For the people who say he should know that Mormons don't drink alcohol. Guess what the Mormons should know that French cuisine uses allot of alcohol. Not really a valid argument you can't expect everybody to know everyone's dietary choices. It's not like people wear signs announcing there dietary choices. It's up to the individual to vet the food they consume. Defiantly not to blame. An apology is all that should be required. The cornerstone of Christianity is forgiveness.

I'd have recommended them to stay in France. Less crazy cults, better working situations, and their kids won't be shot at school by some lunatic one day. Seems like a 100% downgrade.

If I found out the neighborhood I just moved into had a bunch of Mormons I would be moving right back out. Good luck on them dealing with those religious extremists.

NTA. Honest mistake. As for trying to corrupt them... "Hey Rebecca, I think this French guy's spiked my gravy..,."

I knew that Mormons didn't drink. But I didn't know they were not allowed to have it in food, particularly since it is only in there for flavoring. It seems a little extreme to expect people who are unfamiliar with the religion to know that. These neighbors are wrong to assume bad motives here.

Odd to me that the neighbors would freak. Lifelong church member here, and we cook with wine and beer often. Once my sister-in-law thought it was hilarious that she got me to drink egg-nog flavored with rum. That was annoying because she was intentionally 'tricking' me into consuming alcohol, but it's not like my drinking it offended God or tainted my soul. Good on neighbors for showing up and helping out, but clarify your dietary preferences and lighten up.

I couldn't help laughing at this. A *lot* of the kids I grew up with in Idaho were Mormon, and they could be seriously hard drinkers. The LDS church and community are so riddled with odd restrictions and contradictions it is near impossible to wrap your head around most of them unless you grew up with it. (Not sorry I left them when I was 11 and never looked back).

If the neighbors lost their $#!~ about it, after he apologized and explained his ignorance, they were definitely TA. Honestly, it sounds like something that could be worked out with just talking over time. I love this mans defense of his wife (whom everyone apparently assumed was Mormon because she wanted to move there).

In Brazil if there's free food, you eat. Allergies are very rare here. I don't even know actual vegans because the very few ones got back to meat, eggs and stuff. My Mormon friend which lives in SLC right now is saying he even has wine and cognac at home for cooking

I don’t know anything about Mormons. But I do have dietary restrictions and it’s absolutely my responsibility to inform others of them but never to expect for others to bend to my needs. This neighborhood of people are buttholes.

Honestly, no way in HELL would I move fro. Europe to the US right now. And DEFINITELY not Utah. The wife said it was raising kids, then she is already indoctrinated because that is no place to raise well adjusted kids. If I was them and had the koney for that move, I would have suggested moving the parents TO Europe, but hard no on going to Utah. Its literally like living in a cult try to convert you. Definitely no place for kids or anyone with an alternative.

FOODS THAT CONTAIN ALCOHOL burger rolls – up to 1.28g per 100g (1.28% ABV) rye bread – up to 0.18g per 100g (0.18% ABV) banana (ripe) – up to 0.2g per 100g (0.2% ABV) Just leaving this here

It is the responsibility of the people with the dietary restrictions to ask for what they need. End of. Why would you ever even assume people would know to ASK if there’s something Mormons don’t eat? Very self involved of the guests to assume their preference is common knowledge.

The wife has lived in France since she was 21. I'm sure she didn't host a lot of grown up dinner parties before she moved. She can not be expected to know the intricacies of other peoples' religions. I have a 20 year old. You should see her face when I ask her any question that doesn't involve the pets. school, or her phone.

Geez. The wine cooks out. Oh well. Bullet dodged so they don't try to get you to join their cult. Lol

If I was moving to Utah I would do a bit of reading up on Mormonism, so that I didn’t inadvertently offend anyone. It’s common sense really. Being a major religion in that region and with the wife coming from Utah, perhaps it didn’t occur to the guests that the hosts didn’t know their customs and beliefs.

I didn't know Mormons weren't supposed to drink alcohol either. Then again, I live in Massachusetts, and only 0.004% of the population here is Mormon.

Why haven't the Grandparents considered moving to europe? I mean ... healthcare is more of an issue once you're old, and that, likely, is cheaper over here, no matter how sick and broken they are ... but anyway, the mormons should know about this, and this is NOT drinking alcohole, this is what I as an outspoken neverdrinker also accept and do - use alcohol in cooking, even exceeding wine in percentage and amount, and with less cooking time. So what? A little is left over. It's not that I'd offer such to a dry alcoholician, or to small children, so ... this is below relevance.

Alcohol evaporates at 110 degrees. So I doubt anything you cook would have any alcohol left in it. I am LDS and cook with wine from time to time. Usually, recipes with wine are above my skill level!

If you are invited for dinner, and YOU have allergies/restrictions, it is YOUR responsibility to inform the host. NTA. The mormons though...

The 'Peggies' from far cry 5 ? Just like them, they are only 1 step away from you being their enemy cos you don't believe the same as them...

I had heard about Mormons not drinking, and tithing their salary and whatnot, but I had a bunch of Utah Mormon friends I corresponded with in the late 90's, and half of them drank like fish. So I guess there are Mormons, and then there are MORMONS, if you know what I mean. In this case, NAH. The new neighbors did a really nice thing by helping OP move in, and he attempted to repay the favor by cooking them a really nice meal. Guessing he will have apologized and hopefully once ruffled feathers are smoothed over, they can carry on and maintain a good relationship.

My Mormon MIL makes the best rum cake.

No one is really at fault here. It was an innocent mistake on both parts. Neither parties should feel guilty.

NTA.

The adventists have even stricter dietary rules but would never have this reaction, The real problem here is the motivation - adventists try to advance the christian spirit beyond the bible's precept, while the mormons simply try to control the church members and themselves, fearing that even a mild stimulant would reveal their character and make them lose salvation, what shocked me about pretended overreacting christians was how nonchalantly they ate a dish called 'weeping lamb", when if not the image of Jesus, then at least the suffering of an innocent being should have kept them from this. I am miserably poor, i only have below 150 dollars per month provided by my parents (for as long as they would live), so when i found lamb steak in the fridge i couldn't afford to skip it. but i nearly cried afterwards.

This would be like inviting a bunch of Jewish people over and then being shocked they're upset you cooked with bacon grease, while you try to say you're a Southern chef, they should have expected it and said something beforehand. It is very widely known that Mormons don't do alcohol. It is one of the first associations people have when thinking about that religion. They likely assumed, from their clearly telling him they're Mormon, that he heard and understood they had religious dietary restrictions. He moved to friggin Utah. They make up over 60% of the population there. Again, this would be like moving to Israel, and not knowing anything about Judaism. They are most likely going to assume he did this maliciously, because who moves someplace without looking up anything at all?

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NTA but commenters keep "they should have mentioned their dietary restrictions!" but OP didn't move next to a singular family of Mormons. The vast majority of Utahns are LDS. No-alcohol is the rule, not the exception. This is like moving into a majority Hindu community and serving beef. You didn't know, you weren't trying to be mean, you didn't poison anyone. But people are going to be upset.

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Questions like "Am I an a-hole for feeding my guests something they are not allowed to eat but not allergic to" always make me think of that dude who fed his guests his own body fat. https://metro.co.uk/2007/01/15/artist-cooks-food-in-his-own-fat-564463/