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Husband Suspects Wife Of Cheating With A Gay Friend, Sets Up Cameras To Prove It
There is just something special about the friendship between women and queer men. They form close relationships through intimate conversations, provide support, and make each other feel more confident in their skin.
Redditor McGhostShadow was one of Danielle’s gay friends for quite a while, and everything was going great. They did artistic things, tried new places, and met regularly at her house.
However, after she had a baby, her husband began to suspect them of cheating because his daughter didn’t look like him. Within six weeks, these accusations got so out of hand that the lives of those around them became a living hell.
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However, this husband wasn’t fond of his wife’s and his gay coworker’s friendship and even accused them of cheating
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Research highlights the positive qualities of straight women’s and gay men’s friendship
Admittedly, relationships between straight women and gay guys have been less researched compared to friendships between heterosexual people. However, in those rare instances where this unique bond was observed, studies underline its positive qualities.
One reason why such friendships work so well is that homosexual men tend to provide women with the kind of attention straight guys can’t. For example, women feel that queer males accept and cherish them more for their inner beauty than their appearance.
That said, females reported being overall more confident in their bodies than those who don’t have gay companions. They also admit having more honest and secure friendships than with straight individuals, male or female.
In addition, research shows that gay men cherish their straight girlfriends as well. One study found that they see their female friends as the main source of advice about their romantic relationships. Intrigued by this, Eric Russell, a researcher in social psychology, wanted to see if this bond is so unique because they can provide each other with honest, unbiased romantic advice.
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Women feel overall more comfortable with gay men, as they don’t have to worry about their sexual intentions
Since they aren’t competing for the same love interests and aren’t sexually attracted to each other, they have the space to develop a deeper bond and a sense of trust. During his research, Russell found that to be especially true when it comes to feedback about romantic affairs.
The study revealed that straight women considered the romantic recommendations of gay men to be significantly more reliable than those of straight individuals. Similarly, gay men found straight women more trustworthy when it comes to love life advice and even perceived them as significantly more helpful in finding a potential partner.
Russell told NBC News, “On average, I would say gay men and straight women probably trust each other around 20 percent more than other individuals.” He wasn’t surprised by the findings, but what he found interesting was that both parties were equally assured of each other.
Additionally, a more novel study in 2018 by Russell and his team found that women overall feel more comfortable interacting with gay versus straight men, largely because male sexual intentions are no longer a worry that women have to think about.
After their experiment, Russell concluded that “explicit knowledge of a man’s sexual preference not only increased a woman’s comfort with a gay man (vs. a straight man), but also affected the degree to which the women (particularly attractive ones) were willing to engage with the man on a more intimate level.”
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Libstak 1 year ago
Wow, so many lives blown up. Robert is so invested in this and so unhinged this has all the makings of a tragedy. Just his attitude to his baby having g red hair when mum is a redhead is bizarre. He thinks very little of his wife, her family to be so prideful about his own oh so powerful DNA.
Ms.GB 1 year ago
He's done a good job on alienating her from all her friends and family in one go.
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Per-Ole Sjuve 1 year ago
"And if you look to the left, ladies and gentlemen, we can behold the fragile male ego in all it's glory. Look how he inflates and grows in size when threatened by his scary shadow, and subsequently destroys his own habitat*
The Starsong Princess 1 year ago
Danielle is being abused. Burdening a woman with lots of kids so she is locked down financially is a classic abuser’s tactic. I do feel sorry for her but she isn’t ready to leave yet. It takes an average of seven attempts to leave an abuser. However, op and his friends need to get as far away from this toxic situation as possible. If Danielle ever leaves, they might want to help her but that day may never come.
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago
Exactly. Judging by this story, I think it is very probable, that he will soon abuse her physically. And I think at least her daughter is in danger too, as she looks so much like her mother. She will either get a wake up call one day or maybe go to her grave.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
While 2 party consent may not be required to record, sharing the videos is another story. Sounds like OP is in the US and most states have laws against distributing the recordings. Just a sad situation all around, clearly Robert is abusive and friends tried to help Danielle out of the bad situation but she alienated them for him. I hope OP has found a new job.
Lisa Barbeau 1 year ago
A lot of the consent laws pertain to audio so video without audio may not be a problem. There is also something about an expectation of privacy but I don’t remember all the details.
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and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 1 year ago
I feel bad for Danielle because she’s definitely been abused/gaslighted, but if she can’t see it, and refuses help, then you just need to get out.
Invisible Potato 1 year ago
what the f**k i just read, are the Straights okey? do you need help? reach to your gay friends, becase this is not okey, holy Ginger!
Full of Giggles 1 year ago
The sad thing about all this is if Danielle had been upfront about the cameras with her friends group, they probably would have told her she was in an abusive relationship and helped her leave Robert.
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago
Or not. Maybe they would have tried but SHE needs to want to leave him.
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Melissa Harris 1 year ago
That Robert guy is a classic abusive insecure narcissist. He should be fired for attempting to assult a co-worker on company property. The OP should threaten to sue his employer for allowing work place harassment. Unfortunately for Danielle, like make DV victims she's doubling down with her abuser instead of getting help and escaping. She's essentially a prisoner in her own home. She should have told the friends about the cameras and that they can't speak openly in her house. She's now complicit in spying and blackmailing her friends. The other women and OP should seek legal help to sue Robert abd Danielle for breach of confidence. Even if they didn't need permission to set up cameras I'm pretty sure they're required to inform you your being recorded.
Libstak 1 year ago
Wow, so many lives blown up. Robert is so invested in this and so unhinged this has all the makings of a tragedy. Just his attitude to his baby having g red hair when mum is a redhead is bizarre. He thinks very little of his wife, her family to be so prideful about his own oh so powerful DNA.
Ms.GB 1 year ago
He's done a good job on alienating her from all her friends and family in one go.
Load More Replies... Per-Ole Sjuve 1 year ago
"And if you look to the left, ladies and gentlemen, we can behold the fragile male ego in all it's glory. Look how he inflates and grows in size when threatened by his scary shadow, and subsequently destroys his own habitat*
The Starsong Princess 1 year ago
Danielle is being abused. Burdening a woman with lots of kids so she is locked down financially is a classic abuser’s tactic. I do feel sorry for her but she isn’t ready to leave yet. It takes an average of seven attempts to leave an abuser. However, op and his friends need to get as far away from this toxic situation as possible. If Danielle ever leaves, they might want to help her but that day may never come.
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago
Exactly. Judging by this story, I think it is very probable, that he will soon abuse her physically. And I think at least her daughter is in danger too, as she looks so much like her mother. She will either get a wake up call one day or maybe go to her grave.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
While 2 party consent may not be required to record, sharing the videos is another story. Sounds like OP is in the US and most states have laws against distributing the recordings. Just a sad situation all around, clearly Robert is abusive and friends tried to help Danielle out of the bad situation but she alienated them for him. I hope OP has found a new job.
Lisa Barbeau 1 year ago
A lot of the consent laws pertain to audio so video without audio may not be a problem. There is also something about an expectation of privacy but I don’t remember all the details.
Load More Replies... and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 1 year ago
I feel bad for Danielle because she’s definitely been abused/gaslighted, but if she can’t see it, and refuses help, then you just need to get out.
Invisible Potato 1 year ago
what the f**k i just read, are the Straights okey? do you need help? reach to your gay friends, becase this is not okey, holy Ginger!
Full of Giggles 1 year ago
The sad thing about all this is if Danielle had been upfront about the cameras with her friends group, they probably would have told her she was in an abusive relationship and helped her leave Robert.
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago
Or not. Maybe they would have tried but SHE needs to want to leave him.
Load More Replies... Melissa Harris 1 year ago
That Robert guy is a classic abusive insecure narcissist. He should be fired for attempting to assult a co-worker on company property. The OP should threaten to sue his employer for allowing work place harassment. Unfortunately for Danielle, like make DV victims she's doubling down with her abuser instead of getting help and escaping. She's essentially a prisoner in her own home. She should have told the friends about the cameras and that they can't speak openly in her house. She's now complicit in spying and blackmailing her friends. The other women and OP should seek legal help to sue Robert abd Danielle for breach of confidence. Even if they didn't need permission to set up cameras I'm pretty sure they're required to inform you your being recorded.
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