This is so cool. Both.

Finally, someone who gets it!

There are many good reasons to not want kids (most of them problems for one self, the kids, the world...) so in my book not selfish. It's more selfish to want kids just to procreate. What could be more selfish than that? That being said: it's ok to sometimes be selfish.

I got so tired to being the one to put in then mental effort and planning for ordinary every things. My husband and I talked about it, and now whilst I am planning the menu, composing the shopping list etc, he is washing dishes, doing the laundry, vacuuming the stairs... What I am doing has not changed, but it is being recognised as being part of the housework. It's being valued and appreciated. We each have our own tasks, and it feels like a balance has been reached.

Sounds like the type to start a juicy rumour if there wasn't one going round, true or not.

I'd far rather a very simple wedding, and use the money as a downpayment on a house.

This.

Yes, and I also have books I've read more than twenty times.

I think tax avoidance is trashier when the rich do it because they're just being greedy monsters

Yzma from Emperor’s New Groove

Going to college.

The never ending mess

Unfortunately the sleazy dates will lie and say "no", when, in fact, there is someone

I wish we had a cry room at work. I'd use it every day. Maybe multiple times.

I’ll take on that schedule, can remix it to like 7-5, Mon-Th

Pain in the back of throat.

Ww were all allowed to cry freely, we were a very emotional family. But I still get the pain in the back of the throat because it's normal before crying.

Pain the the back of the throat that travels down to my chest.

Is there something besides the pain in the back of the throat?

wasn't allowed emotions...we couldn't afford them apparently

Nah, just stuffing it away before it comes out till I'm depressed and don't know why

I always thought that pain was part of crying. Like, crying = water from eyes, red face, throat pain, hiccups from being quiet, and twitchy fingers

Pain in throat

I’m not the only one lol

I am allowed to express my emotions but I still get the throat-pain thing ;-;

the latter.

I remember being in a casino and hitting an $1,100 jackpot and the woman next to me was whooping it up. Finally she says, "Aren't you excited?" I was, but learned not to show it, now it's just second nature to keep it in.

What is it when you dont get the pain because you have stopped feeling the need to cry ?

That pain is crying is it not? There are other forms? Thought it was some holywood myth they manage with SFX.

Both lol

Pain in the back of my throat because anytime I cried or tried to say/explain my feelings or what I am going through I got told to stop throwing a pity party

Wait are we not supposed to have the pain in the back of the throat? I thought it made me a bigger crybaby than my brother tells me I am.

Yes :/

Quit crying or I'll give you something to cry about.

I call it my frog in the back of my throat

My parents encouraged me to cry when needed, but I could never convince myself to do it in front of others, despite saying to everyone else that it's okay to cry.

Don’t wait for permission. If you need something, give it to YOURSELF—be your own hero. 🦸‍♀️

A bit of both.

I thought that was just me

We expressed. Which is why my sister always had her brushes, paints, and canvas. My brother had an entire room for his train set, and I had my books, puzzles, and models.

Allowed to cry but in work situations when I’m supremely angry, I will well up too because stifling emotions hurts.

I was smacked for saying, 'No.'. (Or maybe it was, 'No, no, no!!!'.) So long ago, but I still find it hard to say!

I thought I was the only one that got that throat pain.

Anger? No. Sadness? No. Happiness? Only if it was provided for me. Seen and not heard really covered a lot of damn silence.

I don't feel anything at all till much much much later. It's not the healthiest. I'd take pain when something's painful.

This one...