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This post is strictly for guys, and we may just spill a few well-kept secrets, so be warned.
Okay, now that everyone else has left and only guys are here, feel free to kick back, relax, and crack open a cold one. We've got a post just for you. The subreddit r/TrollYChromosome is only for guys, and the motto is, "Quality Reddit dudes sharing quality Reddit wisdom."
You might find funny situations, laugh, relate, and in general get a grasp of what it's like to live in this world with chromosome Y. For it is not only women that have issues, men deal with double standards, societal pressures to be masculine and their own daily struggles.
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#1
Resist
Great And Holy Pangolin 1 year ago (edited)
Dear men. It is manly to read books. It is manly to wear cute clothes. It is manly to care for your kids. It is manly to relax sometimes. It is manly to do housework. It is manly to love yourself. It is manly to cry, to feel, to BE human. Allow yourself that, please. You have my permission to be human. And if you don’t want it to be manly, it doesn’t have to be. It can be a multitude of things because manliness doesn’t define you. YOU define you. That’s kind of your whole job.
What does it mean to be a man in today's world? It's a simple question with no simple answer. What is masculinity and what does it mean to men? Many people would say that it means men being aggressive, oppressing women, dropping sexist comments... Very few people actually dig into the topic and think deeply about what masculinity actually is.
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#2
A Lot Of Kids I've Seen Act Way Mature Than Actual Adults
Ranger Kanootsen 1 year ago
Yeah... I'm s**t at handling rejection. I just run away and eat pizza.
#3
Girls Are Always Taught How To Stay Safe, It's Not As Common To Teach Boys, And I Feel Like We Have Lots Of Young Men Here (Xpost Trollxchrosomes
General Anaesthesia 1 year ago
The old "when a girl says no she's *playing* hard to get" toxic mythe.
David D. Gilmore tried to find an answer in his book “Manhood in the Making." He examined cultures around the world and found some universal principles of what it meant to be a man. "Gilmore’s main finding was that no matter what culture or society he surveyed, there were always three clear, distinctive, and universal principles common to all men. They are the basic ingredients of the masculinity cocktail, no matter where you go."
#4
A True Man Stands For Justice
#5
Exactly
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
I'm straight and I like to do my hair and wear markup. I also look smashing in a black miniskirt. Does that make me gay? No it makes me sexy AF.
Oskar vanZandt 1 year ago
You rock your miniskirt and I'll rock my kilt 😁
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John Harrison 1 year ago (edited)
For those of us that grew up in the 60s through the 90s, growing out of "gay = bad" was a long journey. I probably used "gay" as a slur as recently a 2014. EDIT: Just realized I need to clarify this. "Slur" might have been the wrong word. I've never called a gay person a slur in my life. What I meant was, my friend did something like beat me at a video game, and while we were both laughing about it I called him a "f*g" or something like that. A "joking insult" is what I meant.
My O My 1 year ago
True. It was just a thing you would say. And I'm a 90s kid
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Tracy Wallick 1 year ago
Can we stop treatining feminine/"girly" things like they're inherently bad? Maybe then calling men girly wouldn't be an insult.
LokisLilButterknife 1 year ago
I could not agree more Tracy. I never understood why anything stereotypically feminine is seen as an insult. I hate the whole, "You run like a girl" type of c**p. Like, what the heck is that even supposed to mean?
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GirlFriday 1 year ago
My brother is gay and he played Division 1 football in the Big 10. He is extremely rugged and enjoys hunting, fishing, woodworking, and building things. He is probably the least "feminine" man I know, and he is married to a wonderful man, and they have two children together and are the best fathers.
A-c Van Binsbergen 1 year ago
and also being feminine is ok, man or woman, gay or straight or else.
RandomEpiBioPerson 1 year ago
I agree with this completely. I kinda hate that it seems like almost every gay side character in a TV show or movie seems to be basically the same character who is super fem. Kipo on Netflix did a GREAT job with their gay character. I'm a gay male, and it's been a little bit of a touchy subject for me, in the past, because in high school, there was only one other out guy in the school, but he had a bunch of purses, primarily wore clothing from a women's clothing store, and wore flashy colorful makeup, then told me I was just saying I was gay for attention just because I typically dressed in cargo shorts (the big pockets let me carry multiple books around XD) and a T-shirt, and also was in multiple sports. However, I also played multiple instruments, and did musical theatre, because I just did what I liked. I also was with a group of theatre people in college and no one would believe I was gay, even after I showed them a picture of me kissing my partner of the time. The stereotypes are so annoying sometimes.
RandomEpiBioPerson 1 year ago
My current partner is a little older than me, and he actually told me once that he used to act way more feminine and was uncomfortable doing so, but did it because he thought that's how he had to act to be gay. The stereotypes are harmful in many ways.
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k1ddkanuck 1 year ago (edited)
I'm gay and have never been particularly feminine. Quite the opposite. I'm more masculine than a lot of my straight guy friends. It's not something I try to do, it just is. The number of times people have literally told me I must be bi or am just confused, as a grown a*s man, still astounds me. The other one I love (/s) is "You're gay?! OMG I would have NEVER guessed! You seem so straight!" like... oh, I'm so sorry, I forgot to wear my queer name tag and matching feather boa today, excuse me for the confusion. The number of people (of varying sexualities and gender identities, but especially straight cis people) that seem to think gender and sexuality means fitting into neat, comfortable boxes so people can "tell" who you are from a mile away seriously makes my blood boil. I'm not going to try to "act more gay" because it makes you comfortable with MY sexuality. Just like super effeminate gays don't need to act more straight. We are who we are, whether you find us to be fabulous or not.
Michael Largey 1 year ago (edited)
The problem is what people label "feminine" - and "masculine". Sewing a button on your shirt is not feminine. Replacing the oil in your car is not masculine. Both are merely expressions of self-reliance. (And cheaper than having someone else do it.)
michael Chock 1 year ago
People think I am gay because I am polite and respect people for who they are.
ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago
Allow that to benefit you regardless of how you identity. People think I’m straight sometimes and it’s usually to my benefit. Why not let someone’s ignorance give you an upper hand?
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Colin Matthews 1 year ago
And conversely if boys are masculine type boys, don’t try and make them effeminate, just be cool with who they are
ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago
Exactly!!! We need better words and phrasology to describe rougher more physical behaviors and soft, more caressing behaviors, without using the gender construct or sexuality. Professor Neil and a lot of his colleagues, who study, unhealthy, masculine/feminine behaviors, have a lot to say about this. I cannot say enough about how incredible his videos are.
Load More Replies... eame 1 year ago
Please stop making boys feel like being gay makes them feminine. This is a very misogynist tactic to force boys into a box. Not every male who is gay is feminine, and not every male who is feminine is gay. Stop with the negative stereotypes... WAIT. Why is being feminine or being gay a negative? How can it be a negative when IT'S A POSITIVE TO BE GAY OR FEMININE, and misogynist and homophobic to suggest otherwise.
Lee Banks 1 year ago
My super masculine buddy (40's married) just came out as gay. Initially only told me and my boyfriend. My dude just asked if he still wanted to talk cars, or was that a front. Still loves cars. Okeedokee. They hugged bigger than I've ever seen them, and we all had a nice cry.
Tobias Reaper 1 year ago
my best friend convinced me to do a face mask and you know what i loved it
Stephanie Barr 1 year ago
Yes! And, as women, we need to do this, too. Men are individuals and should be comfortable being themselves.
The Amazing Fluffernaut 1 year ago
"People are people, so why should it be?" Why should it be that any person must fall into any category, or stay in it forever?
ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago
Ya, Kevin Sorbo!!! Knock this manly man c**p off because it’s weak and gross. A few of my closest straight friends became friends because I had asked them out in the past. In the 80s/90s it was so pervasive that feminine men automatically equalled gay men that I was actually shooting my shot because of it. And made some great straight friends in the process. Which doesn’t really help them from being boxed in, but worth it.
The Original Bruno 1 year ago
Also: Talking about how wonderful homosexuality is is literally the worst possible way of making a heterosexual boy feel better about some attribute about himself that's been called feminine. Maybe that makes a gay kid feel better (I'm gonna suppose you still have to try harder), not him. You're trying to make him feel better by reinforcing the bullies.
#6
Levar Burton Is Such An Awesome Person
The ingredients according to The Authentic Man magazine are:
- Protect your loved ones
- Provide for your family
- Initiate the connections with females/reproduce
#7
Pls Stop
#8
As A Tall Guy Myself, I Want To High-Five This Troll
Jared Robinson 1 year ago
Lol this man got a business card to tell you just how hard you can go f**k off.
#9
I Like It Here. Keep Smiling Guys
The main reasons for these duties were that men were stronger and more expendable. The Authentic Man online magazine argues that, "The number of women directly correlated with a species’ ability to survive. A single female could carry, bear, and nurture only a limited number of children, whereas a few men were enough to conceive all of them. Put simply, the womb was more valuable than the sperm. Men were the ones who had to engage in dangerous tasks like hunting mammoths or beating up rival tribes."
#10
Meirl
#11
Saw This Post And Thought Of This Sub, If You Want I Can Delete This
#12
For All My Fruity Drink Loving Trolls, Including My Hubby
Times change, but many of these duties are still attributed to men. A lot of boys when growing up were taught to just "suck it up" when dealing with difficult times. It was not acceptable to cry, share emotions or in general be "weak." It is quite sad when you think about it... not to be given the same platform to feel out your emotions as women, but rather try to always "be strong".
#13
Remember This
#14
Same Bro
#15
Work Title:
The outcome of this was many men being silent when having troubles, not expressing their feelings and trying to always act tough. It is a recipe for disaster with outcomes like mental health issues, bad communication in relationships, depression, etc.
#16
Wholesome Bernie
#17
Support Your Homies, Remember Your Worth
#18
>:-(
Luckily, times are changing and with today's fast-moving world, men are finally seen as a whole person, not just the strong ones to always lean on. Men are more open and free to express their fears, desires and bad feelings. We are shifting into a place where vulnerability and authenticity are celebrated, with strength being considered being able to openly communicate what's inside.
#19
It's True
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
Toxic masculinity hurts everyone, including men. It's called "toxic" for a reason.
#20
Last Week I Asked Her To Marry Me
Great And Holy Pangolin 1 year ago
I love the message that although Thor was going through a ton of grief and guilt, despite the fact that he’d been dealing with depression and subsequently weight gain, he was still worthy.
#21
On A Scale From Y To 10 How Is This Bad?
Hopefully this means better mental health, relationships with family and men being able to show their softer and creative side. Keep scrolling to have a laugh, relate, and get a grasp of what it's like to be a man in today's world. Feel free to upvote your favorite posts.
#22
Boom
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
Never understood this. I used to sub for an exgf who was a dom at playshows. I'm OK being seen seen in public but NOT OK being recorded and posted on the web. Most places like that make you check your phone at the door these days.
#23
It Ain't Gay
#24
Damn I Really Wonder Why
Little Wonder 1 year ago
There's a ute (pick up truck) someone drives around here with a big bumpersticker on the back that says "It ain't weak to speak" and I love it so much.
#25
A Familiar Struggle
#26
Why Is This So Accurate?
#27
Dressing How You Like
#28
I'm An Oblivious Boy
#29
Didnt Know Whether This Belonged Or Not
#30
When Life Starts To Get Better
#31
When Did You Learn To Pilot?
Great And Holy Pangolin 1 year ago
I’ve always lived under the philosophy of ‘if they don’t like the real you when you reveal it in meeting them, they wouldn’t like the real you when you reveal it after being friends for a while’. It’s worth just being yourself as and when you meet someone, rather than waste the energy on someone who eventually won’t like you.
#32
How Dare You, Sir!
Ranger Kanootsen 1 year ago
Well I'm rubbish at tinkering so I don't even know what that means.
#33
Sometimes That’s How It Is
Ranger Kanootsen 1 year ago (edited)
This would be me but I look like beef stroganoff so... Edit: Seems a lot of you actually really like beef stroganoff! I'm flattered!!
#34
He Be Spittin Straight Facts Doe, I Know This Was Made With Mematic
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Great And Holy Pangolin 1 year ago
Right, bois, bros, men, listen to me right now. After reading this, you will get up and you will get a drink of water. This is non-negotiable. I will mangle your pre-frontal cortexes. While you’re up, find a mirror and appreciate yourself. I must say, your eyes are beautiful. That is not a lie, and not a general term directed to all the men reading this. That compliment is directed to you and you alone. Accept it. Now take a moment to contemplate the fall of humanity before returning to what you were doing before. Thank you. And to my grls, sis, women, give your bois a compliment. It doesn’t have to be anything drastic.
Steph 1 year ago
Nicest post I‘ve seen on BP in many months! Thank you! 🙏🏻❤️
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Little Wonder 1 year ago
I just want to say one of the bravest and hardest things to do is ask for help, so if you're a man reading this feeling like you can't ask for help - you need to know that. you need to know it's so hard, but worth it. Society is BS. Get the help you need, live a better life. Take care!
Colin Leamon 1 year ago
Funny and accurate. I'm very happy in my skin and font give a c**p about what people think of me...says bloke not in a relationship. Ah, the irony
Leo Domitrix 1 year ago
Males of the human species, if you need a cry? I got two shoulders, no waiting, and no judging. You need an honorary sis, auntie, whatever, I got you. Your role is what you decide, not what some sociologist or magazine does. Or a neighbor or relative, for that matter. You don't need to be lonely while not alone in the world.
Brainmas 1 year ago
Fellas, I hope you start complementing each other. Ladies, express appreciation for your dudes. I complement my hubby and other guys and I know well, but rarely male strangers specifically because I don't want them to think I'm interested just because they have a cool shirt or nice hair. Then comes the potential rejection which can sometimes go sideways, so there's an element of fear. It's not that I don't want to tell you your eyes are really pretty, it's just that I have weighed the potential consequences.
Unstable_Artist 1 year ago
If you respond to this I will give you a personalized compliment, but I’m not giving them for free. In return you have to try to have a good day.
Great And Holy Pangolin 1 year ago
Right, bois, bros, men, listen to me right now. After reading this, you will get up and you will get a drink of water. This is non-negotiable. I will mangle your pre-frontal cortexes. While you’re up, find a mirror and appreciate yourself. I must say, your eyes are beautiful. That is not a lie, and not a general term directed to all the men reading this. That compliment is directed to you and you alone. Accept it. Now take a moment to contemplate the fall of humanity before returning to what you were doing before. Thank you. And to my grls, sis, women, give your bois a compliment. It doesn’t have to be anything drastic.
Steph 1 year ago
Nicest post I‘ve seen on BP in many months! Thank you! 🙏🏻❤️
Load More Replies... Little Wonder 1 year ago
I just want to say one of the bravest and hardest things to do is ask for help, so if you're a man reading this feeling like you can't ask for help - you need to know that. you need to know it's so hard, but worth it. Society is BS. Get the help you need, live a better life. Take care!
Colin Leamon 1 year ago
Funny and accurate. I'm very happy in my skin and font give a c**p about what people think of me...says bloke not in a relationship. Ah, the irony
Leo Domitrix 1 year ago
Males of the human species, if you need a cry? I got two shoulders, no waiting, and no judging. You need an honorary sis, auntie, whatever, I got you. Your role is what you decide, not what some sociologist or magazine does. Or a neighbor or relative, for that matter. You don't need to be lonely while not alone in the world.
Brainmas 1 year ago
Fellas, I hope you start complementing each other. Ladies, express appreciation for your dudes. I complement my hubby and other guys and I know well, but rarely male strangers specifically because I don't want them to think I'm interested just because they have a cool shirt or nice hair. Then comes the potential rejection which can sometimes go sideways, so there's an element of fear. It's not that I don't want to tell you your eyes are really pretty, it's just that I have weighed the potential consequences.
Unstable_Artist 1 year ago
If you respond to this I will give you a personalized compliment, but I’m not giving them for free. In return you have to try to have a good day.
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