I think this one should be directed towards those who criticize your complaining or tiredness "because others have it worse". Since I know myself, whenever I feel really sad or stressed, the thought that someone else has it worse makes me feel even worse myself because it combines the feeling that the world is poop with feelings of self-guilt and that's the opposite of motivation for me. On the contrary, seeing someone else having it better would feel like a spark of hope, like "at least there is some happiness out there".

I am a negative self talker but I am always careful what I say in front of my kids.

"I should leave a comment." "I could be the first commenter!"

And: feelings guilty only county for action you could have done differently then, not for what you would liked to do differently thinking about it now

Saw something similar "Honesty is still the best policy, with a little bit of common sense"

That's happened to me.

Oh, that's the source of my depression. I wish I knew how to do it (or should I say 'not to do it'?)

My ex...

Chocolate!

Yep, but it can work as a self-programming mechanism, and when something bad happens as a result of it people may think: "That's what I expected in the first place, so I have to believe my anxiety the next time", and - bam! - you're in a vicious circle.

This is a nice and accurate way of wording it

But if it's possible, maybe try to talk to that person first, and explain what you feel about their responses. As someone who's been on both sides frequently, people are often unsure how to respond to someone who is unloading a lot into them. They might be capable of engaging deeply, and be willing to do so, but aren't sure if that's what you want, or if you just want to vent and/or hear whatever will make you feel momentarily better.

No, it's not dependant on the ones who cause it but I'd still like the bastards to know! Mainly so that they won't do it again.

Wow, this one sounds... Kinda fun! It's creative, it pushes you to make a story with an alternative ending. I like this one.

Oh, I LOVE this one! I know several people who always use excuses and never ever apologize

And find YOUR happy. I consider myself a happy person (thankfully), but I'm an introverted silent happy. That's cool too.

I'll be honest, this one scares me. Sometimes I doubt myself that maybe I am the incapable one. And then I have to remind myself of all the good things I'm doing and if there is anything I can do concretely to improve.

It's a super difficult thing to sometimes, but very beneficial in the end. I had to do this a few months ago... It hurts, I miss her, but don't miss having my feelings thrown back at me or used as weapons.

but what if you want them to experience happiness for a moment of their life atleast?

Just cos the trains are running late, does not mean you f*cked up.

Wouldn't the first step be getting out of the couch?

Sometimes I think the whole world is irrational.

No therapy needed to see this when it isn't too close to home; not giving in ... another story....

And later this really helps to be a good parent to your kids))

If I did that I'd feel conceited. My low self esteem is there to tell me I should be glad I'm even been acknowledged as a fellow human being at all.

These were interesting and really helpful.

PMS and PMDD are a real condition, and it's about time people took them seriously and support women who suffer them instead of shaming them for not navigating it smoothly.

Or we do see it, but somehow it makes us feel guilty for no real reason. This is when you need to focus and explore your guilt. Ask yourself questions. If you can't answer, do an internet search. It's a method to distract you from pain but without ignoring it, a distraction that will permit you to tackle it out by researching about it. Knowledge really is power.

I disagree with this one. While fear and shame can be the cause of anger indeed, that's not always the case. For me, anger happens when I really care about something, and that something has been wronged. It can be a person, a plan, work/project, manners/behaviour, general injustice etc. For example, I felt pretty angry when a friend of mine was treated kinda badly.