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While, in theory, childhood is this magical carefree time, where we have a chance to just explore the world and do whatever we want, the fact is that this is just not the case for everyone. Where you were born plays a big part, as well as how much money your family happens to have, but one of the biggest differences might be growing up as a girl, as opposed to a boy.
Someone asked “Women, what do you feel is the hardest part about growing up as a girl?” and female netizens shared their thoughts. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote your favorite posts and be sure to share your own experiences in the comments section below.

#1

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods We don't get to be carefree little girls for long due to so many men being goddamn predators.

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    #2

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Learning how to deflect unwanted sexual advances from men/relatives from the time you hit puberty.

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    BoredPossum
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I shouldn't have started reading this list. The world is an ugly ugly place!

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    #3

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods The day you realize that little boys are treated better than you.

    I didn't want to be a girl when I was little. I truly hated being a girl. I didn't want to be a boy either. I didn't have gender issues. I had society issues. It took a long time to realize that me being a girl wasn't the problem. The problem was that every successful person we talked about was a man. The other was that little boys could physically assault little girls, and no one cared. The other was that girls had to play nicely and sit nicely because of our clothes.

    The realization that being a girl means moving through the world so differently is devastating.

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    Alvia Vseobecna
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always shut other similarly minded adults up about these topics. They literally cannot compute what I am saying most of the time and I have to forcefully shut down the topic. This behaviour should not be tolerated.

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    #4

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Body issues… I learned to hate my body at a very young age. In my mid thirties and I’m still struggling to learn to love myself the way I am.

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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    honestly all my insecurities began at home, mostly from my parents. im used to it now, and i don't take in other people's comments as much, or i know how to respond in a way that'll help me stay calm, if that makes sense. also now i have some of the best friends ever who help me stay confident and they are all rlly fun too :D ive come to realise the reason i was so shy before was bc i was insecure and didn't want to be judged, but later i became much more extroverted lol. also im more open abt my problems now. as a teen, i personally feel life is easier now than it used to be when i was younger. 💁🏾‍♀️

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    #5

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods EARLY SEXUALISATION / HARASSMENT -> lifelong trauma and damage.


    PARENTIFICATION which stunts childs natural development (for example in case of younger siblings girls are required to look after them).


    WASTED POTENTIAL (not enough spaces to nourish girls talents in science maths chess and IT).

    Edit: oh and a f*****g bonus point if you are a girl growing up in a religious family..
    Constantly being told your purpose in life is to birth children and be a good wife. 🤮🤮🤮.

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    Pyla
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    AAUW did studies on this and it bears out, puberty for females is a hallmark of the patriarchy changing the focus from their minds to their bodies. It's beyond disgusting. Worse with all the pron addicts, men's threshold for sexualizing women has increased.

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    #6

    The constant mixed signals like the speech in Barbie. Be yourself but not if you’re too loud or girly or not girly or like sex but don’t like it too much. Be smart but able to be dumb at a moment’s notice. Have an opinion but not THAT opinion. Like your body but don’t say it out loud. Always criticize yourself out loud but not just for attention. Be successful but acknowledge all the other people who helped you even if they didn’t. Are you eating that? Again? And that much? Why aren’t you eating? Don’t cry. Cry but only when someone else thinks it’s valid. God you’re a cold b***h don’t you have any emotions? Know everything all the time but don’t let anyone else know that you know. God you’re such a follower. God you’re too independent you know that?

    I could go on and on and on. It’s exhausting.

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    Marianne
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I loved that speech! I think most women can relate to that double standard.

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    #7

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods The fear / reality of sexual assault.

    Oh and periods.

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    Lil Miss Hobbit
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not walking after dark. Carrying pepper spray from my job to my car. Never going to the bathroom alone.

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    #8

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods My father once said to me “if you didn’t want to cook and clean, then you shouldn’t have chosen to be born a girl.”
    My mistake. .

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    #9

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Expectation of having children.
    I hate feeling like I am worth less because I do not want to put my body and mind through a pregnancy.

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    Marianne
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love being a mother. However, I can't wrap my head around the idea that everyone should want to be a parent. It's a personal choice and I really think that every child deserves to be truly wanted.

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    #10

    That women can be their own worst enemy and drag down girls and young women with them. Like supporting/voting for misogynists. Edited to fix a missing word.

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    Tree P
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am hoping the women of the US can get their s**t together and vote against the orange Chump. If they think things are bad now, wait until( hopefully not) the dictator gets back in. Ready to relive the 1800s? No? Then don't vote Republican ladies!!!

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    #11

    I'll second sexual harassment, catcalling, and body issues from a very young age and add not being able to display your emotions and still be taken seriously. I hear so much from men saying that boys aren't able to express their emotions, and while this is true to some extent (the patriarchy hurts everyone!), they can express anger and have it be taken seriously. For women, it's immediately dismissed as hormonal/PMS/stereotypes (e.g., "angry Black woman"). If we express sadness, see above. If we express a legitimate concern (especially medical), it's dismissed as "anxiety". Women/girls aren't allowed to express emotions without societal repercussions any more than men/boys are, it just looks different for us (and can have more disastrous consequences, esp. medical).

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    Michael Largey
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Catcalling. Guys, it's simple. Don't say anything to a woman on the street that you wouldn't want a man to say to you in prison.

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    #12

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Being sl*tshamed and harrrased, always having to take care of others and being the bigger person, being told you purpose in life is giving birth.

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    Lauren Caswell
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We are sl*ts or frigid, it seems. Especially true when we are under 30, though it never ends its just more targeted as we aren't as ready to protect ourselves at that age.

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    #13

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Being constantly dismissed and therefore denied adequate help, compensation, etc.

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    Kerensa Scott
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    most female medical problems being under researched and dismissed by the medical community. having to fight just to be heard

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    #14

    Being expected to be "polite" to everyone - take s**t from everyone, have low standards, accept manchildren as your partner, try to "see the best" in people who wrong you, people please.

    Being sexualised from infancy.

    Being treated like an infant in adulthood.

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    KillerKiwi
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being expected to be polite to everyone but then men think that just because you’re polite to them you’re obviously attracted to them. 🙄

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    #15

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Worrying about body image from quite a young age. Am I fat? Am I too fat? Am I fit enough? Am I too muscley? Am I too skinny now? Am I skinny enough? Endless. .

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    #16

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Sexual harassment and occasional assault from heterosexual men.

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    #17

    As a girl: Being thrown into a world made and designed for men with no one to help contextualize this properly so I understand better why I'm not actually a huge failure at what I choose to undertake.


    As a teenager: being taught everything that is dangerous about sex (unwanted pregnancy, STDs...), but not about how to be comfortable with my own sexuality, or how pleasurable sex can be for women, how important it is, and how to achieve this - would have helped me so much more growing up


    So far for my entire life: Periods. Seriously.
    Inconvenient. Uncomfortable. Painful. Sometimes can lead to major embarrassment. Can put a damper on: events, vacations, sometimes I even have to adapt what I wear based on the day and flow... F**k tampon commercials trying to make anyone believe women need to live through this by dancing around in a white dress feeling pure bliss.

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    Kerensa Scott
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    only being able to fit into certain clothes because of severe pain and bloating :(

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    #18

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Being underestimated and questioned while men are seen for potential; I had this incredible self confidence as a kid that was crushed in my teen years that I’ve worked my whole life to find back.

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    #19

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods For me it was mostly seeing how there were different rules for me than for my brothers, especially in terms of freedom.


    Edit to say: I'm kind of baffled with all these replies and grateful to say that my wonderful parents raised me as the tomboy that I was with (almost) no complaints. My comment was addressed at things like going out alone or being out after dark. .

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    Lil Miss Hobbit
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up fairly conservative and my parents worked so hard to made things fair for both their boys and girls. They decided that "If we want to protect the girls by having them in non-revealing swimwear in public, then we're not going to have the boys shirtless." That has always made sense to me. No double standard. If the boys were shirtless, we got bikinis. And if we didn't get bikinis, than the boys were modest too. And yes, this was only when we were young and directly under their care (pre-teen, young teens).

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    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods The body shaming started really early for me. I was called fat by everyone from my classmates to my father to my medical providers, then I slimmed down but my breasts grew big and fast so I was mocked for that; my mom started insinuating I was a s**t by the age of about 12. I didn’t even lose my virginity until I was almost 20 because I thought I was a big ugly monster.

    It took me so, so long to unpack the trauma of growing up in the early/mid 2000s. Now I’m 34 and just dipping my toes in the water of intentional weight loss after decades of not being able to do it without spiraling into an eating disorder, because I’m edging on high blood pressure and want to be able to go hiking w my friends without being a drag.

    Don’t get me started on navigating the minefield of dating hetero men.

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    5 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The 90's and the 00's were a toxic couple of decades. Just yesterday I was remembering how during soccer tournaments (the european championships just ended) they would fill the commercialbreaks with the "World Championships Lingerie", where, and I s**t you not, it would be just 15 minutes of pretty women in their underwear trying to shoot penalties. It was ... I can't even describe it. Everything about that era (and before that time as well), was about men, and women's appearance.

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    #21

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Finding out what kind of p*rn men like. That our pleasure doesnt matter. That many men m**turbate to women/girls suffering.

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    Nimitz
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is something that weirded me out. Back when I still thought I was straight I remember buddies sharing porn. It really baffled and kinda frightened me how many of them really, really liked porn where the woman was being degraded. No one controls what kinks they end up with, but seriously, wtf guys?

    KillerKiwi
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s terrifying, disturbing, and disgusting. Especially when you know they’re starting young. From 12 years old these kids are getting off on the pain and suffering of girls and women.

    Black Cat
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What's gross is soon many men think women like it rough. I'm guessing they get that from porn and are too stupid to realise it isn't real. Or they just like being rough during sex and pretend women like it so they can avoid taking responsibility for hurting their partners - "every other girl wants it rough, what's wrong with you?". Sick, girls talk and I've never come across any girl/woman who likes to be hurt, bitten hard or bruised during sex.

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    Lil Miss Hobbit
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know that it can be totally separated. Your online choices DO, in fact, affect your real-life choices. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you fantasize about rape but that does not at all affect how you view intimate relationships in in real life???

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    5 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I simply cannot respect men or women who watch porn. I know that goes against the grain in this society, but that's where I am. Voyeurism is not for me.And no, I'm not 'sexually repressed'.

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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's not my understanding of it from past talks with the lads! I'm sure there might be a few that watch that kind of stuff, but then porn is about fantasy. IIRC, Garry likes women pleasing themselves. Dave I, liked MMF threesomes. Dave II, admitted he liked watching pegging (but said he would never try it). Paul didn't care as long as there was boobs and the woman spoke really dirty. Personally, I find it all boring.

    Zaach
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Porn addictions always puzzled me - if I watch it it is to get the 'job' done; tht does not take all day

    Joy
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've accidentally walked in on my husband a few times watching porn, (I know he sometimes watches the stuff. Usually when I'm on my period. We talk openly about it). I'm very glad he's more into the "normal" stuff, lol. Some of the women looked older than me!

    Terry Rex
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are picking the wrong men then sweetie. I enjoy porn as long as it looks like the girl is also enjoying it as she is making it

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    #22

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods The patriarchy. Sexism, misogyny, double-standards, assault, predatory men, etc etc etc.

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    Anna Drever
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A comment for ByeFelcia since they’re downvoted and I can’t directly reply… maybe listen to what women are saying instead of just dismissing them. If everything men do gives them the ick then maybe do better.

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    #23

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods The relentless sexism that puts a clamp on your life and infects everything.

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    #24

    Abuse. You pick the type.

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    Littlemiss
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    According to my family the abuse didn't count because I was a girl. Sexual abuse, must have asked for it. Physical abuse, you deserve it because you're too sensitive. Verbal abuse, mental and emotional abuse.... the list goes on. That was just my family.

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    #25

    I was lucky and didn’t have a lot of the terrible experiences that girls and women have, but for me it was the double standard. My brother can do no wrong and he was able to do more because he was a boy and “it’s different for girls”.

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    VikingAbroad
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And girls being taught to make rooms for the boys. 'they are later developed than girls. Bear with them.' why not teach the boys to actually look up to smart girls?

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    #26

    The tragedy of womanhood. As a child you believe you have an inate worth as a person, equal to everyone else. And then the slow horror creeps in through the years as it dawns on you that society does not value you as a person and your only worth is in your body and how you can benefit the men around you.

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    #27

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Requirements and judgement.

    My mistakes are taken more aggressively and poorly than dudes.

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    #28

    The never ending judgment and instance on compliance. I'm a women bringing up girls, it would be so very easy to teach them to be submissive and compliant but f**k easy. My girls rebel, they will push gender norms, they won't just accept "you need to..." , they are their own people, they may fall down but I'll pick them up,they will want to comply and fit in and I'll support them to be themselves. Bringing up girls harder than being one.

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    Dainty72
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I raised three daughters alone. Hard work, but I have three beautiful daughters who are all working, happy, individual and independent! I couldn't ask for more. Love those girls!!!

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    #29

    Being out late at night (the double standard is extremely icky) and feeling unsafe. Being told that you shouldn't travel alone...

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    #30

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Wondering what do with your f**kability. On the one hand, you learn early on that f**kability = money, power, influence (M P I). On the other hand, you learn that achieving M P I through f**kability is somehow more vulgar than every other way people get money, power and influence.


    Being a wage-stealing s**tbag, just barely to the right side of a plantation owner = WOOHOO!, Elect that man to be the president and invite him to speak at Harvard's graduation!!! Be a millionaire sex worker, and it's "eww... she so stupid and all she did was a sex tape." Mmm kay.


    The same mother who shames you for getting fat and "unf**kable" in her eyes is the same one that will shame you for expressing any form of your sexuality. Am I supposed to f**kable or not? Am I supposed to want to be f**kable or not? Am I supposed to use f**kability as a means to M P I or not? Am I supposed to have a say in my f**kability at all? What if I don't give a flying rat's a*s about my f**kability? Getting older makes some of the answers more clear but not always.

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    5 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The language and tone toward sexuality here is disturbing. I think therapy is needed. I have never based anything in my life on being fu.k.able it's crazy.

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    #31

    A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Taught to be the one who concedes, says “sorry”, and has to be tactful with words and actions. I look at men with artificially inflated egos and simply think there’s gotta be a better way to parent both boys and girls to help them reach potential but not be ignorant of shortcomings.

    Girls tend to doubt their skills and not take risks in opportunities because they think that they aren’t qualified. Boys tend to say… I don’t meet those requirements but I’m still going to go for it. (Again it’s a generalization that I saw in my own experiences and as a teacher).

    Edit for grammar.

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    #32

    Being sexualized before I understood sexuality.

    And the all consuming the reality that no matter what I did or what I was, I would never be correct.

    We are either s**t shamed or called prudes. We are either too thin or need to lose weight. We either wear too much makeup or not enough. It's never ending.

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    #33

    You're objectified from a very young age. People were commenting on my breast size from pretty much the moment they showed up. They've always been small, and I had friends who had full D cups by 14. Seeing the different ways we were treated by our peers and even adults was sickening. They openly commented on our bodies, no shame, and in my case it was always teasing me for not being womanly enough in f*****g middle school. I was so resentful of my body and I didn't even know why. Meanwhile my friends with larger boobs were getting harassed and preyed on and they interpreted the attention as positive, but even when they'd show me texts and all the sexual things that boys were sending them, egging them on to perform sexual favors, or send nude photos, we naturally felt disgusted but we thought that was somehow the wrong reaction. We just thought it was normal, so we tolerated it, and in a twisted way I wanted the sexual harassment more than the bullying. It's f****d up. This world is f****d up to little girls.

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    Biytemii
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel this way too much...middle school,raging hormones with small boobs....it did disgusting gly make u want the attention more. I was so messed up....

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    #34

    Living with the reality that your natural predator are men.

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    Zedrapazia
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    No, men are NOT the "natural" predators of women. This isn't what a natural predator is, a wolf is a natural predator to a deer, but not humans to humans. Statements like this make the entire rest of the list loose credibility.

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    #35

    Spending all my summers cleaning and watching my younger brother. Then when I started working I'd have to spend hours cleaning after work. Being expected to be an adult when I was 12. None of my possessions were really mine. If my brother, mom, or dad wanted something of mine they just took it. Not having my birthday celebrated for 20+ years because my parents couldn't pretend to care about me for an hour a day once a year. Being forced to put others wants/needs above mine. Being forced to clean when I was sick because having a clean house was more important than my recovery from the flu, pneumonia, etc. Having my health neglected because they thought I was faking it. Basically I wasn't seen as a human, but something to my parents live easier.

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    #36

    Being shamed for stupid s**t. i was made fun of (by my best friends) in 9th grade for not wearing tampons. i was embarrassed at a sleepover in 8th grade when we were talking about shaving downstairs and i was confused about it so they were telling me i must smell bad down there. i was made fun of for being a virgin in that condescending “it’s ok” way. because i was so f****d up from being made fun of for it, i lied to people i met after high school about STUPID s**t like being a virgin. i forced myself to use tampons for a few years and i eventually stopped bc my periods were too heavy and
    honestly they were just uncomfortable. so is a pad, but i never had the fear of it getting lost lol. some years after high school, i start talking to my ex best friend again and at twenty f*****g four i was still being made fun of for wearing tampons being told i need to grow up. that stuff is already embarrassing as f**k and for your best friends to shame you is worse. i’m 30 and haven’t talked to them in years.
    Edit to add: body shaming. I was the fat friend to my 2 very pretty& skinny porcelain skin friends. I definitely was treated differently and will be teaching my son to not be a f*****g douche.

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    #37

    People constantly push that you are basically over-the-hill very early in life, whereas men never lose their sex appeal. The logic being that women have prime reproductive years, so youth equals extra sex appeal. Meanwhile, even though men can continue to get women pregnant later in life, their sperm quality also drops. Older fathers also contribute to genetic issues, but this is NEVER addressed for the whole youth=reproduction=beauty argument. It is also a hilariously awful argument because I'm sure the same misogynists who push this wouldn't turn down an infertile supermodel. Women are basically just cattle to be picked, but somehow it's men going on shooting sprees saying it's unfair for them this isn't still 100% the case. We literally live in a world where billions of people see it as unfair that women don't exist to be sex and/or slaves to men.

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    Tree P
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We will be in the US if the MAGA weirdos get their way. I believe the GOP actually hate women and view us as less than human.

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    #38

    Never being allowed to fail/be bad at anything without it being blamed on my gender.

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    Liklik Snek
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! Also, we have to stop using "...like a girl" as a simile for doing something in an inferior way.

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    #39

    Danger can be everywhere around the corner. I remember everyone telling girls how they have to me extra conscious. Always getting tipps how to protect myself. I grew up in a safe country but it was an issue. I know you have to be careful but do you know how tiring it is. It makes me anxious and i am 31 now.

    Always being on my best behavior. Lashing out or having a meltdown was a big no no in my family. I couldn't believe when I saw a girl having a meltdown and her family supporting her (consoling her, giving her space, being understanding).
    My parents would have hit my or something if i had a meltdown.

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    #40

    Living in a world designed to benefit the opposite sex.

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    Graham_Illegal
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More like designed to benefit the opposite sex's stereotype. Boys who aren't tough, assertive, or leaders, who don't enjoy sports, aren't interested in competition, and prefer to be surrounded by girls, are constantly bullied from day one. I'm not saying that it's the same experience as being a girl, but gender stereotypes hurt everyone who doesn't fit them well enough.

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    #41

    Being sexualized for as long as I can remember. From being told to cover up from the time I was 4 to being catcalled for the first time when I was 11 to being flat out sexually harassed in high school.

    Also my appearance being such a huge deal, especially how much I weighed. Boys who had a few extra pounds were "big and strong", girls who had a few extra pounds were told they could be pretty if they just lost some weight.

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    #42

    The first thing that popped in to my mind was simply the things I wanted to do.

    Girls don't box

    Girls don't play base ball

    Girls dont do karate

    Even when I showed interest in music, my dad said things like, "maybe you could be Mick Jagger's back up singer."

    It was like they had this real small idea in their head of what I could do/was capable of before I was even a whole person.

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    whodunnitfan2013
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My father must have seen me as only a certain image he thought I should be (for example, a wife), because I once told him I wanted to be a musician, so I wouldn't have time to get married, then he'd just tell me I'd marry a fellow musician.

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    #43

    Definitely having body image and the ideal norms of society

    I started looking at myself and compared myself to my peers at a very young age. I was probably 6-7 years old.

    And here I am at 25 still trying to overcome it.

    …..

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    #44

    Men.

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    The expectation of marriage and motherhood.

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    #46

    Growing up hating women (and myself as a girl) because of the not to subtle ways it’s infused in our society. I only just recently, at 40 years old, started listening to women singers and loving it!! You really have to try and peel back the layers of patriarchy to understand how freaking amazing women really are! We’ve been here all along kicking a*s in the background.

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    Feathered Dinosaur
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And every girl goes through an 'I'm not like the other girls'-phase. What we really meant is we're not that two-dimensional caricature of a lesser human who's only interested in makeup, fashion and how to get or a boyfriend (cue more stereotypes), but a real human being with character, needs and talents

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    #47

    For me it was knowing that no matter how amazing I was, no matter if my accomplishments were objectively far greater, I would always always always be second pick for any job or award to a mediocre male candidate.

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    Feathered Dinosaur
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's why I'm for a mandatory women's quota. F**k the men who wail "but she only got the job because she's a woman" "the jobs should have gone to men, because they're obviously more qualified or why else did you think only men got those jobs in the past?". If you won't let us in, we'll just have to force our way in... again

    #48

    Apart from psychical danger, being respected when I dissented. People never listen when you’re a girl. And you can’t say “I told you so” after they messed up.

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    Me Oh My (He/They)
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You really oughtn't say "I told you so" after someone messes up regardless of sex/gender because it's rude. At least, that's what I was taught.

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    #49

    Realizing that no one will be there for you when you need them. The only person you can depend on is yourself. .

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    ByeFelicia
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men experience this just as often as women. We just don't talk about it. Sad but true.

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    #50

    Insecurity ab your body. beauty is so pedistalized and 99% of the time dressing pretty, doing makeup, getting nails done just brings attention of people you don’t want it from in my experience. it’s very rare that there’s a guy i like and even then i don’t feel very *pretty* or special

    when someone DOES tell me i’m beautiful or whatever from a lot of guys it feels sexually charged or somehow off.

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