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Folks Can’t Believe How Far This Lady Went For Attention By Purposely Miscarrying At Home

Folks Can’t Believe How Far This Lady Went For Attention By Purposely Miscarrying At Home

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Some people love attention but might not get it, while others are showered with it even when they don’t want it; that’s how ironic and unfair life really is. But how far would you go to get that attention, and would you be willing to deceive the ones that you love?

Well, the original poster’s (OP) girlfriend took things to a completely different level by inducing her own miscarriage just so she could get attention from her family. Her boyfriend was so stumped by her behavior that he suggested therapy, but when she refused, he just ended things!

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    Not everyone is fortunate enough to have parents that give them proper attention, and this might severely impact these people

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    The poster’s girlfriend always wanted a baby, so they were happy when she got pregnant and told their family, but she miscarried in her 9th week, which upset her

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    However, in a drawer, the poster found herbs that are used to induce a miscarriage, and when he confronted her about it, she admitted she did it but didn’t say why

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    When he persisted and asked her why, she finally revealed she did it for attention that she never received from her family, and that she also wanted to “experience” it

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    Fortunately, the herbs didn’t harm her, but the poster insisted that she go to therapy, which she initially agreed to but later refused

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    She kept telling her family and friends about the miscarriage and received condolences, while the poster was annoyed by how lightly she took it, so he broke up with her

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    Later, her mom told him that she had harmed herself and ended up in the hospital, so he told her parents the whole truth, as he really wanted her to get help

    In today’s story, Reddit user No_Situation_9708, tells us how extremely bizarrely his girlfriend acted and how her actions ended their relationship. She always wanted children but they never really planned for it; however, when she got pregnant, they were happy and started planning. 

    They rushed forward to share the happy news with their friends and family, but unfortunately, she miscarried at around 9 weeks, which was extremely upsetting for her. Being the good samaritan that he is, our poster tried his best to make her feel better, but the poor fellow was completely oblivious to the truth.

    For shortly, he found pennyroyal and mugwort in a drawer and confronted her about it, as these herbs are a homemade remedy used to induce a miscarriage. After much denial, she finally confessed that she had indeed used them to miscarry, but refused to tell him the reason why or even discuss it further. 

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    However, this didn’t stop her from telling her family and friends that she had miscarried and receiving condolences from them, leaving our poster questioning everything. In an update, he told us that he finally got sick of it and demanded she tell him the reason or he might just end things. 

    Well, after a lot of crying, she revealed that she had done it to get attention from her family, something she had never gotten before. This statement left the guy in complete shock as he didn’t know how to react.

    A study on the effects of early childhood deprivation found that kids who didn’t get enough attention were more likely to have poor executive function and self-regulation. This study also found that early neglect negatively impacted a child’s brain development. 

    It has also been observed that a lack of attention can have a negative effect on teenagers. They may feel neglected and unsupported, which can lead to mental health problems such as depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. It really makes you wonder whether this caused her actions, doesn’t it?

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    No matter how brutal the first part sounded, our guy was not even ready to hear what went down next. When he asked her why she didn’t get it done medically, but opted for herbs that might harm her, she replied that she wanted to “have the experience of having an actual miscarriage.”

    According to Healthline, “People who are emotionally neglected as children grow up to be adults who must deal with the consequences. Because their emotional needs weren’t validated as children, they may not know how to deal with their emotions when they occur.”

    Many folks wondered whether the lack of attention from her parents was the reason behind such behavior. Someone also commented that they came from a similar background and knew how deeply negligence from parents could impact a person’s mental health. OP also felt that she needed help, as many Redditors pointed out, and she agreed to go to therapy.

    However, he first took her to see a doctor, as netizens pointed out that the herbs are harmful, but luckily the doctor found out that she wasn’t harmed. After this, the woman went back on her word and refused to go to therapy claiming she would never again do what she did, and our poster was slowly losing his patience. 

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    While they were arguing, she also dismissed her actions as not “that big of a deal,” and this was probably the last straw for OP. He was annoyed that not only did she purposely miscarry the baby they had planned for, but she also harmed herself for no reason, and he could no longer trust her. The guy finally put his foot down and ended things with her, which resulted in her throwing a teary fit.

    Later, he found out from her parents that she had harmed herself physically, and fortunately, she was fine but still in the hospital. Many people suggested that the poster should definitely tell her parents as that was the only way to treat her and she needed help really badly. Well, he did end up telling them about it, and surprisingly for him, they believed him.

    That was quite a messy situation, wasn’t it? We just hope that the woman accepts going to therapy and gets the help that she needs, and that OP also finds the strength to overcome the experience. So, what did you think of the story? Let us know in the comments!

    Folks narrated that ending things was probably the right solution, and they agreed unanimously that she really needed help

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    Susie Elle
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What in the Munchausen-by-proxy? No all joking aside, this girl has serious issues and is in dire need of mental help.

    Libstak
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Munchausen is pretty accurate. She is unsafe to be involved with. She has the potential to harm others for likes and attention. If she became a mother she would harm the child,

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    Funhog
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I shudder to think what harm she might do to her baby, had it been born.. all in the name of attention.

    arthbach
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    and_a_touch_of_the_’tism, they both need therapy. She needs serious medical treatment and therapy, and he needs to talk to a professional about how his partner chose to become pregnant, and then kill their unborn baby just so she could feel what it is like, and be the centre of attention.

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    Kerry Borthwick
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just managed to survive a miscarriage at 12 weeks I nearly died I would do anything to have my babies back but to read she wanted that experience makes me feel sick I have PTSD from my miscarriage

    David L
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she was prepared to end a pregnancy for attention, what would she do to a baby/child for attention?

    Jeremy James
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yikes! That sounds like the behavior of someone with Munchausen syndrome.

    BrownEyedPanda
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly my thought. Worse, if the baby had been born, it would have been Munchaüsen Syndrome By-Proxy. That poor child wouldn't have survived the first three months of life.

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    Beef Brisket
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry, but as a person who had many miscarriages, anyone who would destroy her own baby (and HIS) just to get attention and sympathy and think it was no big deal is in such moral decay I would be repulsed by them forever.

    Penny Fan
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am always and forever pro-choice, for any reason including "I don't want a child right now". But this? Abortion for clicks? No. Just fcking no. She needs serious intervention, possibly for schizophrenia or similar but she is not his problem.

    AnaBanana
    Community Member
    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same. I will always support abortion, but this is just sick. She actively got pregnant planning to abort it! I get she is mentally unwell and hopefully she gets the help she needs, but there are so many women wanting a healthy pregnancy/baby that aren't able to have one and then there's people like her.

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    Mark Childers
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am so glad he ended it. She was clearly unstable, and she could have caused both of them real harm. It sounds like she's finally getting the help she needs. I hope he can move on. Going through something like that is traumatic.

    SheamusFanFrom1987
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fella, this woman is 5 and 9/10 cans short of a six-pack and if you had remained, only bad things are in your future. Miscarrying for the sake of attention??? With as much respect as I can muster: Are you just plain apesh*t nutso??? Obviously she'd refuse therapy but at least OP had the wherewithal to make sure her parents were in the loop and had them act accordingly. Therapy isn't a suggestion for her at this stage, it's a dire prerequisite... -_-"

    Donkey boi
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Met a girl like that in hospital. She kept eyeing me during group, so we ended up having a quick, erm... "hands on" introduction in the common room. After that she would do ANYHING to get attention from me. She ended up trying to cut another girls face because I'd said 'Hi'. Shortly after, she put herself in intensive care.

    CatWoman1014
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He did the right thing. He clearly tried to get her help and she refused, as she can since she’s an adult. It’s not worth the stress of having to deal with someone who refuses to get help.

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My boyfriend died from poisoning, please like me. I can see it now. Wew, lad. Glad he got out of there.

    TribbleThinking
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That was an unexpected but plausible plot twist, now that you've pointed it out!

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    painttheyellowsubgreen
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope he got some counseling for himself. He's going to think that he's okay now that she is gone and getting the help she needs because he focused so much on her. And in a few weeks it's going to slap him in the face and he isn't going to be okay

    Petra
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The poll is strange. Why is there not a "no" option? It's saying, "Either you agree or you have no opinion, those are your only options." So weird.

    Anony Mouse
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is this pro-life propaganda? Like who would believe someone would deliberately abort a baby to get attention? Either this is fake or this person is seriously mentally ill.

    AnaBanana
    Community Member
    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, it is possible. People will do anything for attention. Especially if they are mentally ill. There are women who hurt their own children for the same reason.

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    Sinclair
    Community Member
    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just wondering what kind of responses he would have gotten if he had dumped her for having cancer or a physical disability. That would have been stressful for him too, yet people villainize men who leave a LTR because the woman is physically ill. Mentally ill people are always the bad guys. I guess she should have just "gotten over" her illness and childhood neglect by exercising or thinking positvely.

    Key Lime
    Community Member
    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He needs to get therapy to deal with this. He's still thinking he has let her down and it will be hard for him to trust again.

    Kitty 🥀
    Community Member
    5 days ago

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    I couldn’t keep reading after he says in the beginning he found mugwort and penny-whatever in her drawer. An average man in his mid-20 can’t identify herbs like that! 😂 This is so so so fake and just rage bait. LOL, absolutely ridiculous.

    AnaBanana
    Community Member
    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He could have googled what it was if he found the herbs hidden and didn't know what they were. 🙄 Internet still exists FYI.

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    Susie Elle
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What in the Munchausen-by-proxy? No all joking aside, this girl has serious issues and is in dire need of mental help.

    Libstak
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Munchausen is pretty accurate. She is unsafe to be involved with. She has the potential to harm others for likes and attention. If she became a mother she would harm the child,

    Load More Replies...
    Funhog
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I shudder to think what harm she might do to her baby, had it been born.. all in the name of attention.

    arthbach
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    and_a_touch_of_the_’tism, they both need therapy. She needs serious medical treatment and therapy, and he needs to talk to a professional about how his partner chose to become pregnant, and then kill their unborn baby just so she could feel what it is like, and be the centre of attention.

    Load More Replies...
    Kerry Borthwick
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just managed to survive a miscarriage at 12 weeks I nearly died I would do anything to have my babies back but to read she wanted that experience makes me feel sick I have PTSD from my miscarriage

    David L
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she was prepared to end a pregnancy for attention, what would she do to a baby/child for attention?

    Jeremy James
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yikes! That sounds like the behavior of someone with Munchausen syndrome.

    BrownEyedPanda
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly my thought. Worse, if the baby had been born, it would have been Munchaüsen Syndrome By-Proxy. That poor child wouldn't have survived the first three months of life.

    Load More Replies...
    Beef Brisket
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry, but as a person who had many miscarriages, anyone who would destroy her own baby (and HIS) just to get attention and sympathy and think it was no big deal is in such moral decay I would be repulsed by them forever.

    Penny Fan
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am always and forever pro-choice, for any reason including "I don't want a child right now". But this? Abortion for clicks? No. Just fcking no. She needs serious intervention, possibly for schizophrenia or similar but she is not his problem.

    AnaBanana
    Community Member
    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same. I will always support abortion, but this is just sick. She actively got pregnant planning to abort it! I get she is mentally unwell and hopefully she gets the help she needs, but there are so many women wanting a healthy pregnancy/baby that aren't able to have one and then there's people like her.

    Load More Replies...
    Mark Childers
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am so glad he ended it. She was clearly unstable, and she could have caused both of them real harm. It sounds like she's finally getting the help she needs. I hope he can move on. Going through something like that is traumatic.

    SheamusFanFrom1987
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fella, this woman is 5 and 9/10 cans short of a six-pack and if you had remained, only bad things are in your future. Miscarrying for the sake of attention??? With as much respect as I can muster: Are you just plain apesh*t nutso??? Obviously she'd refuse therapy but at least OP had the wherewithal to make sure her parents were in the loop and had them act accordingly. Therapy isn't a suggestion for her at this stage, it's a dire prerequisite... -_-"

    Donkey boi
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Met a girl like that in hospital. She kept eyeing me during group, so we ended up having a quick, erm... "hands on" introduction in the common room. After that she would do ANYHING to get attention from me. She ended up trying to cut another girls face because I'd said 'Hi'. Shortly after, she put herself in intensive care.

    CatWoman1014
    Community Member
    6 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He did the right thing. He clearly tried to get her help and she refused, as she can since she’s an adult. It’s not worth the stress of having to deal with someone who refuses to get help.

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My boyfriend died from poisoning, please like me. I can see it now. Wew, lad. Glad he got out of there.

    TribbleThinking
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That was an unexpected but plausible plot twist, now that you've pointed it out!

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    painttheyellowsubgreen
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope he got some counseling for himself. He's going to think that he's okay now that she is gone and getting the help she needs because he focused so much on her. And in a few weeks it's going to slap him in the face and he isn't going to be okay

    Petra
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The poll is strange. Why is there not a "no" option? It's saying, "Either you agree or you have no opinion, those are your only options." So weird.

    Anony Mouse
    Community Member
    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is this pro-life propaganda? Like who would believe someone would deliberately abort a baby to get attention? Either this is fake or this person is seriously mentally ill.

    AnaBanana
    Community Member
    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, it is possible. People will do anything for attention. Especially if they are mentally ill. There are women who hurt their own children for the same reason.

    Load More Replies...
    Sinclair
    Community Member
    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just wondering what kind of responses he would have gotten if he had dumped her for having cancer or a physical disability. That would have been stressful for him too, yet people villainize men who leave a LTR because the woman is physically ill. Mentally ill people are always the bad guys. I guess she should have just "gotten over" her illness and childhood neglect by exercising or thinking positvely.

    Key Lime
    Community Member
    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He needs to get therapy to deal with this. He's still thinking he has let her down and it will be hard for him to trust again.

    Kitty 🥀
    Community Member
    5 days ago

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    I couldn’t keep reading after he says in the beginning he found mugwort and penny-whatever in her drawer. An average man in his mid-20 can’t identify herbs like that! 😂 This is so so so fake and just rage bait. LOL, absolutely ridiculous.

    AnaBanana
    Community Member
    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He could have googled what it was if he found the herbs hidden and didn't know what they were. 🙄 Internet still exists FYI.

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