YTA people want her to be mommy just because he is lazy... and admits it. be an adult and go to sleep earlier. HE is not supporting HER by prioritizing his gaming over her sleep. She works and goes to school and she is supposed to play mommy too?

I would choose regular good sleep over a relationship any day. I can't function without regular good sleep. A couple of days, I can manage. After that I just can't.

This is not that difficult. Dump him immediately and find an adult to date.

This is as ludicrous (and almost the same) as the one about the male who plays video games in the bathroom on his phone, misses dinner AFTER being told it's on the table, then blames the woman. YOU ARE AN ADULT. Take responsibility. [ .............. ] The easiest first step is place the alarm clock on the far side of the room. If you have to get out of the bed and can't easily hit snooze or off, you're less likely to fall asleep again.

How did he live before he met her? It is his responsibility to manage his ADHD.

What's this?? An article about a young woman whose man-baby boyfriend takes advantage of her, and wants her to mother him? But she's torn between her desire to respect herself and her love for him? And she neeeeeeds to hear the opinions of everyday people like you and me, because she just *wrings hands* doesn't know what to do?? ? ..... And I found this on Bored Panda, of all places, which RARELY, if EVER, runs articles like this?? *hand-over-mouth, well-I-NEVER shocked expression*

It seems like ADHD is the cause of everything these days. I struggle to wake in the mornings, and I don't have ADHD. So do many others. Stop making mental illnesses out like and excuse for everything not perfect about you.

OP is his GF, not his mommy. He's an adult: he should be able to find a solution to his problem by now, because it's a long-standing one, dating from before his GF's presence. So get your act together, make a plan, ask your GF to help you implement it, but you have to get the ball rolling. Your GF is not your mother; get a grip!

No bedroom door, and yet he stays up on his games/watching TV until late. Staying up late all the time - esp on work-weeks, is not only being an inconsiderate AH re: his GF, but won't help his issues. She's not his mum, and I'm glad to hear she says it has been resolved. She does, though, need to pull him up for keeping her awake, too. Eff off to the YTAers. I hope all the stupid/selfish shizz they defend, happens to them.

He "used" to get up on his own before they got together, according to her. He has simply allowed himself to get lazy, knowing she'll wake him up. I eventually had to allow my kids (ADD & ADHD) to be late for school and get in trouble for it a few times. Oldest (ADD, 30yo) still has some problems with it, especially when his toddlers have kept him up. Youngest now gets up at the crack of dawn regardless. He'll figure it out eventually

NTA. He is a 25 yo supposedly grown a*s man. He and his parents should have taken care of this a long time ago. My son had ADD and Tourettes Syndrome, he asked for an alarm clock when he was in middle school. He didn't always wake up or get up in the beginning and I made sure he was up and getting ready for school when I left for work. He is 32 now and leaves at 5 every morning for work and goes to bed around 9 every night to do it. He isn't a morning but he does it.

My daughter has ADHD. She's 7. An hour before she needs to be awake I wake her, hand her a mini snickers and her ADHD pill. She takes the medicine, eats the snack and goes back to sleep. It takes her 3 minutes. Then when I go to wake her up for the day she gets out of bed easily.

When I read this story I am always a little proud of the following generation. she reflected perfectly why she didn't want to be his mommy and enable him to find ideas himself. He otherwise apologized blaming her and found the reason why. Most older couples have a lot more of relationship experience and still aren't able to talk and find solutions like this. But no matter how old I am: I'd never get out of bed by alarm if the amount of sleep is less than 5 hours at least- so maybe it's not his adhd but a lack of sleeping routines too ?

Maybe his mommy should come over every morning and wake him up, cook breakfast, and get him dressed?! Definitely not the AH!

For others with ADHD and delayed sleep phase syndrome (DSPS), an ADHD service dog can help with this. This was the only thing I found to work consistently in the absence of the assistance of another adult. ADHD is a disability, and delayed sleep phase syndrome (DSPS) is a very difficult thing to live with in today's society, where school and jobs are arranged around sleep and wake cycles that are very incompatible to those with this disability.

Both of these people need to go to bed earlier. Doing that will help whatever wake up method they choose succeed.

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ADHD is a disability. It's not reasonable of him to demand she wake him or assume it's her responsibility, but she's an AH for being awake and deliberately refusing to help him. I know quite a few people who have/had ADHD, and in my case, multiple alarms, sunrise clocks, exercise, going to bed extra early, various sleep remedies and ADHD meds... NOTHING helped me wake up reliably, and I'm not alone in this. FYI, I've never been fired or laid off, but I've observed this happening to other people with this problem. ..... In no way is this a laziness issue, and it's ignorant and ableist to assume so.