do it for you…” immediately turns around and gaslights me saying, “you know how you feel guilty for not going into medicine?” Wtf. And saying things are my fault and it’s “your own insecurities” when she’s the one projecting her insecurities - I don’t HAVE insecurities when it comes to solo international travel, it’s what makes me the happiest and the most comfortable and she knows this. And she blew up at me about this ig post about please don’t make assumptions about me COMPLETELY missing the point…calling me privilege blind, whining about having to work and that obviously the world owes me something - ummm noooo, the whole point of that post was that it’s no ones business what I do or where I travel and to combat assumptions that I travel all the time. She constantly bitched at me victim blaming me saying I “put myself” in bad situations, wow. However, she won’t win.
Final score:
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#67
Sorry, regarding my entry #60, it should say she exploded, “stop running off” (ugh who does she think she is to dictate that?! I mean so what if I want to “run off,” geez…)…and one of the “etc” should be “wtf”…with friends like these who needs enemies? It’s hard enough feeling like she’s obsessed with me and my accomplishments or travels while trying to prevent me from doing anything ever again…it’s completely draining an exhausting even after a month of cutting her off…also long story but she guilted/gaslit me into sending her double the money (in the thousands) that I owed her, so freaking manipulative…it’s a process of trying to detox from her draining insidiousness and blame shifting but I hope to overcome all the damage she’s caused in me.
Final score:
-1point
#68
when i was stuff years old I was very happy because had finally found a friend in elementary school. it was the first friendship i ever had.
Once I was at her house and a friend of her mom's asked "oh, you have someone visiting, are you two friends?" and I, enthusiastically, answered "Yes, we're best friends" and she answered "well sadly we are best friends. i don't like her."
What made it worse was that the adults laughed about it and kept repeating it. The hours until my parents picked me up felt endless.
Years later I understand that she didn't hurt me on purpose. her parents made her have play dates with me because i was considered a "good influence". It's not her fault, but it was painful anyway. And I still think the adults should not have made so much fun of it. I needed comfort but didn't even dare to cry and did my best to hide my pain.
Final score:
-2points
#69
- Do you think I'm fat?
-Honestly?
-yeah.
-well, your chubby, but it's cute.
I have an eating disorder now.
Final score:
-2points
#70
I was in 5th grade, a fellow student told me my two "best friends" only hung out with me becaus
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#73
I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".
I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.
I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.
He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."
We haven't spoken since.
Final score:
-3points
#74
I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".
I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.
I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.
He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."
We haven't spoken since.
Final score:
-4points
Joanne Hudson 3 years ago
It took him 18 years to boff your sister? What was he hanging with you for for the other 17.5 years.
#75
I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".
I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.
I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.
He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."
We haven't spoken since.
Final score:
-4points
#76
I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".
I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.
I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.
He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."
We haven't spoken since.
Final score:
-4points
#77
I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".
I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.
I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.
He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."
We haven't spoken since.
Final score:
-4points
#78
I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".
I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.
I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.
He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."
We haven't spoken since.
Final score:
-4points
What do you think ?
Monica Sargent 3 years ago
When I was 24 I rented a room from a struggling single mother. She shared her master bedroom with her son and daughter while working 3 jobs and trying to find them a new dad. I was working 2 jobs but I loved kids and every Friday I would take them to dinner and to rent a video and video game (ok, it was the 80's). By '97 I had gotten married and was in the hospital having my own son. Well Laura learned from her now, teenage son and daughter all I had done for them and how much money I had spent on them. She knew I had no family and she wanted to be my son's grandmother. Well she came thru in a big way. She and husbandbecame abus
Monica Sargent 3 years ago
This came in handy as my husband became abusive. She gave me my first car. She was my cheerleader and dearest friend. When my son was born, 3 days later Shelly gave birth to Brett and the boys grew up alongside each other like brothers. 15 years (and of course, a lot of fights and ups and downs later) grandma Laura dies. I called Shelly to tell her and she said, "Well, she was the most selfish person I've ever known but she might just squeeze into heaven"! I've never wanted to strangle someone so much. I was out of my mind with grief, quite literally, and this human pig comforted me with these words. Needless to say, we are no longer friends. I actually don't have anyone I'm as close to as I was to Laura.
Dpl do 2 years ago
I'm assuming that Laura was the struggling single mom you rented from, but who the hell is Shelly?
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sie 3 years ago
I had a best friend for eight years until we graduated. She ceased all communication from me without explanation. When I finally got to speak to her, she said the reason was she did not need me. She was only friends with me because I was slightly popular and she needed someone to help her through school
Joey Marlin 3 years ago
She wasn't popular for her own sake for a reason!
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Angela Allen Simms 3 years ago
I'm allergic to curry and we were friends for years...yeah, taking a friend sabbatical.
Angela Allen Simms 3 years ago
I asked for Chinese food that I couldn't get at home and brought me CURRIED GOAT!!!!
Mad McQueen 3 years ago
Just that someone I took in as a niece could just turn off talking to me. Ignore me when she got pregnant. Didn't tell me. Found out the day before her baby shower that none of my family was invited to. (Brothers gfs entitled daughter btw) And she had the baby but also didn't mention it. Happened to get a snap chat alert an checked to see the baby came. Well technically she isn't blood related to me but I used to take her out once a week for some shopping and a nice lunch. Never had her pay. But she is one that when I couldn't make these dates any more would call an say she would be at a place we would have shopped at and I'd say that's nice but I'm working. I can't make it. Then she sorta stopped calls. She wished me a happy beady in the start of March and I hers near the end of the month. Last I heard from her.
Lorraine Jordan 3 years ago
I'm having a housewarming party but you're not coming. I'm inviting people from work (we're ex colleagues) and I don't want problems.
Corgi 3 years ago
I was looking for a new job and of course I used my so-called best friend as a reference. I was sitting right there when they called her. She used some of their questions as a chance to diss me - things that had NOTHING to do with the job itself - and the person interviewing her actually said, "Ok...? Well, I meant something pertaining to this job, not a personal issue." And then later, "I'm not sure you understand. As long she doesn't use drugs or have an alcohol problem, I don't care about any personal problems she has." After they hung up, the b***h says, "I was only saying a lot of that because you were sitting here." As in, she was only saying NICE things because I was there - which she wasn't. It was all I could do not to punch her right in the face. When I went back in for the interview, they told me not to use her as a reference anymore. "She's not at all helpful. It seemed like she was out to get you for some reason. Everyone else thought you were great for this job."
Carol Emory 3 years ago (edited)
I once said something on my facebook page that was rather...uhm..adult. My brother, in front of everyone, tells me that I shouldn't say such things and that our Christian grandparents would be rolling over in their graves if they could see what I wrote. This is the man that lived with them for a few months, remained drunk the entire time and ripped the telephone out of the wall one night when my grandmother said she was calling the cops after my brother tried to hit her for opening his mail. Hypocrite much dear brother. Never spoke to him again after that.
Carol Emory 3 years ago
A friend of mine was visiting from Texas. She was normally a shy girl, but fun. I was driving her home when a truck went past us, black guy driving and white girl in the passenger seat. She blurts out with "I don't believe in that!" I said "What?" She said "A black guy dating a white girl. It's not right." I said "Don't tell my mother...she's been dating black men since I was a junior in high school." She got all quiet. Didn't speak to me again after that and I was fine with it. Recently, a mutual friend said she was trying to get in touch with me and didn't understand why I was ghosting her. And there lies the problem. Don't let your racism hit you in the A$$ on the way out the door.
Umi 3 years ago
So when I was in year 6 (Australian school) my so called BFF was chasing me around and being mean than it is my birthday yes it a stupid junior school thing but still hurts me today and I have autism and they said that to the teacher after I went crying to one saying that they keep on saying that I swearing at them , while those girls say miss oh she just doesn’t understand she has autism miss she is just well.. she hasn’t fully developed her social skills.THAT BIG *B**CH
Mrs. Joe V 3 years ago
20 years ago when my best friend of 10+ yrs told me she was pregnant by my then boyfriend (of 3 plus yrs). What a traumatizing ride that was. Oh well... life went on, I learned a lot and became very thick skinned. Still haven't had a true and sustained best friend (outside of my loving husband) since then.
Carmen Sandiego 3 years ago
Okay this is prolly tame compared to the others but I had a 'friend' who sat with me on the bus I had to take to get my work and she was hogging the seat. When I asked her to move, she said I'm selfish and that she's barely getting any space.
Jihana 3 years ago
Wow, what an absolutely calous and disgusting thing to say. And who said anything about depression? Or suffering? But then again maybe you judge others by your own standards. Seeing as you felt the need to talk about how shitty your own life is, you obviously love your own suffering. Also, your husband probably had a point.
Load More Replies... Monica Sargent 3 years ago
When I was 24 I rented a room from a struggling single mother. She shared her master bedroom with her son and daughter while working 3 jobs and trying to find them a new dad. I was working 2 jobs but I loved kids and every Friday I would take them to dinner and to rent a video and video game (ok, it was the 80's). By '97 I had gotten married and was in the hospital having my own son. Well Laura learned from her now, teenage son and daughter all I had done for them and how much money I had spent on them. She knew I had no family and she wanted to be my son's grandmother. Well she came thru in a big way. She and husbandbecame abus
Monica Sargent 3 years ago
This came in handy as my husband became abusive. She gave me my first car. She was my cheerleader and dearest friend. When my son was born, 3 days later Shelly gave birth to Brett and the boys grew up alongside each other like brothers. 15 years (and of course, a lot of fights and ups and downs later) grandma Laura dies. I called Shelly to tell her and she said, "Well, she was the most selfish person I've ever known but she might just squeeze into heaven"! I've never wanted to strangle someone so much. I was out of my mind with grief, quite literally, and this human pig comforted me with these words. Needless to say, we are no longer friends. I actually don't have anyone I'm as close to as I was to Laura.
Dpl do 2 years ago
I'm assuming that Laura was the struggling single mom you rented from, but who the hell is Shelly?
Load More Replies... sie 3 years ago
I had a best friend for eight years until we graduated. She ceased all communication from me without explanation. When I finally got to speak to her, she said the reason was she did not need me. She was only friends with me because I was slightly popular and she needed someone to help her through school
Joey Marlin 3 years ago
She wasn't popular for her own sake for a reason!
Load More Replies... Angela Allen Simms 3 years ago
I'm allergic to curry and we were friends for years...yeah, taking a friend sabbatical.
Angela Allen Simms 3 years ago
I asked for Chinese food that I couldn't get at home and brought me CURRIED GOAT!!!!
Mad McQueen 3 years ago
Just that someone I took in as a niece could just turn off talking to me. Ignore me when she got pregnant. Didn't tell me. Found out the day before her baby shower that none of my family was invited to. (Brothers gfs entitled daughter btw) And she had the baby but also didn't mention it. Happened to get a snap chat alert an checked to see the baby came. Well technically she isn't blood related to me but I used to take her out once a week for some shopping and a nice lunch. Never had her pay. But she is one that when I couldn't make these dates any more would call an say she would be at a place we would have shopped at and I'd say that's nice but I'm working. I can't make it. Then she sorta stopped calls. She wished me a happy beady in the start of March and I hers near the end of the month. Last I heard from her.
Lorraine Jordan 3 years ago
I'm having a housewarming party but you're not coming. I'm inviting people from work (we're ex colleagues) and I don't want problems.
Corgi 3 years ago
I was looking for a new job and of course I used my so-called best friend as a reference. I was sitting right there when they called her. She used some of their questions as a chance to diss me - things that had NOTHING to do with the job itself - and the person interviewing her actually said, "Ok...? Well, I meant something pertaining to this job, not a personal issue." And then later, "I'm not sure you understand. As long she doesn't use drugs or have an alcohol problem, I don't care about any personal problems she has." After they hung up, the b***h says, "I was only saying a lot of that because you were sitting here." As in, she was only saying NICE things because I was there - which she wasn't. It was all I could do not to punch her right in the face. When I went back in for the interview, they told me not to use her as a reference anymore. "She's not at all helpful. It seemed like she was out to get you for some reason. Everyone else thought you were great for this job."
Carol Emory 3 years ago (edited)
I once said something on my facebook page that was rather...uhm..adult. My brother, in front of everyone, tells me that I shouldn't say such things and that our Christian grandparents would be rolling over in their graves if they could see what I wrote. This is the man that lived with them for a few months, remained drunk the entire time and ripped the telephone out of the wall one night when my grandmother said she was calling the cops after my brother tried to hit her for opening his mail. Hypocrite much dear brother. Never spoke to him again after that.
Carol Emory 3 years ago
A friend of mine was visiting from Texas. She was normally a shy girl, but fun. I was driving her home when a truck went past us, black guy driving and white girl in the passenger seat. She blurts out with "I don't believe in that!" I said "What?" She said "A black guy dating a white girl. It's not right." I said "Don't tell my mother...she's been dating black men since I was a junior in high school." She got all quiet. Didn't speak to me again after that and I was fine with it. Recently, a mutual friend said she was trying to get in touch with me and didn't understand why I was ghosting her. And there lies the problem. Don't let your racism hit you in the A$$ on the way out the door.
Umi 3 years ago
So when I was in year 6 (Australian school) my so called BFF was chasing me around and being mean than it is my birthday yes it a stupid junior school thing but still hurts me today and I have autism and they said that to the teacher after I went crying to one saying that they keep on saying that I swearing at them , while those girls say miss oh she just doesn’t understand she has autism miss she is just well.. she hasn’t fully developed her social skills.THAT BIG *B**CH
Mrs. Joe V 3 years ago
20 years ago when my best friend of 10+ yrs told me she was pregnant by my then boyfriend (of 3 plus yrs). What a traumatizing ride that was. Oh well... life went on, I learned a lot and became very thick skinned. Still haven't had a true and sustained best friend (outside of my loving husband) since then.
Carmen Sandiego 3 years ago
Okay this is prolly tame compared to the others but I had a 'friend' who sat with me on the bus I had to take to get my work and she was hogging the seat. When I asked her to move, she said I'm selfish and that she's barely getting any space.
Jihana 3 years ago
Wow, what an absolutely calous and disgusting thing to say. And who said anything about depression? Or suffering? But then again maybe you judge others by your own standards. Seeing as you felt the need to talk about how shitty your own life is, you obviously love your own suffering. Also, your husband probably had a point.
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