The last comment was totally meaningless. Why would she be obliged to build a full, deep relationship with anyone who she met like 2 months ago and he is already so judgmental towards her? What sacrifices, he is almost a stranger? Sacrifices are made in long term, loving relationships not with 2 month barely there relationship with someone who calls you "dirty" and unhygienic because you have a cat you love. People just love to judge someone.

NTA. He definitely is. This is not compromise, this is him demanding you become someone else. I've had my cat for almost a decade. My partner of three years is NOT a cat person. She finds some things I do to/with my cat gross, will NEVER even consider doing them herself - but respects that I do. She accepts the cat as part of our lives, but keeps her own relationship with him to a level that suits her, without trying to change the way I am with him. She also respects certain things can't be changed with a cat - like him sleeping in bed with us, spreading fur everywhere etc. This is compromise, done respectfully both ways. Lose that controlling AH.

Screw Kyle. Kyle sucks. Cats>People

Some things are non negotiable like kitty owning the place. Every surface of that place has had a naked cat butt on it so why is he worried about a couple kisses and nuzzles?

Bye Kyle.

Tell Kyle to f**k off!

As a cat parent, I'd always choose my cat over any new people in my life, so I totally understand and support her decision. Luckily, my boyfriend adores our cat :-)

Animals are like children in the fact that they are use to schedules. If she all of sudden stop her nightly routine, the cat wouldn't understand and would be upset. I kiss my dog on the forehead every night and tell her good night before we go to sleep. She is so use to it that she lifts her head so I can kiss it. I agree that maybe she should date a cat man. I won't compromise with my dog. She'll be there until one of us goes 'home'. Partners, not so much.

I've said it before and I will say it again: your pet deserves your love. If a SO is uncomfortable with the pet, they can either get over it or decide it's not worth it. However, trying to control the animal/insisting you give it up/even straight up abusing it, those are all red flags in my book, and you should run. Those behaviors will eventually shift to you. Pets are part of the family, and they'll love you unconditionally.

I'm not sure this is a cat vs. boyfriend thing. In case he hates all animals....beware. This is probably no small matter.

Nta You can’t crate a cat, he is out of his mind.

Anyone who is saying the bf is NTA is an AH. So she kisses the cat on the head before bed?!?!? It's not like she is licking the cat. And you know what if she was and the cat didn't mind then fine let her live her life. I have a puppy who I have been with since the day she was born. I would be willing to make some concessions (like not having her in the bed) if I was dating someone who was allergic or something. But she is not an accessory... she is part of the family and I am not going to crate an animal who is not a danger to anyone because you are an AH. Now the toothbrush... I probably would get a new one but that's just me. However again it literally does not affect my life

She did the absolute best thing for everyone involved. Bye 'Kyle"!

Your cat will bring you more joy to every day than most people can and medically speaking will make you healthier via reduced stress and a more positive outlook.

Crumb is beautiful and Kyle sounds like a spoiled drama queen.

the toothbrush thing is pretty gross, but who DOESNT kiss their pet??? and the cat was there first too.

I find it hard to understand people who gasp and clutch their children to them in terror when my small, amiable dogs bimble up to them. I think a home full of different animals is a great way for kids to learn about life, death, responsibility and love. I wouldn’t have bothered with a partner who didn’t share my views, because it’s that important to me. The anti Crumb bf was a mistake from the start IMO.

The right person for you will love Crumb as much as you do. I would've done the same thing.

You should always keep your toothbrush in a drawer because toilet particles spray, and I wouldn't let my cat near my toothbrush, but I also kiss her little head and would never date anyone who thought she was disgusting.

Crumb sounds f*****g adorable and Kyle needs to be yeeted out the door.

Bye indeed.

???whats with all these people saying that kissing pets is gross?? its not like your licking them?? its just a smooch, get over it. its interesting how much you can tell who is a pet owner and who isn't, just based on how they responded to this

Lol punish a cat for head butting a tooth brush is he insane? Cat wouldn't understand at all. How is kissing your cat on the head unsanitary? Cats are extremely clean animals (except for their paws) getting rid of bf was right move

While I do think Kyle went overboard with the comments and seems insecure and jealous of a cat, I do have to agree that the toothbrush thing is a little too much for me too. I keep mine in a special box so not even the germs from the toilet can reach it when someone flushes the toilet with the lid up (I always put it down before flushing). But everyone is different, so you do you, if you like it that way, just don't expect for everyone to agree with you all the time.

My now husband made a comment about putting Cowboy my 15yo cat out and I told him he could go. He said he was only suggesting.

Idc who you are... you try to control me and tell.. no demand me to handle my animals differently to make you comfortable or try to control how much I'm allowed to love and spoil them and I'm not just going to kick you out but I'm going to punch you in the face. There isn't a person on this planet who I would choose over my animals. Not a single one. I wouldn't be alive if it wasn't for my animals, most of them wouldn't be alive if it wasn't for me.. they all came from horrible situations and although I didn't ask for any of them or "choose" any of them... they chose me and I wouldn't change a damn thing about it because they've made my life 10000% better. Kyle needs to go F**k himself. Also, his names Kyle... that should tell you everything you need to know. (Sorry to the nice Kyle's out there. I don't mean to diss you but every Kyle I know/have dated has been the biggest POS in the world) she's NTA.

I kiss my cat on the lips all the time and I’m fine lol I’d definitely choose animals over most people any day

What kind of father would that guy make? Babies and kids are way dirtier than a cat.

My cat has the run of the house. I kiss him, let him nap on my pillows, etc. The only thing I can't do is have him out at night. Around 3:00 a.m. he will demand that I wake up by pawing my face. I have a large laundry room and that is where he spends his nights. It may sound mean but when I ask him ih he's ready for "night-night" he runs in and jumps in his bed.

I think she'd be happier with an "animal person" - pets are such a big part of our lives.

So as far as this goes the only fault I found was that the girl didn't just say she will drop the head of her brush(higher end toothbrushes tend to be replaceable) into so isopropyl or Listerine. As far as the guy goes if these are health concerns he has then he should look elsewhere for a partner. If he feels he is so in danger health wise he should go see a vet and talk about toxoplasmosis. The thing is I grew up with hunting hounds. So the game we would eat would often punctured or in the cases of scrappier game mauled. After dressing the game we would cook and share it with the dogs. I had one who dropped a litter in on a jacket I left on the floor. Did I throw it out? No. I washed it and and made sure no stains, smells, or bits were left! Don't know why people act like oh noes it's been touched by ick gotta go buy a new one.

i have only had one cat in my life. it was a stray rescue when he was a tiny kitten found in the middle of a 4 lane highway. my ex was raised w/cats but i had never had cat and i had 3 big dogs at the time. also the little bugger bit and scratched me every time i tried to hold him. but, he stayed for 18 yrs, outliving the dogs was his best revenge. that being said, the bf needs to be rehomed asap. as for being unhygienic the only thing i don't like about cats is fact they use kitty box then walk on the counters. so, he was 'trained' to stay off them which means he eventually didn't do it when i was around but there was evidence that he did it anyway. cats are companions on their choice has they have no desire to be man's best friend - they don't want the responsibility.

Kill him… The bf not the cat

It is not the smartest thing to kiss your pets on the head, because they can carry germs, but f*ck it, I do it anyway.