Same, this post makes me happy in several unexplainable ways

They’re most likely in a bad mental state and use BP and being a troll to take their anger and aggression out on us; or perhaps the fact that there are infinite genders is dizzying and scary to them. I honestly feel bad for them; clinging to their old beliefs because they’re afraid of change and these “newfangled ideas.” However, I am a very empathetic, nonjudgmental person that tends to see the best in everyone and give them the benefit of the doubt. Also, this doesn’t excuse their actions.

For me, I was AFAB, grew up as a "tomboy" who believed they were a boy in the wrong body, back in the 70s/80s when it was NOT accepted/talked about; Today I would probably just be called Trans and transition. I spent the next 30 years trying to conform to society's expectations of what "womanhood" is, and now don't feel like I belong to either male or female. I'm too masculine to be "female" and too feminine to be "male" in any traditional sense. I don't feel like either. I don't identify with my body at all but the dysphoria comes and goes.

You already have. Coming out is one of the hardest things most LGBTQIA+ people do, after accepting who they are themselves. The thing is, we never stop coming out. Each new job or person we meet etc, we may have to come out all over again. She's shared with you something very hard and you've done what any decent human being would do which is show compassion and love. Showing support is a hard thing to do as it's individual to the person. For some it might be attending pride march with them, others it might be just being there to listen and talk. Best thing I cam advise is talk to your daughter and ask her if there is anything she wants support with, but just knowing you're there and are happy is most likely going to be more than enough

I do feel offended. Someone said their pronouns were "bun bun" (as in a furry) quite seriously, and that s**t drives me crazy because now nobody takes it seriously at all that some people experience a lot of gender dysphoria and yet don't want to undergo surgical or other biological changes for a variety of reasons, or may choose to be gender fluid, etc. and that is a lot more legit than a sexual preference for dressing up in animal costumes.

it’s not so much as want to change as we are who we are, but like for me when i found out being nonbinary exists it made so much sense as to what i had been feeling my entire life

Everyone is different. Most trans couples I know broke up, but some stayed together. I have a good friend who identifies as lesbian and has a hard time with knowing what terms to use around her trans-masc partner -- can she still call herself a lesbian without offending/ diminishing her partner's identity as a man? etc. It's so complicated.

Please see one of the posts above that asks where trans people and asexual should be part of the LGBTQIA+ community. Rhetoric like this truly terrifies me and is a form of gate-keeping. A community divided is a broken one. Everybody within the LGBTQIA+ community is going to have a different struggle. To say one sexuality or gender identity doesn't belong or is more worthy than another is flat-out cruel in my mind.

I come from a Christian household and am a panromantic asexual Christian myself. I've told my parents, and they are 100% supportive, they don't see it as a sin as it's not. God's love is unconditional. Humans are the ones who set the rules. If you feel comfortable telling them, sit them down and just talk. I was really lucky that my family has always been supportive, especially since so many aren't. God didn't want us to hate each other over things we can't change and it's disgusting that this still happens. If anyone's Christian and LGBTQ+ there's a website called hope remains that can help with any doubt about whether your life is sinful (it's not). God made us diverse and I am so sorry that my religion has been used to hurt so many people over the years. Best wishes for you and your family.

Some people may refer to this as a panromantic monosexual or a panromantic demisexual (demisexual is someone who experiences sexual attraction only in specific circumstances). Take time to explore and learn! You do not have to have your identity figured out it one day.

If not sure, I would just stick to “Thank you”.

For me, I didn’t exactly have a lightbulb moment that said “I’m bi”, I just always had crushes on both boys and girls. When I realised there was a word for it, I was like “ah it has a name”

I have difficulty with neopronouns. I am agender, but of the kind that really doesn't care how you refer to me. I am always very happy though when I can confused with a man and get to hear he/him pronouns, and I would be very happy with "them". But I live in a german speaking region, where most neutral pronouns don't sound natural? Not lik "them", I like "them". People I know use "them" is german as well, just germanised so that it doesn't stand out. I don't mind that, but I have difficulties with getting used to self-created pronouns - I just stumble over them and they don't sound natural. I think different genders should be natural and not worth any thought, and using pronouns that I have to consciously think about because they are out of the norm destroys that normalcy for me.

ACE here. Honestly I get neither hate nor support, but mostly apathy. I think it has to do with me being male - there's much more pressure on women to do their part in carrying on the human race or something. As an ACE male, I'm probably just another loser who won't ever get a woman and that's it. Whether I want to have a relationship or not is irrelevant.

Aroace here: I was already aromantic but then I found out a bit later that that doesn't automatically make you asexual as well, I don't love anyone romantically or sexually and never really have.

Edit: no acephobia in the comments plz, I’m genuinely trying to figure stuff out and comments like “Asexuality isn’t real you probably just haven’t met the right person yet” won’t help, and they will be reported.

As a biromantic asexual women (someone who is romantically attracted to men and women but not physically) I found myself falling more in love with people's personalities, kindness, intelligence, love of adventure, etc.. I have to admit that I would get jealous when my female friends would hang out with other girls when I was younger and got deeply depressed when they entered into sexual relationships. It took me thirty years to figure out I might be biromantic ace. I loved my first boyfriend but we broke up because he wanted to have sex and I didn't. I know that some people are attractive, but I am just not interested in sexual relationships. Asexuality is an entire spectrum and encompasses people who feel little or not physical attractions to people who may feel physical attraction in specific circumstances. It also encompasses the agender gender identity. Some asexual people like myself are sex positive whereas other people may be triggered by sex. You do not have to have it all figured out as you always have time to grow and explore! Just be awesomely you!

if you think you are then you probably are is how it’s been in my experience. i experimented with labels when i realized not everyone feels the same way, that people actually feel sexual attraction and it’s not just in movies and books or whatever.

For me I always got "bored" with people I dated very quickly until I met my ex...after about a year of dating with a lot of crazy s**t going on I moved away for university but we stayed in a weekend relationship that felt like a chore that I had to keep on doing because I'm supposed to have a boyfriend...I broke up with him several years later, took some much needed time to heal from a lot of things that went wrong and never really dated ever since...thanks to the evolving terminology I consider myself nowadays somewhere between demi- and aromantic in that regard. I also don't really have any interest in sex but some things can get me hot an bothered. But again society taught me that I should be secually interested in people so I kinda went along with it far too long! Nowadays I mostly prefer aroace as it's a lot easier for most people to understand than all the demi aspects but that's just me. Hope that helps!

When I started realising that I found allos to be very weird and that they actually feel sexuallt attracted to someone and that they’re exaggerating

I knew I was asexual in my teens; I just wasn't interested in anyone, and I didn't understand why everyone seemed so obsessed with sex. Unfortunately, society writ large gaslit me into believing that I was too young to know what I wanted, and/or just hadn't met the right man :/ Years later I realized I'd been right all along.

I only JUST realized I was aceflux. It was through reading stories with ace characters and realizing asexuality is a wide and varying spectrum and there are a myriad of ways to exist on it. Once I realized I related to some things the characters felt or did, I did some research into different ace identities and found that ace flux fit me really well and a lot of things started making sense.

A big thing for me is not understanding how people can be attracted to celebrities. I'm also completely weirded out by the fact that there are total strangers who can want to have sex with you (reasons I could never be famous). Also, I just...don't care about sex.

for me it was because imagining having sex, seeing someone naked, or even just being naked with someone makes me uncomfortable

Took a bit, but figured it out in highschool/university. The thing is I just.... Didn't want the sexy stuff with my then boyfriend. I didn't understand why and then I found some posts on Tumblr(because that was when it was still big) and started to research and well hello there. That explained a lot. I encourage you to explore and learn what you can. Everyone is asexy in their own way and that's perfectly cool. Specifically I am demiromantic/Gray-Ace. I personally explain it as wtf sexual because occasionally (and this is rare as hell) some form of sexual attraction appears and is like surprise m**o and I am like um excuse me. It's never enough to act on and it's so weird and random that it's usually just annoyingly confusing.

Tbh I just think sex sounds like something I really don't want to do and I have no interest in someone's gentiles touching mine, and then I found out you could be ace so I was

I think I might be asexual and I think that cuz I never thought that I wanted to do the nasty with people I’m attracted to. When I have a crush, it’s more “let’s go on picnics and draw flowers on eachother’s arm and link arms walking through town going out for ice cream.” I also never looked up b00bs on my device lol.

my friend mentioned it and I did some research, if you're questioning it then I recommend looking into ace-spec microlabels

I went to a sexologist, aged 25 after still no sexual feeling at all. Basic analysis is: 1) You're older than 18 2) You are not in a situation where sex grosses you out / scares you because of a past trauma / difficult relationship 3) You never masturbate, nor wish to 4) You never have a feeling / wish to get naked with someone (even in your head) 5) You don't have any fantasies 6) You never think about sex,. You almost forget that exist, even when in a relationship 7) You see it as a practical thing, like to have children

I feel like they wouldn't completely, but they would lose romantic interest in them.

I think it would be typically defined as friendship that tends to go much deeper than what is considered normal, although it differs for different people.

Pan is someone who is attracted to any gender without a preference and Omni is someone who is attracted to all genders but has a preference. But you can loosely identify with one of them like I loosely identify as pansexual because I do think that I have a Preference for the gender I like. However I do choose to identify as Pan

I don't have the answer as I'm cis gender, however I would avoid using the word symptoms as it comes across as it being an illness and could be offensive. I know you didn't mean it that way and this isn't an attack, just a friendly suggestion to show being more of an ally or understanding person.

i live in ireland, it is actually fine here, there is a few homophobes, and a few idiots in my class use the word as an insult, my friend used it as an insult but stopped when i came out to him. the only place i feel a lot of homophobia is on the internet namely anonomous platforms such as reddit and youtube. i have tried to stop using social media because of that.

That means that they're probably more fem-oriented in terms of gender, but they still identify as lesbian. If they were neutral oriented in terms of gender, that'd be trixic

I *think* you found my neopronouns confusing, and that's absolutely fine! So basically, neopronouns are like nonbinary pronouns but for ppl who don't feel like they want to use the they/them pronouns or traditional ones. You can make up whatever ones you want. I get a lot of ppl getting confused about this but it's absolutely fine bcs not many ppl have heard about neopronouns, glad I could answer your question :):):):)

I like she/they/him because it makes me feel seen. You're acknowledging my otherness. Just she/her (and for awhile he/him) keeps me trapped and choking. As soon as I asked for people to use a variety of pronouns for me, I felt very safe and comfortable. If you are my friend and unwilling to do this for me, I question your intentions toward my well-being.

You can be pan (or bi or omni) and still have a preference! I'm more attracted to fem people than masc people but I'm still bi

ace/bi here, i prefer men, but sometimes am romantically attracted to feminine men and enbies. also, women are kewl, I just don't feel romantically attracted to them as often as men.

I use a shirt as an example when explaining it. Sometimes I wake up, and everything feels right, like that comfortable, worn shirt that you have to wear around for work around the house because it's too worn and loved to wear in public. Other times I wake up and it all is just... wrong. Like that silly shirt that is too tight, and doesn't fit right and you just shove it away in the closet where you don't have to look at it again. Thats how I feel and how I decide which way to introduce myself if the situation arises. Does She feel comfortable and right, or does He? If I introduce myself as She, am I going to inwardly recoil because it feels wrong?

Use whatever term you feel best describes you, but this reminded me of the term "gender apathetic" (there are a few other words for it iirc) which describes someone who feels neutral towards their gender and how it is perceived

I include it, but I see the community as encompassing identities that not automatically assumed upon first impression. You don't need to come out as straight, or cisgendered, because they're automatically assumed. I've seen it explained better than what i was able to explain, apologies if it doesn’t make much sense

That is ok and normal. You might be abrosexual, which means that your sexuality can change over time. some days you might feel certain attraction to other people, some days none, some days to all, and so on. this sexuality is very common and i hope this helps. you also may be asexual, which means you don’t feel sexual attraction. :)

I just don’t understand them. Like, you can like certain animals, aesthetics, or other stuff, but when does that become part of your gender and not just personality? Like, if I’m a dog person and I love dogs, am I like doggender or something? Or, if I’m really into entomology, am I buggender? I feel like xenogenders are the product of gender being a social construct and not really being real, and so technically people can make up whatever genders they want and now there’s infinite genders. Of course I will always call people by their preferred pronouns, even if I don’t understand them, but it all just seems unnecessarily complicated to me.

Well, if you want to be perceived as non-binary, then it would be non-binary. You can have pronouns that don’t necessarily correspond with your gender (stereotypically).

Bisexual is like you’re attracted to 2 or more genders but you have a sort of preference like for example you prefer women over men but you’re still attracted to both. Pansexual is like you don’t care what gender someone is, you still want to date them. I saw a comic somewhere where a pan person hit on who they thought was a woman but he turned around and said he was a femboy to stop the advances and the pan character said “does it really matter?”

It is entirely possible to be straight and still part of the spectrum, as it includes gender identities and also intersex.

I was in my late 20s before I realised I was enby. When I look back now... well, I was a tomboy. Age 2, I was playing more with boys than girls. My mother has always told me I wasn't ladylike enough. And all of these things can also happen to cis women, so it really isn't a slam dunk situation. For me, it just feels like if you get a huge group and sort them into men/women, then I don't fit in either group. I should also note three things: 1) my best friend knew I was nonbinary before I did (she's trans); 2) I was friends with a trans guy who called me his 'little egg child' (i.e. he figured I was in the process of becoming trans); 3) in my all-girls high school I was voted most likely to have a sex change. So basically it's possible other people know even if you don't.

"[god] sent the gays to fix overpopulation, boy did that go well" -bo burnham

No, weezy, it's really not. It seems like you're the one who needs to wake up at some point. You clearly haven't learned that there are people like me who exist and existed before my time and will exist long after I am gone. Take time to learn and think about what you are going to comment before you do it. LEARN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE!

Yes, I was fully outed before I wanted to be because the person I confided in betrayed my trust.

so bi is like latin or greek or sth, idk but bi means two, just like bicycle, cuz it has two wheels, so bisexual means u like both men and women, two genders, pan on the other hand, is some other language and it means all, so pansexual means u like all genders, typically because gender isn't something that matters to u!

Personally, I don't really know. I like watching and being around people of my gender. When I do, they have aestheticly pleasing looks and are really cute.

This ended up being a repeat of the one above I put. It has the same wording.