I hate generalizations, but I also believe that every family is at least a little wacky. Of course, degrees may vary, but who hasn't looked back on their childhood without thinking "WTF was that?"
However, if you bury these memories deep in your heart, they might resurface even fiercer and at an unexpected moment, too. So it's probably wise to get them out of your system.
Plus, you might even find out that other people have been in similar situations, which could help you normalize your experiences.
One of the places to vent about these things is the subreddit 'Insane Parents Memes.' This online community is a judgment-free place for anyone who has been through some tough stuff to express whatever they're feeling.
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This should be first. So true and not only for corporal punishment or punishment in general but just saying that whatever problem you're having, we're not gonna fix it because I went through that too in my years and I turned out fine
To learn more about 'Insane Parents Memes,' we contacted its moderators and one of them agreed to have a little chat with us.
"This subreddit is an offshoot of r/insaneparents, which currently sits at 1.4 million users," they told Bored Panda. "It's a place for our users to post memes which are not allowed in the larger sub per its rules because not everyone there wants to see them. So, this subreddit is for those who want to express themselves in that way.
The activity level, according to the mod, is normal for an offshoot sub with 15K members.
my parents :) I'll say literally the mildest of things and ( ESPECIALLY my dad) and they'll say I'm being disrespectful even though they're giving so respect to me..
The moderator said, "People want to know they aren't the only ones who have gone through these things, and it is cathartic for them to know that not only is it not normal, but others have been through it as well. Those experiences can range from the mundane to literal abuse, although in both cases, physical abuse is avoided because it violates Reddit's terms of service."
Among the memes, it's not the types of parents that have become infamous within the community but rather the individual behaviors. "These experiences can range from being tossed onto the street at 18 to having religion or politics shoved onto them from a young age, as well as failures of communication, et cetera."
Me: *pops pills for pain relief* Mom: Do my laundry Me: Uhm, I don't think so Mom: *deliberates scornfully* Okay, I forgive you. Me: I can- Mom: -Please! I've moved on. Okay? *Five minutes later, one hour later, later that night, the next week* Me: Ma? Mom: No. You didn't do my laundry, did you?
I want to do that... get away, but the economy right now wont let me...
My parents never did it, but my grade school principal used the belt. God I hope that man is finally dead.
Yeah I got diagnosed with severe Borderline Personality Disorder, tons of trauma from childhood so CPTSD which is included with the BPD but also social trauma, severe depression, severe anxiety and a mild thought disorder (psychotic features). My Dad told me "I overthink too much, I have too much time on my hands and need to get a job." That was it. That is all he said. Nothing more and I wasn't allowed to talk about it anymore. My mom was already passed she had committed suicide. I'm 34 now and my Dad passed a few years ago. He's a malignant narcissist though who's a huge part of my chronic childhood trauma. My mom was all messed up also.
For the most part, grown-ups get along with their old folks. According to a 2023 survey by the Pew Research Center, 32% of young American adults describe it as excellent, and another 28% say it is very good, while 23% say it is good, and just 18% say it is fair or poor.
Most (69%) also feel like they can be their true selves around their parents (about two-in-ten (19%) say they can do this some of the time, and 11% say they can rarely or never be their true selves).
A friend of mine attempted to "unalive" himself and the hospital contacted his father. The father said he had to go work, and couldn't be bothered. 🤬
my parents call me a loser more than they actually call me my actual name, let alone cute nicknames(which they only use when they need something from me). :(
Still, young American adults say they and their parents disagree at least sometimes about:
- How they’re raising their children (40%, among those who are parents themselves);
- Their financial choices (39%);
- Their career or job situation (37%);
- Their social life (34%);
- Their political views (33%).
Why does this still happen? Gay couples can still be happily married and have kids if they want to. If your child's partner makes them happy, treats them and your family with respect then why does it matter what the bits between the legs are? A happy home and family is filled with love and stability
And that's why "God forgives all sins if you just go to church" is a BS concept.
Reminder to all parents: Good treatment prevents anybody from ending in the cheapest eldery care facility that can be found
Fewer, but still a considerable number of young American adults, say they and their parents disagree at least sometimes about:
- What their parents think about their spouse or partner (30%, among those who are married or living with a partner);
- Their choice of romantic partners (30%, among those who are neither married nor living with a partner);
- Their views about religion (29%).
I wonder how people come up with age appropriate for 'things' - but then I still buy my daughter, who'll be 30 next month, care bears as gifts.
Browsing the content of this subreddit, the moderator thinks we need to remember the connotation of the word "insane" in its context.
"People make plenty of posts on r/insaneparents every day, and many are removed for failing the two-fold test — mod approval and community voting. The post-approval process is different between both subreddits. Posts here have a lower bar for approval as it is simply for users to express themselves without that two-fold process."
Because of this, 'Insane Parents Memes' discusses things a wider community would simply vote down.
"It is possible to grow up without witnessing something 'insane' from your parents if one grows up in a happy, normal home. (Nearly everyone views their home as happy and normal at first.) That is what it is supposed to be, a safe, happy place. It isn't until they start telling their childhood stories to others and see their reactions that they realize maybe something was off about their childhood."
Ouch. Mine was tomatoes- I gagged one day (too acidic) and then they made me take a pregnancy test
i used to be forced to eat sesame seeds, i never wanted to eat them cuz it made my stomach hurt a lot. later found out i had an intolerance for them :/
I mean, my midwife suggested to me last week to put one of my vitamins in yogurt, and I had to tell her that I have not been able to eat yogurt since I've been pregnant (I ate it daily prepregnancy and now have an extreme aversion to it), so... I guess I could see the connection even if it's a stretch. But honest to God, ELEVEN? Sorry but if this is where your mind immediately goes in this circumstance, chances are you're a lousy parent.
Umm, no, I'm American and I don't understand this either. BP is a site that can be accessed all over the world, but yet, a lot of the time when a post isn't understood or violence/guns are depicted it automatically must be American? If it's messed up and deals with sex than most likely it's an American thing, seriously wtf? Yet somehow, we(Americans) are the bullies/bad guys?
Load More Replies...I remember seeing someone say "Thank god I have good parents" on an article about bad parents, and they immediately got attacked. As someone in a tense household, I am very glad you are loved 🙏
Load More Replies...i relate to quite a lot of these and i dont know how to feel. at least im not alone i guess...
oh no :(, are you okay? <333, if you want to vent; i'm here for you
Load More Replies...My parents love me but don’t always act like it. Well, my dad at least. Like in the car the other day I told him I got an 85 on a ss test and that I was gonna take the retest but if I didn't get a better grade I would have an overall grade of an 85-89 and I would be ok with that. But nooo! Because he said that "the only thing I am asked to so around here is get all A's and that I am not allowed to have even an 89. I am in 6th grade and have 90+ in all my other classes and even a 100 on at lease one.
*hugs* these years will be long and cruel and you may want to give up but they will get Soooo much better. I'm still not where I want to be but omg I'm so glad im not a kid anymore.. take it one day at a time *Hugs*
Load More Replies...I remember seeing someone say "Thank god I have good parents" on an article about bad parents, and they immediately got attacked. As someone in a tense household, I am very glad you are loved 🙏
Load More Replies...i relate to quite a lot of these and i dont know how to feel. at least im not alone i guess...
oh no :(, are you okay? <333, if you want to vent; i'm here for you
Load More Replies...My parents love me but don’t always act like it. Well, my dad at least. Like in the car the other day I told him I got an 85 on a ss test and that I was gonna take the retest but if I didn't get a better grade I would have an overall grade of an 85-89 and I would be ok with that. But nooo! Because he said that "the only thing I am asked to so around here is get all A's and that I am not allowed to have even an 89. I am in 6th grade and have 90+ in all my other classes and even a 100 on at lease one.
*hugs* these years will be long and cruel and you may want to give up but they will get Soooo much better. I'm still not where I want to be but omg I'm so glad im not a kid anymore.. take it one day at a time *Hugs*
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