People Are Sharing “Hard To Swallow Pills” About Relationships, And Here Are 30 Harsh But True Ones

Or a family member.

People come into our lives for A REASON, A SEASON or FOR LIFE. Know when someone needs to leave.

Kind of weird they decided to use a pain medicine to represent this. I think a 54 543 is an oxy. Or maybe a pain pill is actually clever to use for this, since they are talking about painful relationships.

Yep. The very worst thing you can do to fix a relationship is to have kids. Think you're arguing a lot now? Think again.

That’s why mine has 4 legs

Agreed. I have two kids, and I agree. I have mine because I wanted them. Fully knowing the responsibilities along with them. They make my life awfully difficult, but in the end it's worth the struggle. Having said that, I fully support couples who don't want children. Kids should be brought to the world if you are absolutely sure you will be able to handle them, care for them and provide for them. Not because the society forces you to. A pat on the back to the couples who can figure out what they want.

I’ve met many couples who thought children would make everything better. Most of them....divorced now.

Wait so a kid won't magically fix everything?? 😳 i could have sworn in all the movies that it turns men into the perfect partner! All those sleepless nights, no time away, all the crying, that don't make your relationship stronger?

So much this

As a dad you should be changing nappies, feeding, bathing, reading, teaching, cooking and showing them how to be a decent person. Not only does it make your children grow up with better mental well being, it teaches you to be a better person and to see the world in a whole different way.

This thread is not what I expected.

A great father WANTS to be with his kids.

This is not hard to shallow, it's common sense

Spread the word. Your ominous silence may look powerful to you, but in fact it's annoying. If you got something to say, say it. Don't expect other people to read your mind.

this is for all the women that think men can read minds. lol

I feel like both ways are wrong unless it’s something serious. Like, it’s obviously stupid to sit there mad and not say why, but it is also stupid to constantly “be direct” with someone when half the time the topic isn’t even worth discussion and people just shouldn’t get so upset so easily. Be calm, and let that shît go unless it’s a real issue.

Many times they do, but they just don't care. Demand emotional intelligence and respect from your partner at all times. If they know you well enough to be in a relationship with you, then yes, they do absolutely know about the things that would make you upset. It's not about mind-reading, it's about paying attention to your partner enough in the first place to truly know them. Lack of attention to your needs and feelings is never acceptable, nor is showing the lack of care that resulted in you becoming upset at them in the first place. You can't cOmMuniCatE with someone who just chooses not to listen or change their behaviour. Cut your losses and leave, saving yourself months or years of gaslighting.

I agree with this partially... sometimes having a partner means you don't have to deal with all your emotional s**t. Half the reason we go to therapy is just to talk, not get advice but to get things off your chest, and good partners do that for each other

I love the other half term. It totally describes how I feel. The second mind / body of mine, another iteration of me in another person who combines with me myself.

This idea of thinking is wrong. Human beings are social. We need to be with other people, especially romantically. You cannot get on your own, what you can get in a relationship. It’s wrong to tell people someone will be whole on their own. It just doesn’t work that way. You may be financially independent, but you will never be whole. Tell people to find the right person instead. There are many benefits to being with the right person.

The reason we use the term "other half" is because together we make a team and they make us feel whole.

Yes! Meeting my husband later in life, we both knew that we don’t NEED each other, we WANT each other. Such an important difference.

Even more so when you have kids.

This one is true, but be careful - as we grow up and change, sometimes we really do lose interest and sometimes life just separates you from your old friends (as sad as it sounds, it's true). So, it's important to distinguish whether it's really you the one who's changing, or if it's because of and for the sake of your partner. Being bound to your past isn't good either, just like toxic relationships aren't doing you any good.

This was advice my dad gave me. He had given up all his friends and his job to look after his children and when my mum divorced him and us kids moved out, he was left without anyone in his his life.

My friends know me and care for me. When I met my partner, they were among the first to meet him. I didn't have to ask what they thought. They were texting me: "Don't let this one get away!" "This is the one." "He sure does like you a lot." That was 22 years ago and they were right.

Especially when they decided to stop trusting you for something you really didn't do, but they firmly believe you did. Been there. It's as bizarre as it sounds.

Absolutes like this are troublesome. You don't get to dictate the regained trust of you were the one at fault for breaking it. But the person who was hurt gets to decide if they fully trust you again, and they may.

Trust lost; such a cost...

I agree, I know I can be, especially since I have anger problems and am a reactive person. I am working on it.

My narcissistic husband doesn't seem to understand this concept. He tells me it's not abuse unless he personally intended it to be and then claims he never meant to physically attack me so therefore it isn't abuse. (for the busy bodies: yes I am divorcing him, no it's none of your business as to why I stayed so long)

People need to talk about this more and share when they feel they are on the receiving end of abuse, cause a lot of it is just unhealthy behaviour learned from family, but it takes a lot of trust and courage to do it. I hope we all find it, especially those who need it.

I called off a relationship as I hated who I turned into when I was with him. I'd be verbally abusive towards him and his reaction made me worse more angry. I've learned to live without a relationship as I seem to end up in a very bad place every time I'm in one. So to protect the other person I don't bother with romantic relationships.

Exactly. Having time apart is healthy for a relationship.

And it’s not a slight against you! I learned this the dumb way. I take time away from my partner now and it keeps us the amazing creatures we are, better and stronger and deeper in love.

After 40 years together, unplanned early retirement for him, me working at home, and covid are creating a challenge. I really miss a little space for just me.

Absence truly does make the heart grow fonder.

We share a very small space and the beginning of lockdown was cold. We set rules for when our space would be loud or quiet. This included phone calls. I really love reading together, each in our own books, TV and devices off.

If you have to control them and make sure they don't cheat.... find someone else. Or accept an open relationship and quit calling it cheating. Loyalty is implied, not optional, unless otherwise discussed. If the relationship stops working, then maybe grow up a little and accept its end before either of you reaches the cheating part.