If they gossip about other people, they're gonna gossip about you too.

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Rokas J.

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Not liking or abusing animals

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Polar_bear_lover

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If your partner is agressive with others or jealous way too easily.

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Madison Phelps

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When a friend makes mean jokes about you aka bullies you and passes it off as their sense of humor. I don´t mean playful teasing either- I mean when they basically try to make you feel awful about yourself for fun

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Regarding work; ask the boss about employees during your interview - how long have they worked there for example. If people quit after a short time - it should tell you something.

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Tigerpacingthecage

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they constantly tear you down, say sorry, then go right back to doing it. this is also a family issue , if someone does this, try to get help :(

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MacKenzie Moore

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If your partner doesn't stop something you specifically told them to

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RavenZero (they/them)

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When they put the guilt for a problem they created on you and/or blame their bad actions / decisions on what you did to them to act that way.

Either they want you to feel guilty or push you in a defensive postition to cut off criticism aimed at them

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J. F.

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Racism

"There are only two things I can't stand in this world: People who are intolerant of other people's cultures and the Dutch." Nigel Powers.

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Nathaniel

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Going through your phone, it's a complete invasion of privacy

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People who talk smack about someone and then immediately go hang out with them. High chance that they're doing that to you as well.

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When that glass of wine becomes two, then more than two, then you start finding empty bottles in the morning...and they say pass it off as "you had some too" when you know you didn't.

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People seem to equate that time passed = being forgiven for being a shitty person. For example people who keep demanding you to lend them money every now and then but don't pay it back.

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Duten Pizdamtii

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"He only hit me once/she only hit me once/they only hit me once"

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Legolas Greenleaf

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People who are mean or rude to service staff. Weather it’s retail workers or Waiters or waitresses. How someone interacts with others really reveals their true character and how they may eventually treat you.

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Red flag on medical personnel: If they don't examine you while paying attention to *your words only*. If they're on a phone or talking to your partner, bail. B/c they're not caring about you.

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Leo Domitrix

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Dating Red Flag: If the person speaks of their Ex and NEVER says a single nice thing about them.

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Kurtz Frausun

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Be wary of roommates, partners and friends who want to put bills and/or charges in your name and will 'give you the cash' or pay you back. Whether it's utilities or a phone, it's usually a sign they have bad credit if they can't get it themselves. It seems like common sense but it's the #1 thing that people go to court over and it's shocking how many people I know who buy their boyfriends phones or let them borrow some money with the intention of paying it back but never get anything in writing. Make sure you have something in writing. If they refuse to sign it or make a big deal out of it, it's a huge red flag. Same with major business that will only accept cash, like car dealerships. They may be trying to scam you. Make sure money doesn't leave your hand until a receipt is given and make sure that receipt is detailed with exactly what is paid for and how much is left to pay, or paid in full is written on it with the date. A generic piece of paper won't hold up in court. Make sure it's signed and/or has the business letterhead.

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If you have a fight and instead of trying to talk it out and resolve the problem, they throw insults and say mean things just to hurt you. Then when it's over they say "oh, baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean those things I said!" Nah, don't believe it, get out while you can.

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If they arn't there when you need them, you don't need to be there when they need you.

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Demon Girl

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"You take yourself too seriously."/"You can't take a joke."

Especially when they've said or done something to hurt you and are deflecting responsibility.

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They never try to start a conversation with/ask questions about you. They will eventually start ignoring you. (Another red flag for me is when they make fun of peoples(or fictional characters) neurodivergent traits)

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𝑪𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒓𝒊

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That funny smell coming up from the basement...

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David Furritus

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Nothing is ever their fault, from getting fired to divorces.

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We are from the government, and we are here to help!

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Edit. That one is personal.
When partner/friend/family member forces you to wear clothes you don't like/don't feel confortable in because THEY think it looks good on YOU.

If you don't like what you're wearing, then it DOES NOT suit you. YOU, and only YOU should decide if it looks good or not.

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Error 404 (He/They)

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Getting angry, or constantly yelling at you...

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Nobody

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Saying (whining), "I need this", when pushing you into sexual acts that you don't actually want to to.

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you ask them why they love you. they only say you're beautiful. got rid of him last month when i realised i was a trophy gf. girls and gays, look out.

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As far as health care providers, little white lies. They may be small but they indicate a much bigger issue with ethics.

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Catherine Binder

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If they burn a lot of bridges. I once dated a girl who would permanently cut anyone out of her life at the slightest offense. There was no sense of forgiveness, patience, or giving people the benefit of the doubt. As soon as they said or did something she didn't like, she would chew them out, call them liars and a**holes, and tell them they were dead to her and they should never speak to her again. Of course, to hear her tell it, she was the innocent victim in every instance. She burned so many bridges that she eventually had to move to a different city to get away from all her "enemies"

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When he always wants to know where you are and what you are doing. And the reason he gives is that he cares about you and wants you to be safe. No. That is controlling behavior. You don't have to text the minute you arrive or leave somewhere or answer texts within 20 minutes. In a good relationship you trust one another.

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When EVERYTHING about their ex(s) is awful. All the while claiming zero responsibility.
They are ALWAYS the victim and/or hero.
Laughing off their words and actions from a fight.
Constant bragging about their brawn and brains.
Expecting "favors" from gifts.
Pretends to like people.
Your job, time, family and ANYTHING else you value is insignificant to them.
Dishonesty, white lies about anything/anybody.
They are are the good child of the family
Superficial~Needs to buy the best even when can't afford

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if they make there problems your problems by saying things like

"i thought you cared"

and also if they threatean to hurt you or themselves if you dont continue going out with them

mainly though: if they are really controlling

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liam mckirdy

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Your are dating someone who is married or supposedly committed to another person. If they will cheat on their wife/husband/partner, they will cheat on you. You are not special.

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Teasing. There is no such a thing as "good-natured ribbing" or "just making a joke" or "having fun". Teasing is - SIMPLY - insulting and degrading another WITHOUt taking responsibility for his or her actions. (Special burning-hot red-flag for parents who tease their children.)

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Big ego

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When someone complains that everybody is against them... usually they're the problem.

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When people say’.it was a long time ago’ relating to a bad experience you had in the past. SORRY, if I still remember it as awful albeit ages ago it doesn’t mean we can forgive stuff from so long ago. Love from bitter and twisted.

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When they try to take your mental health down with theirs. One of my ex-friends tried to do this to me and my friends. Our entire relationship was like a list of things that makes someone a toxic friend.

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if they pretend to be intrested but actually dont like you and pretend to date you for a while just so they can go

"did you really think i liked you"

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liam mckirdy

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Normalizing getting only the best of grades, no matter what is going on in your personal lives.

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And my name's Jennifer

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A bad feeling about them. always listen to your body.

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When a potential partner is used to having their mum do everything for them.

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lying to your face when you clearly saw them do it

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Scp_duck

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If your new boyfriend wants to spend every waking moment with you and is upset when you spend time with friends w/o him. It's not romantic, it's controlling. Run.

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Jilly

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"No one will ever love you like I do".

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1. Anger over superficial things.
ie. Playing sports for fun, and they keep missing things or "messing up" so they let out a yell, or start berating themselves. It's one thing to check yourself and try to do better, it's another to throw a tantrum and make a spectacle because the strike you tried went out of bounds. If this is how they get mad at themselves over small things, how much worse do you think they will act for the important ones? Do you really think they will be kinder to you than they are to themselves?

2. Making comments about stranger's appearance, and laughing at them because of their weight, or body hair, etc. Why would you want to be with someone who thinks it is not only alright to be so judgmental and hateful, but enjoys it too?

3. Has little patience and empathy. I keep this in mind especially for those who want/plan to have children. I have seen too many parents snap at toddlers, spank babies, say things like, "I told you no!" followed by"do you understand?" The eff? No they DON'T understand. You just hurt them physically, emotionally, and mentally, and they are 2. They don't even know enough words to put a sentence together and you expect them to always remember things you have previously told them? Or to understand every explanation you give them? I could go on and on. It just pisses me off.

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dating someone just for something they have and not for the person themselves

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liam mckirdy

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People don't realize how toxic narcissistic people can be, and I full-well think people ignore the red flags when they come across one. Narcissistic tendencies of flamboyancy in front of friends. This can be especially when the narcissist is with their partner or kids. They do not want anyone else in their group to get more attention than them. They'll be hyper-expressive, over enunciate their words, speak louder than anyone else in the room, move around a lot, fuss with every little detail, interrupt, direct the conversation to themselves constantly, and not allow anyone else chime in for long periods.
If their kids/spouse, or anyone they use as a scapegoat, tries to join in the socializing the narcissist will snap their name and scold them for trying to have a normal 2 way conversation, leaving guests bewildered and confused, and afraid to speak anymore to that person.
People ignore this red flag and think the narcissist is just trying too hard to be a good host and sociable. At the same time not feeling too good about the visit.

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When your partner abuses you and forces you to sexual content. They will say sorry, but they won’t stop doing it. If this happens,
breakup or get divorce papers.

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Being rude to waiters/waitresses. If they are rude to them they will be rude to you.

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Bisexual_idiot

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your partner saying, "If you love me, you will do..." so on so forth.

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A giant red flag in any relationship, whether it’s with a family member, partner, friend, etc., is that person doing really hurtful things, like saying your a mistake, and then like 5 minutes later after their done talking their like “I love you, you know that?” I’ve experienced that so many times in my life, and I’m honestly really done with it.

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Annalynne Carter

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Went on a job interview once. As I was talking to them, they suddenly hustled me into a conference room as a woman walked past. They told me I was interviewing for her job, but she wasn’t aware of that.
Needless to say, I intentionally blew that interview.
That was a huge red flag billowing in the wind.

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Wayne Brinkley

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I have two daughters. I have impressed upon them that any potential boy who expresses interest in them must pass the "tion-test". It is a four pronged test. The boy should have an education, occupation, transportation and motivation to be something better than what they are today. A failure in any one prong is an automatic failure of the test and he isn't worth thier time!

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Sudden mood swings, gaslighting and dog whistle behavior that are designed to keep you off base and on the back foot. Soon, everything will be "your fault" and they'll need to control you "for your own good".

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Nimues Child

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If your family and friends don't like the guy. A green flag is when you start a new relationship and your family and friends keep remarking on how much happier you are.

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Meg Jones

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If you have a good relationship with your parents and all your other friends get along with them, but your prospective partner is really uncomfortable with the idea of being around them and avoids meeting them or talking to them.

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If they complaining about earlier consultants/staff/contractors. Ask exactly why they were not happy with whoever they are complaining about. If the answer sounds like b******t, just walk away.

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Erik Ivan

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Gaslighting.. I had an ex-friend do this several times to me

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MZ (she/they/he)

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Commenting on someone’s body
Unless the person is your doctor(or maybe a parent if you’re a minor and dangerous under/over weight,anyone who says anything rude or creepy is usually not the best person.

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There was this young woman in our circle of friends. She was friendly and we shared many interests. I even found her to my liking for a week or two, but lost any romantic interest as it became evident she didn't share it.

Months later, she secretly fell in love with some guy. In this case, "secretly" meant everyone knew but the guy himself. Every time we met, spoke, texted, she would go on and on about how that guy was the most marvelous, talented, sexy, intelligent, etc.

After five months, she finally found enough courage to tell him how she feels. He just gave her the old "Sorry, I just don't feel like going into a relationship right now. Let's stay friends, and see where this goes."

From that point on, she was ranting about him twice as much. But this time, she was just tearing him apart, as he now was the worst pile of pre-manure-matter ever.

So, yeah, red flag: The way people react to rejection says a lot about their personnality. I sure dodged a bullet there.

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Stéphane Lussier Johnson

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Stop signs. Are signs considered flags?

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There's a song called "Cult of Personality" by Living Colour that basically tells you how people get suckered. I can't believe a metal song from the 80s has more wisdom than so many people today. Google the lyrics and tell me I'm wrong.

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Susan Stead

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The flag of China

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"Can-you-please-take-my-shift-or-doing-my-work-you-are-so-good!" Without being paid extra for it.

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When your friends don't like them. I'm not saying it's a red flag for the individual people per se, but it's a red flag for the Relationship. Think about it, when has anybody ever married someone their friends hated?

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Someone who doesn't respect your time or belongings, they don't respect you either.

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Knowing he was actually involuntarily committed for "Medicine adjustment"

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Nicole Herron

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Jaywalking.

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They run off 2hen they start to loose in an argument

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When you first meet a woman if one of the first questions she asks is "So, what do you do for a living" or some variation on that.

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When someone tells you that you are a negative person and makes you feel like you dont have the right to change or be positive.

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Some of the things they say are the reddest flag you can get:

"I always tell it like it is."
"I can be your best friend or your worst nightmare."
"I can't stand people who can't take criticism."
"I am sarcastic. It's just my nature."
"I'm just telling the truth / I'm just being honest."

Yet, people mostly ignore these flags. Instead, they think their honesty is "refreshing." Until they realize they just became one more target for that person's non-stop "honest and constructive criticism."

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Eating pizza crust to tip.

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If he is disrespectful to his parents, chances are he will be disrespectful to you.

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When problems seem to follow you everywhere… actually, you’re the problem.

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The signs that tell people to wear a f****** mask

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Met a guy, he was in a relationship for 9 years, had two beautiful girls with his ex. He said they broke up bc she cheated. I’m a woman. If there are kids involved, women will do everything to keep the family together. He also said it was bc of his mental health issues. Made me wonder the real reason for the breakup. Suffice to say I didn’t pursue any type of relationship with him. If you’re willing to not see your kids for extended periods of time, then you’re a POS parent.

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my best friend's mother was murdered because of this. i think the red flag people don't think of most is that they've had multiple relationships before.

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The sticker on my car that reads "If you can read this sticker then you're too damn close!" Ignore this and I may just do the speed limit the entire time you're stuck behind me.

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When your crush friendszone you

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