Putting off ending things for the fear of the other person hurting you (physically) is the worst possible idea.

Very much true.

10000% if your not in love then separate before jumping to the next person. NO excuse for cheating.

Shouldn't go into a relationship with a goal to change the person. You should appreciate them and love them for who they are. Only the individual can change themselves if they choose, no one else can do it for them.

No, there are no hard-and-fast guarantees, and sometimes things will come up that you have not planned for. But I think it is important to get the "big conversations" sorted early on, for example, do you both want kids or not. You don't want to end up disagreeing over something like that once you've already committed to each other, IMO.

Love is an action, as much as an emotion

Yes, I had this one and didn't realise. Constant feeling in the pit of my stomach and couldn't put my finger on why. Took me awhile to figure out exactly where the problem was. But my SO was nowhere near as committed to a relationship as I was and would change plans/bail at the last minute constantly - always with a 'very good reason' But eventually it just didn't sit right and I had to end it..

I'm not sure I'm understanding this one correctly... Are they disputing that soulmates exist, or saying that you should wait to meet someone who IS your soulmate and not settle for someone who you "just get along with" ?

I wholeheartedly agree, and that is just one reason why I think no sex before marriage is a terrible idea.

But this is the same throughout life, no? Friends have arguments, families fall out, work is not sunshine and roses every single day, even if you love your job. I don't know why people would think that relationships are any different. After all, most people probably spend more overall hours with their partners than with their friends/parents/siblings/colleagues, etc. There's bound to be the odd difficult phase.

It takes two people to make it work, takes two to make it fail. You might feel like you could have done better but so could they. Don't take the blame onto yourself fully, half of it's theirs'

And then its how you deal with the situation after, that really matters.

This is so true. The two of you should make the rules for your relationship and no one else has to understand or agree with them.

I got my cat before I met him so that would never be an issue.

I expect my partner to grow and change constantly or the entire point of my relationship would be fully lost. The whole point is to grow together.

Unless you work in cryogenics

Lol yeah a big fight can definitely happen even in the best of times. Someone else here keeps saying “it’s all how you deal with it” (sorry can’t remember who). I agree with them tho

I prefer the "normal" moments of having dinner together or watching tv/ gaming in the sofa.

Maybe not fatter, but there will be some physical changes.

Disagree with this. Love doesnt just stop overnight for no reason. If you think it did, then you haven't been listening or paying enough attention to your relationship.

Anyone who believes they should be happy 24/7 needs a lot of therapy. To be honest, most people could do with a bit of therapy.

Also be aware that dry spells can happen. Mental and physical health will affect your sex activity. If you arent willing to go through that you shouldnt commit

I can’t believe this is at the bottom but I also can. Because so so so many people give up when they argue. Like commitment doesn’t exist. I’m glad I’m not that way.

Shouldn't that be 24/7/52?

Funny and sad and true all in one.

Thats terrible. Like when you arent your best friends best friend :(

Yeah. I hate the trope in sitcoms where the husband buys a very expensive item (usually a car) without consulting his wife. It might be his money but now you are a team and this thungs should be spoken.