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Hey, Pandas! Tell Us Your Problems, Please (Closed)

I want to hear about your problems and help the best I can. Let's help each other with some support and give tips to each other if you think you know a solution to someone's problem. It may be hard, but we can help make things easier!

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#1

I don't know how anyone can help, but I don't have enough time for everything that I want to do. And I don't want to do, like, everything that there is to do; managing all of the responsibilities that I currently have is hard enough.

In short, my problem is that being an adult sucks and drains so much energy out of me, and it seems like there's no escape from this. Perhaps one day I'll get used to it. As of now, it's a problem.

Final score:

39points

Titas Burinskas

BusLady 4 years ago

No matter how many responsibilities that you have, always make some "me" time. Relaxation is so important for your mental health.

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#2

I have been bullied for a year straight, become depressed like hell, pretending I’m fine but IM NOT FINE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! People suggest I go to a therapist but I don’t want to be treated like a crazy person. I try just about everything to fix it and I can’t.COVID also adds to depression because my best friend is now untalkable to because I don’t have his phone number. I feel like I’m not good enough and my dream of being an astronaut is shot.I have a phobia of death and I’m stressed as hell due to homework ( I have like 15 assignments in a single subject to do by the end of the week). I have ADHD, and I’m kind of overweight and my brother is a brat and I feel like he is favored. AND I have insomnia causing me to fall asleep in class. That’s like just half of it all and I don’t know the other half.

Final score:

23points

Elizabeth Tunney

DEKU x TODOROKI 4 years ago

First of all, I know exactly how you feel, I have been bullied my whole life and I have been through depression. I also don't want to be treated like a crazy person. What I did was I didn't go to a therapist I went to my sister instead, because she was always there for me I felt better. I hope you start to feel better, if you are an only child then TALK to YOUR parents... <3

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#3

I get stressed very easily and my parents just make it worse for me. so I get distracted easily and tend to not do my school work. I do get it done but just later when I am not at school. my parents are incredibly strict and when I don't do all my work at school and instead do it at home they get on to me and then I can't even do my work at home because they are yelling at me when I'm trying to work. they don't know this but all of the stress they have given me has also given me depression. on a bad day, I will not go to bed and I will just sit and cry at night. sometimes I will even take an electric razor blade and scratch my arms with it. everyone thinks of me as the happy kid but sometimes I just want to cry. I feel like I put on a mask every day. I put on an act that says that I am fine when I am not. I just want someone to listen to me and understand me. I feel empty. I feel like I should just act like a robot and not do anything that makes me happy and more because apparently, my parents hate when I am happy or do something that I actually like to do. they never ask me what's wrong they just ask what did I do now.

Final score:

12points

Elizabeth Tunney 4 years ago

I’m sorry about that...

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#4

I have ADHD, And I have very little control of how loud i say things. I may be trying to say something to my friends, and it will come out like I meant to say it to an entire classroom. ;w;

Final score:

10points

Steve The Stomper

Awesome horse lover 4 years ago

My best friend has ADHD and she says everything very loud I suggest embracing the fact that you’re loud and when you’re trying to say something that you only want your friend to hear do it someplace at least sort of like the bathroom or something if you have the same gender?

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#5

I got depression, anxiety, adhd, ocd and probably more. I got a fox pelt to keep me company, since it's the closest thing i can get to a real fox

Final score:

10points

pansexualandproud 4 years ago

awww. I'm sorry for you. here is a cute pic of a fox just because fox-cute-5...43228e.jpg

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#6

My mom's boyfriend smokes weed and in fact has a entire farm, he gives us lines (where you have to write same thing over and over. He gave me 2,000 once. I'm not kidding.) And is always verbally abusing me and my sister. Like how he tells me "To learn how to shut the f**k up, I can't do anything right, and how I belong with my dad (My parents are divorced.) What do I do I am 11 and don't know how much longer I can stand.

Final score:

10points

Sarcastic Panda 4 years ago

you need to tell someone. tell an adult or call Childline or something, this might be classed as abuse and you might have to go live at your dad's or something

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#7

My parents are super controlling. They recently made me stop watching anime because of the language and anime is a big part of my life so now I'm kinda depressed. Also they hate me for being gay.

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9points

(Enter Name Here)

pansexualandproud 4 years ago

a fellow gay and anime lover is here for u <3 (here is art because i heard you are bi)

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#8

Being told to "MAN UP" and ignoring pain.

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9points

Roadkill The Brave 4 years ago

Oh hell no. Just ignore them and scream to the sky if you need to.

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#9

My goodness. Too many things to put here but to name a few...
I have to juggle school in with personal life
I am kind of addicted to Bored Panda (hehe)
I may have anxiety
I'm trying to learn french (I'm not doing very well though)
I'm trying to get smarter (I already am pretty bright, I just want to know as much as I can)
I looooooove reading and I want to read more
I have a missing assignment in math that is really bothering me because it will take a looong time
I have a math test tomorrow and I haven't studied
There's this boy that I'm friends with but he likes me and I've made it clear that I just want to be friends but I think he still secretly likes me
I don't have very many clothes
My parents fight a lot and I think my mom might be thinking about getting a divorce
I have 4 siblings all under the age of 4 and that's a bit overwhelming
I am really trying to be kind and as nice to people as I can, but it's kind of hard
I'm really confused about everything right now (I'm at that age where people say that you'll be confused {adolescent/teen} and let me tell you children, it is 100% real)
I just want to be happy
I don't have a whole lot of friends and I want to make more but I'm kind of weird so I sort of annoy people
I miss my best friend (@PanSloth) soooo much
There is a boy I really like but he's in a different grade at a different school so I don't know if he already likes someone or not
I have many, many more. So yeah, I just named a few. Sorry to dump all that on you guys. Thanks : )

Final score:

7points

Sent From The Slytherin House

Boopie Dew 4 years ago

Sounds very normal at that age, thank you for sharing it with us. If your weird , be the best weird you can be. Thats what makes you - you.

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#10

It's hard for me to properly motivate myself right now, I try to get up at 6:15 am but instead get up around 7:45-8:00am. I also planned to start an online store later this month but I can't find any proper time to work on my stock with school and everything else. I honestly hate procrastinating but I'm not sure what to do.

Final score:

6points

Dave van Es 4 years ago

Try getting up when you need to, but not when you want to. It also helps to quit caffeine after 6pm, and go to bed between 9 and 10 hours before you have to get up. Plan one week, from getting out of bed, to going to bed, and everything in between, every day. It'll be hard in the beginning, but if you follow your own schedule, you'll get better at it, might even do some chores faster because they become a routine, and it'll help you to get more rest, en more control of your day/week. Don't forget to reward yourself from time to time with things you don't need to do, but want to do. Use the rewards as motivators to keep planning, and you'll find you'll start to procastinate the procastination alone, instead of all the wants and needs

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#11

I know this isn't an answer, but thank you guys so much! This is my first post ever, and when I cam back, I has SO MANY notifications! I'm so happy that you guys like this topic!

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6points

Maya Jones (Submission author) 4 years ago

shooot- wrong post...omg- i'm so stupid...

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#12

Ok so I know I already posted but I have another thing. I hate hate hate hate HATE sexism, racism, whatever the heck you call age discrimination, and so much more. Wtf is wrong with people?? And I remember a video I saw on youtube where this white guy said "You wouldn't be here if it weren't for us." Actually it is thought BLACK people were here first so you can't say sh*t about that. I am white to that doesn't mean I hate other people for dumb things like that.

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6points

Lyone Fein 4 years ago

Yes, lots of people hate other people. Mostly they hate those who are different from themselves--though that is not always the case. There are also many who hate those who are exactly like themselves in some way that they are trying to hide from. In truth, I don't think we can rationally comprehend hate. It is so profound. (BTW there is no evidence that black people where in the Americas prior to white people. But Native Americans are thought to have come from Asia when the Bering Straight was still a land bridge.)

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#13

I just feel really sad or angry all the time. I have so much schoolwork on my plate, a puppy that seems like she's riding a permanent sugar high, friendships to maintain, a toxic dad to confront, no time, feelings to control, anxiety to manage, and a stressful declaration of lesbianism that I need to work on

Final score:

5points

Amelia Haluzak 4 years ago

Take a deep breath and ask for help. Asking for help is one of the hardest things you can do but if you do it it is worth it. you don’t always have to confront your dad your Friends could feel the same way. And I bet your friends would be glad to babysit your puppy.

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#14

I have lots of problems, but only one is killing me. Okay, so, I'm in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. We met online, and everything had been perfect! then he started talking about dreams and death and that go me so worried. Before he stopped talking to me, he said he had food poisoning and that he was okay. And he stopped coming online... It's been like a week! Yes, I know he could be grounded or taking a break from the internet, but after what he said about death and food poisoning, I can't help but be scared ): now I have all sorts of fears, like what if he's in the hospital and dying? I can hardly concentrate on anything!

Final score:

5points

BusLady 4 years ago

He might have simply lost interest in the online friendship. I know you are worried, but that is stressing you out. It's hard to move on, but it sounds like that is what you need to do.

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#15

This is a problem that I’ve had for a while, I don’t know how to come out to by family as a lesbian and I don’t know how they would react are if they would support me also my mother put me on prescription medication for diagnosed anxiety but I haven’t seen and changes
These are just my biggest problems and I wish want some advice
Have a nice day

Final score:

5points

Janelle Madison

Roadkill The Brave 4 years ago

Medication can take up to 3 months to be fully effective. Yes it can start showing signs of working a week or three from starting it but it can take 3 months for antidepressants and antianxiety meds. If you've been on it that long and you're getting nothing you need it adjusted.

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#16

People think I have a perfect life but really I have no friends and I've been bullied a lot and I hate myself and my family loves to tell me that I ruin everything when I'm trying to be helpful and I feel really worthless and there's nothing I can do.

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5points

OrangeChicken 4 years ago

Here... it might not do much but... 22e4f4b699...377e12.gif

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#17

I have a Periodic Fever Syndrome, where I get very high fevers constantly. They can last up to 2 weeks, and sometimes they can get all the way up to 106 degrees. That meant I was in the hospital a lot.

Final score:

4points

BusLady 4 years ago

I'm so sorry. That is a lot to deal with. I hope that things get better and that doctors may be able to help you with medication or something.

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#18

My social anxiety. I can't talk to anyone I dont know, I hate being in large crowds, speaking in front of an audience terrifies me, and I'm acually afraid of ordering food at a restaurant or checking out at a cash register by myself! This would be reasonable if I was like 10 but I'm 15!

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4points

Jeweled Dragon (She/They)

Julia King (Submission author) 4 years ago

Plus I'm depressed and struggling with online high school

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#19

My mom is sick, I wanna go to sleep forever. I'm so worried about life. Please help me.

Final score:

4points

The one and only

Billy the kid 4 years ago

At this point of time you need to think and be there for your mother. What is wrong with her?

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#20

This might be a bit of a long one, as I have MANY problems.

Where to start? Um, my mom died 5 years ago, and my dad didn't want us. No one else in my family even wanted my siblings and me. I never told anyone that bothers me, but it does. One of my aunts fought for us and eventually adopted us as our legal guardian/parent. I love her, I really do, but she always turns everything into a Godly moment. I'll tell her a joke and a few seconds later I'm standing in front of her, listening to her lecture me about "not praying enough", or, "praying empty prayers". It's so annoying.

Problem #2
My sister doesn't talk to me. She brushes it off when I ACCIDENTALLY nudge her. She'll get squirmy and weird when I tell her I love her, which is rare because she's just gonna do that. She treats her friends better than she treats me and she hugs her friends. She's hasn't hugged me for 11 years. Well, not that I can remember.

Problem#3
I have been best friends with this girl Lexi since first grade. She has gay dads and she's bisexual. I have 2 other gay friends, 3 lesbian friends, and a couple of other bisexual friends. My parent is fine with me being best friends, with her, but she doesn't know that I have LGBTQ+ friends. I'm scared to tell her. She's not homophobic, and I'm DEFINITELY NOT, but I'm scared to tell her because she might not let me be friends with Lexi anymore.

Problem#4
Lexi, my friend, is one of the best friends I've ever had. But, when I did go over to her house, she never listened to me. She never wants to do what I wanna do. Now, don't get me wrong, I know it's her house, but I've been her best friend for a while. Can't she, you know, show some respect?

Problem#5
I'm insecure. I feel like I'm fat. I want to lose weight, so I drink at least 4 (maybe a bit more). I haven't lost weight, so I drink more and more. Well, I recently went to the hospital for a checkup. One of my blood tests came back, and basically, I'm on the verge of getting diabetes. I'm scared. But it sucks because I'm afraid to go to my aunt for help.

Problem#5
I feel like my aunt isn't proud of me. TBH, I'm very proud of myself either. I miss my mom a lot. The thing my sister and my aunt don't know is that I cry myself to sleep some nights. I'm sometimes afraid to talk to her about anything, in fear I'll disappoint her, or make her mad, or get a lecture I don't eve need. She doesn't let me be a child. I want to have fun while I'm still younger. I feel sorta bad for typing this, as she's in the room next to me. I have to go now because my class starts at 7:50. Thanks for reading it.

Final score:

4points

bisexualbaddie <3

Boopie Dew 4 years ago

You've been through a lot. Like A LOT! If u think u aunt won't allow you to see your friend if she knows, don't tell her. Its not a given that everyone has to know about someone's sexuality . Some sisters don't hug their own sister. They love them differently than friends, don't worry she loves you. It may be that hugging you would be TOO vulnerable. Keep going young one,I wish you the best. You will be ok. Sending hugs.

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#21

I know I'm the one who made this ask pandas thing, but I have problems too soooooooo... MY aunt died and I don't know how I can get past that. The guy I like has a gf and won't talk to me. I found out that a friend that I consider a brother likes me((yes in that way)). I have depression and can't get out of it. My mom is slowly going back to doing drugs... and yea there's way more but im just gonna stop here... X)

Final score:

3points

Your.New.Husband

Roadkill The Brave 4 years ago

If you were close to your Aunt it could take a while to get past it. I still miss my Grandpa every day but it started getting better pain wise the last couple of years. Time. I know it sucks but Time is what it takes.

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#22

I have a teacher in high school that sucks. He’s a nice person, he just sucks as a teacher. He has no teaching experience for the class because our old teacher got fired for budget cuts (my school only puts funds in sports), so he was hired to be in her place. He went from not giving a crap about us and being more focused on his other class, to (now on online school) assigning us sooo many assignments. In my other classes, (I only have 4) I have 20 assignments in one class, 17 in another, and 15 in the last one. In the class with the bad teacher, he has assigned 49 assignments!! In only 2 months!! And they all take forever to do and it’s all super overwhelming. I tried telling him that he’s assigning too much but it’s all just excuses, excuses, no solutions. This class went from a get-away from life to having life being a get-away from this class. Does anyone have any advise on what I can do to deal with him/his assignments?

Final score:

3points

Kizzie 4 years ago

Talk to him. Send him an email, call him, text him, whatever. Tell him how you are feeling and what would help. He may not know that it is giving you trouble. If that doesn't help, try asking him if you can combine two assignments, or do assignments in ways you find fun. And just smile. This one always makes me smile: https://www.boredpanda.com/funny-dramatic-cats/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic

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#23

I don't even know where to start but first of all, I have a horrible relationship with my mom. She emotionally abuses me by calling me names, telling me to shut up, and she once threatened to throw a glass on my head but she said she "wouldn't do that because she doesn't want to go to jail" I have so many emotional problems because of her, but I can't tell anyone or get away from her (I'm 12). I feel really horrible because she's my mom, but I don't know what to do. I'm also bi/leaning more towards girls, and don't know how to tell my parents (well, just my stepdad, really) I keep saying I'll tell them when I'm older, but I can't stand those awkward moments where they ask me about boys. I would really appreciate some advice from fellow pandas.

Final score:

3points

Pansexual Froggo

Boopie Dew 4 years ago

Honestly, if you're 12 and bi, and you have an abusive mother, I wouldn't tell her. If she's that abusive she doesn't deserve to know you more than she does. Sounds like she'd use it against you and make you feel bad about it. Sometimes when ppl treat us badly and we can't get away from them the best thing we can do is not give them any more ammunition. Think of it this way, if this was anyone else in your life, would you tell them something you like about yourself,knowing they will harm you with it? Just because she's your mom, that doesn't mean she's entitled to your every thought or emotion. Maybe someday she will be different and deserving of knowing you more. But for now, it sounds like your better off with a happy secret. That goes for anything you choose not to share with her.

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#24

My baby just had major surgery and I’m struggling to get out of debt over it: https://www.gofundme.com/f/a-miracle-for-marzipan

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3points

Billy the kid 4 years ago

sorry to hear that. i hope you find a way

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#25

My job is killing me. I'm working 13 hours a day for days a week and ten the other day. They're talking about making us come in on our days off. They took away the only part of the job I like and gave it to someone else to do. I'm tired. I'm depressed. I'm angry. I've lost most of my friends because I don't have time to be around them. I'm a mail carrier. It sucks to be us right now. My route had over 900 deliveries, half of which are residential and I have to walk to reach of those houses, but management says I'm the problem, not the route size. I'm literally having suicidal thoughts every day.

Final score:

3points

Boopie Dew 4 years ago

I don't say this flippant, look for a new job. If it is the cause of all these issues its not worth the $ you're making. If you need medical help, plz get that too. 🙏

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#26

I can't figure out what to do with my life. I have great social and public speaking skills. I love economics and anthropology as well as marketing. I'm currently in college and not sure If I should change colleges or majors. What the heck do I do? I also really want an internship this summer and have done a few interviews for them. I really want to get one but I enrolled in college many years early (3 years) so I am pretty young to be working and am not sure if some companies will hire me because of my age. AGHHHHHH!

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3points

Lorraine R 4 years ago

Talk to a college guidance counselor. They can help you with decision-making strategies.

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#27

I suffer from depression and anxiety. I can give advice but I never follow it myself. I hesitate when faced with a choice because I want to do the right thing and always end up choosing the wrong thing. I am shy and socially awkward. I care very little for clothes, makeup, and boys, marking me as an outcast with most girls in my grade. I'm a lesbian, marking me as an outcast with most people in my school. I have a few close friends, and during lunch, rather than exchange gossip and tell secrets, we discuss politics and the news.

Final score:

3points

Jeweled Dragon (She/They)

¯_(ツ)_/¯ 4 years ago

Girl, i'm f***ing lesbian too. (back to the point) You know what you should do, you should honestly act like you are some confident person and you have no fears. I do it and oml it helps me sooo much because then people don't really push me around.

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#28

So, in other words, I get bullied and shunned because I'm different. Also, forgot to mention that I frequently get called a witch because I have a large nose, and I used to get teased for reading, writing, and doing math at an advanced level. And my parents refuse to accept anything other than almost perfection. If I don't do something really well they accuse me of slacking off, or not trying as hard as I could. They don't understand that I make mistakes sometimes, or that no one can do anything perfectly 100% of the time.

Final score:

3points

Jeweled Dragon (She/They)

MadDawg 4 years ago

I get you with the witch thing. I have a very "Jewish" nose so I went through it too, but in time, I learned to love it because it is proof of my beautiful and vibrant culture.

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#29

I have dyslexia and ADHD, THat makes it very hard to do things. And I am depressed, I have two failed attempts and scar all over my arms. I've gotten to the point where a have gone to a mental hospital for a few days. I am not okay and school is not making it any better.

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3points

¯_(ツ)_/¯ 4 years ago

Wow, i'm so sorry and I really hope you fall out of depression and win a normal life back! <3

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#30

My missus has been going through the menopause for over 6 years now. I know that it is not her fault but it is doing my head in. When i am on my way home from work it terrifies me what mood she is going to be in. I know that she is a nice person but when she has her moods on it is very distressing. I try to stay silent and not argue with her but sometimes it gets to a point that i verbally explode and then the neighbors call the police then i get arrested. I feel bad after and go and sit in another room but she follows me around. She also refuses to get medical help for this as she says it has side effects. I have spoken to female colleagues about this and they give advice and recommendations but she still refuses.

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3points

Call Me Mars 4 years ago

I don't know if you are married or not, but you may need some time apart. If it gets to the point of anger where you get ARRESTED??? its time to have some time apart. You can think about what to do and what steps to take, and she can look for medications and possibley a therapist and doctor. Nobody should have to live in fear because of mood swings. Thats horrid and scary. Hopefully this helps!

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#31

I can be a loud mouth and kinda mean sometimes and I can't really help it, so sorry in advanced if i'm mean to you, unless you deserve it ;)

(I know i'm going to get attacked by *ahem* pEoPlE in the comments so if you do, don't waste your time on a 7th grader)

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3points

Sarah Fry 4 years ago

Dude, I can relate. I need to shut up sometimes too. :) lol.

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#32

This past year my depression and anxiety has gotten worse then ever. I can't focus because my stomach is hurting so bad from the anxiety i feel from all school work i have to do, i can't sleep and i have a headache everyday because of everything. I don't know how to be happy anymore and i just want to give up all the time. It's so hard to wake up in the mornings and i don't want to be around anybody bc it's exhausting for me and i feel like i'm going to get mad at my friends and hurt their feelings

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3points

DEKU x TODOROKI 4 years ago

iM SORRY

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#33

You know I think existential dread is a good place to start, as well as fact that people think its so easy to be a guy, while in reality ''Oh your gf broke up with you? MAN UP'' is a common situation.

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3points

Salted YT (Submission author) 4 years ago

Sorry. New here. I'm 69 though!

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#34

Having autism. Being autistic makes me much more sensitive to things, especially loud noises. I cry at the drop of a hat and I'm worried people think of me as "the weird nerd."

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3points

starsailor (they/he)

Boopie Dew 4 years ago

I'm very sensitive to noise, I use soft earplugs and hide them under my hair. I can still hear but it takes out a lot of the background noise and the jolting noises. Or I wear ear buds and listen to music if I can. Good luck.

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#35

Hey Pandas!

I'm currently an intern, soon to be a mental health counselor.

I'd like to write some of these things down, formulate my advice & input, then submit it to my supervisor for feedback.

I *WOULD NEVER* include your name/username/avatar, just a literal 'aerial view' - which is why I'd be writing them, not using screenshots.

If you are *opposed* / hard pass / BIG NO from you, I will absolutely respect that...just LMK...

Of course, now that I've 'fessed up to the reason behind my intentions, I can't dump my own sh*t!
Thank you! Y'all are the best!

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3points

DEKU x TODOROKI 4 years ago

so what are you asking exactly??

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#36

People who downvote my comments on Bored Panda.

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2points

¯_(ツ)_/¯ 4 years ago

Because your comments are hurtful.

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#37

I think i might have ADHD and have a lot of the symptoms and don't know how to tell my parents. Also i have a bunch of Homework and i get distracted and its
so hard to focus and it takes me forever to do the homework and they are like 10 pages long on a daily basis.

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2points

Athletic_Girl 4 years ago

That may not seem like the case, but I promise, things will get better. You just need to hang in there, and I know that it is easier said than done, but you will get through this. I think you are so incredibly strong, so keep fighting. Reach out to people. You don't have to keep up that mask, because although it may feel like you do, there will always be people who love you for YOU. The true you. Who makes mistakes. Who maybe doesn't feel like they are worth enough. But know that you are, you are worthy enough. I hope everything gets better, I really do. Your parents, if they are good parents, will be okay with you having ADHD and take you for tests, I wish you luck and I hope everything gets better.

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#38

I haven't seen most of my friends in way to long. video calls do not suffice. i need my friends so much - they're the reason i used to get up on time - i would see them at school. well, that doesn't happen right now, does it? i'm doing online school.

the fact i can't see them - it's eating me up inside. i have no siblings, so the only people i interact with face to face are my parents. i love them - but i'm getting sick of being around them 24/7. i stay up at night just so i can have some time away from them, not have them constantly want to do things with me when all i want to do is curl up and read a book or cry. i cry myself to sleep way too often these days. i don't cry in front of my parents, i don't tell them all of this, and they can't tell. if i did they would constantly be worrying about me, asking me if i'm ok. I'M NOT! i'm just trying to get through the day and not burst into tears.

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Kizzie 4 years ago

Try laughing! Laughter is the best medicine. Try this post: https://www.boredpanda.com/funny-dramatic-cats/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic

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#39

I haven't seen my mom since February. Her nursing home locked down and I wasn't able to celebrate her 60th birthday with her. Stress is a major issue I've always had. I have stressed out my system so badly that I now have a chronic hive condition. I finally broke down and got a medical alert bracelet that I call my 'I don't wanna die' band.

Everyone is suffering hard core with depression because of COVID, personal reasons, and seasonal Depression has started for my area of the world. I'm the boss so I have to stay strong of my people and my work site that I'm stressing out more. Enforcing Covid precautions is easier where I'm at but we've still had a few instances of not wanting to wear a mask.

I'm pissed about some stuff too but that frustration is coming from the depression and the stress. I'm fully aware I have control issues so the lack of control and being able to do even basic things is hitting me hard.

As a general rule I'm a pretty grounded individual. I know the root of a lot of my issues and I've been debating going back into therapy just to get some of this crap off my back but I wound up being more of a therapist to my last three and I'm not at a place right now where I want to spend the time it will take to find someone who won't be like that with me.

Lastly I'm just tired. I've been single the majority of my adult life and I'm tired of hearing that I'm intimidating, or I should dumb myself down for others. I'm tired of Covid, I'm tired of stress, I miss seeing my sister almost every week, and I'm just tired in general. Yes I know it's the depression, it's also a side effect of the antihistamine's I take for the chronic Hives and the sleeping pills I take for the chronic Insomnia but I'm still tired and it sucks.

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2points

Roadkill The Brave

Lyone Fein 4 years ago

I hear you. First, let me say "thank you" to you--for being a leader and caring, responsible person. Taking on this role *is* tiring. Just because you are the "boss" doesn't mean you can't take a day off sometimes. Maybe you could give yourself a three-day weekend sometime? Also, I know about chronic sleep problems from experience, and taking over-the-counter sleeping pills on any long term basis is usually a bad idea (they say). Have you tried something more natural, like melatonin? Hey it is just a suggestion. Also a warm bath before bed, and some hot milk. You need to give yourself a break, though, I think. So you can sleep for a couple of days straight. Anyways, I am sorry that you are so isolated from your family. I have that too. And it is very rough. I call my mother as much as I can. Sometimes we just spend a whole call on making sarcastic comments about other people! It really helps us both blow off some steam. I hope things calm down a bit for you sometime soon.

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#40

I get so bored. There are times when I'm fine, I can just lie on the ground for hours and not get bored. Then there are times where I need to do something, like talk to someone or read a book, or my mind will just go dead and I am just sooooo bored. I need more things to do when I'm bored! Help!

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CuttlefishRule 4 years ago

books are awesome!

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#41

Trying to pursue a friend for a date.She's not answering my calls. And I am a girl.

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Athletic_Girl 4 years ago

I am sorry she isn't answering, how long has it been? Are you out to her? I wish you all the best and I hope she calls you back and you get to go on a date.

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#42

It’s just... let’s say I’m obviously a equestrian. I am very traumatized by something that happened to me though. Me and a friend were driving a pony and the back wheel scraped across a fence post and the horse went galloping away with us... I was not super badly hurt and my friend was fine. The horse slammed me into a fence and galloped into the stables. I was fine but my back hurt a bit... they called the ambulance... I was fine though with some cuts and bruises... I got off lucky however my friend did not even have a scratch! I’m fine I’m just scared. I keep having anxiety attacks and I think about it at night and can’t sleep. Help!

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moonstone_plays

Lyone Fein 4 years ago

I wonder if you need to spend some non-riding time with that horse?

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#43

1. 3 and a half years ago daughter shattered her knee when she was 7, took a leave from my job to take care of her

2. 3 years ago my fathers tumors stared winning the battle, had to quit another job to take care of him as he was not mobile (feeding, washing, diapers etc).

3. 1 year ago (in 2 weeks) my father died. even though it really hurt at least i could spend more time with my wife and kid and get a job so we can get out of the hole we were in due to last 3,5 years of me not working (some odd jobs along the way but these dont really count.)

4. worked for 3 months before Covid took it away.

5. an earthquake severely damaged our apartment, somehow managed to fix it enough to live in it.

6. wife developed ptsd from the shock, still has a breakdown 5 times a week

7. flood finished the earthquakes job. literally left us with 6 nylon bags of belongings.

there is more but i think this will suffice

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Tomislav Pleše

Lyone Fein 4 years ago

This sounds so difficult, Tomislav. The world has piled up a lot of things onto your shoulders. It sounds like you have been living in crisis mode for a long time, and that is very stressful. It can really wear a person down. My mother always reminds me of something they tell people on airplanes: "In case the cabin loses air pressure, put on your oxygen mask first, before helping someone else with theirs." You cannot be of help to your loved ones if you are not taking care of yourself first. OK? So that is your first item. Ask yourself what you need in order to become strong and stable. Then pursue this first. One piece at a time. A little bit every day. Strengthen yourself. Then you will be able to help your wife and child. You can do this. Take a slow deep breath.

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#44

I feel like when ever I stick out from the rest ill be made fun of so i stick with the crowd. I never say my real opinion i also have trouble telling people what i'm actually feeling.
Is there any way anybody can help?

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A U T O P H O B I A

Billy the kid 4 years ago (edited)

if you are in with the crowd you can gradually reveal your real self but dont reveal your personal detail. i say hello to people but i never speak about my business.

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#45

I am fairly depressed, and am lonely. I also have social anxiety, which makes all of my problems worse. I am also super unmotivated, which is more just annoying.

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quinn, slytherin 4 years ago (edited)

Ok, here are my suggestions: See a therapist to help with your depression and social anxiety. Watch TED talks and motivation videos in the morning. Have a good day! - Quinn

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#46

I'm 45 and debt has crippled me. Every month the people i owe money to get paid directly out of my wages leaving me barely enough to pay my rent. Most mnths I have to get my mum to buy my food or electric. I work more than 80 hours a week and it seems like I havent made any progress getting them paid off. I suffer from anxiety, depression, copd and severe panic attacks on top and I just feel like why do i fucking bother trying. I see the people I went to school with living full lives and raising families while I am on my own getting nowhere. I dont trust many people after being bullied the entire way through school, and then about 10 years ago i attacked in my own house by 2 thugs with knives over a case of mistaken identity but I'm the one that suffered for it. One of them has now been moved 3 houses away from me and when I complained to the landlord they said tough luck so now I see the guy that held me at knife point for over an hour every fucking day and its all I can do to not attack him and let him know just how terrifying it is. I cant afford to move because of my debts and going to the police will just make things worse. I just feel like trying to spend my life helping people has been a waste of time but helping people is all I have to make me feel good about myself.

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2points

Lorraine R 4 years ago

Since you like helping people, try volunteering with a reputable organization that helps people in ways you are good at. It would get you in touch with a network of good people who may be able to help you in turn somewhere down the road.

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#47

-I CAN'T SLEEP!!! TVT-

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Kizzie 4 years ago

I know it's kinda weird, but... sleeping naked will help you fall asleep. Also, I bought a special clock that plays night noises (crickets and such) to help me sleep, and it really helps.

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#48

My mom´s parents died and my dad´s dad died. :( Been bullied since kindergarden. I got used to getting bullien but not the deaths :(

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2points

Billy the kid 4 years ago

The people that have passed away will be forever in your memory and their deaths will pass. as for the bullying you shouldn't have to put up with that whether you have got use to it or not. my grandkids are 4 and 10 and im getting them into self defense classes.

2points

#49

Well, I’m stuck. Haven’t been able to find a place to live since this whole mess started, trying to find work but there’s nothing really available for someone my age (I’m 46), and the 3D printing business I started 6 months ago has gone belly up because of lockdown here in Australia. I don’t know what to do with myself right now :(

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2points

Billy the kid 4 years ago

Go on line and check out homeless organizations. many countries do have them

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#50

I’m failing two of my 7th grade classes I try my best I feel like I could do better even though I can’t my parents are always proud of me but I just hate my grades

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Lula Gage 4 years ago

You might have to get a bit vulnerable, and that can be scary, but ask for help if you haven't already. Your friends and siblings and teachers can all help you out. Also, we're the same grade :-)

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#51

I'm actually really glad someone asked this because I have a lot on my plate right now. I'm suffering from a lot of things including (but not limited to) Depression, insomnia and stress. I don't know what to do but I'm really weighed down with everything going on in my life.

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2points

DEKU x TODOROKI 4 years ago

Maybe try and meditate every once in a while? that might help with the stress and my calm you down enough for you to sleep, as for the depression...I don't know how to help. Maybe talking to someone?

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#52

No one can help, but there is a reason my username is Call Me Mars. Its because I am non binary, and want people to CALL. ME. MARS!! I have tried telling my parents, but have gotten shut down multiple times. Only my friends are supportive. It hurts like h**l, but my givien name seemes to be wired into their heads. Which I understand, but they don't make a effort to try and change.

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2points

Persephone hates Pomegranate ️

¯_(ツ)_/¯ 4 years ago

Oof. I feel for you even though i can't really relate but hear is a piece of my mind: if someone calls you by your given name, just literally don't respond to your because THAT IS NOT YOUR NAME.

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#53

Food is my comfort a little too much after my parents separated.. I’m off my birth control in attempt to stop further weight gain and on progesterone instead.

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MZ (she/they/he)

Billy the kid 4 years ago

You can always go to the gym and put head phones on. music is very therapeutic

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#54

Uh... Life? ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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Billy the kid 4 years ago

life is what you make it. there is a lot of crap in life but there is also the good things to make it a little bit better. I try to ignore the negatives and concentrate on the positives.

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#55

find the intelligent aliens quicker god damnit

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Billy the kid 4 years ago

here i am

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#56

i’m anxious all the time, and sometimes i will feel happy for a bit but immediately feel sad for no reason

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Lisa loves cats

Billy the kid 4 years ago

no offence here but have you been checked for Bipolar?

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#57

i can't seem to make people happy

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Obi Wan Kenobi 4 years ago

SIng happy by Pharell Williams like a maniac--everyone is happy!

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#58

My problem is I always, am lonely at my dance studio. ANd I always wish people talked to me. But everyone says "hi" and try to make conversation. But I get so awkward and weird. So maybe it's my fault I'm lonely.

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Maya Jones 4 years ago

Gurl, I'm sitting right next to you bestfriend :) (you amazing)

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#59

sooo...
I´m not sure that I should even share this, but i mean I've never really talked about it before, why not tell a bunch of strangers I've known from the internet the past 2-ish years now (jk)

um so not to brag, but I'm a pretty good student. I have almost all a's (one b and I'm THIS close to getting it back up to an a) but like, even though my father has SEEN my grades, sees how hard I work, he still thinks that I'm a slacker or some kind of failure. I take school extremely seriously, but there's still the constant "well maybe if you cared as much about school work as you did (insert random shit I took a slight interest in) maybe you wouldn't be such a (insert random insult). It's not just the lack of recognition, which, yeah, I admit, is attention seeking and selfish, but like, when my father found out my little brother had all a's, he almost literally threw a party. like, he let my brother have a sleepover and he got him a new expensive lego set and all that stupid crap, but when I told my father I had all a's he was just like "ok cool." didn't even give a shit.

And I know it just seems like "oh, another stupid privileged girl who thinks she has problems" and yeah, I honestly don have it as bad as you guys, but still, there's more I just want to get off my chest.

My dad has been working at nike since I was four, he's coming up on ten years now, and they're creating a new system and people are losing their jobs. my dad might lose his, and he's been really stressed about it, and he's been taking it out on me. I mean, don get me wrong, we're gonna be fine, he has a high level job there and makes good money, so we have a lot in savings, and he's built up a fantastic resume, but we're still understandably nervous, most of all dad. He channels his stress into anger, which he then takes out on me. he took my phone and yelled at me for a while because I woke up ten minutes late. or he told me to make sure that I was having enough for lunch and I told him "don worry, I have plenty" and then proceeded to yell at me about how I constantly argued.
and he's constantly nit-picking, like he's practically put me under a microscope. when I take care of a new problem he finds another thing to be dissapointed in.
like, he thinks I should work out more, because apparently " I'm not in the best shape" I'm 5'4, and 105 pounds. this isn't insane for a fourteen year old, in fact, I'm still technically underweight. I work out everyday as well, yet he still wants me to work harder, do more, be unhappy with myself because who I am right now isn't good enough. that was just one example of many.

welp anyway that was enough complaining for one day, and no one wants to hear about it so everyone have a great day and I hope you all feel better.

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2points

*hippie*witchy*bitch*

Boopie Dew 4 years ago

Sounds like he's the problem not you. You can't make someone happy with you if they just don't want to be. I'm sorry its your dad. I'm glad you have a mom that's helping, focus on that as much as possible. Maybe he will change. 🤞

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#60

After losing my Job and being unemployed for a couple of years mostly due to depression I began having Dental issues which I ignored. Now I have SEVERE Dental issues. I don't smile, try not to speak unless I can hide my mouth somehow, dont sing anymore, ignore my family ( ashamed to be seen)and dont go out with my friends. I am a shell of my former outgoing self, the life of the party. I am in so deep I have NO CLUE where to be begin with fixing my Dental issues and am sooooo scared. I just want to smile and laugh again.

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Lorraine R 4 years ago

If you're working now, see if your employer has a health insurance plan with dental. Also, some dentists will work out payment plans with you. Make a start - the sooner the better - so it doesn't get worse.

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#61

I'm almost 70, disabled and widowed. I take care of a 70 yo autistic man who just had a stroke, a disabled 62 yo lady who is finally starting to use her legs again, 3 adult cats more dependant on me than my 4 elderly dogs ( in HUMAN years: 24, 16, 14, 12 ) 2 of whom are deaf and blind.
Then there's the 47 yo house itself, both inside and outside maintenance required to just keep up! No one to call to even help pick up leaves, or repair the roof that's leaking.
My problem is what happens to all these dependents when my mind finally snaps? I'm already showing signs of memory loss and dementia, and have a very rare form of MS, so some days are better than others.
I don't have anyone to call to take me to and bring me from the hospital for an operation I've put off having, as there's no one to care for me if I'm laid up for the days I'd need to recuperate.
I live in a rural area with scant access to medical or social assistance. It's taken me longer to write this as I'm losing the use of my right hand.
My resources are also minimal, as my income is limited to Social Security and food stamps.
Other than that, I'm doing fairly well!

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2points

MadDawg 4 years ago

Wow- you are amazing! I hope your situation gets better!

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#62

I've been dealing with OCD and seeing I have a lot of school work I have turn in tomorrow makes me mad. And ever since covid started it made me think that life is pointless and there nothing exiciting about it anymore and if im just a waste of money to my parents, and I have a toxic sister who neglects me in every single way it hurts a lot I cant even be in the same room by ourselves anymore. I also have social anxiety disorder which make even harder to talk about and I cry at random times blaming myself random reasons why i shouldn't be alive and that I don't deserve this thank you for your time and for reading this. I hope you guys tell me something that should help

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Paulina De La Loza Espiritu

eezycheezes101 4 years ago

I'm so sorry for all the things you're going through. My sister isn't necessarily much of a sister to me, either. I really hope a solution will come your way (for ALL of the problems you are having:)

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#63

I'm caring for my mom who had brain surgery about a year and a half ago, it left her blind and she had a stroke upon waking up from surgery. She requires 24/7 supervision, my older brother lives with her but he has his own mental issues so I've had to move in to take care of her and the household. My father passed away a few years ago. It's really taken a toll on me as I already have my own medical and mental issues. Sometimes I feel like I'm hanging by a thread.

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2points

Boopie Dew 4 years ago

I'm so sorry 😞.

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#64

I rush into relationships too fast. I develop crushes way too fast and I share my problems with people I barely know. Once people know this about me, they usually just ghost me. I feel like no one would even notice if i died. I always feel like everyone is better than me and is judging me on every single detail. No matter what I do, I never have full confidence. And if anyone in the comments can help me out- how do you revive a tired friendship?

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2points

Boopie Dew 4 years ago

Its ok to slow down. Not to tell everything. But if that's how u are accept it. Ppl are Usually wrapped up in their own problems to take on someone elses. It can be too much to process for them. Maybe try lighter subjects sometimes, learn to joke, have fun with them and the conversations ur having with them. Think of it this way, if u feel bad you want someone to listen, right? But do you want to keep dwelling on that the whole time or have a friend try to cheer you up ? Maybe try this.

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#65

Another one of problems is that IDK how to come out as a pansexual... Any ideas? I wanna be wholesome and not just straight up say "IM PAN"....

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Steve The Stomper

Roadkill The Brave 4 years ago

Well if you're a humorist you can get some cheap pans and give everyone a present to announce something exciting for everyone. Depends on how you're family is though. Half of mine would die laughing and congrats me on my wit, the other half would be horrified. Not using this as an insult I just think it's be funny. Put little notes in every pan 'Im all the choices'. Or 'When you created me you created all the things'.

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#66

Mine is kinda interesting. I've had troubles with being "too flamboyant". People have called me gay, thinking I was gay. No one knew that I wasn't because they wouldn't listen to me. Being gay is not bad, i just want to be who I am without being stereotyped. One day I thought of a genius response!! When they called me gay I said "Is being gay a bad thing?"

Their answer: "Yes, for you anyway" Idk what that even means.

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Lyone Fein 4 years ago

Or you could say something like--"No. Just happy!"

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#67

I have a mother who is hypocritical and kind of mean. She yells at me about not doing something that she didn't even tell me to do, then makes excuses about stress. For example. Her: "Can you unload the dishwasher? I'll reload." Me narrowing my eyes because she'll add stuff on to "unloading the dishwasher" in her head: "Yeaaaaaaah." Her snapping fingers at me: NOW. Later..... Me: I did it, it's your turn." Her, whips around and glares at me because she thought I wouldn't do it: "Are you sure?" Me: Yep! Her, folding her arms: "Check again, use your eyes." Me, looking into the dishwasher: "I unloaded the dishwasher." Her: "No, no you did not." Me, looking at her like "are we seeing the same dishwasher?!?!?!?" Her, pointing to the top of the dishwasher (a counter where we put dishes to dry on a rack): "You didn't clear the top!!!!" Me, throwing up my hands: "You said dishwasher! DISH-WASHER, not DISHES on top of sink, DISH-WASHER." Her, glaring at me: "Listen, I don't know if this is one of your auditory processing disorders (aka she literally took me to a doctor to see if I was deaf since I didn't hop to like a jackrabbit when she screams at me), but I clearly said dishwasher, that includes the top." Me internally screaming because the ONE TIME she unloaded the dishwasher she didn't even finish it, AND LEFT THE TOP RACK AND COUNTER FOR ME TO DO: "I've done the dishwasher a lot, Mom. Every single time I've done it, it's dishwasher only. Not the dry dishes on top." Her, getting worked up reaaaaaaal fast, "You'll do the dishes on top AND the dishes in the sink or go to bed early without dinner!" Me, who has put up with this crap for a while: "Fine, I'm done." Her, pausing as she fumes: .... Me internally: "VIVA LA RESISTANCE, MAMI!" Her, yelling now: "You're going to do the dishes or I'll take your laptop and school things and suspend you from classes!" Time out from this dramatic dialogue. I'm doing online learning, so I need my laptop. I also use it to write my book. It's also my connection to my friends and my sisters who are away. This is not okay, since she yells about my grades and she would probably lose my laptop. Me, glaring at her: "Fine." Her: huffs and sticks her AirPods back in, blasting some stupid worship song (worship music can be good, but dang, this was the bad stuff). Sorry for the long post, but she's literally why I learned to flip people off. (I did get the satisfaction of pretending like I forgave her, sweetly bringing out coffee that I spat in and muttered "It's a damn dishwasher, not an uprising, Mom.") (Yeah, I do swear occasionally, because Hell is very real and this had a situation that required it) I read in a book somewhere that if you do really simple annoying things to someone who's mean to you over time, they'll subconsciously avoid you. So far, it's spitting in coffee and getting up obscenely early so she'll always hear me humming "My way" as she works out in the garage. I've also occasionally pulled the I'll forgive you because I'm nice like that card. Overall, she's pretty nice, you just have to hop to and read her mind before she either: a)Has a screaming match b)Stomps off and throws up her hands c)gives the blissful silent treatment. I suppose I'm being a little unkind with the spitting in coffee over a dishwasher thing, but it's happened before, and I always get the giggles when she frowns at the milk foam on top. Anyways, ta-ta!

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quinn, slytherin 4 years ago (edited)

Ok, here's my suggestion: Try seeing a therapist or going to counseling together because I'm not going to lie, that's kinda toxic. Have a good day! - Quinn

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#68

I don handle people´s emotions well so when someone is sad such as my friend and i say something they think is offensive i say im sorry I don know how to handle people´s emotions and they say well maybe you shouldnt have friends at all then and they stop talking to me and stop being my friend and turn into my bully and it has gave me trust issues

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Denki/The community crackhead

quinn, slytherin 4 years ago

Ok, here are my suggestions: Try and think about how the other person is feeling. Imagine how you would feel if that happened to you. Just listen to them. You don't need to fix their problems, just be there for them. Also think about what you say and the effect it can have on someone else before you say it.

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#69

I'm depressed, I just developed anxiety, my parents just got divorced, when I was little my best friend died and my brain just realized that last month, my grandmother died, my great grandmother died, my friend moved away, my dad and I dont really like each other, my neighbor who is like family has carona, im lonely and feel like nobody will ever want to be my boyfriend, I can keep going but I dont what to think about the other things. I dont like to talk about my feelings much but I'm ok with it like this. Idk what to do with my life anymore 😭😭

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DEKU x TODOROKI 4 years ago

What you do with your life is keep living it, because someone in this world loves you whether you believe it or not. I'm here if you want to talk! =)

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#70

I'm depressed because I dropped curry sausages :(

and my cat died -_- :'(

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Obi Wan Kenobi 4 years ago

Darn comparing a cat with a sausage?...

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#71

Lately have been not getting enough sleep at night, and sleeping mostly in the day time! It's a disaster bc I have to do homeschool, but I'm always so tired.

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Two thousand seven

Paulina De La Loza Espiritu 4 years ago

go to sleep early and set an alarm early in the morning. it helped me a lot with me.

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#72

I'm so stressed right now I can't focus on my school work so I end up not submitting some and that makes me stressed and it's just a cycle. I kept procrastinating about it. My hair is literally going white from the stress, I always want to throw up, my head hurts. I'm pretty sure I had a fever yesterday and the day before. My sleep schedule is so messed up I can't sleep until like 11 pm at least and 2 am at most. And I'll always wake up at 6 because we have online classes that start at 7 am Monday to Friday. I sometimes can't take naps because my sister would hit me so I would just help her with her own school work (read: do her school work) and if I don't help her I'm the one at fault. I'm so stressed I ended up making a plan on what to do IF I'm going to commit suicide the other day, then dreamt of following through with it yesterday. Had a continuation of that dream when I napped just this afternoon. I don't know what I'll do now and I'm scared on what's going to happen in the future, I know I'd either die before 18 or move to another country as soon as I can.

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A Random Panda 4 years ago

Try locking your door when you work/ sleep. Tell your sister how you feel. It's okay to be scared. I mean, you'd have to be nuts not to be now. But the future is the future. You should just try and make it the best one. And most importantly, leave yourself some time. You're important. Paint your nails and feel like class. Try styling your hair in really weird/ fancy ways. Make some nutty but possibly delicious drink/ food.

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#73

Now, after reading all of this posts, i realised that my problems are zilch, zero, nada!
Yes, i work and my dear is unemployed, yes, we dont have money for some things that people considered as "normal, regular", but, i don't care anymore for material stuff. I would like to be able soon to start painting and drawing again. To overcome some blockages. Otherwise, now i'm sure that i'm blessed and happy with good people in my life.

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1point

Ulla Clicksteed

Boopie Dew 4 years ago

Well I kind of feel the same as you do. Sometimes things aren't always so bad in your life when you see others pain.

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#74

All of these are about school. 1.) Covid-19 means Blended learning. If you don't know, It's not great. 2.) I can't reach my friend because a. our school district divided up the school buildings into where in the district you live. b. she gave me her phone number over Google Hangouts, but then our school district disabled it. 3.) I'm drowning in school work. As previously mentioned, I don't like blended learning.

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HufflepuffPanda

HufflepuffPanda (Submission author) 4 years ago

Also, How do you make an Ask Pandas Question?

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#75

I recently went to the doctors with my mother and I finally spoke up about how I actually feel, The doctor didn't give me much help since my mom said most therapy classes aren't covered by our insurance and she basically left me with no help. All the doctor said was to return back to her if I get worse and she will give me pills of some sort.

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#76

Working from home feels like always working, yet still falling behind on hours somehow. When I force myself to take a break or even when I'm done for the week I have the overwhelming feeling that I should be working.

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Billy the kid 4 years ago

take a bit of time in between your working day to refresh the brain. go to the shops, take a walk around the park....

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#77

My parents and brother are super obsessed with one of the candidates in the US election and are not happy that my sister and I don't support him. I actually got screamed at and cussed at for half an hour in January when I changed my mind about voting for that person. It's only gotten worse since then and both my sister and I are afraid that we'll get kicked out if it comes out that we voted against their candidate, so we both lied about voting. I voted early and she's skipping morning classes if she needs to, in order to vote. I'm student teaching and not getting paid, so if I get kicked out, I'm massively screwed and she had to take out a loan for a car. If she has to drop out, she's worried that she'll never get out of the house.
I'm also scared because I'm having, like, 3 medical issues at once. With Roe vs. Wade possibly getting repealed this week, I could lose access to birth control, which I'm taking for a medical issue. Also, this past summer, I had a large cyst removed from my uterus, but now the pain is back in the same area and worse than before, but because I'm student teaching, I can't go get it checked out. I'm just really worried that it's something really bad. And then, on top of all of that, Republicans are trying to take away anti-discrimination laws for people with pre-existing conditions, which I have. This would mean that insurance companies can refuse to cover me and with the cost of healthcare in the US, I'd be royally screwed and I may never be able to find out what's wrong without indebting myself for the rest of my life. I mean, the surgery back in August cost $30,000 before insurance paid. Who knows what the cost would be to find out what's actually wrong with my uterine area? Definitely more than that.

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Billy the kid 4 years ago

when people knock on my door to get my vote i just tell them "oh yeah i already vote for you" that soon gets rid of them. just agree with your brother but dont get too deeply involved in the conversation. you can still secretly vote for who you want to vote. I dont do politics my self. If i do have to vote i vote for green peace.

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#78

I have a really hard paying attention in class meaning im behind on work. I had a speech yesterday and I didnt even write it in the 3-4 weeks we had to do it. I have and essay in english and i'm already behind. My mom takes my phone but im used to not having it so it's not a punishment for me. Any tips on how to get better at this? I use a planner and it still doesn't work. :(

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A Random Panda 4 years ago

I feel you! It's like, you push aside that something, and it's like "WASSUP" right at the deadline. I usually try to force myself to do it when it first gets assigned and try to put myself in the zone. Then, it all flows naturally! Hope this helps.

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#79

This is probably gonna sound dumb, but it’s been bothering me for like a YEAR now.

The Wings of Fire dragons are so out of wack and have incorrect anatomy.

Let me explain.

The dragons have four legs AND wings. This is cannot happen as there’s no vertebrate species with six limbs, unless it’s a genetic mutation, but it’s GENETIC, which means there’s a chance it won’t happen?? You can carry something without actually having it.

Then there’s the ears. Every single dragon species in this book series has ear flaps. This is literally impossible, as they’re probably archosaurs (crocodiles and birds) and none of those have ear flaps. Whyyyyyy?

And THEN there’s the problem with IceWings (dragon species). They’re reptiles. IceWings live on the arctic tundra. Where it is always snowing. They have scales. SCALES. they’d literally FREEZE TO DEATH because reptiles are COLD BLOODED!!!

There could be a solution to that though; let’s assume dragons are theropods. Theropoda is a dinosaur clade which includes birds. Birds are warm-blooded reptiles (yes, birds are reptiles) but even if they’re warm blooded they NEED feathers to survive!!

I could go on and on about why the author of these books needs to research biology but it’d take up an entire dictionary. So I’ll leave it here.

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Harlø-Banditø

Aragorn II Elessar 4 years ago

Middle earth dragons (think Smaug) have different genes and a different anatomy than earth dragons.

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#80

Nothing I do is ever good enough for my mom and step-dad. I haven't had a phone in almost a year and every time I'm about to get one they decide that one small detail prevents me from getting one. I have to use my school laptop for everything. My biological dad has field for custody and my mom hasn't been telling me she loves me before I go to bed. School work has been stressing me out because I'm help to all A standards.When I told them I was bi (turn out I'm pan)they said I wasn't allowed to be gay under their roof and that I wasn't allowed to flaunt it. I thought it was getting better but this past weekend proved that it wasn't. The only outlet I have is my therapist but sometimes I cant even tell her what is going on because my mom has her claws so deep into everything

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Kizzie 4 years ago

Speak up! Tell your therapist, and ask her not to tell your mom. Tell trusted teachers. Be you! YOU are special. YOU are unique. You are beautiful as you. No matter what happens, remember that you are loved. Smile.

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#81

Well, I am trying to figure out if I have anxiety. I think I have some sort of social anxiety (as mild as it may be), because being with big crowds makes me extremely nervous, but then this just came up out of nowhere: I usually walk to the luchroom with my friends. Today, I walked to the lunchroom by myself since I had to stay behind and clean up the gym (We had just finished up PE). So I buy my lunch and I go check outside (we usually sit outside on the patio). It was really wet so I assumed they had sat inside. I walked around for about 10 minutes trying to find them. I couldn't and I started to panic. It was a stupid thing to panic over... I mean all that had happened was that I lost sight of my friends. I started thinking if they even noticed if I was gone or if they ditched me on purporse (they didn't by the way). SO I sat at a table with a lesbian couple who didn't even acknowledge my presense (One was my friend that I had known forever who doesn't even say hi to me anymore :'( ). I was still panicking, and felt like I wanted to cry, and my hands were kinda shaky. I KNOW it was stupid to be worried over something as small as that. But eventually my friends found me and all was well. Aparently they had gone looking for me after I hadn't shown up after awhile (they did dit outside and had wet butts, so, suckers, am I right?). I honestly DON'T know what that was. That has happened before, but NOTHING like that. Anyways there's my problems.

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Lyone Fein 4 years ago

Sounds like you were anxious about being alone. Many people who feel like they need others to give them guidance or a sense of direction and meaning often have this anxiety.

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#82

I think I’m depressed and I don’t know why. I’m early in a good mood and I get sad for no reason or for a tiny reason a lot. I don’t want to tell my parents because they will probably just say it’s puberty. That might be it but I also have a crush on this girl (I’m a girl) and if they talk about puberty I’m worried they may ask me if I have any crushes and I’m not ready to come out to them yet. I don’t know what to do I’m having a hard time staying positive and playing video games does cheer me up but my mom always says I’m spending to much time on a screen. What do I do?

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Roadkill The Brave 4 years ago

A part of it is probably puberty, which is entirely normal, but you could also be having depression issues that aren't normal. Finding your own sexuality and being worried about coming out to them will make any of the depression issues worse. If you think they'll actually listen then sit down with them and tell them I don't want to hear just puberty as an answer, here's what's going on with me. I know you're concerned you'll get the 'its puberty's answer thats why you start off with 'i know puberty's a thing but this feels so much worse/more intense/please keep a mind open to more than hormones'. You come out when you're ready and not before, if they ask about a crush just shrug it off and say that's not the entire problem. You're Mom will always worry about screen time. It's mothering at it's finest, let them know that makes you happy but be aware you might need to make a compromise, turn to something else like crafts or reading or something else to try to keep the screen time you get

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#83

I posted lots of bored panda topics like comics, funny stuff, etc but Bored Panda hasn't published any of my blogs? Anybody knows why? ;*(

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Obi Wang Kenobi

Titas Burinskas 4 years ago

I don't know why, but write to me on my e-mail, and I'll try to figure it out.

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This dude right here? He works as a Community Manager at Bored Panda. Has no back-story, cause his spine works just fine. He writes about himself in third-person, and in first-person about others. Fell in love with storytelling and cannot let that love go. Now, he's here to help you make your own story simply beautiful. Secretly makes cute music samples and writes stories in the dark that nobody has ever heard of before.

This dude right here? He works as a Community Manager at Bored Panda. Has no back-story, cause his spine works just fine. He writes about himself in third-person, and in first-person about others. Fell in love with storytelling and cannot let that love go. Now, he's here to help you make your own story simply beautiful. Secretly makes cute music samples and writes stories in the dark that nobody has ever heard of before.

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Amelia Haluzak 4 years ago

I like helping people with their problems it makes me feel good

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BusLady 4 years ago

Good for you. It makes you a happier and better person.

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just a hamilfan 4 years ago

I'm gonna do a small problem, i ordered a stuffed pig for my Halloween costume but it's too small. (hand for scale) IMG_202010...facb6d.jpg

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just a hamilfan 4 years ago

he's still cute though and I love him

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DEKU x TODOROKI (Post author) 4 years ago

oh damn

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Bored Little Panda 4 years ago

Omg I need it, it looks like the pig from gravity falls

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BusLady 4 years ago

Hmm...well, your Chihuahua could wear it. Lol

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DEKU x TODOROKI (Post author) 4 years ago

Wait what is it supposed to be??

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Mei-Yee Dun 4 years ago

I love it. I have a question: how do you do the "Hey Panda" posts. It never works.

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DEKU x TODOROKI (Post author) 4 years ago

so what you have to do is do to the "new post" pick a picture from your downloads, select ASK PANDAS and then fill out the rest.

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Amelia Haluzak 4 years ago

I like helping people with their problems it makes me feel good

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BusLady 4 years ago

Good for you. It makes you a happier and better person.

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just a hamilfan 4 years ago

I'm gonna do a small problem, i ordered a stuffed pig for my Halloween costume but it's too small. (hand for scale) IMG_202010...facb6d.jpg

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just a hamilfan 4 years ago

he's still cute though and I love him

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DEKU x TODOROKI (Post author) 4 years ago

oh damn

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Bored Little Panda 4 years ago

Omg I need it, it looks like the pig from gravity falls

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BusLady 4 years ago

Hmm...well, your Chihuahua could wear it. Lol

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DEKU x TODOROKI (Post author) 4 years ago

Wait what is it supposed to be??

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Mei-Yee Dun 4 years ago

I love it. I have a question: how do you do the "Hey Panda" posts. It never works.

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DEKU x TODOROKI (Post author) 4 years ago

so what you have to do is do to the "new post" pick a picture from your downloads, select ASK PANDAS and then fill out the rest.

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