This is so cool. Both.

Finally, someone who gets it!

There are many good reasons to not want kids (most of them problems for one self, the kids, the world...) so in my book not selfish. It's more selfish to want kids just to procreate. What could be more selfish than that? That being said: it's ok to sometimes be selfish.

I got so tired to being the one to put in then mental effort and planning for ordinary every things. My husband and I talked about it, and now whilst I am planning the menu, composing the shopping list etc, he is washing dishes, doing the laundry, vacuuming the stairs... What I am doing has not changed, but it is being recognised as being part of the housework. It's being valued and appreciated. We each have our own tasks, and it feels like a balance has been reached.

Sounds like the type to start a juicy rumour if there wasn't one going round, true or not.

I'd far rather a very simple wedding, and use the money as a downpayment on a house.

This.

Yes, and I also have books I've read more than twenty times.

No idea what you mean,... Restarts The Office for the 15th time

TV shows, movies, books, video games, even music playlists or albums; my life is all of those on repeat to deal with anxiety.

This is 1000% true. I have several tv series that I cycle through again and again. I've also been watching a few eps of The Simpsons every night as I fall asleep for the past 25 years.

There’s science behind this, I learned. Watching a show with characters that are familiar to you cause a release of oxytocin, which makes us feel calm. It’s on par with being with good friends. Useful to know!

This is also true for introverts. New things requiring your full attention drain energy, familiar things that don't require full (or any) attention allow you to recharge.

I do this and I dont have anxiety :)

"The Golden Girls" to the rescue!!

Watched the entire 9 seasons of How I met your mother 4 times 🙋‍♀️

I forced myself to stop doing this because it was just wasting time.

Yup. I mean, how often can I rewatch Star Trek? We'll see.

yes, yes, and let me think a min.... yes!

I have terrible anxiety (and have been in therapy for a couple of years now). I have a few movies that I could rewatch every day, but I'm not a fan of rewatching a show repeatedly. Yeah, there's a couple I have seen more than once, but there's usually at least a year spaced between viewings, so I've pretty much forgotten most of it 😂 I like not knowing, which is odd considering my genre of choice is horror lol

Similar to having a reverse neuronal process. When you must remember a moment of accomplishment, and how everyone benefited from it, for example. Then you "replay" the instance again. And again. And then AGAIN! It's because you are so goddamn f****** distraught. Despondent and dismal. The enactment of this measure is for serotonin. It's helpful for the increase, and ultimately "bad". You find yourself unable to move forward in thought due to the fact that your life is abysmal. " Survivors of Narcissistic Family Abuse". Victim is a result. The only thing survived. Is the abuse. Then there's the internet for your overwhelming need to shout into the darkness. Ugh. Pardon the tirade.

Oh yes, just watched Miss Marple again

Absolutely!!! I cannot have quiet. Golden Girls is my jam. It's on right now.

Yes, and I also sometimes peek at the endings in books because I want to know that everything is going to turn out okay. I hate books with tragic endings. I read to escape.

It’s an escape. The characters have let us into their life, it’s familiar and it’s safe.

I thought I was the only one that does that. knowing this comforts me

No I need radically new stimulus in these situations, I get frustrated at the same old stuff because I don't need to fully engage my mind and have too much left over space to keep worrying about stuff.

Hoarders. Intervention. How to be a Serial Killer.

Hah, so spot on. I just see the same 3 shows over and over

Yes, and every time I rewatch or re-read something I'm doing it with a new perspective...

Me watching Man of Steel for the 3456th time: nope, not true at all!!!!