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Woman Feels ‘Violated’ When A Man Uses A Gender Neutral Bathroom In Front Of Her
People in the U.S. have been arguing over gender-neutral public bathrooms for years – and opinions appear to still be split. Some people say that it makes them feel uncomfortable, while others say that it provides safety and inclusivity to all. Twitter user @MaryBear_ took to the platform to share her opinion and experience in a gender-inclusive bathroom and people in the comments had divided reactions.
The woman said that she was in the bathroom stall, and two men came in while she was on her way out and that their presence and use of the bathroom made her feel uncomfortable. Scroll down to read the story for yourself and share your opinion in the comments.
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A woman took to Twitter recently to share her complaints about a man in a gender-neutral bathroom
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While gender-segregated bathrooms seen as a standard today, they are actually a modern invention. Less than 300 years have passed since the first gendered bathrooms first appeared in Paris in 1739. In the U.S., the gender-specific bathrooms weren’t put into law until the ‘separate spheres’ social phenomenon of the late 1800s. This ideology stated that women should avoid public spaces and focus on the home.
People in the comments felt the OP missed the point of gender-neutral bathrooms altogether
Gender-neutral bathrooms provide equal rights to both non-gender conforming and gender-conforming people. For non-binary and trans people, they provide a safer zone and a more inclusive place to use the bathroom; and are safer for families with children, as parents are able to accompany their other-gender children to wash up. Beyond safety, gender-neutral bathrooms provide more access to people with disabilities who might have other-gender caregivers.
What do you think ?
Alex T. 6 years ago
This story is full of bull, sorry. It seems like the bathroom having no lock was the error that should have been fixed. It seens like the woman is trying to start a gender discussion that is absolutely not neccessary. Also the last comment is so accurate. I mean, she thanked the 2nd man for respecting her, yet it was a one stall bathroom and he was simply waiting. She has to adress the bathroom company about thr lock, THAT is the problem.
Doodlebug 6 years ago
I mean, the guy was kinda weird in that he didn't wait for the current occupant to exit the bathroom before doing his business, But that would have been just as weird if another woman had walked in and sat down to do her business. Human strangers don't generally bathroom that way in the west, right? So yeah, not really a gender issue so much as lock issue + a weirdo issue. Also if you're uncomfortable with the possibility of a stranger (or anyone) walking in on you in the bathroom, why would you choose to use one where the lock is broken in the first place?
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Artex Gorilla 6 years ago
If it's literally a toilet with a sink 1 ft away from it, basically a single person toilet, it doesn't matter what gender it's for, it's obviously for one person at a time only.
Artex Gorilla 6 years ago
The error is with the company who should have put a lock on the door.
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anarkzie 6 years ago
Yeah I had to read it a few times to get what the problem was, judging from the other comments a few other people don't get it either.
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Luis Milian 6 years ago
if it was a single toilet, it should have had a lock on it even if it was neutral bathroom. Man #1 should have waited due to the fact that it was a single toilet, Man #2 had no choice but wait cause there is a SINGLE toilet. either way single bathrooms should have locks, what if they were doing #2...
Tricia Evans 6 years ago
it said single STALL not single bathroom. A stall within the room means that multiple people can be in the room with you but there is only one stall.
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Andrea Benedict 6 years ago
Then don't use the gender neutral bathroom. I highly doubt there was no lock on the door or that this even happened. I suspect she just wanted her 15 minutes. If there was no lock, why the hell did she use it to begin with?
Bonnie Clyde 6 years ago
Yeah. If the issue was that SOMEONE barged into a single-use bathroom while she was still using it then it's got nothing to do with gender so why even mention it? The problem is the lack of lock on the door - not anything about men or bathroom gender assignments. If she as a woman - doesn't want to see male/male-presenting people in a bathroom environment then use the women's. As far as I can tell she decided to make this a gender issue without any real reason.
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Mark Lockett 6 years ago
How does a bathroom stall have no lock? This does not make sense. We all have "one-stall", gender-neutral bathrooms in our homes, but we have the sense to have locks on the doors so we can have a little privacy.
Michał Jastrzębski 6 years ago
single stall toilet, with also urinal = multiple PEOPLE can and will use it at once. If she has a problem with that, thats on her. Noone will wait to p**s their pants just because princess spawned.
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Isle_of_stressed_pilots 6 years ago
If it's one sink and one toilet without a stall, then it's obviously meant for one person and it's the company's fault for not having a lock. ALTHOUGH, if it's one toilet WITH a stall and one or more sinks meant for more than one person, THEN IT'S FOR EVERYONE. If you don't like a man going in there at the same time as you, then go to the woman's bathroom. No one is expected to wait until YOU ARE FINISHED WASHING YOUR HANDS until they can go in. stfu
SirPatTheCat 6 years ago
I am so confused about the structure of this bathroom and what happened ehh
Brooklynn H 6 years ago
Did no one else notice her comment about feeling "humble" for sharing the bathroom with white women? I think the whole thing is a troll.
Falcon 6 years ago
Honestly, this is what real SJWs are like. Probably not trolling at all. They compete for victim-hood. It gives them status in their community.
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Foxxy 6 years ago (edited)
So what I am gathering from the story is that it is a single unisex toilet cubicle and seems like the lock didn’t work or had no lock, which would be the fault of the establishment. So the guy entered the stall not realising it was occupied due to no lock, but he should have walked out as soon as he realised someone else was in there. Yes the man should have waited and shouldn’t have peed in front of her due to human decency. But her claim of “violation” is extreme to say the least.
Herb Coleman 6 years ago
If she was washing her hands then he probably wasn't "in front" of her (unless she turned around to look).
Load More Replies... Alex T. 6 years ago
This story is full of bull, sorry. It seems like the bathroom having no lock was the error that should have been fixed. It seens like the woman is trying to start a gender discussion that is absolutely not neccessary. Also the last comment is so accurate. I mean, she thanked the 2nd man for respecting her, yet it was a one stall bathroom and he was simply waiting. She has to adress the bathroom company about thr lock, THAT is the problem.
Doodlebug 6 years ago
I mean, the guy was kinda weird in that he didn't wait for the current occupant to exit the bathroom before doing his business, But that would have been just as weird if another woman had walked in and sat down to do her business. Human strangers don't generally bathroom that way in the west, right? So yeah, not really a gender issue so much as lock issue + a weirdo issue. Also if you're uncomfortable with the possibility of a stranger (or anyone) walking in on you in the bathroom, why would you choose to use one where the lock is broken in the first place?
Load More Replies... Artex Gorilla 6 years ago
If it's literally a toilet with a sink 1 ft away from it, basically a single person toilet, it doesn't matter what gender it's for, it's obviously for one person at a time only.
Artex Gorilla 6 years ago
The error is with the company who should have put a lock on the door.
Load More Replies... anarkzie 6 years ago
Yeah I had to read it a few times to get what the problem was, judging from the other comments a few other people don't get it either.
Load More Replies... Luis Milian 6 years ago
if it was a single toilet, it should have had a lock on it even if it was neutral bathroom. Man #1 should have waited due to the fact that it was a single toilet, Man #2 had no choice but wait cause there is a SINGLE toilet. either way single bathrooms should have locks, what if they were doing #2...
Tricia Evans 6 years ago
it said single STALL not single bathroom. A stall within the room means that multiple people can be in the room with you but there is only one stall.
Load More Replies... Andrea Benedict 6 years ago
Then don't use the gender neutral bathroom. I highly doubt there was no lock on the door or that this even happened. I suspect she just wanted her 15 minutes. If there was no lock, why the hell did she use it to begin with?
Bonnie Clyde 6 years ago
Yeah. If the issue was that SOMEONE barged into a single-use bathroom while she was still using it then it's got nothing to do with gender so why even mention it? The problem is the lack of lock on the door - not anything about men or bathroom gender assignments. If she as a woman - doesn't want to see male/male-presenting people in a bathroom environment then use the women's. As far as I can tell she decided to make this a gender issue without any real reason.
Load More Replies... Mark Lockett 6 years ago
How does a bathroom stall have no lock? This does not make sense. We all have "one-stall", gender-neutral bathrooms in our homes, but we have the sense to have locks on the doors so we can have a little privacy.
Michał Jastrzębski 6 years ago
single stall toilet, with also urinal = multiple PEOPLE can and will use it at once. If she has a problem with that, thats on her. Noone will wait to p**s their pants just because princess spawned.
Load More Replies... Isle_of_stressed_pilots 6 years ago
If it's one sink and one toilet without a stall, then it's obviously meant for one person and it's the company's fault for not having a lock. ALTHOUGH, if it's one toilet WITH a stall and one or more sinks meant for more than one person, THEN IT'S FOR EVERYONE. If you don't like a man going in there at the same time as you, then go to the woman's bathroom. No one is expected to wait until YOU ARE FINISHED WASHING YOUR HANDS until they can go in. stfu
SirPatTheCat 6 years ago
I am so confused about the structure of this bathroom and what happened ehh
Brooklynn H 6 years ago
Did no one else notice her comment about feeling "humble" for sharing the bathroom with white women? I think the whole thing is a troll.
Falcon 6 years ago
Honestly, this is what real SJWs are like. Probably not trolling at all. They compete for victim-hood. It gives them status in their community.
Load More Replies... Foxxy 6 years ago (edited)
So what I am gathering from the story is that it is a single unisex toilet cubicle and seems like the lock didn’t work or had no lock, which would be the fault of the establishment. So the guy entered the stall not realising it was occupied due to no lock, but he should have walked out as soon as he realised someone else was in there. Yes the man should have waited and shouldn’t have peed in front of her due to human decency. But her claim of “violation” is extreme to say the least.
Herb Coleman 6 years ago
If she was washing her hands then he probably wasn't "in front" of her (unless she turned around to look).
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