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Woman Upset She Didn’t Get Any Christmas Gifts After Going Out Of Her Way To Get Presents For Everybody Else
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Someone in the family has to be in charge of creating the festive spirit during the holiday season. Whether it’s (still) Santa and his little helpers or parents trying their best to sustain the Christmas magic, it’s not an easy job to do. It often falls heavily on the mother’s shoulders. Usually, they take care of most family-related tasks, and holidays are no exception.
Mothers have to deal with headaches ranging from holiday dinners to wrapping gifts. Fathers, on the other hand, have fewer things on their plate. Despite all their efforts, moms are sometimes overlooked when it comes to Christmas presents. One of them, TikTok user @missmear, recently shared her disappointment after she was left empty-handed on the morning of December 25th. To her surprise, a six-second snippet went viral and generated a buzz online.
Bored Panda has reached out to Mary. She was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. Scroll down for our full interview with her.
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Image credits: missmear
TikTok user @missmear uploaded an update expanding on the situation after her original post created a buzz
Image credits: missmear
@missmear There’s so many comments that it’s been impossible for me to reply to from my last video. Here’s an update/explanation. @missmear ♬ original sound – Mary
Image credits: missmear
@missmear Update 2 @missmear ♬ original sound – Mary
Mary, a mother of two, was thankful for the support from fellow moms out there. She continued to share some personal details on why these past couple of years have not been easy. That was one of the reasons she felt like she deserved a little something to unwrap on Christmas. This year more than ever.
“I was most disappointed because I was on life support last year for nearly 2 months, therefore I missed all of the holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years). I told my husband for months before Christmas that this year we are going to make up for all the holidays I missed,” Mary said to Bored Panda.
She added: “I did all of the Christmas shopping, decorating, and making the magic happen for our kids, all he had to do was get me something to make me feel special.”
Research shows that women devote more time to Christmas shopping than men. However, based on spending, guys tend to splurge on gifts more. You would think that they would end up buying gifts for their partners, yet that’s not always the case.
“I think moms are and have always been undervalued on a daily basis. So even on Christmas when it’s supposed to be one of the magical times of the year, moms are so easily overlooked and unappreciated,” Mary said.
Some comments under Mary’s post encouraged her to buy a present for herself. And it’s a fair point! In a situation like this, you might as well treat yourself. A survey of 2,000 American women showed that the majority shop for their gifts themselves. 65% admitted that they buy Christmas gifts as well.
Mary shared her story knowing that there might be someone that can relate. However, she did not expect such a buzz: “I knew I wouldn’t be the only one who could relate to that situation but I was definitely surprised to see how normal it is for so many of us.”
Have you ever been in the mom’s shoes? Have you ever woken up on Christmas morning only to find that nobody got you any gifts? Feel free to share your own experiences and make sure to check out Mary’s TikTok posts and thoughts by other moms in the comments.
Other moms related to Mary’s situation and shared their insight and personal experiences in the comments
What do you think ?
Panda Kicki 1 year ago
After that trauma, two months in a ventilator and loosing a baby every wish she might have had the husband should have carried out. He should have taken the stressful tasks and made sure he had a idea of what gift she would be happy for. I am so sorry to read this.
Debbie 1 year ago
If he is able to. Seeing your wife suffer, taking care of the kids, trying but to fall apart white having lost your baby and possibily lose your wife as well is also a burden. It have been tough years for both of them. That aside, he said have gotten her some gifts. Even if it would be a cheesy mug saying " I am so glad you're (still) here".
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OmBoyGanesh 1 year ago (edited)
Every school vacation (Thanksgiving, Winter & Spring Breaks) my 6 siblings & I had to do an extra chore a day. They varied from things our mom did day-to-day to mental labor tasks such as meal planning and scheduling, depending on which of us kids fit the chore the best. We each got paid an allowance that went into the “PPP” or “parent ‘preciation pot.” It was actually no specific amount and the pot didn’t really exist. However, a few days before Christmas, Mother’s/Father’s Day & our folks birthdays, an adult would take us shopping to buy our parents gifts. There was always a back & forth about it being too much or questioning how much we each had to spend. It was usually my dad who took us and he’d say things like, “just pick it out and we’ll see if there’s enough money on the pot to cover it. If not, you can find something else.” There’s was always enough. Each of us picked out well thought out presents for each of our folks. It was about contributing, involvement & inclusion.
MoMcB 1 year ago
It's not always about big amounts spent, either. My husband made me a photo album a couple of years back, was the best thing ever.
CM Kar 1 year ago
That is so sweet, because he put love and time into it.
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Panda Kicki 1 year ago
After that trauma, two months in a ventilator and loosing a baby every wish she might have had the husband should have carried out. He should have taken the stressful tasks and made sure he had a idea of what gift she would be happy for. I am so sorry to read this.
Debbie 1 year ago
If he is able to. Seeing your wife suffer, taking care of the kids, trying but to fall apart white having lost your baby and possibily lose your wife as well is also a burden. It have been tough years for both of them. That aside, he said have gotten her some gifts. Even if it would be a cheesy mug saying " I am so glad you're (still) here".
Load More Replies... OmBoyGanesh 1 year ago (edited)
Every school vacation (Thanksgiving, Winter & Spring Breaks) my 6 siblings & I had to do an extra chore a day. They varied from things our mom did day-to-day to mental labor tasks such as meal planning and scheduling, depending on which of us kids fit the chore the best. We each got paid an allowance that went into the “PPP” or “parent ‘preciation pot.” It was actually no specific amount and the pot didn’t really exist. However, a few days before Christmas, Mother’s/Father’s Day & our folks birthdays, an adult would take us shopping to buy our parents gifts. There was always a back & forth about it being too much or questioning how much we each had to spend. It was usually my dad who took us and he’d say things like, “just pick it out and we’ll see if there’s enough money on the pot to cover it. If not, you can find something else.” There’s was always enough. Each of us picked out well thought out presents for each of our folks. It was about contributing, involvement & inclusion.
MoMcB 1 year ago
It's not always about big amounts spent, either. My husband made me a photo album a couple of years back, was the best thing ever.
CM Kar 1 year ago
That is so sweet, because he put love and time into it.
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