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50 Of The Most ‘Antisocial’ Memes From This Instagram Account Cleverly Titled ‘Fear Of Going Out’
Look, not everyone wants to spend Friday night partying. Some of us want to roll ourselves into a blanket burrito and watch a movie at home. Alone. And without having to justify ourselves for it.
We're not ungrateful if we want to avoid our friends for a day or two. Nor are we defective if our mind goes blank when we meet new people. We're just (a bit) antisocial.
If you're one of these people (or simply want to understand your introverted friend better), there's an Instagram account dedicated to portraying this life in memes.
It's called FOGO. The acronym stands for The Fear of Going Out, and the one running it says this feeling is completely normal.
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The term introversion was popularized by Carl Jung and describes an inwards orientation to one's own mental life rather than the outward orientation of extroverts to social life. Introverts gain energy from reflection and lose energy in social gatherings.
However, it's important to point out that most people are neither total introverts nor pure extroverts but display features of both—they are the so-called ambiverts. Almost everyone needs occasional solitude to replenish their energy.
But cultures differ in how they value certain personality traits, and America, for example, likes its extroverts. This society rewards assertiveness and encourages people to speak up.
Experts are guessing that the number of introverts as extroverts is the same, but the former is less visible and certainly less noisy so it's easy to think they're the minority.
Introverts are drained by too much social interaction and are the first to leave a party. Even as children, they usually observe first and act later.
If I'm ever in one of those horror movie/ thriller situations where my life depends on how quietly I can breath, I'd like donations to charity in lieu of flowers.
Some research claims that the inherent differences between introverts and extroverts lie within the dopamine system in the brain, which makes pleasurable rewards (including social interaction) more salient to extroverts. This suggests that extroverts may be more likely to experience positive emotions.
Even though introverts are generally likely to report lower levels of happiness than extroverts, this does not mean that they are destined to be miserable. The good news is that a consistent theme in happiness research claims our choices and behaviors (the ones that are in our control and changeable) have significant effects on our well-being.
Absolutely! It triggers my sarcastic teacher button and prepare to be subtly sabotaged wherever I can do so.
This is acceptable for adults too. I did this today to someone. I didn't scream it, but still.
According to Derrick Carpenter, a positive psychology coach at Happify, a helpful tip for those with introverted tendencies is to try to see their whole self. "It’s important to note that the scale on which introversion and extroversion are measured is just that: a scale," Carpenter wrote in VeryWell Mind. "Within each of us lies some tendency to recharge our batteries through social interaction and affiliation with others and another tendency to recharge on our own. Be honest with yourself about what you need in a given moment and allow yourself permission to have it."
In other words, when calling a friend to hang out feels right, make a lunch date. But if you’d rather curl up with a good book, go for it.
*Aggressively throws a pair of airplane headphones at the perpetrator*
Carpenter also thinks introverted behavior has an upside that often gets overlooked. "Introverts tend to be better problem solvers, perform better academically, exhibit stronger regulation of their behavior, and are less likely to take risks that may cause them harm," he said.
"Research shows that introverts may experience these benefits as a result of having more gray matter in their prefrontal cortex, the area at the front of the brain that controls complex and abstract thinking, emotion regulation, and decision making."
Teenagers are like the moles in your yard and raccoons in your trash can and ants in your kitchen and yeah, I'll just take the plants and pets, thank you.
I don’t understand why you couldn’t just say excuse me I just need to freshen up or some other polite way to get away from the, if you need to be on good terms with the group or if you don’t just say this is boring and walk away it’s really simple and easy to do
Because the banana means they won't come back when you return
Load More Replies...they must have thought you were bananas .... i will excuse myself i am sorry
If you're in a boring conversation, you're not asking the right questions.
I've always been able to say "Sorry, I need to leave now" and walk out.
was this by any chance on a train? there's another BP post somewhere about someone who had the person near them on a train answer a banana.
Use whatever you need to I would have said I was going to bathroom and not go back.
Once I was at a party and the boring conversation ( guy) followed me. I left.
Karen Kilgariff is one of the hosts of the 'My Favorite Murder' podcast
So you didn't have a phone on you but you did have a banana on you? At a party?
"Always bring a banana to a party, Rose"- The Doctor (I probably messed up the quote, I haven't watched that episode in a while)
Remember that in many classical and theological perspectives on happiness from Aristotle to the Buddha, spending time alone and contemplating the meaning and purpose of our lives is a necessity.
"Learn to embrace your unique introvert qualities and tap into the happiness they bring you, whether that’s teaching yourself something new, exploring nature on a solo trek, or cultivating your creative side," Carpenter said.
Hey that's how my family found half of its current living relatives!
But when you feel like leaving your safe little cave, own it. "Particularly when you are already going to be socializing, act the part of an extrovert," Carpenter suggested.
"This doesn't mean you should be inauthentic. Just bring more of your real self. Be an extroverted introvert. Harness that rich inner world of yours and jump into the conversation more, share your opinion, crack a joke, and take the spotlight every once in a while."
Kind of like the things we all should be doing right now, but here we are reading BoredPanda.
In fact, studies, where introverts were instructed to act like extroverts in a group of people, showed they ended up experiencing greater positive emotion than introverts acting normally (in fact, they rated their positive emotion higher than the naturally extroverted people, too) and reported feeling more authentic at the moment.
There are plenty of ways to go about it. "If you're not socializing much, encourage yourself to connect with others in the ways that work well for you," the psychology coach said.
"Join a group to take part in an activity you already love, like a choir, book club, or fitness class. Even though initiating these decisions may feel like an extra effort, the payoff should be noticeable. When you realize you acted more extroverted in a way that felt good, keep it up."
Whatever happens in these settings, you will always be able to retreat and find memes to scroll through instead!
I aspire to be this much of a character in my senior years.
When it comes to unknown parking situations I'm ALWAYS nervous. Especially in busy inner-city areas. That's why I love my bike...
Early on in the pandemic a woman (typical Karen-ish Anti-Masker) asked me why I moved so far out of her way while walking down the pavement towards her and I said "Oh it has nothing to do with COVID, I would've done it anyway"
Now you tell me! It's already the 10th! How can I plan for this without notice???
You know what is selfish? Bringing children into this mess of a world that we are destroying and doing nothing to help fix it just so they can suffer later on
It's only February and I have my doubts about 2022. I'd like a refund.
Can we please stop calling each other selfish? No matter if one decides to have or not have kids, saying this to each other is quite rude and not very respectful. You make your decisions and I make mine, and we can still be friends and thankful for each other.
Thank you. I'm sick of it. I love the f*****g hell out of my children. And being a actual antisocial person. They are included in my small group of people I trust.
Load More Replies...I'm really tired of "antisocial" being used incorrectly. As a psychologist in training, it really irks me to see that a rather serious diagnosis is still used jokingly.
As a former therapist, it irks me to see the DSM taken so seriously. It has previously listed things such as diabetes and homosexuality as mental disorders. Diagnoses are in and out with each edition. It's disheartening to realize that so many diagnoses have more to do with culture and current zeitgeist than actual mental impediments. It's good practice to view patients as people instead of labels. It reduces practitioner bias as well as stigmatization. It's best to strive for warmth, authenticity, and being present vs. rubber stamping an ICD-9 code like a label on on a Petrie dish. Always remember not to take the DSM or yourself too seriously. :)
Load More Replies...None of this was "antisocial" you remember the pandemic? And how this is about random things?
When I lived in DC and went out to the clubs (goth/industrial clubs), I used to sit in my car and try to build up the energy to actually go into the club and socialize.
Why would you go to HR? There was a problem, you confronted them directly like an adult, now there is no problem. Maybe we don't always have to act like children and run to mom and dad any time anything is wrong?
I was raised by an interrogator. I learned to read people and see who they really were... I was also taught to be something other than what I am to the ends of such discovery. I am an introvert to the hilt. But I have been broken by needs and expectations to become a gregarious, helpful, self-sacrificing creature...who feels cold at her core because she isn't true to herself. I wonder sometimes--is it my nature to be so duplicitous? Does this help anyone for me to hide my true nature, to try to help them as I suffer? Do I have a proper perspective...?
I really wish people would agree on the correct meaning of words. Social, sociable, anti-social anti-sociable, non-social, introvert, extrovert, quiet, loud, depressed, unhappy, ... So many arguments where person #1 discusses pros and cons of A vs B with person #2 who thinks the argument is about C vs D, while the observer sees the argument as E vs F.
People that know them agree. It's people who throw the terms around without knowing the definitions that don't.
Load More Replies...I feel like there is a creature right behind me everywhere I go, and when I see someone in public who I know, the creature grabs my shoulders and steers me in another direction. I wish I wasn't so shy.
Oh, there is. It's called Kludde. Or sometimes Kledde-me-vel.
Load More Replies...I wish it was a problem that went away a yr ago. But it doesn't and posts like this can remind someone they're not the only one. I wish this stuff was as talked about in the 80s maybe it wouldn't have taken 30 yrs for me to get help
Load More Replies...Can we please stop calling each other selfish? No matter if one decides to have or not have kids, saying this to each other is quite rude and not very respectful. You make your decisions and I make mine, and we can still be friends and thankful for each other.
Thank you. I'm sick of it. I love the f*****g hell out of my children. And being a actual antisocial person. They are included in my small group of people I trust.
Load More Replies...I'm really tired of "antisocial" being used incorrectly. As a psychologist in training, it really irks me to see that a rather serious diagnosis is still used jokingly.
As a former therapist, it irks me to see the DSM taken so seriously. It has previously listed things such as diabetes and homosexuality as mental disorders. Diagnoses are in and out with each edition. It's disheartening to realize that so many diagnoses have more to do with culture and current zeitgeist than actual mental impediments. It's good practice to view patients as people instead of labels. It reduces practitioner bias as well as stigmatization. It's best to strive for warmth, authenticity, and being present vs. rubber stamping an ICD-9 code like a label on on a Petrie dish. Always remember not to take the DSM or yourself too seriously. :)
Load More Replies...None of this was "antisocial" you remember the pandemic? And how this is about random things?
When I lived in DC and went out to the clubs (goth/industrial clubs), I used to sit in my car and try to build up the energy to actually go into the club and socialize.
Why would you go to HR? There was a problem, you confronted them directly like an adult, now there is no problem. Maybe we don't always have to act like children and run to mom and dad any time anything is wrong?
I was raised by an interrogator. I learned to read people and see who they really were... I was also taught to be something other than what I am to the ends of such discovery. I am an introvert to the hilt. But I have been broken by needs and expectations to become a gregarious, helpful, self-sacrificing creature...who feels cold at her core because she isn't true to herself. I wonder sometimes--is it my nature to be so duplicitous? Does this help anyone for me to hide my true nature, to try to help them as I suffer? Do I have a proper perspective...?
I really wish people would agree on the correct meaning of words. Social, sociable, anti-social anti-sociable, non-social, introvert, extrovert, quiet, loud, depressed, unhappy, ... So many arguments where person #1 discusses pros and cons of A vs B with person #2 who thinks the argument is about C vs D, while the observer sees the argument as E vs F.
People that know them agree. It's people who throw the terms around without knowing the definitions that don't.
Load More Replies...I feel like there is a creature right behind me everywhere I go, and when I see someone in public who I know, the creature grabs my shoulders and steers me in another direction. I wish I wasn't so shy.
Oh, there is. It's called Kludde. Or sometimes Kledde-me-vel.
Load More Replies...I wish it was a problem that went away a yr ago. But it doesn't and posts like this can remind someone they're not the only one. I wish this stuff was as talked about in the 80s maybe it wouldn't have taken 30 yrs for me to get help
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