“That’s It, I’m Wedding Shaming”: 40 Times People Did Things So Messed Up, They Had To Be Shamed On This Online Group (New Pics)
Weddings are supposed to be magical and full of love. But it can be difficult to focus on celebrating your best friends when they’ve demanded that you cut your hair, pay $500 for a dress you’ll never wear again and stay absolutely silent during the reception.
It’s wedding season, pandas! So in honor of all of these joyous occasions, we’ve taken a trip to the Wedding Shaming subreddit to hear about some nuptial nightmares. Enjoy reading through these posts that might make you scared to ever attend a wedding again, and be sure to upvote the behavior that you find most egregious!
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Pregnant Sister Obviously Got Pregnant On Purpose To Ruin The Wedding
The world is not ready for a wedding and a pregnant lady at the same time
Greedy Ass Rude Bride. I’d Be Cancelling That Cheque Too
Just When You Think The Bridezilla Requests Can't Get Any More Ridiculous
We’re all familiar with the idea of a bridezilla or an entitled groom, but as it turns out, anyone at a wedding is capable of exhibiting terrible behavior. Guests may wear white gowns, groomsmen may make tasteless jokes, and wedding planners might send out lists of unreasonable requests to everyone attending. We’re all supposed to be on our best behavior at a wedding, but the Wedding Shaming subreddit makes it very clear that many people have a lot to learn about etiquette.
This subreddit, which is “a place to shame wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding party, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors” and more, has amassed an impressive 535k members since its inception in 2018. Common topics in the group include bride/groomzillas, “dressed like a bride,” monster-in-law, family drama, horrible vendors, tacky, greedy, rude guests, drunk as hell, foul friends, step-monster, terribly groomed and cringe. And as you'll soon find out, there are plenty of those waiting for you down below!
Moh Too Busy Texting To Watch The Ceremony
I Literally Can’t Wrap My Head Around This Being Legit. Absolutely Bananas!
"I want to be apart of your day" ...this must be one of the most beautiful Freudian typos I've seen
Mother Of The Bride. Bride’s Dress Also Had Bejeweled Top And Float Bottom
The photos on this list might make you start to associate weddings with absolute nightmares, rather than the joyous and loving celebrations they are intended to be, but the reality is that weddings often aren’t the picture perfect movie moments that we imagine them to be. Sure, the day might be absolutely wonderful and a great time. But 58% of couples say they were stressed on their special day, and 76% of newlyweds admit that, if they could have their wedding again, there would be things they would do differently. 28% even regret how much they spent on the celebration, which might not be surprising, considering the average wedding costs around $30,000.
It’s important for brides and grooms to understand that their wedding day may not actually be the happiest day of their lives or go perfectly according to plan, but that’s totally fine. In fact, having expectations that are too high might actually come back to bite you, if you feel pressure that the day must be flawless. Don’t have unreasonable expectations, don’t demand too much of your guests, and remember what the day is truly about: celebrating your love.
Had To Tell Mom She Can’t Wear This To My Wedding - Have Gotten Silent Treatment Since…
From A Wedding Group, Bride Is Mad Because No One Has Sent Gifts Yet
Bride Cancels Mua Because Mua Is Not Married And Has Kids. Bride Wants Deposit Back
Bwahahahahaha no oh lawd help me. Maybe I'm biased on this because I'm a hairstylist/mua. I totally understand some people just do not click regardless of talent. However, Bride knew the terms upon booking and signing a contract (I'm assuming because all of mine have to sign).
It’s interesting how weddings have turned from sacred celebrations of holy matrimony to events that spark family drama, create bridezillas and destroy friendships. There are so many stories of couples with expectations that are anywhere from unreasonable to outright offensive featured on this list, so we were curious where this behavior comes from. According to Madani, bride/groomzillas are often formed by the immense stress that comes with planning a wedding. There’s typically a lot of pressure put on their big day to be perfect, and with that can come unreasonable expectations. It’s hard to sweat the small stuff when you’re acutely aware of how much money the whole celebration is costing you and the fact that all of your friends and family members will be in attendance.
I Feel Like I’m Missing Something That Makes This Cute
I Have No Words For This… Absolutely Heartless
She DEFINITELY doesn't deserve a sweet friend like she has. That's so sad. I hope Karma is a guest at this wedding.
Family Wedding In India. The Groom’s Sisters Had Dresses, Makeup, Jewellery And Hair Done Similar To The Bride. The Only Difference Is Bride’s Red Wedding Bangles. That’s A Lot Even For Indian Customs!
Just because planning a wedding is stressful does not mean that brides and grooms can be excused for displaying inappropriate or outright rude behavior. For a previous Bored Panda article discussing breaches of wedding etiquette, we reached out to Los Angeles-based wedding planner Alexa Farese to hear her thoughts on bad behavior at weddings.
“I've seen it all, from guests wearing white (not cool!) to guests being so belligerently intoxicated they lock themselves in the bathroom and can't figure out how to open the door!” Alexa shared. “At one wedding, the groom became so intoxicated that he face-planted into the cake, breaking the dessert table on his way down!”
Bridezilla Is Angry Because Best Man's Pregnant Wife Is Due Around Bride's Wedding Day And We All Know That Best Man's Wife Deliberately Did That
No, No That's Not The Bride
Let's be real honest here: let that woman wear her horrifically fitted dress - all day. Trust me, you don't want that attention she is getting, especially for the reasons she is getting it. I'm not a swimsuit model, but I sure know how to dress for my body type and not showcase my pooch.
Bride Doesn't Feel Like Getting Married Any More Because *checks Notes* The Surprise Is Ruined
“Early on in my career, I was at a wedding where the bride's ex showed up with a group of his friends,” Alexa previously told Bored Panda. “They snuck in through the kitchen and started a fight with the bridal party! It was NUTS! Luckily, security put an end to the chaos quickly, but it was wildly inappropriate and took the spotlight off of the couple for the moment. Some of the less extreme and common faux-pas are showing up late, whispering (or outright talking) throughout the ceremony and/or speeches, and over indulging in the bar.”
Don’t You Dare Have A Heart Attack At My Wedding!
Some of these have to be satire! Right?? Please tell me they are! I don't want to believe people are this self centered. Who am I kidding? I know they are!!!
Mob Wants To Wear Old Wedding Dress, Her Ex Husband Will Be There With His New Wife
Oh this is so bad and a definite NOPE! Come on mom, you know better!
How Dare My 30yo Bridesmaid Have Some Grey Hair!!
I think my eyes are going to get stuck in the back of my head, like my mother used to tell me as a child when I rolled my eyes, before I make it through this list.
When it comes to what we should all be keeping in mind as far as wedding etiquette goes, Alexa says, “Weddings are meant to be a celebration of love and union - all guests and vendors should remember this! Arrive on time, smile big, be quiet through the ceremony and toasts, pay attention to special dances and moments, dance the night away, and always, always drink responsibly! As long as you show up ready to celebrate your loved ones' special day and stay committed to that mindset throughout the wedding, then you are doing it right!”
Only Some Of You Can Eat! Posted On Local Radio Page
You know you can have a wedding only with family and a few guests, don't you?
A Bridezilla Story From A Photography Group I'm In
Wow! What a selfish little child she was. Not your problem, good luck in the future.
Ah Yes. Someone Potentially Dying At Your Wedding Is A Much Better Idea Than Simply Not Having Seafood For One Day
For another previous article, we reached out to the founders of Bespoke Bride, Emily and Jessica, to hear why wedding planning is so challenging in the first place. “Planning a wedding is a complex process that involves lots of research, good and efficient communication and knowledge of project management,” the experts explained. “It involves a great deal of patience, problem-solving, time management, and people skills. Rather than trying to fit into what society deems a ‘wedding should be’ - a good wedding planner needs to focus on the special moments that define who the bride and groom are as a couple.”
This Is Not My Post- Jealous Fiancé
I Just Can’t With This, It’s So Bad
Not My Post: Bridezilla….honey Can You Absolutely Not. A Life Is Worth More Than Your Wedding
Someone hasn't realized that when you marry someone you usually become part of their family - or that perhaps her spouse is close to his grandmother and may need his wife for emotional support. You know.. those things that married people do.
I'll give her some slack for being stressed and not thinking, but only if she apologized later...
Yeah without knowing how close the guy is to his grandma I could see this being reasonable question. If the reply is "No I need to support him" then sucks, but she's gotta accept it.
Load More Replies...With that attitude, go support your husband. Death is a one time event. This bridezilla will probably have several other weddings.
I don't know who you are, because my friend wouldn't ask this of me. Stop texting me, stranger.
You'd want a person in semi-shock on your wedding, someone awaiting and dreading the next Messenger beep, telling her that the grandma is no more?
Her husband will be thrilled about the amount of support from his wife when things get tough.
“Planning a wedding can be extremely stressful, so be prepared and make sure you only take on what you can realistically achieve,” Emily and Jessica previously told Bored Panda. “If you have your heart set on DIY-ing the entire wedding but work full-time - forget about it. There is a good chance you will not have the time or energy to take on so much responsibility.”
It sounds like realistic expectations are a crucial part of throwing a successful wedding that won’t get you shamed on Reddit. So if you plan to tie the knot any time soon, keep this in mind, pandas!
The ‘Friend’ Thinks There Should Be An Age Limit On Wearing Wedding Dresses And Nanna Should Just Wear ‘A Nice Dress Or Skirt/Pants And A Top’
How Dare A Bridesmaid Have A Surgical Procedure Near Your Wedding Date, The Audacity
Bride Asking If This Is Too Much To Ask. 💀
We hope this list isn’t making you lose faith in love, pandas. If you’re planning on going to a wedding sometime soon, just make sure that the bride and groom don’t have any unreasonable requests, and I’m sure you’ll have a wonderful time filled with love, delicious food and dancing the night away. Keep upvoting the pics that you find most appalling, and let us know in the comments if you’ve ever been to a wedding that deserves a spot on this list. Then, if you’re interested in checking out even more photos from the Wedding Shaming subreddit, you can find Bored Panda’s last article featuring the group right here!
The Rant, The Comment From Her Moh, Oh My God
Update from Reddit: "OMG I'M IN THIS GROUP...but I didn't see the MOH comment! I mean, it's nice to have people interested in your wedding but genuinely, MOH has got her own life and OOP needs to get one. UPDATE: I went back to the post. There's a happy ending. MOH, a mere 43 minutes later in response to a comment asking if it was resolved: "I drove over, we got super high and are talking it through and now are eating snacks and watching movies 💕" Asked for her side: "not much too it she is right. I haven't been active, I haven't been texting much, and I haven't been chatty regarding the wedding. I have a bunch of personal stuff going on she was unaware of as I was stuggling to" So they had a happy ending communicate those things to her.. So am currently chatting with her about it and we are gonna get to a resolution
Well This Should Be Fun - Online Wedding Group Drama
Mlm Making It’s Way Around The Wedding Photographer Groups. Photog Was Blocked When She Declined
Screw John Legend, All Of Me Is *our* Song Only 😤
Not My Post:entitled Fiancé Wants Someone To Pay For Her Nails
This Stuff Bugs Me So Damned Much!!
My Mum's 'Friend' Had This Dress Especially Made To Wear To My Wedding
Bride Is Upset Her Sister’s Life Isn’t Revolving Around Her Wedding
Groom Party Had An Interesting Take On Attire
Bride Upset Friend Of Over 20 Years Is Having Wedding At The Same Venue A Year After Her…
At first I thought that they were within like a week or so of each other.
People Will Try To Sell Anything
Please No Judgement, I Cheated On My Fiancé
It's alright dear, just means you haven't made up your mind yet. Cancel the wedding, otherwise you make three people unhappy
Why Get Married If You Hate Your Spouse
for my wedding, my husband wore a bubble gum pink suit and I wore an almost glow-in-the-dark lime green suit and told everyone if they wanted to wear wedding dresses or suits they could, a few of them came in bride gowns and some came in a tux, and at the after party, we all put on the ragged clothes and had a huge food fight {hand made } after the food fight then the cake and actual edible food came out, It wasn't really a lot of money other then the cake and clothes, we have family that has land and are wealthy so we just used there place
This post made my day!! It sounds absolutely AMAZING!! An all-inclusive, unforgettable celebration of love and laughter! (And stress relief..Food Fight!!😀) I bet this was the funnest wedding ever!! Best wishes to you & your husband. You sound like wonderful people!! ❤️
Load More Replies...I remember my bro got engaged to his long term girlfriend in, I think, 2011. They emigrated to Australia from the UK several years previously. I started dating my now-wife in 2012. We'd been friends for about 4 years at that point. We got engaged in summer 2013 and set a date for the wedding in late spring 2014. My bro and his fiancee went all *shocked pikachu face* cos THEY were going to get married in 2014! I was like, dude you've been engaged for years - I actually want to get married pronto. In the end they got over it and my new wife and I had a lovely time at their wedding in Aus in 2015!
These people are hilarious. The world is dying, but they are busy getting ulcers from freaking out about the stupidest stuff. They provide good entertainment though. (Of course I feel bad for the people they’re actually hurting, proving they’re not the good friends or family they claim to be). I do hope they get treated exactly as seriously as they deserve to be.
I had the most chill wedding ever, and it was awesome. Me and my wife to some casual medieval reenactment so we got married in late medieval/early renaissance noble woman dresses in a church that is literally in her childhood home's backyard. No dress code and then a nice dinner at a hotel nearby. Our pictures are taken in the forest on the way to dinner by a mutual friend. No gifts, people who wanted to paid for their own food instead, no big party. Just food and laughter and love. It was one of the best days of my life and I've happily worn my wedding dress several times over the past almost 6 years. I only had to be mad once and that was when the person who had been my best friend for my entire life said she couldn't support me marrying a woman, but would happily show up to dinner. Like, no. Homophobes don't get to eat. And by the actual wedding day, I'd gotten over her and moved on, so it didn't ruin anything.
You had no idea that your best friend of entire life was homophobe?! Such a close friendship..
Load More Replies...I know I'm not the only woman that can't understand the hysteria about weddings. How shallow and petty these people are over 1 stupid day. Why would you plan a wedding you can't afford? Do you actually think people get excited about going to weddings? They are boring and phoney, nobody cares or remembers what your dress looked like, or the bridesmaid/grooms, they don't notice what the colors were, they don't recall what the menu was or cared what the cake looked like. The only reason they go is probably to see old friends or family and visit an open bar. We went to Las Vegas, got dressed up and had fun. My parents could easily paid for a big fancy ceremony which seemed like a waste of money to us. When we returned home our parents held a huge informal reception that was catered with an open bar and DJ. It was casual and so much fun it lasted all day and late into the night. No registry, no gifts were expected however it required a few trucks to haul them home.
People take weddings way too seriously and waste so much money on them. These people are beyond selfish. Who are they to judge the attractiveness if their friends/family and their children. I wish these women had better plans for their future than some perfect fairy tale wedding. It's gross.
So this is going to be so controversial, but can we get an age limit on getting married? Or at the very least, on having weddings. Maybe after both parties’ brains have been fully developed. I think so many problems would be solved… and yes I got married very young, too.
So people can absolutely commit to each other before hand, but let’s say age 26 is the minimum age it can be “locked in” with a wedding.
Load More Replies...People make a big to do about weddings and the whole marriage process. It's about making a new life with your partner and celebrating with your loved ones. We had a very very small destination wedding (8 close family members) and that was it. We did a dinner cruise after that we paid for and all around it was a good time. Being Mexican American this type of wedding is completely unheard of and of course we had some family/friends give us grief for not going the "traditional" way. But we had a beautiful, stress free wedding on the beach with those closest to us and only spent a few thousand dollars. Wouldn't change it for the world! Big weddings are great too, for those that want a big wedding (I've been to many) but please remember that it's not about the wedding it's about the people in your lives and your partners. There will be things you cannot control and taking it out on your loved ones is a s**t move.
I only got to #16 and I couldn't go any further, these posts disgusted me so much.
for my wedding, my husband wore a bubble gum pink suit and I wore an almost glow-in-the-dark lime green suit and told everyone if they wanted to wear wedding dresses or suits they could, a few of them came in bride gowns and some came in a tux, and at the after party, we all put on the ragged clothes and had a huge food fight {hand made } after the food fight then the cake and actual edible food came out, It wasn't really a lot of money other then the cake and clothes, we have family that has land and are wealthy so we just used there place
This post made my day!! It sounds absolutely AMAZING!! An all-inclusive, unforgettable celebration of love and laughter! (And stress relief..Food Fight!!😀) I bet this was the funnest wedding ever!! Best wishes to you & your husband. You sound like wonderful people!! ❤️
Load More Replies...I remember my bro got engaged to his long term girlfriend in, I think, 2011. They emigrated to Australia from the UK several years previously. I started dating my now-wife in 2012. We'd been friends for about 4 years at that point. We got engaged in summer 2013 and set a date for the wedding in late spring 2014. My bro and his fiancee went all *shocked pikachu face* cos THEY were going to get married in 2014! I was like, dude you've been engaged for years - I actually want to get married pronto. In the end they got over it and my new wife and I had a lovely time at their wedding in Aus in 2015!
These people are hilarious. The world is dying, but they are busy getting ulcers from freaking out about the stupidest stuff. They provide good entertainment though. (Of course I feel bad for the people they’re actually hurting, proving they’re not the good friends or family they claim to be). I do hope they get treated exactly as seriously as they deserve to be.
I had the most chill wedding ever, and it was awesome. Me and my wife to some casual medieval reenactment so we got married in late medieval/early renaissance noble woman dresses in a church that is literally in her childhood home's backyard. No dress code and then a nice dinner at a hotel nearby. Our pictures are taken in the forest on the way to dinner by a mutual friend. No gifts, people who wanted to paid for their own food instead, no big party. Just food and laughter and love. It was one of the best days of my life and I've happily worn my wedding dress several times over the past almost 6 years. I only had to be mad once and that was when the person who had been my best friend for my entire life said she couldn't support me marrying a woman, but would happily show up to dinner. Like, no. Homophobes don't get to eat. And by the actual wedding day, I'd gotten over her and moved on, so it didn't ruin anything.
You had no idea that your best friend of entire life was homophobe?! Such a close friendship..
Load More Replies...I know I'm not the only woman that can't understand the hysteria about weddings. How shallow and petty these people are over 1 stupid day. Why would you plan a wedding you can't afford? Do you actually think people get excited about going to weddings? They are boring and phoney, nobody cares or remembers what your dress looked like, or the bridesmaid/grooms, they don't notice what the colors were, they don't recall what the menu was or cared what the cake looked like. The only reason they go is probably to see old friends or family and visit an open bar. We went to Las Vegas, got dressed up and had fun. My parents could easily paid for a big fancy ceremony which seemed like a waste of money to us. When we returned home our parents held a huge informal reception that was catered with an open bar and DJ. It was casual and so much fun it lasted all day and late into the night. No registry, no gifts were expected however it required a few trucks to haul them home.
People take weddings way too seriously and waste so much money on them. These people are beyond selfish. Who are they to judge the attractiveness if their friends/family and their children. I wish these women had better plans for their future than some perfect fairy tale wedding. It's gross.
So this is going to be so controversial, but can we get an age limit on getting married? Or at the very least, on having weddings. Maybe after both parties’ brains have been fully developed. I think so many problems would be solved… and yes I got married very young, too.
So people can absolutely commit to each other before hand, but let’s say age 26 is the minimum age it can be “locked in” with a wedding.
Load More Replies...People make a big to do about weddings and the whole marriage process. It's about making a new life with your partner and celebrating with your loved ones. We had a very very small destination wedding (8 close family members) and that was it. We did a dinner cruise after that we paid for and all around it was a good time. Being Mexican American this type of wedding is completely unheard of and of course we had some family/friends give us grief for not going the "traditional" way. But we had a beautiful, stress free wedding on the beach with those closest to us and only spent a few thousand dollars. Wouldn't change it for the world! Big weddings are great too, for those that want a big wedding (I've been to many) but please remember that it's not about the wedding it's about the people in your lives and your partners. There will be things you cannot control and taking it out on your loved ones is a s**t move.
I only got to #16 and I couldn't go any further, these posts disgusted me so much.