Nice to see this updated that the wedding was canceled. My mom had a stillbirth, 2 months overdue. Very terrible doctor. She left toys on his grave on his birthday, every year. It isn't something you get over.

How narcissistic can one possibly get? With an unhealthy deficient in empathy, this bride-to-be can claim her rightful place among sociopaths. I don't mean to sound like a tactless old man, but the groom dodge a freaking ballistic missile there.

Bride got what she deserved. To be alone. What a horrible excuse of a human.

Instead of having a wedding, women like this should just throw a Come Worship Me and Shower Me with Expensive Gifts While I Pretend to Be a Fairy Princess Around Whom the Universe Revolves party.

She said such terrible things about the stillbirth. Maybe the mother didn't know her baby, but that makes it more heartbreaking because she lost her chance to do that. I hope that bride is hated on for years after this happened because that's what she deserves. I absolutely cannot deal with people like this.

Lost three early on, still hurt, and it's been twenty-plus years. PsychoBride deserved to be dumped. What sort of filth even imagines that lack of concern?

I tip my hat to the groom and bridesmaid (no longer to be) for taking action on what ultimately needed to be done (taking out the trash). You both have suffered a tremendous loss in different ways and I hope one day...you find your peace at the end of the rainbow. I seriously thought I heard it all. My faith in humanity has slowly shattered and after reading this story....it just crumbled. To the groom....You did the right thing. You deserve better and you will find her. To the bridesmaid....you handled yourself well. Take things one day at a time and don't rush for anyone. This so called use to be friend of yours....there are truly no words that can sum up an individual like that. To the bride...you need to do some soul searching... that's even if you have one. Earth revolves around the sun and not you in case your weren't paying attention in class.

Hey BP, just wanted to say thanks for putting up the warning on top. You don't really post heavy topics often but I really appreciate you doing that for the people who may not be able to handle it :)

It was seconds into reading this where I was like "No! This can't be real".... That poor woman. The bride must be a psychopath.

This is just insane! Having said that, people deal with these things in different ways... I ran a team a few years ago and one of the ladies had a miscarriage - she was back at work after 2 days and would not have me send her home even though I would have given her ample time off to deal with grief, she just said that being at work takes her mind off things and proceeded to tell me exactly what happened not sparing any details (I'm a man and, to be honest, was a bit shocked as obviously would have never asked her about it).

Love the way the 's' words are blanked out but not the 'c' words 😆

I want to fight this bottom feeder, and Im a pacifist.

Good to see the fiance has a brain and heart. He didn't just dodge a bullet, he dodged a whole tank.

Honestly this bride seems like a sociopath, I don't know how anyone could be so cold. Absolute lack of empathy and if she thinks it takes less than 2 months to get over the death of a child I hope she never has children as it's obvious they won't mean much to her.

what a disgusting horrible being

WHAT THE HELL.. weddings have become not a celebration of love, but a celebration of spending the grooms money. Btw I’m really sorry for your losses all people who have lost a child.

Omg this lady is the worst person ever! I had seven miscarriages and had one of my daughters die a few hours after she was born. She died in my arms gasping for breath, and there was absolutely nothing I or the doctors could do to save her life. I basically didn't get out of bed for almost a year. If I could of traded my life for her I would if, just like this mommy said. I was also told by family members I should be over it by now. Keep in mind these particular family members had five children at home and this was my first child. I feel for this mom. It is NOT something you just get over EVER!!! It will get easier as time goes by, but it will affect you for the rest of your life! Heartless bride, she got what she deserved. I hope she also lost most of her friends! Sorry momma, my heart goes out to you!!!

I don't think the original request, (that the OP inform others of her tragic news before meeting everyone at a big event) was actually all that bad. A bit overstepp-y, coming from an outsider, but the OP should have thought to do so herself. It just escalated in very very bad ways from there.

I miscarried my baby girl 44 years ago, and it still hurts like crazy. Her big brother died in an accident 15 years ago at the age of 31, and I miss him constantly. There's no "getting over it" just because some brainless twit wants all attention focused on her--as if the man she's marrying isn't worthy of any attention (he's far better off without her!)---and such a horrid person (bridezilla) doesn't deserve to have any friends whatsoever!

I had two ectopic pregnancies, almost 3 years apart (for those that don't know, it's when the embryo attaches in the fallopian tube instead of the uterus, and those babies NEVER survive - and if it isn't caught in time, the mother can ALSO die), and there is no worse feeling in the world than to know your baby is dead. I was already 13 weeks with both children, and with the second one I had FOUR ultrasounds to make sure the baby was properly placed. He wasn't. (Not only was my baby dead, I had to have a total hysterectomy 6 months later.) TWO people expressed condolences, the rest of them acted as if nothing had happened. You NEVER get over this. Hell, two months after my first ectopic I was in the grocery store and literally went into hysterics (collapse to the floor, sobbing uncontrollably, etc.) because I needed cat food and had forgotten that was the same aisle as the baby stuff. I had to quit going to that store because I couldn't face the Gerber baby smiling at me.

In the end, she got all the attention she wanted, but in the worst way possible. The grrom dosged a bullet and I hope that scumbag of a woman burns in hell when her time comes

I think first of all there is a huge difference between a miscarriage and a stillbirth. Both are terrible. Most miscarriages happen early in the pregnancy and they can be quick. A stillbirth is usually a full term baby that is known to be dead prior to the birth yet the mother still has to go through labor and delivery knowing the baby is dead. She is also doing it alone as a living baby is helping to be born. I will never understand why these women would not be put under and be given a C section out of mercy. What gets most women through labor and delivery is knowing they will be holding their baby soon. Not the same if you know it will be a dead baby. The story stated the woman had a stillbirth not a miscarriage and there is a huge difference. That bride has no soul, hopefully she is infertile as no child should ever have her for a mother. Pretty sure she doesn't care who the groom is as long as she gets to have a wedding.

Wow. How terrible and selfish a human can be!!! We are still sore over our first child from 10 years ago. Lost after 24 weeks. It was devastating for my wife and I. She had to go through labor also knowing he was not alive.

Oh its all about her now, isnt it? I hope everyone she knows sends her a message that due to her cancelled wedding they hope she is over it by now and not going to (be at work) (dinner) (washing clothes) and ruin it for everyone.

the guy (the former groom) just dodged a killer bullet...

This may possibly be the cruelest thing I've ever seen. I hope this young mother finds comfort in the love and support in the loss of her child. I'm so sorry she lost the baby, and I'm sorry she had such a horrible friend. Sending love and light to this dear girl. Be proud of yourself for your thoughtful response, and most of all for having the courage to walk away from this toxic friendship.

Appalling. I'm shocked that such a person even had friends in the first place. How can such callous disregard and narcissistic sociopathy remain hidden for long enough to establish a friendship, let alone a romantic relationship?

Damn. Even as someone who is childfree by choice, doesn't want kids, like kids, etc...that is f*cked up beyond measure.

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Good thing the groom figured out what kind of person she was before he married her. What a nightmare she is! She deserved to get dumped.

"is not like you knew her" spoken like the people who think abortion should have forced ultrasounds because it's just a walk in the park otherwise, right? sick lady. this isn't just immaturity, it's pathology

I cannot think of anything worse to happen to anyone than to lose a child. That bride has lost a LOT of friends. That poor guy truly dodged a bullet.

THAT Bride OUGHT to be put in her "place", in a manner of speaking!

So glad the fiance left this giant shitbag. GIANT bullet dodged. Like.. f*****g canonball dodged dude. Good lord.. what a horrible person

My son was 31 when he died in an accident 16 years ago, and I still grieve over him. Not like I did in the first two YEARS---two months is no time at all!!---but I still miss him terribly. When my daughter was dead at birth, I still named her because she was a tiny human being whom I wanted in my life. She's been dead for 44 years, and I often wonder what she might have chosen to be in her adult life. What would she and her big brother have had in common in their interests? Would he have been a good uncle, and she a good aunt? Nobody who loves their children gets "over it" (their death), ever, we just learn to live with the never-ending grief and pain.

My sister lost her baby at 20 weeks and it was the hardest thing I've ever gone through I can only imagine how hard it is for the mothers. Plus my brother got married less than a month later and my sister and I were both bridesmaids. Never was it ever oh I hope she doesn't take attention from the bride and groom. It was I hope a happy celebratory day isn't going to be too hard on her and her boyfriend (now husband) even putting on the bridesmaid dress was hard for her because she had it altered expecting to be big pregnant. They both made it through that day and not once has my brother or sil ever said they felt over shadowed because they actually care about my sister unlike this horrible bride.

Not surprised at all - she write like some stupid gheto trash.

my mother lost a kid, i don't remember what he died from but he died one week before he was due, my mom birthed a dead baby, but she was so sad she didn't want to look at him. we celebrate his birthday by lighting a candle, and my mom cries, it's been maybe 9 years or so, i'm not sure, but my mom still cries about it. after that happened she was depressed for two years, when my other brother was born without complications she was so happy :)

Bridezilla deserved to be dumped. What a heartless b***h!