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Helicopter Mom Is Determined To Find Her Son A Wife, The Internet Thinks She Needs A Reality Check
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Unless you are dead set on an arranged marriage, having your mom help your dating life is basically a worst-case scenario. However, ever-present, helicopter moms generally do not really understand that hovering around their kids at all times is unhealthy, counterproductive, and pretty embarrassing, particularly when the kids are already adults.
So imagine opening your Facebook feed one day to see that your mom made a rather unhinged post attempting to solicit a date for you. This is what netizens saw one day when a mom made a long and somewhat absurd list of things her 26-year-old son presumably wanted in a partner.
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Overprotective parents are a headache for all involved
The origin of the phrase “helicopter parent” is not even that far from the first usage of helicopters. The 1969 book “Between Parent & Teenager,” by Dr. Haim Ginott, contains the phrase “Mother hovers over me like a helicopter…” which is said by a long-suffering teen. First and foremost, props to the teen for so quickly developing a new metaphor using, at the time, cutting-edge technology. This teen was absolutely ahead of their time, as it would be a full decade later when the term became more commonplace, mostly with educational specialists who had to deal with parents that were a bit too involved in every facet of their child’s life. This behavior could be found both with younger children and even college students. Some summer camp organizers have also reported a barrage of messages and calls from parents who could not relax.
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Of course, in most cases, this term had a pretty pejorative meaning, both annoying and embarrassing to the children and exhausting to deal with for educators. The mother in this post calling herself one without a hint of irony is a burning, bright red flag for anyone potentially involved. Even if a woman (although that is just the son’s preference) was interested in this offer, it would mean dealing with an aggressively involved mother, a herculean task for anyone.
Helicoptering, if we were to convert this adjective-from-a-noun into a verb, normally represents an overprotective behavior from a parent. Now, being protective is by no means bad, children can and should not be expected to protect themselves at all times, we do not live in a “state of nature,” but the emphasis here is on the prefix “over.” Similar to our immune systems, children need some room to fight their own battles and learn from them. The mother in this post calls her adult son “all the kid one woman can handle,” when realistically this man needs to stand on his own two feet. While adults do need to take responsibility for their own actions and, by extension, who they are, the mother may be to blame for him still being a “kid.”
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Helicopter parents tend to leave lasting, negative impacts on their kids
The long-term consequences of helicopter parenting are hard to study at scale, as there are so many things that can influence how an adult or young adult develops. Just the degree of “helicoptering” might vary from person to person, and certain young people will react differently. Some studies indicate that helicopter parents are often the cause of teenage rebellion, which is a pretty natural behavior at that age. However, “helicoptering” is often so much “worse” than normal parental controls, that the teenage rebellion stage lasts into young adulthood. While there are few things more insufferable than a twenty-five-year-old who defines themselves by anti-social behavior and “rebellion,” we might have to place the blame squarely on the parents. On the flip side, it can lead to adult-children who, well into their twenties and thirties, are incapable of independent decisions and “real life.”
Other research suggests that since helicopter parents really make all the calls, their children (or victims) struggle with leadership, self-confidence, and basic decision-making. After all, why even try when your parents will criticize, control, and coral you into doing exactly what they want? As previously stated, the two main reactions are just compliance and rebellion. Counterproductive to this mom’s wishes, most people do not actually find man-children attractive, so it does not help that she explicitly calls her son a kid. While it’s possible to agree to disagree on the values posited here, regarding the partner’s position in the relationship, she is the main barrier to his success. There no doubt are women and even men out there who would be ok with the sort of relationship she seems to be looking for, but these people, hypothetically, are interested in dating her son, not her. Based on her own description, where her son goes, she will be hovering nearby, which sounds like a date from hell, let alone a marriage.
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Weasel Wise 1 year ago (edited)
The desired details this woman posts for her future DIL are ridiculous. She might as well say, "I've raised my son to be completely inept and to believe that a woman is his property and they are here to be a second mother to you. They should cook and clean for you and also enjoy your hobbies."? Aaaaand whyy does this mom knows her son's sexual attraction to butts? I got the creepy crawlies as soon as I read that.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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You seem to have read this post through a feminist lense. I do not approve of what this mother did, but the majority of western civilization still wants a traditional marriage. You sound like a feminist, which you are absolutely free to be, but feminists are still a minority. I fully agree that the mom knowing about her son's sexual attraction to butts is really strange. What does this mother son combo talk about?? And is it an appropriate conversation to have between mother and son?? Before you down vote me, please note that I have said NOTHING negative about feminists.
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Jennifer Smith 1 year ago
Joe it sounds like you don't know what a feminist is. A true feminist simply believes all woman should live their life as they want to. Feminists live all lifestyles including "traditional marriage". Thats why men can be feminists too, because good men believe all woman can do anything she chooses to do. To not be a feminist is to say women shouldn't get to choose their own lives. Are you saying woman shouldn't get to choose their own lives?
ChimeraBubbles 1 year ago
Joe seems to believe that "feminists are...a minority" so, no, he doesn't know what a feminist is.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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Really? You really believe feminists are a MAJORITY?? Only on social media. You should check out reality, it really grounds you. By the way, the reaction to my comment was SO INCREDIBLY PREDICTABLE.
Lost Penny 1 year ago
Joe needs to get in touch with Patty. They are like peas in a republican pod, pure perfection.
Dawn Lambert 1 year ago
No Republicans in Canada?!? Bwahahaha get your head out of the sand! Quickest way to do that is to work in customer service.
Lost Penny 1 year ago
My dear Joe, you don't have to be American in order to be a Republican. A Republican isn't always an affiliation, sometimes it's a state of mind.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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You are as sharp as a marble Dawn. Canada is NOT a republic, hence NO Republicans, we have conservatives, but I don't expect any American to understand ANYTHING outside their own joke of a border. Especially not young inexperienced children like you.
Samantha Jarman 1 year ago
Yes, Canada is a constitutional monarchy not a republic. No, that does not mean every Canadian believes this is the best political arrangement. It is possible to believe that a republic is a preferable arrangement - ie to be a republican- while not actually living in one.
zovjraar me 1 year ago
i busted out laughing at "feminists are still a minority". oh my, i don't think Joe knows many ladies.
Joe 1 year ago
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Jennifer Smith, you should be explaining your definition to all the militant, man bashing feminists out there. They are definitely NOT what you have described here, maybe they didn't get the memo.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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So damned predictable, liberals getting bent out of shape over facts. Apparently Weasel Wise is definitely NOT a feminist. I get this understanding from all the ridiculous replies to my comment. I can only hope you will all grow up someday and learn that freedom of opinion is a very healthy thing, but for now you all just want to hate anyone who doesn't see life the EXACT same way you all do.
Joe 1 year ago
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I am going to assume that not one of the replies under my comment is from someone older than 25 years old. News flash children, idealism doesn't work.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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...and so smart. Good for you. My precious Samantha Jarman, these people have NEVER heard the phrase "to each their own". So without offense these comments put me on the defense, but they can't see how toxic that is. I never once claimed that women should be in the kitchen, bare foot and pregnant, but BOY HOWDY they all took it that way. Are you proud of joining these closed minded children?? Sounds like it...You do You. I am open to an explanation of what offended everyone other than stating an opinion (God forbid), but isn't that all comments are...opinion? Apparently I'm not allowed to opine without being shıt on by a bunch of young idealists with VERY LITTLE life experience. And they down vote truth. (Correction, there is 1 person over 25 here 🤣)
Lost Penny 1 year ago
Joe, not only did some people hear the phrase "to each their own," but they are also aware of the fact that exact phrase was inscribed on the front gate of Buchenwald Concentration Camp. Without offense.
Joe 1 year ago
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Lost Penny, by your logic "to each their own" holds absolutely no meaning because a propaganda machine put it on the gates of a concentration camp about 85 or 90 years ago. Hmmm...NO DICE.
Joe 1 year ago
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If this feminization of men continues unabated, you will all end up hating the feminine monsters you have created. At that point you won't be able to blame men for all your imaginary oppression.
intermezzono1 1 year ago
to be fair, if you get downvoted, reported or banned for stating your opinion that is completely valid and doesnt hurt anyone else, i'd get emotional as well. but if you have facsist tendencies, you need to silence everyone who thinks just a bit different. its sad.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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Good observation, I am the ONLY one being emotional. You quite obviously only see what you want to see. I will take your bait and return the serve by stating that your ignorance AND arrogance is showing, and even a bit of your inability for original thought...love ya!
Joe 1 year ago
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Isn't this fun? I wanna see how many liberal cry babies will down vote me. We will see if I get banned from the site, which is the only recourse these SJWs have here. Good times.
Bohemiangirl 1 year ago
Joe, I was on your side about the down voting until you started going on about "liberal cry-babies" and "SJWs" and you lost me.
Bohemiangirl 1 year ago
I don't think I would qualify as either of those things, but your use of those terms says a lot about your actual intentions.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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So you are unaware of the demographic that frequents this site? Nobody was on my side here except maybe intermezzono1, you all decided that I was being negative about feminism, and they feed me an idealistic and unrealistic definition of how feminists actually act. I am sad that this generation cannot get past "group think" hence all the down votes.
intermezzono1 1 year ago
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sorry Joe, you should know by now that the libs here are silencing other opinions, no matter how friendly and constructive you put it. sadly, you wont get anywhere with them, as they are the most ignorant people. Look at the comment you posted, completely fine and any person would allow your opinion to simply exist. but they need to silence everyone else.
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago
It‘s not an opinion if you are spreading lies though. He has not been downvoted for his „opinion“, but because his view on feminism is false and for his attitude. He completely missed what feminism is and his subsequent comments dug his hole even deeper.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
Nitka Tsar please list the lies and their supposed truth, maybe I will learn something. Everyone here is too into down vote and run, absolutely ZERO explanation as to why they down vote, other than unrealistic ideals. I repeat IDEALISM DOES NOT WORK. It is only the young and gullible that think there is a possible IDEAL society.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
The conclusion to all this down vote madness is that the people who frequent this site DO NOT BELIEVE IN FREE SPEECH, which will only result in their own speech being censored. Be careful children. Your fight for idealism will only bite you in the a*s. Perhaps you are all too young to realize this (because to realize this takes more than 25 years of experience on this planet)
Joakim Engvik 1 year ago
What a mess this comment thread turned into. Let me chip in my penny here. You seem to have dug yourself a little hole unintentionally about this feminism thing, and you are right... Nobody is clarifying why or how. It seems you associate feminists with those extremist feminists you see all over social media. They are a minority, that much you got right. But looking at feminism as it technically is, a belief that women are worth as much as men and deserve to be free to choose their path in life (take Islam for contrast). This is something the vast majority believes is right in the western world.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
I appreciate your feed back. The explanation of wanting women to be whatever they want to be should go without a feminism label, that should be the norm. I believe in equality of opportunity for all, that belief should not be labeled feminism. The MAJORITY these people THINK is feminism, is actually just "live and let live". I don't mind an honest debate, but this is neither a debate nor honest, it's just "UNITE TO DESTROY THIS DIFFERING OPINION" (a.k.a. fascism)
Joseph Matthews 1 year ago
Again no, Feminism is men and women being treated as equals the fact you think it is anything else means someone has brainwashed you so hard you don't even know what words mean any more and have been engaging with strawmen instead of actual feminists. Ask any ACTUAL feminist and they will tell you the same thing - it is about equality of the sexes. Having worked with real feminists and being one I can tell you we work just as hard getting paternity paid leave as we do maternity paid leave etc. The real question is whether or not you are going to absorb this information and grow as a human or make all of less than humans and declaring us a 'woke mob' or some other dehumanizing term to protect your fragile ego. And that's despite the fact we took the time out of our day to engage your broken views and actively try to help you. I'd also wager I'm older than you.
Joseph Matthews 1 year ago
'Unite to destroy this differing opinion' is called freedom of speech. I swear youre intentionally engaging in 1984 doublespeak. If you gave an opinion and no one was allowed to criticize that opinion - THAT would be a form of repression though certainly not 'fascism' you need to learn what words like that actually mean before you go around calling everyone 'liTeRaLLy funny mustache man!'
Joseph Matthews 1 year ago
You're getting down voted because you're being ridiculous not because of 'this generations group think' I guarantee the people downvoting you agree on very few things except that you're being absurd. The fact you think feminism is anything except "men and women being treated as equals" means you've been fed a load of propaganda and swallowed it whole. You took that propaganda out into the real world and got a dose of reality and instead of accepting that are deflecting your own biases. Stop making us Joes look bad. It's embarrassing and stop brainwashing yourself against the false 'wOkE AgEnDA!'
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
At this point I could say "the sky is blue" and you would all down vote me. I can see ABSOLUTELY NO discernable difference between the people replying under my comment and the LGBT lobby, Climate Change lobby, racism lobby, and any other group that has drank the Kool-aid. It's very obvious that none of you see this, but you have all given up your individuality for "group think". Could someone kindly explain how women are oppressed in western society today? Please tell me what it is women cannot do that man can do, besides writing their name in the snow. Bash me all you want, but these are honest questions that I would like an honest answer to. Though you all believe otherwise, I have no problem with women doing ANYTHING they want to do, and I have never said otherwise within this thread.
LavenderHippoInAJar 1 year ago
Honest question -- what do you mean by "drank the Kool-aid"? Not trying to be rude; I just don't understand what that term means.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
"Drank the Kool-aid" is basically a reference to Jim Jones who convinced about 900 people to drink poison kool-aid that killed them all, but in this context I am referring more to being easily convinced of whatever people tell you. Honest question -- How did you get a hippo into a jar...a lavender hippo no less? Very impressive
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago
In the US in some states woman cannot decide what they do with their own body. If they get violated some people will ask them what they were wearing that day, as if that was of relevance. They are still not paid the same as men in the same job. Pink tax. etc pp
Joe 1 year ago
"In some states..." and "some people will ask..." These are hardly reasons to say women are not equal. ALL HUMANS have the capacity to be rude, and if one state says no, the next state may say yes. This isn't even a nation wide problem. The pay gap doesn't exist. Try checking out research from someone who is not feminist, then you may get some non-biased info.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
Killing an unborn child is not only deciding what to do with your own body, but what you will do with the body of the child WHICH IS NOT YOUR OWN...weak argument. It has been proven time and again that the ONLY reason for women getting lesser pay at the same job as men is due to the women working less hours and taking more time off. I will of course get more down votes for this comment, but I am fine with that because I am maintaining my individuality whereas all these replies sound as though they could have been written by one person. Still waiting on the list of lies I have told and their supposed truths... I would also like you to notice that for abortion it's "my body, my choice" but when the government forces vaccination the same people who cry "my body, my choice" will give shıt to anyone who doesn't want the jab. Food for thought.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
I am aware of everything you have said here intermezzono1 (this is my 4th account here). It is fun to argue with these close minded fools, up until you realize their toxic mentality will eventually hold positions of authority in society. Those who are caught up in propaganda never realize they are caught up in propaganda. As I said, THEY ALL DRANK THE KOOL-AID. I appreciate your attempted support, in the end, NONE of these militant replies are from individuals, they are from the "group think" of feminism. As you see, these crazies think feminism is a MAJORITY in western civilization, that is the result of spending most of their time in echo chambers.
Sara Wilson 1 year ago
No, but ur post clearly puts u as a chauvinist. She wants a slave for her son with no mind or life of her own
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Skulls.N.Succulents 1 year ago
If you add the republican, Christian and the fact that he's a lil redneck in there she might as well have addressed the ad for Toni Lahren directly!!!!
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Weasel Wise 1 year ago (edited)
The desired details this woman posts for her future DIL are ridiculous. She might as well say, "I've raised my son to be completely inept and to believe that a woman is his property and they are here to be a second mother to you. They should cook and clean for you and also enjoy your hobbies."? Aaaaand whyy does this mom knows her son's sexual attraction to butts? I got the creepy crawlies as soon as I read that.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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You seem to have read this post through a feminist lense. I do not approve of what this mother did, but the majority of western civilization still wants a traditional marriage. You sound like a feminist, which you are absolutely free to be, but feminists are still a minority. I fully agree that the mom knowing about her son's sexual attraction to butts is really strange. What does this mother son combo talk about?? And is it an appropriate conversation to have between mother and son?? Before you down vote me, please note that I have said NOTHING negative about feminists.
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Joe it sounds like you don't know what a feminist is. A true feminist simply believes all woman should live their life as they want to. Feminists live all lifestyles including "traditional marriage". Thats why men can be feminists too, because good men believe all woman can do anything she chooses to do. To not be a feminist is to say women shouldn't get to choose their own lives. Are you saying woman shouldn't get to choose their own lives?
ChimeraBubbles 1 year ago
Joe seems to believe that "feminists are...a minority" so, no, he doesn't know what a feminist is.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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Really? You really believe feminists are a MAJORITY?? Only on social media. You should check out reality, it really grounds you. By the way, the reaction to my comment was SO INCREDIBLY PREDICTABLE.
Lost Penny 1 year ago
Joe needs to get in touch with Patty. They are like peas in a republican pod, pure perfection.
Dawn Lambert 1 year ago
No Republicans in Canada?!? Bwahahaha get your head out of the sand! Quickest way to do that is to work in customer service.
Lost Penny 1 year ago
My dear Joe, you don't have to be American in order to be a Republican. A Republican isn't always an affiliation, sometimes it's a state of mind.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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You are as sharp as a marble Dawn. Canada is NOT a republic, hence NO Republicans, we have conservatives, but I don't expect any American to understand ANYTHING outside their own joke of a border. Especially not young inexperienced children like you.
Samantha Jarman 1 year ago
Yes, Canada is a constitutional monarchy not a republic. No, that does not mean every Canadian believes this is the best political arrangement. It is possible to believe that a republic is a preferable arrangement - ie to be a republican- while not actually living in one.
zovjraar me 1 year ago
i busted out laughing at "feminists are still a minority". oh my, i don't think Joe knows many ladies.
Joe 1 year ago
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Jennifer Smith, you should be explaining your definition to all the militant, man bashing feminists out there. They are definitely NOT what you have described here, maybe they didn't get the memo.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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So damned predictable, liberals getting bent out of shape over facts. Apparently Weasel Wise is definitely NOT a feminist. I get this understanding from all the ridiculous replies to my comment. I can only hope you will all grow up someday and learn that freedom of opinion is a very healthy thing, but for now you all just want to hate anyone who doesn't see life the EXACT same way you all do.
Joe 1 year ago
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I am going to assume that not one of the replies under my comment is from someone older than 25 years old. News flash children, idealism doesn't work.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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...and so smart. Good for you. My precious Samantha Jarman, these people have NEVER heard the phrase "to each their own". So without offense these comments put me on the defense, but they can't see how toxic that is. I never once claimed that women should be in the kitchen, bare foot and pregnant, but BOY HOWDY they all took it that way. Are you proud of joining these closed minded children?? Sounds like it...You do You. I am open to an explanation of what offended everyone other than stating an opinion (God forbid), but isn't that all comments are...opinion? Apparently I'm not allowed to opine without being shıt on by a bunch of young idealists with VERY LITTLE life experience. And they down vote truth. (Correction, there is 1 person over 25 here 🤣)
Lost Penny 1 year ago
Joe, not only did some people hear the phrase "to each their own," but they are also aware of the fact that exact phrase was inscribed on the front gate of Buchenwald Concentration Camp. Without offense.
Joe 1 year ago
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Lost Penny, by your logic "to each their own" holds absolutely no meaning because a propaganda machine put it on the gates of a concentration camp about 85 or 90 years ago. Hmmm...NO DICE.
Joe 1 year ago
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If this feminization of men continues unabated, you will all end up hating the feminine monsters you have created. At that point you won't be able to blame men for all your imaginary oppression.
intermezzono1 1 year ago
to be fair, if you get downvoted, reported or banned for stating your opinion that is completely valid and doesnt hurt anyone else, i'd get emotional as well. but if you have facsist tendencies, you need to silence everyone who thinks just a bit different. its sad.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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Good observation, I am the ONLY one being emotional. You quite obviously only see what you want to see. I will take your bait and return the serve by stating that your ignorance AND arrogance is showing, and even a bit of your inability for original thought...love ya!
Joe 1 year ago
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Isn't this fun? I wanna see how many liberal cry babies will down vote me. We will see if I get banned from the site, which is the only recourse these SJWs have here. Good times.
Bohemiangirl 1 year ago
Joe, I was on your side about the down voting until you started going on about "liberal cry-babies" and "SJWs" and you lost me.
Bohemiangirl 1 year ago
I don't think I would qualify as either of those things, but your use of those terms says a lot about your actual intentions.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
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So you are unaware of the demographic that frequents this site? Nobody was on my side here except maybe intermezzono1, you all decided that I was being negative about feminism, and they feed me an idealistic and unrealistic definition of how feminists actually act. I am sad that this generation cannot get past "group think" hence all the down votes.
intermezzono1 1 year ago
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sorry Joe, you should know by now that the libs here are silencing other opinions, no matter how friendly and constructive you put it. sadly, you wont get anywhere with them, as they are the most ignorant people. Look at the comment you posted, completely fine and any person would allow your opinion to simply exist. but they need to silence everyone else.
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago
It‘s not an opinion if you are spreading lies though. He has not been downvoted for his „opinion“, but because his view on feminism is false and for his attitude. He completely missed what feminism is and his subsequent comments dug his hole even deeper.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
Nitka Tsar please list the lies and their supposed truth, maybe I will learn something. Everyone here is too into down vote and run, absolutely ZERO explanation as to why they down vote, other than unrealistic ideals. I repeat IDEALISM DOES NOT WORK. It is only the young and gullible that think there is a possible IDEAL society.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
The conclusion to all this down vote madness is that the people who frequent this site DO NOT BELIEVE IN FREE SPEECH, which will only result in their own speech being censored. Be careful children. Your fight for idealism will only bite you in the a*s. Perhaps you are all too young to realize this (because to realize this takes more than 25 years of experience on this planet)
Joakim Engvik 1 year ago
What a mess this comment thread turned into. Let me chip in my penny here. You seem to have dug yourself a little hole unintentionally about this feminism thing, and you are right... Nobody is clarifying why or how. It seems you associate feminists with those extremist feminists you see all over social media. They are a minority, that much you got right. But looking at feminism as it technically is, a belief that women are worth as much as men and deserve to be free to choose their path in life (take Islam for contrast). This is something the vast majority believes is right in the western world.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
I appreciate your feed back. The explanation of wanting women to be whatever they want to be should go without a feminism label, that should be the norm. I believe in equality of opportunity for all, that belief should not be labeled feminism. The MAJORITY these people THINK is feminism, is actually just "live and let live". I don't mind an honest debate, but this is neither a debate nor honest, it's just "UNITE TO DESTROY THIS DIFFERING OPINION" (a.k.a. fascism)
Joseph Matthews 1 year ago
Again no, Feminism is men and women being treated as equals the fact you think it is anything else means someone has brainwashed you so hard you don't even know what words mean any more and have been engaging with strawmen instead of actual feminists. Ask any ACTUAL feminist and they will tell you the same thing - it is about equality of the sexes. Having worked with real feminists and being one I can tell you we work just as hard getting paternity paid leave as we do maternity paid leave etc. The real question is whether or not you are going to absorb this information and grow as a human or make all of less than humans and declaring us a 'woke mob' or some other dehumanizing term to protect your fragile ego. And that's despite the fact we took the time out of our day to engage your broken views and actively try to help you. I'd also wager I'm older than you.
Joseph Matthews 1 year ago
'Unite to destroy this differing opinion' is called freedom of speech. I swear youre intentionally engaging in 1984 doublespeak. If you gave an opinion and no one was allowed to criticize that opinion - THAT would be a form of repression though certainly not 'fascism' you need to learn what words like that actually mean before you go around calling everyone 'liTeRaLLy funny mustache man!'
Joseph Matthews 1 year ago
You're getting down voted because you're being ridiculous not because of 'this generations group think' I guarantee the people downvoting you agree on very few things except that you're being absurd. The fact you think feminism is anything except "men and women being treated as equals" means you've been fed a load of propaganda and swallowed it whole. You took that propaganda out into the real world and got a dose of reality and instead of accepting that are deflecting your own biases. Stop making us Joes look bad. It's embarrassing and stop brainwashing yourself against the false 'wOkE AgEnDA!'
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
At this point I could say "the sky is blue" and you would all down vote me. I can see ABSOLUTELY NO discernable difference between the people replying under my comment and the LGBT lobby, Climate Change lobby, racism lobby, and any other group that has drank the Kool-aid. It's very obvious that none of you see this, but you have all given up your individuality for "group think". Could someone kindly explain how women are oppressed in western society today? Please tell me what it is women cannot do that man can do, besides writing their name in the snow. Bash me all you want, but these are honest questions that I would like an honest answer to. Though you all believe otherwise, I have no problem with women doing ANYTHING they want to do, and I have never said otherwise within this thread.
LavenderHippoInAJar 1 year ago
Honest question -- what do you mean by "drank the Kool-aid"? Not trying to be rude; I just don't understand what that term means.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
"Drank the Kool-aid" is basically a reference to Jim Jones who convinced about 900 people to drink poison kool-aid that killed them all, but in this context I am referring more to being easily convinced of whatever people tell you. Honest question -- How did you get a hippo into a jar...a lavender hippo no less? Very impressive
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago
In the US in some states woman cannot decide what they do with their own body. If they get violated some people will ask them what they were wearing that day, as if that was of relevance. They are still not paid the same as men in the same job. Pink tax. etc pp
Joe 1 year ago
"In some states..." and "some people will ask..." These are hardly reasons to say women are not equal. ALL HUMANS have the capacity to be rude, and if one state says no, the next state may say yes. This isn't even a nation wide problem. The pay gap doesn't exist. Try checking out research from someone who is not feminist, then you may get some non-biased info.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
Killing an unborn child is not only deciding what to do with your own body, but what you will do with the body of the child WHICH IS NOT YOUR OWN...weak argument. It has been proven time and again that the ONLY reason for women getting lesser pay at the same job as men is due to the women working less hours and taking more time off. I will of course get more down votes for this comment, but I am fine with that because I am maintaining my individuality whereas all these replies sound as though they could have been written by one person. Still waiting on the list of lies I have told and their supposed truths... I would also like you to notice that for abortion it's "my body, my choice" but when the government forces vaccination the same people who cry "my body, my choice" will give shıt to anyone who doesn't want the jab. Food for thought.
Joe 1 year ago (edited)
I am aware of everything you have said here intermezzono1 (this is my 4th account here). It is fun to argue with these close minded fools, up until you realize their toxic mentality will eventually hold positions of authority in society. Those who are caught up in propaganda never realize they are caught up in propaganda. As I said, THEY ALL DRANK THE KOOL-AID. I appreciate your attempted support, in the end, NONE of these militant replies are from individuals, they are from the "group think" of feminism. As you see, these crazies think feminism is a MAJORITY in western civilization, that is the result of spending most of their time in echo chambers.
Sara Wilson 1 year ago
No, but ur post clearly puts u as a chauvinist. She wants a slave for her son with no mind or life of her own
sofacushionfort 1 year ago
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Skulls.N.Succulents 1 year ago
If you add the republican, Christian and the fact that he's a lil redneck in there she might as well have addressed the ad for Toni Lahren directly!!!!
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