Trevor Noah just did a whole skit on this, about the lack of intimacy in male relationships, that was hugely popular. The need and the desire is there. It's widely recognized. Sometimes you just gotta be the person who's willing to dance alone until others are brave enough to join in. Talk about it with your bros. I bet a lot of them will be receptive and appreciative. And if they give you sh!t for it, they're not friends and you shouldn't feel obligated to put up with that toxicity.

Maybe start small. Show friends and family. Maybe try getting a channel on YouTube or another site you know. (Edit: if you decide to start i will gladly subscribe to it!)

You will get there!

Maybe it's time to try again. You don't have to show anyone. Just do it for you.

I'd already got married, bought a house, worked a steady job... and then one of my friends died of cancer, very young and very unexpected. I quit my job, packed a suitcase, talked my spouse into agreeing to a long-distance relationship (temporarily), and ran off to teach English all over the world! It's not backpacking, but I'm not sure my back and hips could handle actual backpacking at my age. It's probably more fun having adventures when I'm more emotionally mature and stable.

I used to suffer awful agoraphobia In just leaving the house. I built up my tolerance a tiny amount at a time. Finally I made a trip from the UK to New Zealand on my own. I’d have absolutely never thought it possible for me. You can do this, tiny baby steps to desensitise yourself by letting the fear in. And Eventually you realise you’re okay. I understand how difficult it is though, I wish you well :).

Solo or with a group? A group would be more safe and fun, but the question of *who* might be daunting.

By the time I found a friend with the same travel interests as me I no longer had the burning desire to go to faraway places.

If you go to a local board shop or skate park, you might find people thrilled to share their passion with a beginner. And then you could probably borrow their board for a few minutes, so you wouldn't need to invest loads of money for a few minutes' lark. https://www.skateboardershq.com/how-to-skateboard-for-beginners-complete-guide/

Go for it!

Have an ally with you just in case! Good luck!

Very few things have a 100% guarantee. There is always risk. You take a risk getting up in the morning, crossing the street... or sticking your face in a fan.

Unless you have a medical condition, upper body strength and joint stability can be improved.

I want to do this so badly, but am terrified. I both crave and fear being the center of attention, so the idea of mangling a song in front of people is a nightmare.

If you want to learn, take some classes at your community college. You can break that dream into small manageable pieces and still get fulfillment out of it.

This is actually very smart on your part.

You could start taking swim lessons locally and slowly work on your confidence in the water!

Just KEEP trying to find the RIGHT therapist FOR you because I’m certain that that they’re out … I’ve been w/ my therapist for almost 2 yrs now & I’m glad I finally found her!! 🙏

Hmm i think this was posted twice

Oh honey- just remember you only have so much of yourself to give to other people. It's okay to be selfish in this situation. If you have good friends, they'll understand that you need to recharge.

Saying this can be freeing. Say yes , to saying no.

Get a series of T-shirts with an explanation on them and when people f**k it up, just point to the shirt

Normally, I'm all in favour of chasing dreams and seizing the moment, but this one... this one... Maybe you can find a simulation?

There isn't enough time to spend life in a cage! No offense, I'd love to be there for you.

If he's super nice and has good standards, then it's unlikely that he'd humiliate you or spread rumours even if he turns you down. After all, he hasn't made a big deal of those other students you're sure have already confessed to him. Is there a way you could speak to him alone for a few minutes?

I’ve been in a small aircraft three times in my life, and I highly recommend it. It’s pretty strange at first, but it’s worth it. Sitting right next to or behind the pilot is pretty comforting. You see them go down the checklists and preflight procedures, talk to the tower, etc. When it’s old hat to them it’s calming for the newbies.

You can get online now a days Calligraphy markers for pretty cheap. That might be a to practice without busting the bank and as someone also mentioned online classes as well.

It's national novel writing month (NaNoWriMo) right now! There's still time!

Fly your freak flag proudly! The world is so much more beautiful with colorful freaks in it

Are your friends being bullied, or are your friends the bullies?

Oh that’s so cool! Good for you!

see a therapist - preferably a behavioural therapist.

If you don't buy absolute s**t on the edge of the light side of the internet, I'm pretty sure you're fine

Cars are way more dangerous than planes. So I get your fear. I didn't get my license till I was 23. You might consider trying in a open area at night when there aren't other drivers around, just to get a feel for it. That how I got started. Now I drive for a living.

just go onto tinder and watch out for catfish.

I’m sorry ❤️

There are plenty of English language countries where getting a degree is much cheaper than in the US.

This makes sense, but maybe there is a place where you could try it out just in a swimming pool? I know where I am (Australia) there are many dive schools you can go to where you start out in a pool with an instructor watching your every move to make sure you don't get into trouble. This could be a good way to build up your confidence and it might help just a bit with the fear of suffocation. I hope you get the chance some day to go scuba diving, I've never done it but one of my friends says it is an absolutely amazing experience.

ikr, everybody gets attacked on here for sharing opinions. Regardless of wheather there offensive or not.

There's no such thing a normal. Everyone has their own problems, they're weird in some way, they all like different things, so don't worry about it. There's no right or wrong way to live.

Ao3 is great. And anonymous.

South Korea is actually fairly easy to navigate if you speak English. Because of the American occupation after the Korean War, many public signs are in English and many people speak English. I visited for a week in 2015 and found Seoul and other cities very welcoming to English-speaking tourists. Also there are very many friendly people in the country.

not really, try etsy.

Do it. I chose a practical path despite my heart being with performing arts because my mum used to just say “there’s no money in it.” But money does not buy happiness. And to this day I regret it and resent her for it. Any time I go to the theatre it both breaks my heart but also gives me a rush similar to when I used to perform,

I would love to do derby, too! I'm in my mid-40s & this week's been a bear with my arthritic knee, but I think I still have enough spunk to slam quite a few ladies around and love it. I would definitely be cautious with a history of head injuries, though. There's a difference between scared and smart.

no pain, it's amazing! i suggest going tandem, it's the most fun and stress free way to skydive. landing was easy!

Can't make extensions ?

A prolonged “real life experience” comes first, must come first. You can find support groups to teach you how.

yep, you dare not blaspheme the holy cows.

I lived in Merida in Mexico for 6 months not knowing any Spanish when I got there. I went with my kid who was in third grade and my gf at the time. We had a blast and had no problems at all. Everyone was super nice and that gf, now my ex, moved there permanently! For me, the trick was to pick a neighborhood with most everything you need, get established there. Get to know the shops and street sellers, and the local law enforcement ...there was a cute military girl who guarded the bank I walked by almost daily and I'd share nods and flirty/friendly grins with her. The local tienda clerk knew what I wanted from behind the counter because I had a "usual", the park and zoo employees recognized and waved to my son, and the neighbor lady who cleaned as a side gig became a friend after we hired her to clean our place weekly. We swapped recipes and share meals and my gf went shopping with her a few times to explore the city. Once we were settled, we explored more. It really helps to get comfortable in one area before branching out. Everywhere has it's dangers, but when you have a home base and know people it's easier to feel safe enough to venture out of your safe zone. It's all about establishing that safe zone first.

try do an online autism test?

Horror games as in very good quality horror games .

i suggest going tandem, it's the most fun and stress free way to skydive!

if you like your brain smashing into your skull at 200km/h go ahead.