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Guy Saves A Girl From A Creep By Pretending To Know Her And This Situation Illustrates A Big Problem
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Guy Saves A Girl From A Creep By Pretending To Know Her And This Situation Illustrates A Big Problem

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It’s not just the Internet where creepy guys approach women. But online, women can just ignore or block them. Turn off the computer and walk away. In real life, however, their options are way more limited.

Recently, Brandon Robert spotted a young woman hit on by an overly-persistent man at the mall.  “What drew my attention was other people watching this girl talking to this guy,” he told Bored Panda.

“My first impression of the girl was that she was very fearful. She was a smaller girl and the man that was harassing her was much bigger. She seemed very uncomfortable,” Brandon explained.

“You could see the man was clearly under the influence and just by looking at the girl’s face you could tell she was terribly uncomfortable.”

Brandon observed the situation and made eye contact with her a few times. Then, he decided to intervene, pretending to know the woman—she knew Brandon had been watching and listening to what the man was saying to her and realized he was trying to get her out of the situation.

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    Recently, TikToker Brandon Robert spotted a woman hit on by an overly-persistent man who he said appeared to be intoxicated or on drugs

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    So Brandon intervened

    @thebrandonrobertShe was so thankful 🥺🥺♬ original sound – Brandon Robert

    He caught the situation on video and uploaded it to TikTok, where the video now has over 33 million views

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    “After I pretended to know the girl I walked her out of the shop we were in and then walked her out to the car in case he decided to follow.” Luckily, he didn’t and that was the end of that.

    Surprisingly, there hasn’t been an empirical study of “creepiness” for quite some time. The first one appeared in 2016 when an international sample of 1341 individuals responded to an online survey. Males were perceived as being more likely to be creepy than females, and females were more likely to associate sexual threat with creepiness. Unusual nonverbal behavior and characteristics associated with unpredictability were also predictors of creepiness, as were some occupations and hobbies. The results are consistent with the hypothesis that being “creeped out” is an evolved adaptive emotional response to ambiguity about the presence of a threat that enables us to maintain vigilance during times of uncertainty.

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    “I wasn’t sure about posting this video as social media loves to glamorize life and this video surely showed the darker side of what actually goes on,” Brandon said

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    “I’m glad I posted it as it seemed to open many eyes across social media”

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    Frank T. McAndrew Ph.D., the author of the study and the Cornelia H. Dudley Professor of Psychology at Knox College, said the results make sense because if getting creeped out is a reaction to a potential threat, men are simply more physically dangerous to men and to women alike.

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    “Women almost universally reported the feeling that the guy in question had some sort of sexual interest in them, and this was not perceived as harmless or flattering,” McAndrew explained. “The fact that women are simply at greater risk for sexual assault and that the costs of this are potentially greater for them means that they must be especially vigilant about sexual threats, and hence, they are more likely to fear that a guy may not be just a creep, but a pervert as well.”

    People have been praising Brandon for taking action

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    McAndrew said that the words “creep” and “pervert” are often used interchangeably, but he makes a distinction between them.

    “Guys can be creepy for a variety of reasons that are unrelated to sexuality, but I propose that a pervert is a creep who sets off alarm bells because he poses some sort of sexual threat,” he explained his thoughts on the subject. “In other words, a pervert has sex on his mind—and it is probably sex that is unusual, deviant, and possibly dangerous.”

    Some wondered why he decided to record the encounter in the first place, but these comments seem to perfectly explain it

    According to the academic, because of creeps, average men seeking a new romance with a woman always face the problem of expressing interest in her while not crossing the line. Just not on the same level.

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    “Some men are at greater risk than others in such situations. Good-looking men with strong social skills can typically get away with a lot more than awkward guys with unusual and less attractive physical traits.”

    Good thing we have men like Brandon restoring the balance.

    The TikTok inspired women to share similar unpleasant and downright frightening experiences they’ve had

    Luckily, Brandon isn’t the only one who steps in when something like this is happening

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    Iapetos
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More like a lesson for all people! Don't look away when there's someone in need of help.

    Bobert Robertson
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Downvote me, but I'm a skeptic when it comes to the authenticity of this.. maybe I'm wrong, but so many "influencers" fake this sort of thing all the time.

    Mary
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if it is fake, it sets a good example. And makes a point to not just walk away when you see someone in distress. So fake or not, it is still good :)

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    Sleazy Weaver
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not to be a douche, but a loooot of influencers script this sort of thing for the ego boost & free advertising from sites like BP. I'm not saying it's definitely fake, but I have a hard time believing it. Also, keep your damn mask on while talking to people! Cover your nose & mouth at all times! That's why the masks exist in the first place!

    Doggo Froggo
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was wondering when someone would say that! Thank you - there is a PANDEMIC on, after all.

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    Sheila Stamey
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I taught my daughter and sons, not only to be very aware of their surroundings for themselves, but to be willing and able WITH A PLAN, just as this young man did, to aid another, male or female. It's happened. My youngest did a different kind of rescue just the other day when a truck caught on fire at the intersection across from the repair shop where he works. He had the skills and a plan. My daughter has helped others in this situation and so have both my sons. Women are sometimes afraid to make a "fuss" until unfortunately it often too late. I am a woman, it's scary how fast a situation can escalate beyond your control before you can get help. Even if it is a pretend, and I don't think so, take the lesson.

    David Retsler
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely! I see so many people focusing on their phones when they're in public and are completely clueless about their environs. There's a word for these people- 'target." ALWAYS be aware of your surroundings. Not saying you need to be paranoid, just be aware. When walking, keep your head up and make eye contact with people as they approach. Don't stare, just look at their eyes, make contact and then move your eyes to the next person. Use reflections in windows to see who's behind you. You don't need to see everyone as a threat. Just be cognizant of the fact there is a small percentage of the population who will want to harm or steal from you if given the opportunity. Don't give it to them. Being aware of them and letting them KNOW you are aware of them will prevent 90+% of any targeting activity according to my FBI agent daughter.

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    Bad Mole
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've had ladies grab me at clubs and hurriedly whisper "Be my boyfriend for a minute" and we slid our arms around each others waists. Up comes creepy guy, sees us together and walks away looking disappointed. I'm happy to help, but I still find it sad guys will respect another guy before the woman they were focused on.

    Doggo Froggo
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    3 years ago

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    Leo Domitrix
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Big problem for a lot of women is that we're taught ot be polite even if we tell a creep to go to he**. OK, I wasn't taught to be polite about it, but... My friends were, and I know many women younger than us who are afraid to be forceful, b/c they won't be "nice". Yeah, well, I'd rather be a live bitc*, thanks. HELP EACH OTHER! BTW, if a guy looks super uncomfy with a person, please help HIM, too. Thanks, peace, etc.

    Martin Schulz
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Im gonna show this to my wingman. Thats a good "rescuing from a creep" tactic.

    Gabi
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly, when I find myself in such a stituation, I yell, I make a scene, I calk the security guy, I speak out loud to people. Not because I was taught so or any such reason. I just so creep out and am so disgusted that I couldn't give a damn about anything. I get loud, very loud. It hworks.

    David Retsler
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely 100%. Women have been "taught" (I prefer "programmed") to be quiet, go along, defer to the male, not make a scene. This contributes to why they are targeted so often. They are programmed to be docile and an easy target. Don't be. Scream, yell, act in the opposite manner to which you've been taught. This will give YOU the upper hand in the engagement because 1) you ARE drawing attention, 2) you are showing you're not an easy target, and 3) you're making the clown nervous because they didn't expect you to react this way and they are forced to adjust to you instead of you to them. (All learned from my FBI agent daughter.)

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    N G
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG, that last example is frickin terrifying! We've got to do more to educate boys that this behaviour is unacceptable in society.

    Lxm
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to be a bar manager for a long time. Sadly, I've lost count of how many times I've been involved in similar interventions, smuggling people out staff entrances sometimes. Worst yet not once did we get it wrong which makes me wonder how many times we missed someone needing help. I've also been on the receiving end of help.

    Madison Lam
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Um, good intentions I suppose, but did he REALLY have to film the whole thing though?

    Louloubelle
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this was real, which some of you don't think it is, it's good he did record it. What if it had escalated to something bad? Like the creep punching the good guy? Or the woman? I have a son that we've had this discussion. He would definitely do this. But at the same time, I have daughters, who also would do this. What makes me sad is that: 1. There are creeps out there that require my son, or your son to be the knight in shining armor. 2. That women need to have someone protect them. I had a father that had three daughters and taught us that we had power if we could take care of ourselves. He taught us to change tires and oil on our cars. Taught some basic car repair so we would not have to rely on someone. He also taught us about being aware of our environments. And he told us never be embarrassed to speak up and out if you feel threatened. Too many women in my generation were worried about "making a scene", or hurting someone's feelings.

    Sleazy Weaver
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If he was filming for evidence purposes, he would've subtlely focused the camera on the other guy, not himself, & he likely wouldn't have posted it on social media. Also, he would have stopped recording once the confrontation was over instead of purposefully showing himself getting complimented/thanked by the woman. Even if the situation was real, the filming was only to give himself a pat on the back & get everyone else on the internet to pat him too.

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    Fiona Buoninfante
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its so funny i think almost all women have had this experience at least once in our lives and it's true what some other comment here said, we "don't want to make a fuss" Im a 41 yr old female RN who lives in ct and works in nyc, My late dad was in the nypd and kind of taught me to be really careful and streetsmart as possible, i grew up in ny and this has only happened to me like a couple of times in my life where it was a "i feel unsafe" moment but u never forget it. The manhattan streets you cannot avoid people and most are fine but occasionally u get the "creep" The benefit to a crowded st like manhattan is you almost always will get someone who intervenes, man or women. I have never felt more unsafe then when i walk down an empty st, safety is def in numbers.

    Fiona Buoninfante
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Creepy is a feeling, a bad feeling you get about someones attention toyou whether its looking talking even touching in a inappropriate manner Men are kind of designed to sort of constantly scan the females around them even if the man is in a very loving relationship. My 90s feminist self cringes but i appreciate science and its true that men evolved to "prowl" and succeed with spreading his seed so to speak and give him a better chance of passing his genes on. Women dont normally have that instinct as strongly with men. Im generalizing greatly of course but if you are a man, doing ur thing and encounter a girl and flirt and the like you are not a creep. Thats normal we see it a lot and can handle it. Respond positively if you are looking for a mate or politely state or show you decline to pursue this further. (For ex wedding ring) The creep is the guy who is told "No" by us and comes on even stronger, the creep in a group of guys can usually be spotted right away :-)

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    Requiem
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guys have been doing this for years, Im going on 42 and have spent my 20s doing it.

    Iggy
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it is genuine, did the woman agree to having her dreadful experience uploaded on TikTok? If not, then that is also creepy (in a different way) and disrespectful.

    Kim Lorton
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The main problem is, now creepy guys seeing this, may use this trick snd have nasty intentions! We really need to learn some self defense so we can take care of ourselves, then walk up to someone and the girl pretend like shes been waiting for them i don't know. But i have always been one to protect myself because my dad told me what to do. The best one is, to suddenly talk in a very loud voice and say stop following me! Or yell FIRE ! And go to a safe place. Biggest, be aware of where you are, and identify the authority figures, and don't walk into dark places if someone is eyeing you or bothering you. Have someone walk you to your car. Above all Be Aware!

    K.
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    3 years ago

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    Liz the Wanderer
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    IF he's an influencer, he may never have actually done something for a stranger without expecting reward. Jerk or not, he did the right thing. He's clearly a young guy, hopefully he will inspire other young guys to THINK about this situation and do the right thing.

    Doctor Strange
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why r u filming this tho. This is nice but like "I see someone being harassed let me whip out my tiktok"

    Rainbow Panda
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lend a hand. You may find yourself one day needing a hand. ❤️

    Cip IESAN
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I did the same for a new office colleague at our newspaper, after a similar situation with two other mates (their were drunk, it was a party at our headquarter), telling them we have an affair, and after that we spent our lives together for 6 years...

    bookshellf
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's good to see that even during this pandemic, there are people are aware and intervening enough to care.

    Lacey Heward
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This has happened to me before. Especially at dance clubs. I use a wheelchair and guys think they can just come up and straddle me!! Like they are giving me a lap dance or something. Yuck!! There is a whole host of fetishes that have to do with women with disabilities. We even have a support group to avoid creeps that stock us online. I'm a full on feminist, and still believe men can be hero's by standing up for us like this man did. Women for women too! A woman could have stepped in too and said let's get out of here. It's not even that hard to pretend you know someone. There's no confrontation or harm done, and yet it is an incredible kindness. I do wonder if and when the harassment will ever end.

    Raven
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This made my heart smile. Everybody could learn from this dude.

    Lord Mysticlaw
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a nice guy. I was in a similar situation once and I kept desperately looking round for someone to help me. Lots of people were staring, nobody tried to do a thing. It was horrible to be a woman alone, being harrassed by two drunk men, and knowing nobody had any desire to help me while I was clearly terrified.

    K.
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m glad you’re okay now. What and how did you diffuse the situation?

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    Liz the Wanderer
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have done this more than once when I was younger and spent time in bars. Why is there always some drunk sleazebag that wants to drag you home??

    Mystery Egg
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a lovely young man! Thank flip there are men out there with decency because sadly, there are way too many men out there without any!

    foo i am
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Instead of _only_ teaching women/men how to escape or how to help - we need to learn men NOT TO HARASS OTHER PEOPLE. This should be a shameful behaviour and tought in school and in family. This is the real pandemic.

    foo i am
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why are men such assholes? Before you give me the "not all men" or "women rape too" - Just stop. The proportions are so skewed.

    InfectedVoice
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mum told me this when I was a young lad, good on this dude, I hope the creep got locked up and beat.

    Heike
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Isn't that a pretty common thing to do? I mean everyone would do like this and probably people intervene countless times each day. I don't understand what that guy wants to tell me (and I don't understand why he takes a photo with a car...)..

    Curry on...
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This a great story, but I'd like to add another possible outcome based on a real life experience. I was on my way home from work and had just gotten off the bus. It was dark. A shadowy figure zipped by me and snatched my purse. At first I was just shocked and stood there. Seconds. I ran a few doors down to an opened dry cleaners. While I was telling the clerk what had happened and asking to use the phone, a man came in. He exclaimed that he saw what happened, that he saw where the guy went. He was animated and excited and had a 'helpful' air about him. I still wasn't thinking too straight, but out of the corner of my eye, I saw the clerk shaking his head, as in, 'don't do it.' I didn't go. The guy hurried out of the store and jumped into a car that had about four men in it. There's just no telling what would have happened to me if I had followed him. Looking back, I think perhaps he and the purse snatcher were working together.

    Niall Mac Iomera
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Meanwhile, at a pub I tried to I form a woman that she might be sitting in a spilled drink be so I had sat there only a few minutes ago and my pants were soaked in beer. She recoiled in horror because how dare a man try to chat to her in a public venue :s

    Allan Breum
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Plot twist: The dude hired the other dude (creepy guy) to hit on women, so he could act the hero... I am kidding of course, but I wouldn't be surprised if that actually happens.

    Mad Mar
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    See something. Say something. An if at least do something. You never know. You can save someone.

    Jonathan
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm pretty sure this is a set-up for a video to go viral. Disagree if you wish but I just have my suspicions. Plus why do younger generations feel the need to film and document eveything they do for social media clout?

    TakingThePee
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was stood at a bar once and there was a guy trying to hit on the girl next to me, she seemed to be handling it. Next thing I know the Kiwi security guy (this was in Kingston, London) had collared him and told him to get out. What I hadn't seen was that he was stroking her, he and his mates kicked off a bit, so I stepped in too (I'm bigger than the Kiwi) and they voluntarily left. Ladies, we're not all monsters and if something like this makes you feel uncomfortable tell someone, bar staff, passengers on a train, just kick off at the offender, someone will always step in, male or female.

    Anna McHugh
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That last one on the list - like WTF? I'd be calling the cops

    Eduardo Pereira
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, OK, but keep your mask on all the time! Over mouth AND nose! You want to save her, not to make her sick

    MyPrecious
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    some people have said It may be fake, it could be but I think its real.

    BoredRaccoon
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just don’t think you should record it. Stand up for women because it’s the right thing to do, not because you want to be praised for your “wokeness” on tiktok.

    Colin Mochrie At Its Finest
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel this was staged but, if perfectly done, can work. I have heard of it. I would be afraid someone wouldn't go along with it, or the other person was their accomplice playing a good guy. Or is not an accomplice but a creep nonetheless.

    Zophra
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She could have just said "okay... not interested, but thank you" and if necessary, "get the F=ck away from me." Might not need a man to rescue you ...

    Liz the Wanderer
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Drunk scum doesn't accept "no thanks". A man who bought me a drink once followed me out of a bar one night raving that I owed him sex because he bought my drink.

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    Cara Kelly
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cool, video yourself to show how valiant you are and pull your mask down ffs

    Sleazy Weaver
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure why you're getting downvoted, I think I audibly said ffs when I saw him pull down his mask too! It may not be cool to point it out but there's still a pandemic going on & removing one's mask to speak is worse than walking around silently without one.

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    Lee Crane
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    3 years ago

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    Of all the "influencers" he is the fakest, very little of what he posts is real.....however it's exactly how someone should act if they see someone in trouble so more instructional than a hero at work imo

    Garrincha
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    3 years ago

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    I wouldn't say anything in case the woman starts on me. Last week I politely asked a woman riding a bike to get lights as she was wearing all black in the dark with no lights or reflectors so I could barely see her on the road. After I told her, she got angry and started shouting at me😂 last time I help a woman I thought to myself

    Rosie Hamilton
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That has nothing to do with this kind of thing or gender. She was being foolish but if you had said the same to a man doing the same thing I expect you would have got exactly the same response. Don't create connections that don't exist or blame it on 'women' when that is an issue with personality.

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    Iapetos
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More like a lesson for all people! Don't look away when there's someone in need of help.

    Bobert Robertson
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Downvote me, but I'm a skeptic when it comes to the authenticity of this.. maybe I'm wrong, but so many "influencers" fake this sort of thing all the time.

    Mary
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if it is fake, it sets a good example. And makes a point to not just walk away when you see someone in distress. So fake or not, it is still good :)

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    Sleazy Weaver
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not to be a douche, but a loooot of influencers script this sort of thing for the ego boost & free advertising from sites like BP. I'm not saying it's definitely fake, but I have a hard time believing it. Also, keep your damn mask on while talking to people! Cover your nose & mouth at all times! That's why the masks exist in the first place!

    Doggo Froggo
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was wondering when someone would say that! Thank you - there is a PANDEMIC on, after all.

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    Sheila Stamey
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I taught my daughter and sons, not only to be very aware of their surroundings for themselves, but to be willing and able WITH A PLAN, just as this young man did, to aid another, male or female. It's happened. My youngest did a different kind of rescue just the other day when a truck caught on fire at the intersection across from the repair shop where he works. He had the skills and a plan. My daughter has helped others in this situation and so have both my sons. Women are sometimes afraid to make a "fuss" until unfortunately it often too late. I am a woman, it's scary how fast a situation can escalate beyond your control before you can get help. Even if it is a pretend, and I don't think so, take the lesson.

    David Retsler
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely! I see so many people focusing on their phones when they're in public and are completely clueless about their environs. There's a word for these people- 'target." ALWAYS be aware of your surroundings. Not saying you need to be paranoid, just be aware. When walking, keep your head up and make eye contact with people as they approach. Don't stare, just look at their eyes, make contact and then move your eyes to the next person. Use reflections in windows to see who's behind you. You don't need to see everyone as a threat. Just be cognizant of the fact there is a small percentage of the population who will want to harm or steal from you if given the opportunity. Don't give it to them. Being aware of them and letting them KNOW you are aware of them will prevent 90+% of any targeting activity according to my FBI agent daughter.

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    Bad Mole
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've had ladies grab me at clubs and hurriedly whisper "Be my boyfriend for a minute" and we slid our arms around each others waists. Up comes creepy guy, sees us together and walks away looking disappointed. I'm happy to help, but I still find it sad guys will respect another guy before the woman they were focused on.

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    Leo Domitrix
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Big problem for a lot of women is that we're taught ot be polite even if we tell a creep to go to he**. OK, I wasn't taught to be polite about it, but... My friends were, and I know many women younger than us who are afraid to be forceful, b/c they won't be "nice". Yeah, well, I'd rather be a live bitc*, thanks. HELP EACH OTHER! BTW, if a guy looks super uncomfy with a person, please help HIM, too. Thanks, peace, etc.

    Martin Schulz
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Im gonna show this to my wingman. Thats a good "rescuing from a creep" tactic.

    Gabi
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly, when I find myself in such a stituation, I yell, I make a scene, I calk the security guy, I speak out loud to people. Not because I was taught so or any such reason. I just so creep out and am so disgusted that I couldn't give a damn about anything. I get loud, very loud. It hworks.

    David Retsler
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely 100%. Women have been "taught" (I prefer "programmed") to be quiet, go along, defer to the male, not make a scene. This contributes to why they are targeted so often. They are programmed to be docile and an easy target. Don't be. Scream, yell, act in the opposite manner to which you've been taught. This will give YOU the upper hand in the engagement because 1) you ARE drawing attention, 2) you are showing you're not an easy target, and 3) you're making the clown nervous because they didn't expect you to react this way and they are forced to adjust to you instead of you to them. (All learned from my FBI agent daughter.)

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    N G
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG, that last example is frickin terrifying! We've got to do more to educate boys that this behaviour is unacceptable in society.

    Lxm
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to be a bar manager for a long time. Sadly, I've lost count of how many times I've been involved in similar interventions, smuggling people out staff entrances sometimes. Worst yet not once did we get it wrong which makes me wonder how many times we missed someone needing help. I've also been on the receiving end of help.

    Madison Lam
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Um, good intentions I suppose, but did he REALLY have to film the whole thing though?

    Louloubelle
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this was real, which some of you don't think it is, it's good he did record it. What if it had escalated to something bad? Like the creep punching the good guy? Or the woman? I have a son that we've had this discussion. He would definitely do this. But at the same time, I have daughters, who also would do this. What makes me sad is that: 1. There are creeps out there that require my son, or your son to be the knight in shining armor. 2. That women need to have someone protect them. I had a father that had three daughters and taught us that we had power if we could take care of ourselves. He taught us to change tires and oil on our cars. Taught some basic car repair so we would not have to rely on someone. He also taught us about being aware of our environments. And he told us never be embarrassed to speak up and out if you feel threatened. Too many women in my generation were worried about "making a scene", or hurting someone's feelings.

    Sleazy Weaver
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If he was filming for evidence purposes, he would've subtlely focused the camera on the other guy, not himself, & he likely wouldn't have posted it on social media. Also, he would have stopped recording once the confrontation was over instead of purposefully showing himself getting complimented/thanked by the woman. Even if the situation was real, the filming was only to give himself a pat on the back & get everyone else on the internet to pat him too.

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    Fiona Buoninfante
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its so funny i think almost all women have had this experience at least once in our lives and it's true what some other comment here said, we "don't want to make a fuss" Im a 41 yr old female RN who lives in ct and works in nyc, My late dad was in the nypd and kind of taught me to be really careful and streetsmart as possible, i grew up in ny and this has only happened to me like a couple of times in my life where it was a "i feel unsafe" moment but u never forget it. The manhattan streets you cannot avoid people and most are fine but occasionally u get the "creep" The benefit to a crowded st like manhattan is you almost always will get someone who intervenes, man or women. I have never felt more unsafe then when i walk down an empty st, safety is def in numbers.

    Fiona Buoninfante
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Creepy is a feeling, a bad feeling you get about someones attention toyou whether its looking talking even touching in a inappropriate manner Men are kind of designed to sort of constantly scan the females around them even if the man is in a very loving relationship. My 90s feminist self cringes but i appreciate science and its true that men evolved to "prowl" and succeed with spreading his seed so to speak and give him a better chance of passing his genes on. Women dont normally have that instinct as strongly with men. Im generalizing greatly of course but if you are a man, doing ur thing and encounter a girl and flirt and the like you are not a creep. Thats normal we see it a lot and can handle it. Respond positively if you are looking for a mate or politely state or show you decline to pursue this further. (For ex wedding ring) The creep is the guy who is told "No" by us and comes on even stronger, the creep in a group of guys can usually be spotted right away :-)

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    Requiem
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guys have been doing this for years, Im going on 42 and have spent my 20s doing it.

    Iggy
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it is genuine, did the woman agree to having her dreadful experience uploaded on TikTok? If not, then that is also creepy (in a different way) and disrespectful.

    Kim Lorton
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The main problem is, now creepy guys seeing this, may use this trick snd have nasty intentions! We really need to learn some self defense so we can take care of ourselves, then walk up to someone and the girl pretend like shes been waiting for them i don't know. But i have always been one to protect myself because my dad told me what to do. The best one is, to suddenly talk in a very loud voice and say stop following me! Or yell FIRE ! And go to a safe place. Biggest, be aware of where you are, and identify the authority figures, and don't walk into dark places if someone is eyeing you or bothering you. Have someone walk you to your car. Above all Be Aware!

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    Liz the Wanderer
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    IF he's an influencer, he may never have actually done something for a stranger without expecting reward. Jerk or not, he did the right thing. He's clearly a young guy, hopefully he will inspire other young guys to THINK about this situation and do the right thing.

    Doctor Strange
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why r u filming this tho. This is nice but like "I see someone being harassed let me whip out my tiktok"

    Rainbow Panda
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lend a hand. You may find yourself one day needing a hand. ❤️

    Cip IESAN
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I did the same for a new office colleague at our newspaper, after a similar situation with two other mates (their were drunk, it was a party at our headquarter), telling them we have an affair, and after that we spent our lives together for 6 years...

    bookshellf
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's good to see that even during this pandemic, there are people are aware and intervening enough to care.

    Lacey Heward
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This has happened to me before. Especially at dance clubs. I use a wheelchair and guys think they can just come up and straddle me!! Like they are giving me a lap dance or something. Yuck!! There is a whole host of fetishes that have to do with women with disabilities. We even have a support group to avoid creeps that stock us online. I'm a full on feminist, and still believe men can be hero's by standing up for us like this man did. Women for women too! A woman could have stepped in too and said let's get out of here. It's not even that hard to pretend you know someone. There's no confrontation or harm done, and yet it is an incredible kindness. I do wonder if and when the harassment will ever end.

    Raven
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This made my heart smile. Everybody could learn from this dude.

    Lord Mysticlaw
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a nice guy. I was in a similar situation once and I kept desperately looking round for someone to help me. Lots of people were staring, nobody tried to do a thing. It was horrible to be a woman alone, being harrassed by two drunk men, and knowing nobody had any desire to help me while I was clearly terrified.

    K.
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m glad you’re okay now. What and how did you diffuse the situation?

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    Liz the Wanderer
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have done this more than once when I was younger and spent time in bars. Why is there always some drunk sleazebag that wants to drag you home??

    Mystery Egg
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a lovely young man! Thank flip there are men out there with decency because sadly, there are way too many men out there without any!

    foo i am
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Instead of _only_ teaching women/men how to escape or how to help - we need to learn men NOT TO HARASS OTHER PEOPLE. This should be a shameful behaviour and tought in school and in family. This is the real pandemic.

    foo i am
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why are men such assholes? Before you give me the "not all men" or "women rape too" - Just stop. The proportions are so skewed.

    InfectedVoice
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mum told me this when I was a young lad, good on this dude, I hope the creep got locked up and beat.

    Heike
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Isn't that a pretty common thing to do? I mean everyone would do like this and probably people intervene countless times each day. I don't understand what that guy wants to tell me (and I don't understand why he takes a photo with a car...)..

    Curry on...
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This a great story, but I'd like to add another possible outcome based on a real life experience. I was on my way home from work and had just gotten off the bus. It was dark. A shadowy figure zipped by me and snatched my purse. At first I was just shocked and stood there. Seconds. I ran a few doors down to an opened dry cleaners. While I was telling the clerk what had happened and asking to use the phone, a man came in. He exclaimed that he saw what happened, that he saw where the guy went. He was animated and excited and had a 'helpful' air about him. I still wasn't thinking too straight, but out of the corner of my eye, I saw the clerk shaking his head, as in, 'don't do it.' I didn't go. The guy hurried out of the store and jumped into a car that had about four men in it. There's just no telling what would have happened to me if I had followed him. Looking back, I think perhaps he and the purse snatcher were working together.

    Niall Mac Iomera
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Meanwhile, at a pub I tried to I form a woman that she might be sitting in a spilled drink be so I had sat there only a few minutes ago and my pants were soaked in beer. She recoiled in horror because how dare a man try to chat to her in a public venue :s

    Allan Breum
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Plot twist: The dude hired the other dude (creepy guy) to hit on women, so he could act the hero... I am kidding of course, but I wouldn't be surprised if that actually happens.

    Mad Mar
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    See something. Say something. An if at least do something. You never know. You can save someone.

    Jonathan
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm pretty sure this is a set-up for a video to go viral. Disagree if you wish but I just have my suspicions. Plus why do younger generations feel the need to film and document eveything they do for social media clout?

    TakingThePee
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was stood at a bar once and there was a guy trying to hit on the girl next to me, she seemed to be handling it. Next thing I know the Kiwi security guy (this was in Kingston, London) had collared him and told him to get out. What I hadn't seen was that he was stroking her, he and his mates kicked off a bit, so I stepped in too (I'm bigger than the Kiwi) and they voluntarily left. Ladies, we're not all monsters and if something like this makes you feel uncomfortable tell someone, bar staff, passengers on a train, just kick off at the offender, someone will always step in, male or female.

    Anna McHugh
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That last one on the list - like WTF? I'd be calling the cops

    Eduardo Pereira
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, OK, but keep your mask on all the time! Over mouth AND nose! You want to save her, not to make her sick

    MyPrecious
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    some people have said It may be fake, it could be but I think its real.

    BoredRaccoon
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just don’t think you should record it. Stand up for women because it’s the right thing to do, not because you want to be praised for your “wokeness” on tiktok.

    Colin Mochrie At Its Finest
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel this was staged but, if perfectly done, can work. I have heard of it. I would be afraid someone wouldn't go along with it, or the other person was their accomplice playing a good guy. Or is not an accomplice but a creep nonetheless.

    Zophra
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She could have just said "okay... not interested, but thank you" and if necessary, "get the F=ck away from me." Might not need a man to rescue you ...

    Liz the Wanderer
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Drunk scum doesn't accept "no thanks". A man who bought me a drink once followed me out of a bar one night raving that I owed him sex because he bought my drink.

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    Cara Kelly
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cool, video yourself to show how valiant you are and pull your mask down ffs

    Sleazy Weaver
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure why you're getting downvoted, I think I audibly said ffs when I saw him pull down his mask too! It may not be cool to point it out but there's still a pandemic going on & removing one's mask to speak is worse than walking around silently without one.

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    Lee Crane
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    Of all the "influencers" he is the fakest, very little of what he posts is real.....however it's exactly how someone should act if they see someone in trouble so more instructional than a hero at work imo

    Garrincha
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    3 years ago

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    I wouldn't say anything in case the woman starts on me. Last week I politely asked a woman riding a bike to get lights as she was wearing all black in the dark with no lights or reflectors so I could barely see her on the road. After I told her, she got angry and started shouting at me😂 last time I help a woman I thought to myself

    Rosie Hamilton
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That has nothing to do with this kind of thing or gender. She was being foolish but if you had said the same to a man doing the same thing I expect you would have got exactly the same response. Don't create connections that don't exist or blame it on 'women' when that is an issue with personality.

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