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Mine is, I say, “oh I’m gay so they aren’t attractive ” so they say “Well I'm not, so don’t go crushing on me”.
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#1
I see a lot of people say asexuality isn't real and I've been told I just haven't found the right person yet. Like, that's not how it works. Finding the "right person" won't make me any less sexually attracted to people or any less sex-repulsed.
Final score:
12points
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#2
when someone lies about their sexuality, gender, or pronouns for clout. you can’t say you’re bi if you are actually straight
Final score:
9points
Saturn Rings 2 years ago
True but a bisexual male can date a woman and still be bi. It’s if their really faking it when it’s bad.
#3
People "identifying" as something and making it their entire personality
Final score:
7points
#4
All the gatekeeping and infighting. Labels mean slightly different things to different people.
Some people are pan because it's inclusive of nonbinary people, but that doesn't mean all bi people think there's only 2 genders.
You can be ace and sëx repulsed, or you can be fine with it or even enjoy it but not experience that kind of attraction. You can be someone who enjoys sëx and doesn't feel attraction but not identify as ace because it doesn't feel right for you.
You can be trans with different levels of physical and social dysphoria.
You can be whatever feels right.
Some of this community needs to understand that people using nounself pronouns aren't the reason we're oppressed, bigoted cishet people are.
Final score:
7points
#5
ItS jUsT a PhAsE.
I also hate it when people say the wrong pronouns right to my face.
Final score:
7points
#6
Probably when people lable themselves. I'm still questioning and I don't think I'll figure out who I'm attracted to for a while. It's not a one day you wake up and you decide you're bi. It's a process and a lot of people don't get that
Final score:
5points
urbibestie 2 years ago
for real. it took me months to figure it out and im still not completely sure
#7
People (mostly men) assuming that bisexual is synonymous with promiscuous. Just because I do not base my sexual attraction on a specific gender does NOT mean that I will have sex with any and everybody nor does it make me incapable of fidelity. I'm in a committed relationship and so many people assume that since I am bisexual, I'm going to just have sex with them.
Final score:
5points
Fell Ripley(she, they, potato) 2 years ago
This a really annoying misconception. By the logic that pan=likes everyone, then straight=only likes one person ever
#8
When your parents think that you being trans is just a phase, and assuming that you’re gender-fluid, I’m just going to wait to see what the look on my mom’s face when my report card says my new name, and I don’t care what she has to say about that, because I changed, and I’m not changing back to my old self.
Final score:
5points
BeepBeepBoopBoop 2 years ago
congrats on getting your new name on your report card! I'm not trans, just a cis female over here, but I'm pretty sure at my school the parents have to like sign off on the change? it's weird
#9
I hate the idea that straight/cis folk can’t be a pride festivals. You can be Straight and Trans, Straight and Ace/Aro, Straight and Poly… same with Cis. I understand the idea that ally’s don’t have two much place at pride (I myself feel that they are completely welcome) but the LGBTQAI+ community should know better then anyone that identity is a complicated matter
Final score:
5points
StrangePenguin 1 year ago
Yes it’s annoying when fellow lgbtq+ people basically gatekeep pride , like, do you want people to support us or not? plus pride is fun :p
#10
Lesbian does not mean woman attracted to women, it’s close but not exactly. A lesbian means a non man attracted to non men. So for example a non-binary person can be a lesbian. A woman can be a lesbian of course, yet she has to be attracted to non men, not exclusively women. This goes the same with gay men too.
Non-binary people can use binary pronouns. Non-binary also does not mean gender less. It means to not fit into the gender binary. Agender means to not have a gender.
Final score:
4points
#11
I am bisexual and I am often told that bisexuxal people cannot be faithful to a partner because they will always be attracted to other men and women. As if heterosexual and homosexual people aren't often attracted to someone else. I also hate being asked why I don't just choose to be gay or straight and that I should just make up my mind and that dating a woman does not mean I have become straight or dating a guy does not mean that I am now gay.
Final score:
4points
#12
The “what are you” question always gets me. I’m not an animal, nor am I an unidentified species related to crocodiles. I’m a f****** abrosexual human and honestly don’t know “what” I am in terms of gender or sex. So like, back the h*** off.
Final score:
3points
BeepBeepBoopBoop 2 years ago
hey this is coming from someone with a lot of trans and non binary friends, I sometimes ask that question out of habit and I don't mean anything mean by it. I'll normally fix it. I've had people get offended by me asking their pronouns, so I try to find a better way to say it without being rude. If you could tell me some better ways to ask that'd be amazing!
#13
When people act like LGBTQ people make it their whole personality that they are gay. Mayyybbeeee if you think that is somebody's entire personality, you don't know them well enough! Also, people don't tell straight people that being straight is their entire personality. Idk. correct me if I'm wrong. would love to hear some opinions on this.
Final score:
3points
bElLa sTairZz 2 years ago
alot of the time if somebody seems to talk about being queer constantly during school. its because they cant at home, or because their used to people only seeing them as that and refusing to look past it, causing them to belive that its the post prominent thing about them.
#14
I'm gender fluid, and what really ticks me off is when people will say, "It's fine if a woman feels masculine and wants to dress masculine, I just don't agree with changing your pronouns. You'll always be a girl."
Like, b*tch, I already know that I will always have boobs, but that doesn't mean that I can't identify as a guy.
Also, "not agreeing" with changing pronouns is transphobic, it annoys me so much when people say they aren't transphobic and then use the "I just don't agree with it" card.
Final score:
3points
#15
8th gradeers saying they're poly. B***H YOU'RE LIKE 8 WAIT TILL AFTER HIGHSCHOOL FOR THAT S**T. I mean if you know fine by me WHNE YOU'RE OLDER. If you're in highschool or younger, you're either doing it to DO it and not get in trouble, or your weird no offense but this is just in highschool I'm talking about so please don't take offense if you are an adult polyamorus person.
Final score:
0points
bElLa sTairZz 2 years ago
i dont fully understand how being a highschooler makes them invalid? people can know that their monogamous by 17 so why not poly?
Jo (she/they) (Submission author) 2 years ago
You're right. I shouldn't judge everyone for a experience I had with a singular person.
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That queer kid 1 year ago
Um what? I have a friend in like 7th grade who was poly, they were super shy and def not having sex so... Why can't people just have identities and not have other people judge or police that?
That midget Jo (Submission author) 1 year ago (edited)
Your right but I honestly think that 7th grade is to young to know for things like that (multiple partners and stuff).I'm just shearing my opinion. if your friend knows good for them but it's just odd for me and I have nothing against any one who identifies as polyamorus
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Morgan️ 2 years ago
I’m in 8th grade and people do that sh*t all the time. I say it’s just an excuse to cheat. Don’t hate me I’m just sharing an opinion
Jo (she/they) (Submission author) 2 years ago
I'm with you on this. That's what they did to me
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ppl who headcanon thereself as lesbian
Final score:
0points
#17
I'm gender fluid, and what really ticks me off is when people will say, "It's fine if a woman feels masculine and wants to dress masculine, I just don't agree with changing your pronouns. You'll always be a girl."
Like, b*tch, I already know that I will always have boobs, but that doesn't mean that I can't identify as a guy.
Also, "not agreeing" with changing pronouns is transphobic, it annoys me so much when people say they aren't transphobic and then use the "I just don't agree with it" card.
Final score:
0points
#18
Not really a pet peeve of mine but sometimes I think about making a 3D chart for sexual orientations and making the x,y, and z planes different orientations. Instead of labels there would be your “co-ordinates”. In practice it might not be the best, but in principle it sound pretty cool
Final score:
0points
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Mantis_Shrimp🦐_123 1 year ago
Idk this may be weird, but I don't like when I say I'm pan and then people are like, "what's that? Do u mean ur bisexual?" No I am not bi I am PAN pls say the right thing
Stardust she/her 2 years ago
My pet peeve is when people gatekeep others and deny several identities such as asexual, aromantic etc.
Hyde and Seek 2 years ago
My pet peeve is people taking their animals to pride. Like no don't do that ,this leads to them getting stressed.
3 pandas in a trench coat 1 year ago
Dont get me wrong, I love joking with some of my close friends abt lgbtq stuff from time to time. BUT, when it is all jokes and following the whole “slay queen girypop lgbt person” stereotype for laughs all the dang time just kinda makes me uncomfortable. Not because i think those people are weirdos or anything, just a bit annoying.
Mantis_Shrimp🦐_123 1 year ago
Idk this may be weird, but I don't like when I say I'm pan and then people are like, "what's that? Do u mean ur bisexual?" No I am not bi I am PAN pls say the right thing
Stardust she/her 2 years ago
My pet peeve is when people gatekeep others and deny several identities such as asexual, aromantic etc.
Hyde and Seek 2 years ago
My pet peeve is people taking their animals to pride. Like no don't do that ,this leads to them getting stressed.
3 pandas in a trench coat 1 year ago
Dont get me wrong, I love joking with some of my close friends abt lgbtq stuff from time to time. BUT, when it is all jokes and following the whole “slay queen girypop lgbt person” stereotype for laughs all the dang time just kinda makes me uncomfortable. Not because i think those people are weirdos or anything, just a bit annoying.
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