Church Offers ‘Free Mom Hugs’ To People Shunned By Their Families For Being Gay, And Their Reactions Are Heart-Melting
Rainbow flags, costumes, and parade floats are all the things you would expect to see at any LGBTQ pride week, but what about a church pastor giving out hugs? We know the slogan of Austin, Texas is ‘keep Austin weird,’ but people were probably caught off-guard when they saw best-selling Christian author Jen Hatmaker, along with the Austin New Church congregation offering ‘free mom hugs’ to Austin Pride Week attendees.
The idea behind ‘mom hugs’ originally came from Oklahoma author Sara Cunningham. A religious woman living in a conservative town, she struggled to deal with her son’s sexuality and told CBS she felt, “I had to choose between my child and faith.” Her perspective changed after a conversation with her son, where he told her, “‘Mom, I met someone and I need you to be okay with it.'” It took time, education and Facebook groups but Cunningham and her husband came around and began attending pride events. Through her own transformation she noticed how many kids were still suffering from family rejection, so in 2015 she made a Facebook post volunteering her services as a ‘stand-in-mom’ for LGBT individuals who had been shunned by their parents for being gay.
Cunningham’s post went viral and turned spawned the official organization Free Mom Hugs. According to the site they: “Attend various events, offering hugs, support, and resources to the LGBTQ+ community. Free Mom Hugs also offers speakers for various functions and events.” The group has gone on to inspire others, like Hatmaker and her pastor husband Brandon, to literally open up their arms to their local LGBTQ community.
On her Instagram page, Hatmaker posted touching photos from Austin Pride Week, with the caption: “My beloved little church went downtown to the #AustinPrideParade and gave out Free Mom Hugs, Free Dad Hugs, Free Grana Hugs, and Free Pastor Hugs like it was our paying jobs. And when I say hugs, I mean THE KIND A MAMA GIVES HER BELOVED KID.”
Adding the emotional responses they received from attendees such as:
“I miss this.”
“My mom doesn’t love me anymore.”
“My Dad hasn’t spoken to me in three years.”
“Please just one more hug.”
This is not the first time Hatmaker and her husband have shown their support of the LGBTQ community. In 2016 she received backlash for her interview with the Religion News Service, where she said she believed LGBTQ marriages could be holy and criticized President Donald Trump for being a racist. Well, Hatmaker has continued to show her critics she doesn’t care and used the parade to spread love, “We told them over and over that they were impossibly loved and needed and precious. This is what we are doing here, what we are here for.”
Christian author Jen Hatmaker showed up to Austin Pride Week with her church this year for an unexpected reason
They were there to give out “Free Mom Hugs” to attendees that had been shunned by their families for coming out as gay
This is not the first time the couple has spoken up for the LGBTQ community
Hatmaker said in a 2016 interview with the Religious News Service she believed, “any two adults have the right to choose who they want to love,” and received backlash
Her husband Brandon, pastor at the Austin City New Church, echoed her sentiments and posted, “We both believe a same-sex marriage, as a life-long monogamous commitment, can be holy before God”
On her Instagram, she said they told parade attendees over and over that they “were impossibly loved”
The “Free Mom Hugs” movement was started by author Sara Cunningham, who was inspired by struggles with her own gay son to share love with those who had been rejected by their parents
People were amazed by these women’s beautiful displays of support for the LGBTQ community
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Share on FacebookI felt sad, so sad , while this is great and needed, I can't forget why its needed. I don't understand shunning someone and treating the badly just because they do not believe like you. I see this every single day, and its not left / right, Christian / non-Christian its EVERYWHERE. People seem to believe, nowadays, that if you don't agree with them then you become *insert vile derogatory word here* . disgustingly sad..
Well said and totally agree. I cannot fathom how a parent could shun a child I am 60 by the way and even my parents told me "love thy neighbor as thyself".
Load More Replies...As a Christian, this made me cry for two reasons: One, that this happened, and Two, that it doesn't happen often enough. Every church on the planet should follow suit. If I find a church near me that does this, Imma join that church.
Heck, am not even a Christian and I will join the church which does it!
Load More Replies...This made me tear up a bit. Not sure if this is allowed so feel free to delete my post BoredPanda, but: there's a small subreddit called Reddit.com/r/momforaminute, for anybody whose mother is unavailable, for whatever reason. The idea there is the same I think: a mother's love for those who need it.
it is dumbfounding that anyone wouldn't love their child because of sexual, or gender, identifications... it doesn't make sense
When I came out the first thing my dad said was “you are my son and nothing could ever change that.” That was 25 years ago in a very small conservative town. My mom and dad are the best people ever!
Load More Replies...We have just set up our own group here in Folkestone, Kent, England to give out hugs at the forthcoming Pride March on 8th September. A little local company have offered to make t-shirts for us. Within one day of starting the group we have 20 members! No religion involved just a bunch of mums, dads and grannies wanting to give loving hugs to those who miss them!
Oh I would love to know how it went 😊. I think this is great.
Load More Replies...And this is how you earn followers in Christ. Christianity means to be CHRIST-LIKE. That means love all, be kind. Jesus would have been there hugging everyone too. He loved all despite their creed, race, or background. This church has got it right. I wish a church like that existed where I lived. I might actually go.
Churches must change to keep up with modern sensibilities if it will survive. Those preaching intolerance and hatred are doomed to failure. When Satanists are proving to be better people than Christians, you know the church is failing.
Load More Replies...Jesus would be very disappointed in many of his followers. Treating everyone with kindness and compassion is His motto!
I am not religious in any shape or form, but doesn't the Bible teach that God is Love? Extremely heartening to see Christians acting as such!
Well, the Bible TELLS you God is love, but it's very "tell-don't-show" as God is like the Jews abusive boyfriend for much of the Bible.
Load More Replies...This is the best thing ever!!!! Can I join and give older sister hugs? I'm not a mom so I can't really do mom hugs
Me neither, but I'd gladly be an adopted mom, or like you said, a sister
Load More Replies...Where can I get these? I'm Bi, haven't told anyone, but my family would never accept me :(
Look for hugging events (maybe on social media? or a church's events page?) but creating a family of your own--friends, colleagues, people who you trust and who love you for being you. It takes a long time, but you will find them. Sometimes the family you create is more loving than the family you are born into. Hang in there.
Load More Replies...so what about the verse where it says do not judge or you shall be judged like-whys? like if you don't agree with your kids than fine but to shun them is the most unChristian thing you could do. so proud of this church. shine bright!
I love this b/c i have friends that struggle with this, and it makes me so happy that there are people out there to support these people and my friends and i hope all you special people end up with someone you love and can be open and happy forever <3
As a bisexual Christian, this makes me cheerful beyond words! It’s painful to know that people can be so cruel; that parents and friends can cast away others. This is unendingly sweet, and I’d love to do this myself! It’s wonderful, as both a member of the community and the Christian faith, to see this. Can’t describe.
I would gladly give people Sister/Sibling Hugs.
Load More Replies...i'm not a religious person but it seems to me that's what being a christian is supposed to be about. loving your neighbor, helping them and lifting them up...at least that's what all their songs say. heartbreaking it's necessary, but it's so beautiful to see a group actually doing it!!
Welcome to Bored Panda, a place where people are more willing to pick up a fight whomever has a different opinion than theirs. I'll always stay strong to these moms who have decided to speak up their voices regardless of the media's protests. Remember this line? 'as long as you live under MY roof, you'll play by MY rules'. And there you go. I won't support something because you do. My comments are only offensive if you want them to be.
At my college, they have an LGBTQ week that allows people from the community to talk about their struggles with people that don't support and sometimes openly ridicule the movement. For the sake of this story, I will refer to my friend who is a transgender (man dressing as a woman) as he. I normally refer to transgender as the gender they identify with. Anyways, my friend told the story of him growing up in a conservative home. From the time he was a toddler, he'd wear his mom's high heels and her make up..every time receiving a beating from his father for doing so. When he was a teen, he suck out of the house and dressed as a girl. Some boys from his school recognized him, chased him down and beat the hell out of him. His fathers solution to the attack was to throw his son out of the house stating he was an embarrassment. I stood there in shock wondering how anyone could hate their own child that much. He is now married with 3 kids and all of them accept him for who he is.
He 'snuck' out of the house...(That college education at work..LOL)
Load More Replies...WOW! My son is Gay and I love him unconditionally! It amazes me how parents, and particularly Moms, can push their kids away! What a wonderful initiative. Bless you xxx
Thank you dearly for being a decent person and loving your son. We need more people like you.
Load More Replies...ANY mother who would tell their child that the "Didn't love them anymore",was never a real mother in the first place! These people are behaving the way Christians are supposed to,good on them.
Ministry equals God's love through God's people. Very powerful words and so true!
GOD LOVES EVERYONE UNCONDITIONALLY. But!!! HE HATES THE SIN! How can these pastors marry them? It goes against scripture. His laws are for our own good. Many verses, this is just one : 1Tim 1:8-11 We know that the law is good if one uses it properly. 9 We also know that the law is made not for the righteous but for lawbreakers and rebels, the ungodly and sinful, the unholy and irreligious, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers, 10 for the sexually immoral, for those practicing homosexuality, for slave traders and liars and perjurers—and for whatever else is contrary to the sound doctrine 11 that conforms to the gospel concerning the glory of the blessed God, which he entrusted to me.
The pastors are marrying them? GOD LOVES SINNERES, BUT HATES THE SIN!!! We are to love everyone, but we cannot go against God's rules and agree with sin. They are there to keep us safe. Lev 18:22, R0m 1:27, 1 Cor 6:9-11, 1 Tim 1:8-11We know that the law is good if one uses it properly. 9 We also know that the law is made not for the righteous but for lawbreakers and rebels, the ungodly and sinful, the unholy and irreligious, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers, 10 for the sexually immoral, for those practicing homosexuality, for slave traders and liars and perjurers—and for whatever else is contrary to the sound doctrine 11 that conforms to the gospel concerning the glory of the blessed God, which he entrusted to me. There are more... how can you agree as pastors... pastors of what? NOT the bible.
I'm not a part of a church and I have a Free Dad Hugs tshirt with the rainbow and trans flags. You don't need religion to be compassionate.
Same in work, how does your sexual preference hinders your belief? Everyone can be not straight yet they still believe in God right? And I know God loves those who doesn't oblige his bidding more than those who already follows him, so why they keep saying that God hates being LGBTQ?
I remember the show she did on HGTV where she renovated a house with her family. I really love this. Here's an idea HGTV, replace Chip and Joanna Gaines with the Hatmakers. I'd watch every episode.
I think so, even though its a stranger the love and feeling put into reaching out , wrapping your arms around another person is felt, at least to me it is.
Load More Replies...This would be a non-issue if there wasn't religion..if there weren't indoctrinated God-fearing fools out there.
In the US, if you are lgbtq, you might be rejected by your family, your friends, your classmates. Children in the US are committing suicide because of the rejection of their family and peers.
Load More Replies...1 Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins
Load More Replies...ok but in that other one you were comparing a consenting, happy LGBT relationship to unrequited, probably terrifying for the child pedophilia, and that's preeeeeetty f****d up, my dude
Load More Replies...According to your own statement, children do not have to love their parents. Perhaps you have confused love with respect. Also, it isn't up to the parents if their adult children reproduce: that idea remained in the Stone Age, where it belongs.
Load More Replies...I felt sad, so sad , while this is great and needed, I can't forget why its needed. I don't understand shunning someone and treating the badly just because they do not believe like you. I see this every single day, and its not left / right, Christian / non-Christian its EVERYWHERE. People seem to believe, nowadays, that if you don't agree with them then you become *insert vile derogatory word here* . disgustingly sad..
Well said and totally agree. I cannot fathom how a parent could shun a child I am 60 by the way and even my parents told me "love thy neighbor as thyself".
Load More Replies...As a Christian, this made me cry for two reasons: One, that this happened, and Two, that it doesn't happen often enough. Every church on the planet should follow suit. If I find a church near me that does this, Imma join that church.
Heck, am not even a Christian and I will join the church which does it!
Load More Replies...This made me tear up a bit. Not sure if this is allowed so feel free to delete my post BoredPanda, but: there's a small subreddit called Reddit.com/r/momforaminute, for anybody whose mother is unavailable, for whatever reason. The idea there is the same I think: a mother's love for those who need it.
it is dumbfounding that anyone wouldn't love their child because of sexual, or gender, identifications... it doesn't make sense
When I came out the first thing my dad said was “you are my son and nothing could ever change that.” That was 25 years ago in a very small conservative town. My mom and dad are the best people ever!
Load More Replies...We have just set up our own group here in Folkestone, Kent, England to give out hugs at the forthcoming Pride March on 8th September. A little local company have offered to make t-shirts for us. Within one day of starting the group we have 20 members! No religion involved just a bunch of mums, dads and grannies wanting to give loving hugs to those who miss them!
Oh I would love to know how it went 😊. I think this is great.
Load More Replies...And this is how you earn followers in Christ. Christianity means to be CHRIST-LIKE. That means love all, be kind. Jesus would have been there hugging everyone too. He loved all despite their creed, race, or background. This church has got it right. I wish a church like that existed where I lived. I might actually go.
Churches must change to keep up with modern sensibilities if it will survive. Those preaching intolerance and hatred are doomed to failure. When Satanists are proving to be better people than Christians, you know the church is failing.
Load More Replies...Jesus would be very disappointed in many of his followers. Treating everyone with kindness and compassion is His motto!
I am not religious in any shape or form, but doesn't the Bible teach that God is Love? Extremely heartening to see Christians acting as such!
Well, the Bible TELLS you God is love, but it's very "tell-don't-show" as God is like the Jews abusive boyfriend for much of the Bible.
Load More Replies...This is the best thing ever!!!! Can I join and give older sister hugs? I'm not a mom so I can't really do mom hugs
Me neither, but I'd gladly be an adopted mom, or like you said, a sister
Load More Replies...Where can I get these? I'm Bi, haven't told anyone, but my family would never accept me :(
Look for hugging events (maybe on social media? or a church's events page?) but creating a family of your own--friends, colleagues, people who you trust and who love you for being you. It takes a long time, but you will find them. Sometimes the family you create is more loving than the family you are born into. Hang in there.
Load More Replies...so what about the verse where it says do not judge or you shall be judged like-whys? like if you don't agree with your kids than fine but to shun them is the most unChristian thing you could do. so proud of this church. shine bright!
I love this b/c i have friends that struggle with this, and it makes me so happy that there are people out there to support these people and my friends and i hope all you special people end up with someone you love and can be open and happy forever <3
As a bisexual Christian, this makes me cheerful beyond words! It’s painful to know that people can be so cruel; that parents and friends can cast away others. This is unendingly sweet, and I’d love to do this myself! It’s wonderful, as both a member of the community and the Christian faith, to see this. Can’t describe.
I would gladly give people Sister/Sibling Hugs.
Load More Replies...i'm not a religious person but it seems to me that's what being a christian is supposed to be about. loving your neighbor, helping them and lifting them up...at least that's what all their songs say. heartbreaking it's necessary, but it's so beautiful to see a group actually doing it!!
Welcome to Bored Panda, a place where people are more willing to pick up a fight whomever has a different opinion than theirs. I'll always stay strong to these moms who have decided to speak up their voices regardless of the media's protests. Remember this line? 'as long as you live under MY roof, you'll play by MY rules'. And there you go. I won't support something because you do. My comments are only offensive if you want them to be.
At my college, they have an LGBTQ week that allows people from the community to talk about their struggles with people that don't support and sometimes openly ridicule the movement. For the sake of this story, I will refer to my friend who is a transgender (man dressing as a woman) as he. I normally refer to transgender as the gender they identify with. Anyways, my friend told the story of him growing up in a conservative home. From the time he was a toddler, he'd wear his mom's high heels and her make up..every time receiving a beating from his father for doing so. When he was a teen, he suck out of the house and dressed as a girl. Some boys from his school recognized him, chased him down and beat the hell out of him. His fathers solution to the attack was to throw his son out of the house stating he was an embarrassment. I stood there in shock wondering how anyone could hate their own child that much. He is now married with 3 kids and all of them accept him for who he is.
He 'snuck' out of the house...(That college education at work..LOL)
Load More Replies...WOW! My son is Gay and I love him unconditionally! It amazes me how parents, and particularly Moms, can push their kids away! What a wonderful initiative. Bless you xxx
Thank you dearly for being a decent person and loving your son. We need more people like you.
Load More Replies...ANY mother who would tell their child that the "Didn't love them anymore",was never a real mother in the first place! These people are behaving the way Christians are supposed to,good on them.
Ministry equals God's love through God's people. Very powerful words and so true!
GOD LOVES EVERYONE UNCONDITIONALLY. But!!! HE HATES THE SIN! How can these pastors marry them? It goes against scripture. His laws are for our own good. Many verses, this is just one : 1Tim 1:8-11 We know that the law is good if one uses it properly. 9 We also know that the law is made not for the righteous but for lawbreakers and rebels, the ungodly and sinful, the unholy and irreligious, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers, 10 for the sexually immoral, for those practicing homosexuality, for slave traders and liars and perjurers—and for whatever else is contrary to the sound doctrine 11 that conforms to the gospel concerning the glory of the blessed God, which he entrusted to me.
The pastors are marrying them? GOD LOVES SINNERES, BUT HATES THE SIN!!! We are to love everyone, but we cannot go against God's rules and agree with sin. They are there to keep us safe. Lev 18:22, R0m 1:27, 1 Cor 6:9-11, 1 Tim 1:8-11We know that the law is good if one uses it properly. 9 We also know that the law is made not for the righteous but for lawbreakers and rebels, the ungodly and sinful, the unholy and irreligious, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers, 10 for the sexually immoral, for those practicing homosexuality, for slave traders and liars and perjurers—and for whatever else is contrary to the sound doctrine 11 that conforms to the gospel concerning the glory of the blessed God, which he entrusted to me. There are more... how can you agree as pastors... pastors of what? NOT the bible.
I'm not a part of a church and I have a Free Dad Hugs tshirt with the rainbow and trans flags. You don't need religion to be compassionate.
Same in work, how does your sexual preference hinders your belief? Everyone can be not straight yet they still believe in God right? And I know God loves those who doesn't oblige his bidding more than those who already follows him, so why they keep saying that God hates being LGBTQ?
I remember the show she did on HGTV where she renovated a house with her family. I really love this. Here's an idea HGTV, replace Chip and Joanna Gaines with the Hatmakers. I'd watch every episode.
I think so, even though its a stranger the love and feeling put into reaching out , wrapping your arms around another person is felt, at least to me it is.
Load More Replies...This would be a non-issue if there wasn't religion..if there weren't indoctrinated God-fearing fools out there.
In the US, if you are lgbtq, you might be rejected by your family, your friends, your classmates. Children in the US are committing suicide because of the rejection of their family and peers.
Load More Replies...1 Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins
Load More Replies...ok but in that other one you were comparing a consenting, happy LGBT relationship to unrequited, probably terrifying for the child pedophilia, and that's preeeeeetty f****d up, my dude
Load More Replies...According to your own statement, children do not have to love their parents. Perhaps you have confused love with respect. Also, it isn't up to the parents if their adult children reproduce: that idea remained in the Stone Age, where it belongs.
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