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I was talking with my friend yesterday and whenever I speak to someone close to me I don't mask my voice around them, so my voice sounds a little tired/boring when talking to them.

A teacher came over and asked us to do something, so I put on my 'masking' voice and told him alright. My friend told me to "not do the masking voice around them since it makes them uncomfortable." I explained that I had to because if I didn't everyone would assume something was wrong or I was using attitude. They told me that wasn't an excuse, and then said that 'maybe I should just not talk at all.'

That honestly really hurt my feelings and they told me it was a joke and I was overreacting. AITA for being offended?

#1

Be offended. That’s damn stupid, I kind of have a resting “ I don’t want to be here” face. Also when im at school im an introvert and don’t talk much, when I do it’s kind of like yours? Not really tho. But yes be offended, you’re trying to make sure others aren’t offended by masking it. So you’re fine. Your friend shouldn’t decide what you do, if it makes them uncomfortable well then that’d their problem. NTA.

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#2

I think there is nothing wrong being hurt or angry in this situation. They should understand your reason. But you know your friends better. If they understand your reason then it would be better to move on. Talk to them again about it. Based on their response you can decide what to do...

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#3

NTA. In the grand scheme of things, it's not a huge deal, but I can understand why you would get offended. Maybe they didn't have malevolent intentions, but it does sound a bit snotty.

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