Get Premium
Dark mode theme is available exclusively for premium users. Learn more about the benefits of subscribing.
No fees, cancel anytime.
Dark Mode 
No fees, cancel anytime 
As most of you probably know, it’s not good to bottle things up. If you need a place to rant, then this post is probably the right place for you to let loose and share your troubles with the community (please keep it PG)! I can’t say I can help you, but I will listen.
Share your worries with us below and don't forget to upvote your favorite answers. We are here to rant away and listen to each other!
Also, please be respectful and nice to each other, you never know what a person could be going through! So let's keep our replies positive and supportive as much as possible.
This post may include affiliate links.
#1
I don’t know how to tell my husband how bad things really are with my depression. On average I have been showering once a week, brushing my hair only when I have to go out but if it doesn’t look messy then I wont worry about brushing it at all. I brush my teeth probably twice a week and gargle mouthwash twice a week, I spend most of my days in bed and am tired ALL THE TIME, I am (trying to) nap more, I just want days to be over so I can just sleep but then I struggle to sleep coz of my RLS and insomnia and I can’t stop thinking out how much I want to change and get pissed at myself for wasting another day but then I do the same thing the next day. I am finding it harder to find joy in the things I usually love and one of them is music. I am not dancing to music as much as I used to, I seem to tune it out more. I am in chronic pain every damn day, partly because of a deformity and partly because of my weight. My weight causes more pain on my hips, my knees and my feet. I have plantar fasciitis and heel spurs, I have just recently recovered from a cuboid displacement. All these issues effect my mobility coz of the absolute pain. I want to lose weight but I have been diagnosed with Obsessive compulsive eating disorder. All I think about is food even though I feel nauseous from the idea of eating or from overeating. I will be eating my lunch and all I can think of is my next meal. I feel absolutely DISGUSTED in myself and beat myself up pretty much every night. But for some stupid reason my brain doesn’t think about ANY iota of that the next day and I just carry on like every other day. I have done therapy for fucking years, I have done cognitive behavioural therapy, a few different antidepressants, meditation, hypnotherapy, many diets, shakes, positive affirmations, looked into religion (hey I am desperate), and I am pretty sure there are other things but I just can’t think of them right now. My next step is a vision board and last week my mum, my brothers and myself have started a weight loss challenge. I’m not doing that well, I have replaced a lot of bad foods with good foods but I am still snacking a lot. Next week my brother and I are signing up for the gym coz we don’t want to go by ourselves. Anyway sorry to just stop here, I don’t know what else to say. Good night.
Final score:
35points
Anxious Pansexual Nightmare 4 years ago
You. Are. My. Hero. The fact that you are here, you are admitting this, and it sounds like you have a good family life, THAT’S F*****G AMAZING! I can’t even imagen the type of strength it takes to do that with depression. Your comments always make me smile, and you seem like a really great person!As for telling your husband, I have no experience but, just tell him. He wants to know. Trust me on that. I realize you probably won’t read this novel, and it probably won’t help, but I really hope you do and it does! You are incredible!
RELATED:
#2
I have said this on: https://www.boredpanda.com/hey-pandas-what-is-the-most-paranormal-thing-that-has-ever-happened-to-you/ and I will say it again. Why do people keep giving others downvotes for no reason at all? I find it stupid as how someone could make others feel bad- for just sharing their story??? I know that people agree with me on this, and I feel like people should have empathy for others as getting downvotes can hurt peoples feelings.
Final score:
33points
Sent From The Slytherin House 4 years ago
yes. especially on this post I and others, are using this as a coping tool. DON'T BE RUDE FOR NO REASON! What is the need?
#3
I'm 17 years old. I am about to be 18. I have no job, no license, and no real world experience because my parents won't let me. I am genuinely worried about how I will fare in the adult world due to my lack of experience.
Final score:
26points
BusLady 4 years ago
It is a scary world, especially for young people. I have years of experience behind me now, but I remember when I was 17 and just couldn't seem to find a job. I finally landed one. I didn't get my driver's license until I was almost 20 because of my fears about driving. Things will work out for you. :-)
#4
Well, I got a COVID test yesterday. I'm going to have the results tomorrow, and I can't sleep, because I'm just thinking about it day and night. I keep thinking, "I've taken all the precautions, but could I have it?" I will update when I get results. Stay safe during these times, pandas!
Final score:
19points
Iris Wolfie (づ ◕‿◕ )づ (Submission author) 4 years ago
OMG I GOT THE RESULT!!! NEGATIVE!! PRAISE THE GODS!!!!!!
#5
I lost my brother to heart disease in May. 2 of my sisters have been diagnosed with cancer this year. Our other sister has had serious, life threatening health issues for years. So far, I'm the only one who has stayed healthy. All this worries me because I know it is hard on our 83 year old mother. 😢
Final score:
18points
#6
My friends and I tease each other a lot but lately some of the things we say actually ends up hurting me. I don't want to tell them because that's how we have fun. Who am I to take away from that?
Final score:
17points
Grace Kennedy 4 years ago
If it's hurting you, them you need to tell them. Next time they do this, don't engage in it. Instead, calmly and politely tell them that you really don't like doing that anymore because it hurts you. Maybe give them an example of how they hurt you once. Also be sure to tell them that you're also trying to make sure that you don't end up hurting them. Ask if you have and tell them sincerely that you're sorry. Sometimes, contrary to what you think, things are to sided.
#7
I’m 17 and a senior in high school and for the last 5 years I have been struggling with my sexuality. It’s a very confusing thing to think about. I am a girl who likes girls and I’ve just recently came to terms about it. But I can’t be who I am, or who I want the be because my parents are so small minded. I am a Christian who loves god but I also love girls and I don’t think god would condemn me for it. I feel like I’m alone in this journey and I need help.
Final score:
14points
Cynthia Humphreys 4 years ago
I am a Christian as well. There are a lot of things about the Bible that I don't know. But what I do know is this - God loves you just as you are.
#9
I'm struggling to label my sexuality. For years I've been sure I'm bi and I've had experiences with guys and girls that seemed to back this up. However, recently, I've come to realise that I just don't like getting physical. With anyone. I feel absolutely nothing even when I'm with people I have very strong feelings for.
Maybe I'm too inexperienced or maybe I haven't found the right person. But its always a little worry in the back of my mind.
Final score:
12points
#10
My partner and I have been together almost 4 years. We have a condo (rental), a cat, furniture, a life together. I love him. But this relationship has become so miserable, and so toxic... There's nothing I can do to make him happy except to leave him alone. I'm basically not "allowed" to get emotional about the state of our relationship or he explodes and storms off. We have had the breakup conversation so many times it seems cliché. And now it seems like things are finally at the end. He's got a wealthy family, and if we part ways and move out, he has no worries about what will happen to his life. In fact, he's convinced it will get better. I on the other hand send money to my mom, have ruined my credit trying to keep this household afloat (with zero recognition for it), and couldn't get a lease again if my life depended on it. IE if the relationship fails, I am next to homeless. I even dropped out of grad school 3 years ago and started working in restaurants to support us when he was unemployed. He's talked so much shit to our mutual friends about me I feel like I don't even have any anymore. It feels like my whole life is just falling apart, one step at a time.
Final score:
11points
#11
I don't know how to tell my mom what I want. I just feel like if I do I will burst out Crying and she'll think something is wrong with me. And I'm scared of what she will think. I know she already disapproves of me trying to become an actor and well asking for her help I don't know how she will react. I just want to be a good daughter while having my dream job.
Final score:
11points
Sent From The Slytherin House 4 years ago
Go! Pursue your dreams! If she doesn't support that, it's fine, just get help from a friend or something!
#12
Having to cancel anything most of the time (friend meetings, family gatherings, fun, trips, projects at work, life basically) due to flare ups of chronic illness. It pains me to say "I can't" tens of times in a row to friends and family. I'm afraid of what awaits for me in the future in terms of my illness.
Final score:
10points
#13
That when a person very close to me died, I could not attend the funeral due to the Covid-19 lockdown. The guilt of not being able to go does not help with my severe clinical depression
Final score:
10points
Sent From The Slytherin House 4 years ago
It's no your fault. Here's an idea... Host a funeral for them just you and some pillows (put wigs and googly eyes on them) and just pray and say that you hope that they crossed rainbow bridge peacefully. Something like that. I'm not sure, but it's an idea!
#14
I am 11, and I'm not sure why, but ever since a few years ago, I've been extremely dirty minded. I imagine all sorts of really nasty things, and sometimes I look inappropriate things up. I have been trying so hard to stop and clear my mind of this filth, but I'm struggling. It's been devouring me for years now.
Final score:
9points
Nicole 4 years ago
If you mean inappropriate things because of your age, that's pretty normal. Sexuality is a hard topic, even today, that adults sometimes struggle with sharing or understanding. If you have someone you trust, talk to them. If you don't there are lots of healthy resources online. Don't be ashamed that you have these thoughts or desires. As long as you approach it in a healthy and safe way (years from now, engaging in acts at such a young age is a whole other thing) there is nothing wrong with that. If inappropriate consists of images or videos of people, animals or children being hurt or forced. Talk to someone NOW. There is help out there, keep talking until someone listens.
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
Thank you so much, it helps a LOT. Because of the terrible choices other members of my family and friends have made, I know not to do this at my age. My cousin had a child when she was 15, and my other cousin, that cousin's sister, had a child with a very sick man at the age of 18. I hope this habit of mine can get sorted out. All of this help is greatly appreciated.^^
Load More Replies...
Joyous Cat Birb 4 years ago
I'm kinda like your situation right now and I'm 10, distract yourself with other things if you are feeling uncomfortable, like thinking of dogs, cats, etc makes me feel better. Find somethings to help you, and it's okay.
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
Ok, I'll try it! Thanks for the ideas! <:)
Load More Replies...
MADELEINE KIMBALL 4 years ago
I totally agree with Jennifer, and if you feel like the thoughts you're having ARE unhealthy, I recommend watching the video Dealing With Intrusive Thoughts on youtube. Remember that your thoughts don't define who you are, especially if you don't want to have them and try to ignore them. The video I suggested explains this all in-depth (and it's funny too).
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
Ok, I'll look into it! Thanks so much!
Load More Replies...
Jennifer Crompton 4 years ago
Well, it's difficult to know what you mean by "extremely dirty minded" because what would be considered filthy to one person would be perfectly normal to another. Just know that it's very normal for adolescent aged kids to be curious about and stimulated by sex. If that's all it is, I don't think you have anything to worry about. However, if you feel like the types of sexual things you're looking at and imagining are unhealthy, then maybe you could talk to a trusted adult? If you can't do that, then perhaps research for ideas on how to distract yourself from unwanted thoughts. There are several techniques to do that
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
Thanks! And honestly, I'm very immature and childish, and I shouldn't even know about this stuff. I feel it is very, very unhealthy, and I just wanna forget about it. Thank you for these recommendations, I'll look into em.
Load More Replies...
HissyFitzz 4 years ago
Hm, well once you see something it's hard to unsee it, but I think I do have a few suggestions. This might sound kinda stupid but think wholesome. Play games like animal crossing, visit shelters who need help right now, and play with the puppies and kittens. Keep your mind off of that stuff. The second thing I would recommend is to leave social media if you have it. Lots of inappropriate stuff are there. If you don't want to you don't have to leave it all together just unfollow/unlike or even make a new account full of your other interests. For my third and final suggestion, I would say transition. I like lots of shows that aren't 'dirty' but are wholesome and funny. (most of these are anime shows) I would recommend Teasing Master Takagi-san for starters. It's a cute show and it's on Netflix. The second show I would recommend is the promised neverland. It's such an amazing show you spend nights thinking about that instead of dirty stuff. It's a bit scary so be forewarned.
HissyFitzz 4 years ago
It's my favorite show of all time and it's also available on Netflix (maybe Crunchyroll). The next and final tv show I would recommend is Avatar the Last Airbender. You probably have seen it or heard of it. It's an amazing show with great characters and plot. 10/10 go watch it. Another thing to help you transition could be when you feel the temptation to google something bad, pick up a stuffed animal, or a video game console if you have one. You're on bored panda so I'm assuming you have a phone/computer/iPad so download a cute mobile game to pass time. That's all the advice I have and I hope it helps! ^W^
Load More Replies...
Hailey Hall 4 years ago
Its OK im 10 yrs old and i have overheard so many things like that! I also have dreams of people getting hurt. that's it. Your not the only one sister. Its OK! :D
Rick klein 4 years ago
The internet is an evil thing. The temptations it offers are born of ugly hearts. Short goals like 1 week without looking, adding parental controls on your devices, praying, and asking for counsel are some ways of curbing the actions. Pray a lot!!
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
Thank you so much! I've been searching for Christian advice, because I wanna grow closer to God and my parents.
Load More Replies... Katy McMouse 4 years ago
You are perfectly normal. I think that the inundation of thoughts and fantasies of "nasty things" is nature's way of helping us to figure out what we will enjoy as adults. And, I promise you, the things you are thinking have been thought by just about everyone before you and will be thought by just about everyone after you. As long as you are careful and you know what is safe to explore and what might not be safe, you'll be fine. Just please, don't hurry into "real world" territory just yet.You are too young and vulnerable to the worst society has to offer. You're a normal kid, and the fact that you are worried is a sign that you are self aware and a thoughtful person. You will be just fine.
Lisa Anne 4 years ago
For the record, the human body and sex aren't dirty. At your age, hormones are wreaking havoc with your skin, your body, and your mind. Welcome to puberty. Your imagination is going to turn to sexual things. And, it's natural to be curious about the body and sex. So yes, you're normal. I don't know what you mean about "inappropriate things", but if it's porn, the reality is that 99% of it is fake. Reputable porn sites pay actors (of legal age) to do those things, and the actors must consent to everything. However, if it involves children, animals, and/or the mentally challenged being hurt or forced, please talk to someone ASAP. It worries me that you may be looking at porn because you're so young. I was interested in sex at a young age, probably because I was molested. I'm not saying you have, but maybe you've seen things on TV or in movies you were too young to see, or you've seen/heard people having sex or talking about it. Talk to someone you trust and be honest. Hope this helps.
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
Well, I've been into this well before puberty. It started when I was, like, 5. I was really into kissing scenes in movies because my parents forbade me from watching them. I did this thing they called "sleepy dancing" because I always did it when I was sleepy. Whenever I sleepy danced, I would imagine the kissing scenes as vividly as I could. Then it got serious when I was 7 or 8 or something. At first I looked up "Minecraft people having [you know what]", and I didn't actually look at anything (I probably would've if my mom hadn't walked into my room at that moment) and I felt suuuuper guilty for the next month or so. I finally broke down and told my mom, but I had an extra hard time telling my dad. He understood (mostly) and said "well, it's mom and my responsibility to teach you these things. As long as you don't do it again, you're forgiven" It was on a flipping text and I still knew that he was SERIOUS about not doing it again. But that Minecraft people thing really
Load More Replies... Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
I didn't mention this: My mother and father aren't married (they never were) nd live in different places. I live my mom and visit my dad almost every weekend (a little less now because of COVID). My mother is pretty understanding, but hard to break things to. My father, on the other hand, is very harsh and not super understanding. Both parents are super hard to break news to, and there are no other adults I'd trust to tell this to. Even this submission and this comment don't hold all the details. I am regretful.
Idk Katniss Potter 4 years ago
In 5th grade I was reunited with my best friend from 3rd grade, me her and one of her friends rode the bus together, my friends friend was a bit of a bad influence, not bad bad, just bad like bad words and mildly dirty minded stuff. I started saying it to around them. After 5th grade ended and I went to middle school with my friend (from 3rd grade) We weren’t around our other friend anymore and now we don’t cuss anymore. Idk why I shared that, I just need to get it off my back.
DEKU x TODOROKI 4 years ago
everyone goes through that, even i did. you just need time, you'll be okay.
Popcorn Colonel 4 years ago
How do I say this... Your body is preparing to be ready for the reproductive process. Ugh. It's normal, natural even.
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
Um... I'm 11... How soon do think I'm gonna be trying to sleep with people? XD I'm waiting until I'm, like, 18 to even start dating (courtesy of my dad) and then marry the man I'm dating if I've been in a relationship with him for at least 3 years. Then I'll be engaged for some time around a year. THEN I'll get married. And then wait another 2-4 years before I sleep with my husband. I. Am. Playing. It. SAFE.
Load More Replies...
Iðunn Ýr 4 years ago
My son is 12. At first, he was really scared at telling me some things regarding what he had tried and what he was thinking. Now, he tells me without hesitation, if he feels the need too, or if something feels off. I assured him that those thoughts were normal, as well as 'exploring ones body'. I do remember, when I was his age, how confusing these changes were. -This is completely normal. If you truly want to stop, you can try doing a one eighty every time you feel a nasty though surface. But dont try to stop everything, that could harm you mentaly, in getting things worse when you get older. I really hope the best of for you, and wish you good luck.
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
Thank you so much. I'd really love to have that kind of relationship sex-wise with my parents.
Load More Replies... Sent From The Slytherin House 4 years ago
BTW, did you see my comment? I'm back so yeah. I just went somewhere and didn't bring my computer.
averageperson 4 years ago
do other things to distract yourself, and find clean things to do online (but generally avoid the internet if it is tempting you to do things that make you uncomfortable) may i suggest watching Studio C and JK Studios on Youtube! tbh they have nothing to do with your struggles, i'm just trying to give you ideas for clean things to do/watch online, to distract yourself :D
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
(To Parmeisan) I'm really glad you want to help, but in my opinion, that is wrong. I would like to handle this the Christian way. I do think that porn is filthy (and I don't like masterbation, it's just weird, I--). I know not to have sex at this age, and I don't plan to have sex with ANYBODY (including myself) till I'm married. Even then, I'd wait to have sex till maybe a year after marriage. God says that our bodies are sacred, and porn is taking that rule and ripping it to shreds by posting themselves, exposing their bodies online for the world to see. And I certainly wouldn't call a baby a "consequence". It just sounds like a baby's a bad thing. Anyway, thanks again for trying to help, but I don't believe it's the right thing to do.
Parmeisan 4 years ago
It makes me sad because you sound like me at your age. I felt terrible for something I couldn't change or do anything about. I tried, really hard, to stop. But remember that God made you as you are for a reason. If you believe it's bad and want to stop, then I wish you luck in that. But I hope that you can have patience with yourself as well. Don't hate yourself for the way God made you. PS. Consequences aren't always bad. I just meant wait until you can handle the potential results of your actions. :)
Load More Replies...
i-be-viben 4 years ago
dont worry im the same age and the same way and its been happening since i was 8
Sent From The Slytherin House 4 years ago
Hey, I literally cannot stop commenting on this because we have so much in common (I promise im not some weird creepy 85 year old man though) I honestly wish that we could talk about this but I don't know how. I wish you the best!
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
This comment has been deleted.
Load More Replies...
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
I explained further below, if you'd like to take a look at that. That may "correct" some of the things you said in this comment xd not to say your comment was bad, it's very sweet.
Load More Replies... Sent From The Slytherin House 4 years ago (edited)
I'm pretty young too. I was going to add this to the list but I'm too nervous. Thank you for speaking up. I have the same problem. (I'm not going to share my age, but I am a minor) One of my problems is that, I am a young christian girl and I believe in God, right? But I feel like God is always like, reading my mind or something. I don't know but I really want to stop thinking like this. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. Even when it's just in my head.
Arctic Fox Lover (Submission author) 4 years ago
Yeah. I'm Christian too, and I know that what I'm doing is wrong. I don't like to think about how God knows what I'm doing when I think about this inappropriate stuff, but I know that he is loving of me and knows that it's hard for me to stop. I pray to him about it sometimes. I should more often, come to think of it.
Load More Replies...
Zoe J. 4 years ago
I have the same experience. I will not share my age, but I, too, have issues with intrusive thoughts. I have no reliable advice to give you as they are still running rampant in my mind, but be patient with yourself. Your thoughts do not define you as a person, and they will not always be in your mind. I like to listen to the song Forest when I feel like I'm out of control and I find that it helps me focus my brainpower elsewhere.
Sent From The Slytherin House 4 years ago
I too have the same thing. I will try to remember that song for next time
Load More Replies... #15
This is hard for me to say. Anyway, my parents are very devotional Hindus. I grew up believing it. I mean, it's the only religion-like concept that I've been introduced to. But recently, I've been having doubts. They're always at the back of my mind. I read the Mahabharata, (it's like a bible, but in Hinduism) I read the whole entire thing, and the first thing I thought was that I believed none of it. The sad thing is that I learn devotional dance too, and I always feel so guilty doing it, knowing that I don't believe in the stories that I'm representing with my dancing. I don't want to tell my parents. Truthfully, my mom and I don't have the best relationship and religion is something that we connected to. Without it, what would happen? I'm scared, and it feels horrible to have to pretend to believe something you don't. I just don't know what to do.
Final score:
9points
Justanotherperson (Submission author) 4 years ago (edited)
thanks. ur advice was very much needed. (not being saracstic)
#16
somebody told me I'm the reason they want to die. why? because I'm "too sad" LIKE DUDE I LITERALLY HAVE (ALMOST CRIPPLING) DEPRESSION. It does not feel great... I'm starting to think that if I don't exist she will be happier.....
Final score:
8points
Arctic Fox Lover 4 years ago
If that person says things like that, don't be friends with her, or feel bad that she isn't pleased! Obviously she isn't trying to help you with your depression. Just try to focus on making yourself feel happier. :)
#17
The fact that it isn't likely that I will be remembered for anything I have or haven't done. So many people are forgotten every year and very few are remembered for anything, be it good or bad.
Final score:
8points
Grace Kennedy 4 years ago (edited)
Hey Sophie, I know how you feel. Trust me. Sometimes it feels like we're underappreciated, and it doesn't feel good.Do remember one thing though. Character. Character is what you do when no one is looking. Sometimes it's okay to not get credit for what we do because helping someone out can feel good either way. Edit: Also, even though the whole world might not remember you when you're gone, that doesn't mean you haven't made an impact on someones life. Trust me, someone out there is waiting for you to change their world.
#18
I'm feeling really really sad. Not a lot enthuses me at the moment and I have a lovely boyfriend, nice house and a new kitten. I feel guilty for feeling sad and find it difficult to explain to people why, let alone understand it myself
Final score:
8points
#19
My mother and brother accusing me of being a drug addict. 4 years ago, and I'm still bitter. I didn't go to the ER seeking drugs. I went because I was in pain from the 10 centimeter tumor inside my uterus. I guess they realized their mistake after the surgeons spent 8 hours cutting it out of me, but I never got an apology. Never even admitted they were wrong. Sometimes I hate my family.
Final score:
8points
#20
I think I might have anxiety? Like clinical anxiety. I’ve alway been a worried person, but it’s gotten out of hand. Twice now, I’ve had moments when I’m super anxious and scared to the point that I had to work hard to make myself leave my room. I also have this thing where I feel overwhelmed by really small things, sometimes just noises. But, I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or not. I know I’m stressed, but is it a real problem? And how do I let my parents know that I’m at least super worn out, or at most need to see a therapist?
Final score:
8points
#21
I have severe depression and PTSD but nobody knows how unhappy I am because I have abusive parents and no close friends. And seeing how much better everyone else's life around me are, it just is eating me up.
Final score:
8points
Lousha 4 years ago
If you still go to school, try to talk to some of your teachers. Most will disappoint you, but you might find a gem among them. If you go to church, that can be an option as well. There are also online support groups. The main thing is not to just accept that things will never get better. If you keep trying sooner or later you will find the person/thing/group that will help you do better. Plus: as much as it can seem that way, no, almost nobody's life is much better than yours. Their issues are just less apparent from your perspective.
#22
mosquitos UwU...and the fact that everyone in the family thinks my grandparents are homophobic and im lesbian and havent come out to them
Final score:
8points
#23
I'm so freaking worthless! i have no expeirince with the outside world and I've been able to wriggle my way out of any chance to get some because I'm horribly afraid of saying/doing something stupid. I hate myself and i can't say anything not only because my parents have isolated me from the handful of people who cared about me, but also because i know from expeirince that they will leave me in the dust when I'm not happy or cheery enough. I have no coping mechanisms left except hurting myself, mentally and physically. I'm terrified of the idea that no one is coming to save me, no one is going to start loving me unless i make it happen and i just don't have the heart to keep hoping it'll get better in 2 years when i move out. I don't want to tell anybody because i feel pathetic and i don't want to see that look on peoples faces when they realize that I've been hiding all the bad parts from them. sorry but i had to dump it...
Final score:
8points
Hailey Hall 4 years ago
That F****n train of thought thinking your stupid is wrong. Just remember that there are other people feeling the exact same way you are right now and you don't think there stupid because of it! Do you?
#24
The delicious Mexican food I had last night...
Sooo good, but so bad.
Final score:
7points
#25
this is not nearly as bad as some others but I really need to get this off my mind. I met my boyfriend online, and everything is perfect. However, I can't get my doubts out of my head. I'm so scared I'll do something and lose him, or that he'll find someone better than me. I love him, and I don't want to lose him...I'll keep the doubts until we meet in two and a half years...
Final score:
7points
Grace Kennedy 4 years ago
BE YOU. If there's one way to lose someone it's over thinking things around them. Just be calm, be you, and everything will be fine. If they don't love you for who you are then they don't deserve you sister!
#26
Questioning my gender. My sex is female but I've always felt that I kinda hovered between male and female. I don't think I'm genderfluid. I might be non binary, I'm just stressed out by it and it doesn't help that my mom says that anything besides male and female are fake and made up.
Final score:
7points
Sent From The Slytherin House 4 years ago
I have no idea what this feels like, but here we go: Talk to a trustworthy friend about it, maybe see a counselor, if you aren't comfortable, bring that friend along. Then tell your mom, she will find out eventually, and if she is a good mother, she won't love you any less. It may seem hard but you know that you need to do it. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that everything works out for you.
#27
Insomnia.
I try to fall asleep, but I can't sleep. Sleep deprivation is now just my routine. Even when I do manage to fall asleep for a few glorious moments, I awake throughout the night. Well, that and the fact that I'm very judgmental of myself and I just need my head to shut up for five minutes, so I can hear myself think, really THINK. And when I talk, it feels like no one ever listens. I want to change but I can't, really can't. I feel like I'm just running from everything, all my problems, and I run because I know I cannot hide.
It's keeping me up, everyone telling me that I should give up.
Long story short, I'm a mess.
Final score:
7points
Parmeisan 4 years ago
I'm afraid I can't help with the insomnia, but as a response to "I want to change but I can't": Have patience with yourself. If you want to change, believe me, then you can - but it takes time. A lot of time. Recognize that that's normal. Be as patient with yourself as you would be with your best friend going through the same struggle. And most importantly, Don't Give Up! There will be good days and bad days. These things are never linear. You can't take the bad days as some sort of sign that it won't work. Instead you have to look at the frequency and degree of the good days and over a long time you should see that rise. You can do this!
#28
An employee of 14 years, who I helped many times including buying him a car as a bonus, giving him raises from 30k a year to 120k, buying clothes for his kids, and giving him 6k cash from my pocket as a wedding gift...he bought some lottery tickets and offered to split with me if i paid for half and i said sure. Guess what happened? Yup! 5 million dollar winner that night and he recanted the offer to split. Nothing in writing so I lose. All I ever did was bless him and now I cant sleep or eat.
Final score:
7points
#29
A friend and I have been making this graphic novel for about half a year now. To be honest, I cannot say why we've been doing it, but it's important to her and she really seems to be enjoying it. Lately, due to Covid, we haven't been able to see each other at all but she's still working on the project. I feel like a horrible friend for saying this, but I really want to pull out. I haven't had an active role in this project in a while, and I have told her a few times that I'll stop procrastinating and start helping her again, but I just can't find the energy to. I have a lot of chaos in my own life right now, but I do have a lot of time to help, but I just can't find the want to do it. I feel really guilty and like I am letting her down, but I just don't want to do this anymore. I've always been a people-pleaser, so that might be why I feel so guilty but I just don't know what to do. Am I overreacting? Am I just being cowardly for not speaking my mind? Or am I really a terrible friend? I'm probably being overdramatic, but this has been very heavy on my chest for a long time, and I haven't told a soul.
Final score:
6points
Arctic Fox Lover 4 years ago
Well, it's great that you want to please your friend, but you need to be your own person too. I'm sure that, if she's your true friend, she'll understand that you have other interests now. You're not a terrible friend for having other interests than making a comic with your buddy!
#30
Friends. I have a friend that I was pretty close with last year until she started getting wrapped up in boys and drama and her high school sister's problems. She just goes on and on about soccer. I know she loves soccer but sometimes it's a little annoying because I can't get a word in edgewise. And trust me, I'm not a quiet person. Also, the worst part is she's always hating on my other friends an sucking up to all the people I know that are "popular", whatever that means in middle school. Recently I just feel like she just uses me to talk to and she doesn't really care about me. I just moved here last year and she was kind of my first friend but I'm not so sure anymore. Can ya'll help me?
Final score:
6points
#31
Alkohol: My dad is an Alcoholic, and am afraid am turning to one,. i drink alone, and anytime i feel like. am disgusted afterwards, but dont seem to stop. My memory and sleep and my selfworth are really affected.. but i cant bring myself to ask for help.
Final score:
6points
BusLady 4 years ago
If you are a teen, look into Alateen. Another support group is Al-Anon, for friends and family of people who have problems with alcohol. Alcoholism does have a genetic factor. You are showing early signs. You might be using alcohol as a coping method of dealing with your father's problem. Don't let it continue to progress. Get into a support group.
#32
Well... I’ve got a lot of stuff:
1. I have two chinchillas, and they’re really great, but I honestly like one more, he’s more friendly and cute. I love them both, but the other is always cranky. Help?
2. I have zero work ethic. Literally none.
Final score:
5points
Grace Kennedy 4 years ago
On the chinchillas, maybe find someone you trust to give the other one too. Don't over exert yourself with chinchillaness. (I don't think that's a word.)
#33
I feel like my life is on pause now and forevermore, like I used to find joy in things such as seeing friends and drawing but now I feel like I don't want to do anything, don't feel motivated to do anything, don't like doing anything. I dunno. I'm a different person now. All I do is think about my life and climate change and death and everything wrong in this world. I just can't.
Final score:
5points
Arctic Fox Lover 4 years ago
I know how you feel. I have days like this. We just have to look to the future, and hope for the best! Do the best we can to improve the present. I always just pray, and follow COVID procedures, and do the best to find joy in the things I like to do. That tends to work for me. I hope it works for you if you try it. :)
#34
My ADHD...It's been driving me mad lately. Basically, instead of one "train of thought", I have LOTS of trains that aren't ever stopping at a station and they keep looping and twisting and interrupting each other, so now my train of thought is a giant knot of NONSENSE! And it's been a lot worse recently...I can't do school very well. My relationship with my family is rocky. Idk what to do.
Final score:
5points
Idk Katniss Potter 4 years ago
I can’t really help with this but I can say that my brother and sister have forms of ADHD, my brother’s is anxiety and behavioral, and my sister’s is attention.
#35
My friend is incredibly violent and will stop at nothing to know your sexuality (which is weird) and I don't know if I should drop her.
Final score:
4points
#36
i have a screen addiction. Yes, this is ironic. I have spent probably about 2000 hours on youtube. (rough guess) and I have no idea how to stop. i feel like a waste and a faliure. I wish that I could just stop.
Final score:
4points
#37
ive been getting bullid lately, and i know people have way worse problems than this but i just want some ways to deal with them, but they've been pushing me around and im scared if i dont sand up to them soon it will get physical...
Final score:
4points
#38
My parent's divorce. The house is different, a lot of things I held sentimental are gone, my mom's rules have gotten stricter since he's left. I look at spaces where his things were and it makes me sad. I get sad at random, sometimes for no apparent reason. And I have 2 projects to do. And to make it worse, my own friends sometimes doubt my sexuality and ask very probing questions and it makes me uncomfortable because if i don't answer they say im not who i am, they say its a phase, etc.
Final score:
4points
Harley Hoglin 4 years ago
Your suffering from depression. Seek help, I have suffered with depression for years, even to the point of once wanting to take my life.
#39
I don't know how people can lie to your face even when presented with proof and then be rude to you. How do they sleep at night? On the other hand, I can't sleep, I can't work, I can't eat, I can't do anything if I feel I have been unjust to someone or if I have hurt someone. I can't break anyone's trust, just the very possibility of me being in a position to cause someone to face a loss even if it's $3.00 makes me panic. Recently someone was very rude to me and tried to put the blame on me, I can't be rude back and sometimes I feel like I'm just an easy target.
Final score:
4points
Hailey Hall 4 years ago
soooo sorry i feel the same way sometimes and also its OK to say no its just an awnser!! also if you cannot do that then tell someone or.. tell on them!!
#40
I was bullied all my life, not only be fellow students but also the teachers... simply for being silent and shy - It started when my dad died when i was 5 and kids threw away my stuff, tried to drown me, beat me, locked me into places... yet i was the anti-social one for not playing around with them infront of the teachers...
when my dad died his side of the family literally vanished and abandoned my mum, me and my sister...
I worked all my life rly hard at school, was alway at top of my class, despite the bullying, got scholarships for good private highschools and was about to attend university to become a lawyer and work hard to repay my mum all her efforts and to stick it to all those a-holes that bullied me and made out lives even harder... but instead of attendind college as planned I got very sick... and the doctors fucked up... that was 12 yrs ago... despite having medical prove as MRIs and such, handicapped support denies me any help, and bcs i can't even get the freacking paper that confirms that i am handicapped I am still only working towards my bachelor's degree... 12 yrs later.... I might finally be able to get it... and bcs of my andicap I can't work, I can't travel, I'm in chronic pain constantly, and due to all that my poor mum still has to support me, she's 65, heatsick and worked all her life like a maniac to support me and my sister... and even now I am just a clutz on her leg...... I feel so sooo angry and frustrated and sad... 12 yrs and I ahve still accomplished nothing... and even if i manage to finally get my degree... who will hire a 32 yrs old criple wo can't work even 6 hrs shifts, has only a BA and no notworthy workexperience (only was able to do a little part time job here and there, like Mc, library, H&M...). Worst thing is, nobody believes me when I say that I am handicapped and in pain bcs on the outside I look normal, with clothes on..., nobody knows that bcs of my handicap i gained 20 kilo i can't shed and have to take a bunch of meds and can't do anything that i used to do or would love to do... i literally lost all my friends bcs of this 8wo apparently weren't rly friends to begin with) and eventhough i have a wonderful boyfriend who is willing to support me (eventhough he sometimes forgets i am sick too) I just feel guilty... for shifting the burden from my mum onto him... he deserves better...
Every day I just keep going bcs I can't possible let my mum down even more... once she's gone... idk... we will see i guess...
Final score:
4points
Justanotherperson 4 years ago
I can't even imagine the situation ur in. Just remember that u have people who r willing to support u!
#41
Honestly, all the thoughts and prayers people have sent Trump when he and Melania came down with covid-19.
How should I put this? wishing him well means wishing harm on all the people who will be harmed by his continued ignorance. They're now saying an estimated 400k+ will die because of this, and he's doing everything he can to spread it faster. his wellness is coming at the cost of hundreds of thousands of others, and that's on just one thing. (okay, just for the record, that study is including loosely-explained deaths and attributing it as 'related to Covid'., more or less.)
Final score:
3points
#42
Hey fellow pandas,
The fact that I think I'm ugly is eating me up. Sadly, we live in a world where people are judged by the way they look. I recently DM'd a guy wondering if he wanted to meet for coffee and I was (nicely) rejected. The guy seems great but I feel like he said no because he thinks I'm not pretty enough. I feel lonely and feel like I need an SO in my life, What do I do? I have this need to feel pretty but I just feel like I'm ugly and I don't know what to do.
Final score:
3points
ISpiltLipstickInYourValentinoBag 4 years ago
I feel ya! I can relate to this so much but no matter what YOU ARE GORGEOUS AND HAVE POTENTIAL! You may not be pretty to others but you surely are beautiful to me :)
#43
One thing that frustrates me is navigating Bored Panda. I seldom get back to post where I commented or someone responded. I'd like to be able to respond to people who commented on something I wrote. Clicking notifications or comments under my profile just takes me back to the first post in the list. Sometimes, when I'm in the mood, I will scroll through the 60+ posts, but that gets old.
Final score:
3points
#44
My teacher mom is very stressed due to online learning and i feel so guilty about it. :( The fact that people think teachers are slacking off doesn't help either. She up till 2:00 and i feel really bad. What should i do
Final score:
3points
#45
I'm depressed as I dont know what im going to do during my autumn break...
Final score:
2points
#46
Zoom. It is so annoying. The lagging is unstoppable.
Final score:
2points
i-be-viben 4 years ago
i have gotten so many bad grades and missing assignments from zoom and it lagging
#47
Today my sister started to get annoyed at me just because I was goofing around with my best friend? SHE cannot boss me about so I got some bruises :(
Final score:
2points
#48
I fell guilty for crushing on my friend. He and I (both guys, I'm trans. if anybody is wondering). He shares feelings for me and we have made out, cuddled and all that. But I feel guilty asf for liking him and all.
Final score:
2points
Justanotherperson 4 years ago
Why should u feel guilty? Unless he's in a relationship i dont think u should feel guilty for anything. Wishing u the best!
#49
the fact that the person I like has a girlfriend and didn't tell his best friend.((me)) Also, he still flirts with me from time to time, I feel like im just a back- up gf... anyone knows how I feel????
Final score:
2points
Popcorn Colonel 4 years ago
Men... Sometimes they don't know how they are making you feel. There could be a lot of things happening, but yes we know how you feel. As Jessica said, he probably does like you but doesn't want to botch your friendship. Honestly talking to him about what is going on might help. I wish you luck!
#50
There is this guy Sam (not his real name) who I really like. A lot. And I want to tell my friends, but they would all either make fun of me or be mad because they don't like him. And my only friend who I could tell just told me he likes me so now I can't tell him either, and I really just want to tell Sam I like him, but I don't know how, and I don't know who he likes, or even whether or not he is single, but it's so hard to keep this to myself when every time I see him all I can think of is me holding his hand, laying on his chest, snuggling next to him at marching band when I get cold. I just wanted to let this out. Thank you for taking the time to read this and listen to my stupid 14 year old problems
Final score:
2points
Popcorn Colonel 4 years ago
These problems are not stupid, I am thirteen and have the same ones. I know Corona might mess this up but if you think telling him how you feel would make things better than go for it. It's ok to be embarrassed if he says no, but almost everyone is having or has had these emotions, basically you are not alone. Just tell him, it's probably the only way to get these feeling in your chest.
#51
I feel like a an idiot. When my grandfather died my mother also lost her job so we had to move in with her friend who I love but I know she won't be alive by 2021. My cat went to live with my friend who has cancer and got sick from the cat hair so the cat went to the mothers said friend's son but he died a few weeks after and I lost it. 4 months later my dad died of similar cancer my grandfather did but i didn't cry at all because was an asshole to us, he left when I was younger after hurting us, stealing from us, and drinking too much. After his funeral I saw my family after 7 1/2 years on his side. I feel like a dick for crying over a cat not a day. Also when my poor lil Dusty (Cat) died, I was at a summer 3 day 2 night trip. idk why but I had panic attacks every night and wanted to go home but my mom was at home without gas money and it was a 4 hour drive. Not too long after that my Girlfriend swallowed a handful of pills and I have nobody. My motto is A meme a day keeps the depression away and you can't cry if your laughing so I try to be funny all the time. If you like memes add me on insta if you want (Jackis2c00l4u_), I really don't know why I wrote my life story but I really needed to tell someone, this is a lot for a 14 year old to handle (I turned 14 on October 6th) So adios, and if you see this and add me please tell me because I really want someone to talk to. And please forgive if I spelled wrong, I wrote this kinda late at night.
Final score:
2points
Idk Katniss Potter 4 years ago
I wish I had insta, my parents will never let me get it tho, I’m 13
#52
that I am pansexual and I have bad anxiety so it's hard for me to tell anyone. :/
Final score:
2points
SHSL Hope Bagel 4 years ago (edited)
what i did to come out: truth or dare. ask someone that question, and someone will probably ask you the question, since you already gave them the idea. works every time i need to tell anyone anything
#54
I'm on the verge to suffer from depression because of my annoying parents. 2020 is supposed to be the year to be independent, but the whole coronavirus situation with the misinformation and the political corruption taking place with my demanding studies, destroy any expectations and hopes i have.
Final score:
1point
#55
I recently came out as bisexual but only to my best friend. Two of my siblings are bisexual as well. I dont know how to tell my parents. My mom and dad are divorced and have been for 7+ years. My dad is a racist sexist homophobic trump supporter. I don't even know how to tell him :(
Final score:
1point
#56
I'm a sensitive person, my sister and her friends tease each other in "friends"wise to make each other feel better, she does this to me but it just makes me feel worse. What do I do?
Final score:
1point
#57
regrets. there are so many ridiculously good people in my life and I'm so, so lucky to have them, but every day I think that I'm too mean to them. or i'm not good enough for them. so I beat myself up and then try to get better but it always just ends up with more regrets. idk what to do but I love them all and I hope that I can stop worrying lol.
Final score:
1point
Popcorn Colonel 4 years ago
Just be yourself, I know that sounds stupid but it's true, you seem like a wonderful person. All that matters is that you love them, now you just need to find a way to show it. <3 (flowers, a nice note, chores done early or doing their chores for them?)
#58
How do you tell someone they are beautiful without it being weird and awkward? especially if you really like this guy, but nobody knows that. But he has seemed kind of sad lately and you just want him to know how amazing and smart, and kind and beautiful he is, and how he is almost perfect. But also, I don't want him to know I like him. Soo... help please
Final score:
1point
#59
So, back a long time ago in 4th grade I was sitting my desk. Since the people at my table loved stealing each others pencils, pens, etc. I thought it would be funny if I took someones folder and hid it in my desk. So I did. And I got back to work doing what I was doing, like nothing happened. But I didn't realize that the girl I stole the folder from (of course I would give it back) was crying in the hallway. I felt so bad and it still eats me up to this day.
Final score:
1point
#60
I just recently confessed to my crush that I liked him. Because of Corona, I had to do it via Gmail. Well, we aren't from the same state the only way I know him is because our parents are friends, so we sort of grew up together. I remember the day when I looked at him and instead of seeing one of my best friends I saw a boy. A cute, sweet shy boy. I had a crush on my friend! I felt so gross and weird. I felt this way before any of my friends even started to. The boy I liked, who had been shy originally, began to withdraw himself from me and my sister whenever we got together. I told my friends about him and they were confused, how could I see anything in him. But I do, am I wrong. I don't know. I'm just a kid in middle school this all feels so wrong. And worst of all, he never responded to that Email, I would know I check every day... But still no reply. :-(
Final score:
1point
DEKU x TODOROKI 4 years ago
I'm sure he just probably has a lot on his mind, depending on what grade you & him are in, he could have school problems and then putting COVID -19 on top of that, then finding out your friend likes you...trust me I know how it feels. yesterday a really good friend of mine, basically a brother to me, said that he likes me. I was shocked and supprised cause I mean he was like a brother to me so it felt weird... id don't know if this helps but if you have any questions just reply to any of my comments... :-)
#61
I asked my crush to be my first kiss. I know he likes me and I’m fairly certain I like him but he said no. How do I get over the embarrassment???
Final score:
1point
Popcorn Colonel 4 years ago
You're just too awesome. It often scares boys away when you are that open about it. Don't worry we have all been there! You WILL get over it. I'm sure he's just as embarrassed as you are.
#62
Covid???
Final score:
0points
#63
In Utah if you are not registered as a republican you cannot vote in the primary elections... a lot of people do not know this. It's unconstitutional and never addressed.
Final score:
0points
#64
I have some sort of problem. i don’t know what it is. my best guess is bipolar depression, but i honestly don’t know. my family thinks i have depression, so they sent me to therapy. it doesn’t help. they really don’t understand. i don’t need, nor want help. there’s nothing they can do, what i really need is Ren. heh... i really hope my family doesn’t read this, y don’t know about ren. ren is my amazing crush who also likes me but we haven’t actually formed a relationship. wow. i meant for this to be a few sentences, but it’s turning into a novel. sorry. anyway, i don’t think they can help me. no matter how much love and attention they try to give me, ive never been comfortable with that much physical contact from adults. i don’t know why. i just prefer hugging my friends, or talking to them, also, i jumpstarts had an idea. maybe, it’s better to open up to your friends, because they’re probably around the same age as you, and haven’t fixed all their problems yet. then, you have someone to figure it out with you, instead of someone to tell you about your past problems and suggest the solutions that helped them, because... i lost my train of thought. hopefully you get the point. WOW i typed a lot. sorry! bye!
Final score:
0points
Jessica 4 years ago
I'm going to assume you're a teenager and all of this is perfectly normal part of development. socializing with your friends is a lot more important than your parents at this time of your life and that's okay. Bipolar disorder is an incredibly complex mental illness and unless you're showing some signs of that I wouldn't assume you have it...https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/bipolar-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20355955
#65
After having my first baby, I realized that I have wasted the last decade with someone who didn’t want the same things as me.
I wanted children young so I could spend more years with them, I wanted to live on the coast, I wanted to pursue acting, I wanted to travel, I wanted to be able to say goodbye to my Grandma before she passed away. None of these things happened because I gave up my dreams to be with him.
I have ruined my life and I do not know how to move forward.
Final score:
0points
#66
I want to have children. I feel the urge to have them. At the same time, I see the state of the world and feel envious of my parents because they'll likely die before me and won't see that much destruction because of the climate change. And I feel like it's selfish and cruel to bring more people (that I'll care about most in the world) into it. But also everyone around is having children like it's no big deal.
Final score:
0points
What do you think ?
Kristin Ingersoll 4 years ago
The children sharing their names and emails are making me really nervous. Please, if you've shared your email, delete it now!! This could get very problematic. I want you to get support, but possibly creepy strangers on the internet are NOT the right people!!!
Zoe J. 4 years ago
WHY ARE PEOPLE DOWNVOTING??? This is a post to get stuff off our chests in a safe place, not to be bullied for our guilt!! I have no words for how I feel about this. Other than the trolls that deserve it, this is practically toxic! I know that this probably won't change anything, but I've noticed excessive downvoting on other posts, too. Just Why?
Sent From The Slytherin House 4 years ago
yes I didn't post, but I commented and tried to help people out the best that I can. I can't understand why someone would down vote another person's cry for help! A few of these people have talked about committing suicide and you can't offer them a bit of advice or a kind word, but you downvote? Wow. That really shows.
Load More Replies...
Among Us 4 years ago
This is a strange question but how do you make a post like this? How do I make an ask pandas post?
Zoe J. 4 years ago
I already commented this, but ironically, it got downvoted into invisibility. Here's the gist: WHY ARE PEOPLE DOWNVOTING FOR NO REASON??? This is a post to get stuff off our chests in a safe place, not to be bullied for our guilt!! What in the world, people?
Kristin Ingersoll 4 years ago
The children sharing their names and emails are making me really nervous. Please, if you've shared your email, delete it now!! This could get very problematic. I want you to get support, but possibly creepy strangers on the internet are NOT the right people!!!
Zoe J. 4 years ago
WHY ARE PEOPLE DOWNVOTING??? This is a post to get stuff off our chests in a safe place, not to be bullied for our guilt!! I have no words for how I feel about this. Other than the trolls that deserve it, this is practically toxic! I know that this probably won't change anything, but I've noticed excessive downvoting on other posts, too. Just Why?
Sent From The Slytherin House 4 years ago
yes I didn't post, but I commented and tried to help people out the best that I can. I can't understand why someone would down vote another person's cry for help! A few of these people have talked about committing suicide and you can't offer them a bit of advice or a kind word, but you downvote? Wow. That really shows.
Load More Replies... Among Us 4 years ago
This is a strange question but how do you make a post like this? How do I make an ask pandas post?
Zoe J. 4 years ago
I already commented this, but ironically, it got downvoted into invisibility. Here's the gist: WHY ARE PEOPLE DOWNVOTING FOR NO REASON??? This is a post to get stuff off our chests in a safe place, not to be bullied for our guilt!! What in the world, people?
Related on Bored Panda
