Run before it becomes like it did for me and he one day decides he's going to hit you. And even if it is verbal nobody deserves to have to feel like they are walking on eggshells and it's traumatizing your children.

I was a child of an alcoholic, an aggressive and violent one, and I can tell you that I'd wished over and over that my mom would have taken us and left him. He made our lives a living hell. Your first priority is the safety and well-being of your children and yourself, not worrying about him "blaming" you for leaving. He is not well, and you aren't doing yourself or your children any favors by staying.

You would be a fool to stay with a guy who chooses alcohol and to mistreat his family. Not only are you keeping all of you in an unsafe environment but also an unhealthy one. RUN DON'T WALK AWAY FROM THIS ONE! All of you deserve better than this.

Let’s deal with the highest priority issue first. You and your kids got into the car when YOU knew he was impaired. Don’t EVER do that again! Having lived with a verbally and physically abusive alcoholic, the only thing you should do in this situation is tell him you refuse to get in the car and if he drives off, you’ll call the police. I know it’s terrifying when they go on a rampage but, presumably, there were other people around at the time? Couldn’t you have asked them to intervene for your husband’s sake? Longer term, have a sober conversation explaining you and the kids can’t keep living like this; you want to separate, preferably by him leaving. If he won’t leave, engage his family to convince him for the safety of his kids. Separation doesn’t inevitably lead to divorce but make it clear getting back together is contingent on him getting the help he needs to deal with his addiction and whatever caused it. Volunteer to participate in couples therapy so you both can learn how to support him. Something has affected him in the last 2 years, you can acknowledge that, while standing firm that as much as you want to help and support him through this, it’s not reasonable to expect you or “our kids” to live with him because he’s causing mental and emotional damage to all of you. Not to mention putting his kids in physical danger by choosing to drink and drive. I’d dwell on that as the last straw. You’ve done your best to live with him, work through it, but endangering everyone’s lives is TOO MUCH. I sincerely hope he gets the help he needs and can find his way back to being the man you fell in love with.

This man needs to hit rock bottom. Maybe losing his family, his home, and probably eventually his job may get him there. But it might not. Either way, this poor woman and the kids do not need to be around it. I hope she makes the decision quickly. One more ride like that might be their last.

You will absolutely be the ahole if you stay with him and continue to subject your children to his behaviour.

My dad was a great guy sober, but every weekend it was pure hell. I remember being in bed and he was downstairs screaming how he was going to kill me. He was not physically abusive but psychologically and mentally abusive. finally when I was around 16 I stood up to him when he was verbally abusing my mom. He blamed me for back problems after that but it wasn't me. He eventually gave up drinking and tried to apologize. I sort of forgave him, but some things never go away:( Leave before it gets worse!

Get out before it escalates further. Until he acknowledges that he has a problem nothing will ever change and the situation will only get worse and worse. Maybe you leaving him and letting him know that you're not willing to put up with it any more is the wakeup call he needs.

I wish my mom never married and moved us in with her alcoholic spouse. It's not worth it. I don't care how it's thought of as some sort of "disease". Addiction, acting careless and abusive is not a disease. This is something you need to save yourself and loved ones from.

This will escalate. Take it from someone who knows.

Driving while drunk is a POS move. Driving while drunk, with your family, is an absolute POS who doesn't deserve to be with his family until he can get sober

The children - and you should have never been in the car with him driving - then or at anytime. It is easy to research the effects of alcohol and the dangers of driving while intoxicated. Firstly, he made the choice to drink - always and every time. Don't wait until someone is killed as a result of his outrageous behavior. He begins counseling immediately, and never touches alcohol again, or he loses his family. He cannot be trusted to even be alone with the children. You have to take a really hard stance on this because it is vitally important that you keep the children and yourself safe. He is not taking any responsibility whatsoever - and this is a life and death situation. He must leave the home, he must get counseling, and he must never drink again. There is no such thing as a "responsible drinker" - there is no set pattern as to what they can, may, or will do when they are in their own selfish world. NOPE and NOPE.

Allowing him to drive drunk with children in the car is child abuse.