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Wedding Guest Gets Bashed By The Bride For Allegedly Trying To ‘Upstage’ Her With Her Outfit
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Wedding Guest Gets Bashed By The Bride For Allegedly Trying To ‘Upstage’ Her With Her Outfit

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We all love wedding stories. For three main reasons. First, a wedding usually has a fairly standard plot, and we have a rough idea of where something might fail. Secondly, a wedding often brings together a whole crowd of people who barely know each other, with the aggravating factor of alcohol. Third… wait, what’s the third – after all, a wedding is a day for two!

So here’s some more wedding drama from the user u/CoachOk618, who, having come to the wedding of her old friend in an outfit approved by the bride herself long before the ceremony, suddenly got the stink eye not only from the bride, but from almost all the bridesmaids. So let’s get to reading…

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The author of the post is from India and it was her very first Western wedding, as she herself admits

Image credits: Terje Sollie (not the actual photo)

The groom was the woman’s friend, and she suggested she could put on a lovely greyish-white saree for the wedding

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Image credits: u/CoachOk618 (not the actual photo)

The groom approved this idea and the bride, having seen the pics of the outfit, said her ‘yes’ as well

Image credits: AMBADY KOLAZHIKKARAN (not the actual photo)

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Image credits: u/CoachOk618 (not the actual photo)

However, after showing up at the wedding, the guest got the stink eye both from the bride and the bridesmaids for allegedly stealing guests’ attention

The Original Poster (OP) originates from India, and this was her first Western wedding in her entire life, as she herself admits. This woman’s longtime friend, who has Indian roots too, got married, so when the question of a wedding outfit arose, the author had the idea to put on one wonderful greyish-white saree that she had.

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The groom said that this was a great idea, and the bride, having received pics of the outfit, also said that she had nothing against it. Moreover, “she’d be glad to have some ‘culture’ added to her wedding pictures,” the OP recalls. The author also says that she warned in advance that if the newlyweds-to-be considered her saree inappropriate, she would happily wear something else. But no, everything was just fine.

And now we’re doing a timeskip of five months – right to the wedding day. When the author of the post showed up at the reception after the wedding, it turned out that the bride changed into a gown that could be best described as greyish white, and it was the same fabric as the guest’s outfit. However, the difference was still quite large.

The groom, his relatives and mutual friends showered the OP with compliments, and the groom’s mother was especially pleased – after all, she was half-Indian, and she herself wore a beautiful saree to her son’s wedding. However, not everyone was delighted – both the bride and the bridesmaids gave the guest the stink eye, and one of the bridesmaids even tried to spill a drink on her.

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When it was time for wedding photos, the OP ‘thoughtlessly’ stood close to the newlyweds – and the bride did everything possible to distance herself from her. Well, when the bride threw her bouquet, one of her friends sarcastically remarked that the original poster already had enough attention to make this catch.

In other words, when the author of the post returned home, of course, upset, she still couldn’t understand what she had done wrong. Moreover, all her relatives and friends, whom she turned to for advice, also said that they didn’t see anything out of the ordinary in her appearance or behavior.

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“But I’m not surprised by this development of events. Firstly, any wedding is stressful, primarily for the bride, for whom this day becomes one of the most important in her life, and any annoying little thing can completely distress her,” says Irina Matveeva , a psychologist and certified NLP specialist from Ukraine, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment on this case. “Plus, this guest’s outfit was approved almost half a year before the wedding, so the bride could have completely forgotten about it.”

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“Well, and secondly, the guest was, apparently, a friend of the groom and, quite possibly, the bride was a little jealous of her. Moreover, all the groom’s relatives knew her well and showered her with compliments on her outfit. This could probably shake the bride’s self-confidence too. Which, however, doesn’t in the least give her and the bridesmaids any right to be so entitled here. I hope that the unpleasant aftertaste from this situation will soon disappear and relations between these women will return to normal,” Irina presumes.

But commenters to the original post – who, of course, fully supported the hapless wedding guest – believe that she was simply faced with ordinary human meanness. “You just met a school of mean girls. There is no telling what such people will get up to,” some person quite aptly wrote in the comments.

Some people in the comments also sincerely apologized to the original poster due to the fact that, apparently, this was her first encounter with entitled people at a Western wedding. “A lot of American brides really lose their minds on their wedding days. Apologies on behalf of my country,” one commenter wrote. However, the author replied: “Everyone who was nice to me was also an American. Barring this issue I did have a good time.”

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On the other hand, at weddings, not only brides, but also their relatives often lose their minds. For example, like these people who traveled over 1,000 miles across America only to crash a couple’s secret wedding, and of course, to ruin everything. However, if you have also witnessed some strange wedding cases, please feel free to share them in the comments below.

People in the comments claimed that the author simply ‘met a school of mean girls’ and assured her that she did nothing inappropriate here

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Oleg Tarasenko

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After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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Oleg Tarasenko

Oleg Tarasenko

Author, BoredPanda staff

After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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Mike F
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The countless stories like this one makes one want to decline virtually any invitations to weddings for fear of offending the "bridal party". Good Lord people are touchy.

Ken Beattie
Community Member
8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It makes me glad I'm a man. I don't think I've ever heard of a groom complaining about what a male guest is wearing.

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UpupaEpops
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I tend to think that the bride was originally ok with the outfit, and it was her gaggle of friends making a problem of it and turning the bride against her.

Cecil
Community Member
8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My thought exactly. Very unnecessary and in poor taste to treat a guest so poorly.

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Jeevesssssss
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh ffs. I live in a very culturally diverse and homogeneous area with a high proportion of desi (non-pejorative umbrella term for Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi, etc.) and Nepalese, many of whom wear traditional dress on a daily basis as well as to events. Seriously... if the OP wanted to upstage the bride, she would have *UPSTAGED* the bride by basically looking like a walking jewel with incredibly rich and beautiful colour and complementary jewellery. And, she okayed it *with the bride* in advance. I'm guessing OP looked great, and got (positive) attention because most of the guests weren't familiar with sarees and so there was curiosity and interest as well as admiration. So the bride had a snit.

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Mike F
Community Member
8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The countless stories like this one makes one want to decline virtually any invitations to weddings for fear of offending the "bridal party". Good Lord people are touchy.

Ken Beattie
Community Member
8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It makes me glad I'm a man. I don't think I've ever heard of a groom complaining about what a male guest is wearing.

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UpupaEpops
Community Member
8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I tend to think that the bride was originally ok with the outfit, and it was her gaggle of friends making a problem of it and turning the bride against her.

Cecil
Community Member
8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My thought exactly. Very unnecessary and in poor taste to treat a guest so poorly.

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Jeevesssssss
Community Member
8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh ffs. I live in a very culturally diverse and homogeneous area with a high proportion of desi (non-pejorative umbrella term for Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi, etc.) and Nepalese, many of whom wear traditional dress on a daily basis as well as to events. Seriously... if the OP wanted to upstage the bride, she would have *UPSTAGED* the bride by basically looking like a walking jewel with incredibly rich and beautiful colour and complementary jewellery. And, she okayed it *with the bride* in advance. I'm guessing OP looked great, and got (positive) attention because most of the guests weren't familiar with sarees and so there was curiosity and interest as well as admiration. So the bride had a snit.

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