Don't assume people's gender or sexuality.
If you don't know someone's pronouns, use they/them until you do. Ask if they have a partner instead of boyfriend or girlfriend. Say folks instead of ladies and gentlemen, and other stuff like that. Assuming stuff about people can be harmful, painful, and even just plain annoying.

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Personally, I'd say don't make a big deal out of everything. If someone mentions their spouse/gf/bf, why would it matter to you if the person is of the opposing gender or not. Don't make things awkward by going, "omg, you're gay, that's cool! Totally support!!" After all, whom I live with, in my own home, doesn't affect you in the least. If I'm sad about having broken up, it doesn't affect you if the person I lost was male or female.

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Bored Retsuko

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Hmm. I would just support them wholeheartedly. When getting hassled or verbally assaulted, stand by their side, even if the hassler is someone you know and love.

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AsexualShrimp

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Don't stay quiet; being an ally doesn't just consist of respecting people's pronouns and their sexuality. Speak up against verbal or physical violence towards the LGBTQ+ community if you actually care. Even if it's not directed at you. Like how white people would stand up against racism for example. Or people who haven't been abused stand up against abuse. It's basic human empathy. If you were down in the dumps, you'd want someone to help you up. Don't sit back and stay neutral, and befriend bigots and the next day be nice to your gay friends. That's not how it works. You can't play both sides, and you can't sit on the sidelines.

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I don't like avocado

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A grumpy perspective from an older gay guy. Those who prefer alternative pronouns are generally a little easier to identify as they don’t tend to conform with stereotypes, which is fine. “Gender bending” as it was referred to years ago, for better or worse. I get it - you don’t fit societal norms. So the proper thing to do is ask politely and respect their choice.

But for many, this new generation of asking about pronouns is a ludicrous irritant. The notion that there are 50+ genders out there is just beyond farce. Utter drivel. From a medical perspective, it can be downright irresponsible. I don’t care what you “wanna be”. But if you were born with ovaries or testicles, better damn well let me know ahead of a medical intervention, lest we accidentally cause harm. And as for your sexual preferences, totally your own business.

And straight colleagues who have to have their pronouns in an email signature drives me insane. It’s like people with different pronouns are suddenly in the vast majority. No… you have boobs or use a urinal. Sometimes even both. I’m gonna put my neck on the line and take a wild guess. 99/100 times, I’ll be on the money.

We are putting waaay too much emphasis upon this. It’s now creating a divide by categorising people like species. Best compliment for an LGBTQ+ person is not to give a damn, because it’s no more interesting than the colour of their eyes. Treat others as you wish to be treated and if you make an error, they’ll correct you, so just apologise and move on.

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Uncommon Sense

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Don't speak over the voices of queer people and tell us what is or isn't valid, and make sure you listen to us on what we want, not just what you think we want. Also, you're an ally, not an actual member of the community, so you can attend pride events and protests, but just remember that it isn't for you.

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basil (as in razzle dazzle)

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as a family with homosexual males and females, bisexuals and transgender, this question makes no sense. here's an approach 'Hello'. now if you're talking about approaching to discuss our ask questions about their sexuality, just ask. if they don't want to answer, they won't.

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Cynthia Black

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be friendly, dont question who they are, be open to talk abt their life style, dont introducee us as your "queer friend", and just be kind :)

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yang jungwon stan <3

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Inform yourself on different sexualities/pronouns/flags read news about things that are happening, and don’t be weird about somebody in the LGBTQIAA+ community. Ex. “Wait you’re pan? I totally support and love that!! But, um can you not change in the girls locker rooms - it’s weird.”

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lib

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If someone trusts you and comes out to you, especially if you are a parent and that person is your kid, never say “Well it might be a phase” or s**t related to that. It makes the relationship between you and them awkward, they won’t trust you anymore. NEVER pass it off as a phase or way of getting attention, unless they come out as dream-gender or something. Also never pressure someone to come out to others if you know their sexuality or gender identity.

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Mysteria

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Always ask for gender and name and stuff like that. And if you don't know, use They/Them. And if you don't understand their sexuality or gender/pronouns, just ask!

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That midget Jo :)

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Learn to recognize who's really part of the community and who isn't. You'll have pedos trying to get in on it, super straights, terfs, predators, ect. Then there's people who don't use real neopronouns and make up something absolutely ridiculous and pretend as if it's perfectly reasonable. I'm not talking about xe/xem or anything else like that. I'm talking about daddy/daddyself. Tiddy/tiddyself, frog/frogself, deku/dekuself. The list goes on. And they even expect children to use those pronouns too. Those people are looking for attention, or want to be included in a community they're not part of because they need to feel like they're oppressed, we've all met those kinds of people. Similar to people who make up bs about transitioning to a new race. They're also looking for attention, and are only harming the community. Don't support the wrong people, and don't confuse those people for real members of the LGBTQIA+. This may seem harsh, but it needs to be said.

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I don't like avocado

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Just be a good friend, don't ask for a gbf as that's gross. Maybe ask for pronouns if you are unsure but make sure to be respectful most of all.

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Has sold soul for corn chip

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Don’t assume pronouns. Use they/them until you know how to address them. Don’t expect us to worship you for doing the bare minimum, advocate for our rights.

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Happi doggi (all pronouns)

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I think one of the biggest things is first impressions when trying to figure out if someone is supportive. Try wearing a pronoun pin, a pride pin, a rainbow backpack, ect.

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Alexis (he/she/they)

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