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Retired Mom Refuses To Babysit Daughter’s Newborn For Free, Daughter Turns To The Internet For Support But Gets A Reality Check Instead
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Retired Mom Refuses To Babysit Daughter’s Newborn For Free, Daughter Turns To The Internet For Support But Gets A Reality Check Instead

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A 29-year-old woman and a mom to a newborn turned to the AITA community on Reddit for a moral judgment.

“I asked my mom to help me take care of my newborn so I could go back to work once my leave is up,” the Redditor who goes by the nickname erika_urrrika explained. She also added that her mom, who is 64, has been “a homemaker/stay-at-home-mom since 1992, and hasn’t been part of the workforce since then.”

The author saw it as a perfect plan since she had financial problems, including debts waiting to be covered as well as saving for a more spacious apartment for when the baby grows.

However, to the Redditor’s surprise, the mom refused to help her with raising her baby and now the author wonders if it’s too big of a thing to expect from her mom.

A 29-year-old woman asks if she was wrong to expect her homemaker mom to look after her newborn baby because she needs to get back to work

Image credits: Hollie Santos (not the actual photo)

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Image credits: Karolina Grabowska (not the actual photo)

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Many people thought that the author was wrong to expect her mom to look after her baby

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Liucija Adomaite

Liucija Adomaite

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Liucija Adomaite is a creative mind with years of experience in copywriting. She has a dynamic set of experiences from advertising, academia, and journalism. This time, she has set out on a journey to investigate the ways in which we communicate ideas on a large scale. Her current mission is to find a magic formula for how to make ideas, news, and other such things spread like a virus.

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Liucija Adomaite

Liucija Adomaite

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Liucija Adomaite is a creative mind with years of experience in copywriting. She has a dynamic set of experiences from advertising, academia, and journalism. This time, she has set out on a journey to investigate the ways in which we communicate ideas on a large scale. Her current mission is to find a magic formula for how to make ideas, news, and other such things spread like a virus.

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Austėja is a Photo Editor at Bored Panda with a BA in Photography.

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Fred L.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, if the mom living 15 minutes away has been there just once in 5 years they most likely haven't the warmest relationship.

Casey McAlister
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So she didn't discuss her plans with her mother before she had a child, and just assumed that her mom will just happily accept all unpaid childcare duties? The sheer audacity of this woman.

Weasel Wise
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And she and her mom don't seem all that close either. She lives 15 minutes away and has come to your house once in 5 years? And I'm sure she knew you were pregnant and, by the sounds of it, Mom never offered future sitting services in those 9 months. I think the OP is possibly dilutional.

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Deborah B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do you not plan childcare before you have the baby? Either you pay someone, or you or your partner stays home with the baby. If she's the high wage earner, then she and her partner need to work out whether it's more cost-effective for him to stay at home with the baby, or for them to pay for daycare.

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Fred L.
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, if the mom living 15 minutes away has been there just once in 5 years they most likely haven't the warmest relationship.

Casey McAlister
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So she didn't discuss her plans with her mother before she had a child, and just assumed that her mom will just happily accept all unpaid childcare duties? The sheer audacity of this woman.

Weasel Wise
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And she and her mom don't seem all that close either. She lives 15 minutes away and has come to your house once in 5 years? And I'm sure she knew you were pregnant and, by the sounds of it, Mom never offered future sitting services in those 9 months. I think the OP is possibly dilutional.

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Deborah B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do you not plan childcare before you have the baby? Either you pay someone, or you or your partner stays home with the baby. If she's the high wage earner, then she and her partner need to work out whether it's more cost-effective for him to stay at home with the baby, or for them to pay for daycare.

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