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Tell me about what has helped you with mental health struggles. Maybe you heard it form a therapist or maybe just from a friend! Would love to hear it.
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#1
Toxic people don't learn until they realize that people don't want them around if they are like that. So, it doesn't matter if you stay in a toxic relationship or friendship, They won't change until they learn the hard way. You can't change people that don't want to change.
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#2
“Let anger flow over you like water over rocks” I honestly don’t remember where I heard that but it has helped me with dealing with retail customers
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Kim Steffen 2 years ago
I was really stressed out at work, and my supervisor told me, "you've got a good sense of humor. Use it."
#3
people care about you. even if you think no one does
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#4
It's okay to tell people no. I have a bad habit of bending over backward to help (especially if it is my family). I stress about not being helpful or not meeting their expectations. My best friend has gently said something about it periodically over the years and I've gradually learned to say no when I'm tired or have plans. I live a bit further away now so I'm not available for last-minute things which is nice but I feel like I'm not doing enough either.
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kitten levels tokyo 2 years ago
Someone once told me to say No, and not give reasons why. Then there is nothing for the other person to argue about.
#5
My therapist told me if one of my customers is rude to me, I can walk away from helping them WITHOUT APOLOGIZING!
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kitten levels tokyo 2 years ago
One of the biggest perks of owning your own business is the ability to walk away from toxic customers!
#6
Just because you have a thought doesn't mean it's true. This is called cognitive fusion, when you can't separate thought and reality. It's an important characteristic of depression. I spent so long trying to fix my depression by trying to becoming skinnier, more likable, blah blah blah. Took me ages to realize the problem wasn't I'm stupid and ugly, the problem is I believed the depressed thoughts without question.
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TooBusyExisting 2 years ago
This is so helpful to hear. I have dealt with similar stuff and I am so glad you figured out a way to help yourself feel better.
#7
I recently learned these phrases:
We're all the same, made of the same parts, just organized differently.
The need to be "normal" is really the need to belong.
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I've struggled with internalized ableism for a long time, and even though I cognitively knew I'm okay as I am, I only recently managed to really feel that on a deeper level. These phrases really helped.
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LB (Submission author) 2 years ago
They helped me to switch focus on a subtle level, because if what I really want is to belong and be loved I can look elsewhere for those things if it doesn't work out in a specific situation, rather than trying to conform and hurting myself in the process.
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