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Hey Pandas, What Do People Say To You That You Think Is Annoying But It’s Completely Normalized? (Closed)
What shouldn't be normalized but is and people seem to not care enough to change that?
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#1
"...Are you SURE you weren't forced?"
"Oh, so that really was your own choice? Hmm."
"So you're NOT oppressed?"
Y'all just let me wear a goddamn cloth on my head who am I hurting
Final score:
40points
censorshipsucks 1 year ago
I feel awkward and uncomfortable without my wristwatch. My kids do not wear one. They do not see the point. Once you have spent your entire life wearing something, it becomes second nature and feels weird to not do it. I am not oppressed by westerners' wristwatch ideals.
Red Lotus 🪷 1 year ago (edited)
Haha, oppressed by westerners' wristwatch ideas is the funniest thing I've read today. And about the second nature feeling, you hit the nail right on the head; I feel half naked without the hijab.
Load More Replies... Red Lotus 🪷 1 year ago
Worst part is when they treat you like you are uneducated or victimised. People get surprised when my mother speaks immaculate English since she wears a hijab and abaya, and she has to explain that no, she was not deprived of education and had the same access to it as boys.
Leo Domitrix 1 year ago
Cultures around the world wear headgear. Call it a hijab or a babushka, a bowler or a fez, it's their thing, keep out of it unless the da*n thing is printed with HELP ME on it.
Michelle Smith 1 year ago
Do you know Catholics used to have to cover their heads with a mantilla? Oh, excuse me just females. I was never harassed in any ways. Yes it is all right to persecute Jews, Muslims, and others. Talk about hypocrisy.
Pursuing Peonies 1 year ago
While that practice has decreased, there a still tons of people who do still use mantillas and other such a Christian head coverings. It's so odd to me that organized religious people are so pressed about particular things when they're just fine with those things in their own religion....
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Marinasongs1432 1 year ago
Not me, but apparently them. People need to keep their a*s out of other people’s lives
A gay cat man (he/him&Tré/Trè) 1 year ago
i don't give a f**k what other people wear as long as it's not a hate symbol
Vermonta 1 year ago
I like the hijab and scarves they wear. I wish I could occasionally wear it but I would come off as I'd be appropriating another culture.What I wouldn't give for a burka 9:00 on a Tuesday night when I need to buy tampax
Sarah Bell 1 year ago
If a person wants to dress modestly, then that's Her choice. If a woman wants to be as naked as possible, as the bottom pieces are covered, it's her choice .
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#2
Oh i’m so ocd, i love cleaning. Omg i’m so bipolar today!! Was that a shadow, i’m so schizophrenic 🤪. I’m literally having a panic attack over this lmao. All of these are things i’ve heard and while i’m not diagnosed with any of these (parents refuse to take me to a psychiatrist) it’s so stupid because people struggle with these things.
Final score:
37points
Chexmy Licks🇯🇵 1 year ago
i hate it too when people use mental illnesses as their "emotion" or to gain attention
#3
“I can’t believe you like that!” Said every time I eat lunch at my desk. Seriously? Do I come over to your desk, interrupt what you’re doing, and criticize your dining choices? Go away.
Final score:
34points
#4
“Well you seem functional” to people with disabilities you can’t see ( PTSD, seizures
Final score:
29points
Nikki Sevven 1 year ago
The response to any version of "you don't look disabled" is "well, you don't look stupid, so it's clear that appearances can be deceptive."
#5
Basically all sentences starting with "All men", especially relating to sexuality and relationships. Some highlights:
"All men need sex no matter what."
"All men are promiscuous in nature."
"All men want to lose their virginity as soon as possible."
"All men are attracted to big chests."
"All men dread being chained to one woman for the rest of his life."
Now of course, all of those are annoying stereotypes to say the least, but I'm a guy on the asexual spectrum and this kind of stuff makes me super uncomfortable.
Final score:
25points
Mike_The_Nike 1 year ago
then say “well if you like it so much then how about you go f**k yourself?” (said with a sarcastic recomendation kind of tone)
#6
Where I live?
"God only gives you what you can handle." or "God doesn't give you more than you can handle."
Got it. God's an ar$ehole.
Final score:
24points
Chexmy Licks🇯🇵 1 year ago
fr its so annoying when they r trying to make u feel better by saying "God is only doing it because you are strong" instead of helping u they r making it worse that it was before
#7
-"No Offense but" and then they proceed to tell you the most offensive and abhorrent thing you ever heard
- "Oh my God, I'm sorry I murdered you and your whole family, I have ADHD." Please don't blame everything on your mental illnesses
- "LGBT is so controversial." It shouldn't be. Why is a gay person's existence controversial?
-"Godzilla could actually beat Ultraman with EASE, he's much bigger and more powerful" No. As much as I love Godzilla, Ultraman has much more experience and is a very skilled fighter. As intelligent as Godzilla is, he is still an animal and could not outsmart Ultraman. Ultraman has defeated countless enemies larger than him. This fight would be very even, with no one having the advantage, and if anyone did, it would be Ultraman
-"I'm vegan, and my dog LOVES her vegan diet" No, she doesn't. Give her a plate of whatever vegan food, and a steak, and she will go for the steak 10 times out of 10.
Final score:
22points
#8
Honestly, people enjoying influencer culture… I hate toxic influencers in general, but people keep trying to get me to like them.
That, and being accused of anorexia because I’m skinny, this was by a doctor, btw, and could clearly see that I had a severe thyroid issue and they did absolutely nothing about it
Final score:
21points
Blue_Mouse (queen) 1 year ago
What the actual f**k with your doctor. Anorexia because you are skinny? I have not clue what thyroid issues can propose, but I’m sure it can contribute to weight loss!!!
#9
"Ugh, he's so ugly why do you like him?
"You have no standards"
No, Susan. I just don't judge people by their appearance, so go run on down to your 6'5 football captain boyfriend who you think you can "change" and let me date my 5'1 boyfriend with depression who I actually CAN help.
Final score:
21points
#10
Assuming someone's name. My legal name is Nathan, but people keep thinking that my legal name is Nathaniel. first off, if I introduce myself as Nathan/Nate, that's what you call me. Second off, why do you think my name's Nathaniel?
Final score:
20points
Michelle Smith 1 year ago
Logical assumption, but we should always refer to people by the name with which they introduced themselves because it’s obviously what they prefer
#11
"You're going to regret those tattoos when you are older". Nope, 20 years later still don't.
Final score:
15points
Thegoodboi 1 year ago
I'm getting a new one next month :). Not that anyone cares just since we're talking about tattoos
#12
"You need glasses!"
Said by lots and lots of people when, for example, they see me trying to read. I then either patiently explain that not every eye disorder can be corrected with glasses or say something snarky like "You mean like Ray Charles or Stevie Wonder?"
Final score:
14points
Donkey boi 1 year ago (edited)
Someone said that to my sister once, when she was reading a sign at the trains station while squinting slightly. She just shouted at him 'I'm concentrating mother f****r!'.
#13
When I go somewhere with someone I know, and all the people I don't know starts asking away.... where do you live, are you married, why not, do you have kids, why don't you want kids, then tries to convince me to have kids and that is what I am suppose to do, where do I work.... Jesus Christ, I didn't realize I came to a fckn interview! Did I get the job??? F off. I know it is a conversation starter, but there are sooooo many other things to talk about, I would know, because I tend to avoid those type of questions, because people will usually tell you if they want to talk about it.
Final score:
14points
Leo Domitrix 1 year ago
The US Midwest. Total strangers asking about the status of my uterus. What the....
#14
"I'm soooooo depressed" at any minor inconvenience.
Final score:
14points
#15
"Jokes" about serious issues. Also, way too many people are comfortable using slurs (especially the r, t, and f ones)
Final score:
11points
crowspectre (he/they) 1 year ago
My school uses the r and f slurs like casual insults and the t slurs specifically for me and the other like two out trans kids. Idk why people suck this much
#16
The boyfriend jokes every. single. goddamn. time I mention a boys name. I go to a girl's school, so all the relatives get a bit over excited when they find out I do, in fact, talk to a couple of boys. I've been fielding comments about this one boy (who I've always been pretty close friends with) since we were both about 5.
Final score:
11points
#17
Speaking in hyperbole and using the word "literally" to mean it's exact opposite, "figuratively". As in:
"He was so angry he literally exploded."
Did he really explode? Hope you had an umbrella handy.
Final score:
10points
#18
I live on a farm so a lot of people ask me if I’m a horse girl, which, I guess I am cuz I own them and I like them but like??? Why is it cringe to like horses???
Final score:
9points
StrangeOne 1 year ago
My daughter has always loved horses. She was really into them for a long time. Still is. When she was in Pre-K, the school and social worker questioned me about her "obsession" with horses. I'm like "Is that a bad thing?" They were like "Well, it's not normal." Wth??? How is it not normal for a little girl to love horses???
#19
"You should get out of your comfort zone."
No, I have tried that and it's uncomfortable. Now, you should shut up and make the zone comfortable.
The need to get out of one's comfort zone is coined up by extroverts who thrive on new experiences, hence their comfort zone is "outside the comfort zone".
Final score:
9points
#20
that eating disorder kids are 'skinny people'. people in general come in all shapes and sizes, and you don't have to be underweight to have an ED.
Final score:
9points
#21
"You are going to want kids when you r older" I find it annoying every time some one says it to me
Final score:
9points
#22
"What are you reading?"
What in the exact hell is the point of this?? Not once in all of having known you (even if it's some stranger on the bus) have you implied that you may have even the slightest interest in reading, and this is the WORST possible way to "make conversation'. The book is there TO AVOID conversation! If someone wanted to talk to you, They'd do it!
Final score:
9points
#23
now remember, never go in a PLACE YOU DON'T KNOW.
Final score:
8points
#24
fOuR KiDs? Haha, iSn'T tHaT tOo MaNy? Are they asking you to raise them? If those people are willing to have them, quit judging their choices. In my native country, if you now have more than one or two kids you are considered to be "uneducated" :/
Final score:
8points
Blue_Mouse (queen) 1 year ago
I have 7 siblings. Stafu no one asked you to take care of us (not you op)
#25
People, stop asking me about my short story/poem/art ideas. I am not bloody interested in discussing the gravity of a story I had worked hard on formulating.
Also, if they are being obnoxious,tell your kids to behave!
PS- Ik I seem like the old
Final score:
8points
StrangeOne 1 year ago
As someone who was really into art, I get it. There's really nothing too deep about my art work, and I'm hearing from song writers that some songs are really not as deep as people try to make them out to be. I know music lyrics & stories are analyzed to the letter in English classes. But, really, whatever aspects/perspectives people try to search for is not purposely thought out by the creator. I have a sketch I draw and shaded in HS art class. I have a sketch framed on my wall. It was really just a recreation from a computer graphic image I googled. My mom visited, stared at this picture for a bit then asked "Soooo... what's the story behind this picture? What does it mean?" I replied there was no meaning. She cut in "Yes there is." I had to tell her repeatedly there was no meaning.
#26
People always ignore your mental health & treating it as an excuse just to "get out of things". MENTAL HEALTH IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS PHYSICAL HEALTH. I'm sick of people treating it like it's an excuse.
Final score:
7points
A gay cat man (he/him&Tré/Trè) 1 year ago
well, i am devising a plot with my therapist to get me out of PE cuz of my bad intrusive thoughts... >:)
#27
"(insert my name), when are your parents going to get you help?"
"your so stupid, reading is the easiest subject!" ... I have ADHD and dyslexia...
One of my friends (recently): "Your not Italian, Italians don't exist!"
Random popular kid in 3rd grade when I said I had Dyslexia: "Ewww! Get away from me, I don't want to catch it!" For some reason, people think you can catch things that are genetic...
One kid in my grade when I said I have Asthma and was taking my inhaler : *grabs my inhaler and throws it across the room* how 'bout you just BREATH AIR
Final score:
7points
#28
This is very specific to me, but I am very cold-natured (due to my chronic illness/invisible disability) and so I'm often wearing more clothes than other people and strangers LOVE to comment on that. They've even laughed in my face because I was wearing a coat in the winter? My favorite is when they say "you can't possibly be cold." Like...really? It's against the laws of physics that I'm cold when you're not? But literally everyone does it. No one thinks there's a problem with commenting on how my body works. And I hate it.
Final score:
7points
Chilli 11 months ago
I get this. The MINIMUM length of my sleeves is about an inch away from my elbow. Anything shorter than that I hate. Singlets and spaghetti strap tops are awful for me. Jumpers and jackets are my best friend. Jeans, leggings, track pants, long skirts. All f*****g amazing! I like to be covered up. NOT A PROBLEM
#29
"I want to say something..."
Want to and should are 2 different things. Usually when someone says " I want to say something" it's my mom wanting to start a one-sided argument she calls a lecture.
Final score:
6points
#30
It is what it is.
That’s what she said.
Thank God it’s Friday
Keep in touch.
Final score:
6points
#31
People who start a statement with "To be perfectly clear..." Do they normally obfuscate?
Final score:
6points
Ima Manimal 1 year ago
If they’re talking to somebody who says “obfuscate”, they’re probably just making sure you can speak relatably to other people
#32
Calling me Bruce, cause of my last name Li....
Final score:
5points
Coyote Osborne 1 year ago
I have to wonder if these ding-dongs do that to everyone with the last name Li. Isn't that one of the most common surnames in the world? You'd think they'd get tired of the joke after telling it a jillion times. And not having people happy when they do it. I couldn't even tell you how many people I've met who have that last name. It's like Smith, or Patel, or Johnson. I kinda feel like this is also an example of casual racism. Not to mention that making fun of or making jokes about someone's name is something you'd think people would outgrow before high school.
#33
Tw:sh
Oh my god!!! I relapsed!!! I feel like im gonna faint lmaooooo they are splitting!!! Bro shut up, we know damn well you just want attention. It’s not funny .
Final score:
5points
Chexmy Licks🇯🇵 1 year ago
this happened to me when i was in 6th grade, my best friend was cutting all of the sudden when she feels sad. I asked where she learned it from? and she said you. She was never like this but she told me she felt like doing it because i did it too and she thought it was fine bc i was doing it. ive never been this fast to ignore and unfriend that person. The consequences i faced her "friends" kept bullying me for not being her friend n how i look like a zebra
#34
Just how people call me by my name. Always drawing out the vowels and the 'r'. It sounds like I'm in trouble.
Final score:
5points
#35
"OMG I like totally couldn't focus in class. I'm so ADHD!" As someone who deals with ADHD, has lived with it, and will continue to live with it, it makes my blood absolutely boil when people chock it up to just "not paying attention". Particularly when it's not that they, you know, literally couldn't focus no matter how hard they tried, or how much effort they put in, and they just chose to not pay attention. I also hate all the "ADHD isn't real," "You're just an addict. HAHA just kidding." "Why are you so bad at doing things on time? Are you broken or something?" And just stuff along those lines. I've spent way too much time masking and just trying to survive my ADHD for people to belittle it and make it into a joke
Final score:
5points
#36
one thing i want to add that I didn't put in my last post... my parents telling my brother (when we argue) that one day I'm gonna want to hang out with him and his friends because I'm gonna have a crush on them... One of these days there going to figure out I'm gay and have no interest in men
Final score:
4points
#37
I'm a 37 year old woman and I don't care if people ask if I have kids, but I hate when I say 'no, I don't want any' and people say 'oh don't say that', or 'you never know'. Worse when they ask 'Never?! You're not going to change your mind?' 20 years ago I thought going to work stoned was a good idea, people change, so I can't say for certain that 10 years from now I won't. Also, if I say I don't have kids or want them, that's not an invitation to continue the conversation.
Final score:
4points
Clown fish 1 year ago (edited)
I have 3 I would not recommend children. It doesn't mean I don't love mine but it's hard work and a lot of the time lonely work to and the f#cking worry about where they are and if I'm a good enough mum sends my anxiety on one all the time!
#38
Please and Thankyou..
It's so rude because you're outwardly assuming somoene is going to do whatever you're saying Please for.. like you're pushing them into it
Also... Thankyou Kindly..
Every customer who ever said that to me turned out to be the worst tipper
Like they think throwing "kindly" in there makes them have good manners
Final score:
3points
#39
Dont ask why these became a thing because I don’t even know
“Your _________ as a bag of hammers”
Like this one time someone said to me you’re as beautiful as a bag of hammers I mean like is that a complement? It happens all the time in my family
Final score:
2points
Doi Lookdumb 1 year ago
That's a new one... I've only heard that blank filled with 'dumb', which makes sense because...I mean, it's a bag of hammers.
#40
“I’m so OCD”
“I’m so ADHD“
“I’m so schizophrenic”
“I’m so (insert mental health issue/disorder here)”
Final score:
2points
#41
Do you want fries with that....Hun? (Or whatever you want with that...Hun.)
Final score:
1point
Nichole Harris 1 year ago
I call everyone Hun or babe.....I can't remember names for the life of me
#42
"Perrrr-fect." Usually in response to answering a question that requires personal information, such as your email address or an account number.
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Final score:
1point
#43
As a fair skinned, freckled person I find it annoying when people tell me I need to get some Sun (or a tan).
Fpr one it is a direct insult that insinuates that I am less than, or ugly as myself.
Also these people are old enough to know that not everyone has the same melanin levels.I tried to get some color a lot when I was younger, now all that skin is old, and damaged!
My genes are not the same as yours. I don't tan, I burn.
Final score:
1point
#44
Everybody knows,
Everybody thinks
I'm just saying what Everybody is thinking....
All designed to make the opposing view look like it's not relevant and only what they believe is right because every right minded person thinks like them.
NO, you do not speak for Everybody, you speak only for yourself, if others agree they will say so, if they do not they may stay silent or let you know.
Final score:
1point
#45
“Omg im like So (literally any adjective)”
We Get it sally! You don’t have to tell us!
Final score:
1point
#46
omg omg omg you must be so special if you’re neurodivergent
Final score:
0points
#47
Random students in high school: Hi, do you want to be your friend?
Me: No.
Them: (in a weird voice) Hi, do you want to be friends?
Me: (in an annoyed voice) NO, did you listen, I say NO!
Them again: (in the same voice) Do you want...
Me: Shut UP! Shut UP!
(P.S.: I have ADHD and autism by the way.)
Final score:
0points
#48
the r-word.
i'm neurodivergent, and srsly, that word is really, I don't even know how to describe how it makes me feel
Final score:
0points
#49
sometimes when annoyed with people "learn to deal with it, you'll find this at every step of your life" yeah well some people need to grow up and fix their own issues, if i say i can't then i won't, let them do it
Final score:
0points
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