Sounds like they're a bad match.

Wow, she sounds like a blast at parties.. /s 🙄

Yes. YTA. It's not about you. Kid has a good father. He's 5, it's about him, not you.

I don't understand these people who date other people with kids and then are shocked when they are GOOD PARENTS to said kids!!! Oh, gosh, he sang happy birthday to his five-year-old?! The scandal! She really needs to evaluate whether she can be in a relationship that involves a child; you always recognize that someone's child comes first, ALWAYS, and if you can't handle that, don't date someone with children.

This dad and his son sound delightful!

Some of these AITA questions have me wondering about humanity. I read one from a bride that asked if it was ok to not invite her elderly grandmother with dementia to her wedding because she was worried that grandma would get more attention than her. Now this one wants to know if she's being unreasonable for being angry at a Dad singing happy birthday to his son. I hope she ends this relationship as I can see her being a jealous stepmother.

She sounds like someone who would reprimand teenagers for playing safely at a playground. According to her, adults need to be boring and are not allowed to have fun.

Bet she wouldn’t have been embarrassed if it was her child

Geez...I just want to shake this person and say "It's not about you! It's about that little boy". Nobody likes screaming children at a restaurant sure...but I've never met anyone who got annoyed at a dad singing happy birthday to his kid.

I get being embarrassed by the top of his lungs singing bc it calls a lot of attention to you and I personally don't like attention, but I would've just recorded it for them and joked he really went all out, singing like that, I don't understand why she has such issues with the child being there a lot, seems like something you'd know early on in the relationship and decide then and there if you're ok with it...

I don't know of a single restaurant, aside from maybe 4 Michelin stars for really stuck up people, that doesn't allow "Happy Birthday" songs. I actually worked in such high end restaurants and at least in those places, we went out of our way to make a production of it (I was the designated operatic HB singer many times). When she claimed the rest of the restaurant was embarrassed, she was clearly projecting her own feelings upon diners that, at most, were ignoring the celebration. Of course, this could be outside the USA, but I have a feeling it's not.

This story has every single stereotype crammed into it. I don't know, I call BS.

Notice that she also was angry that she wasn’t in the video an onlooker took.

I think the fiance also shares a bit of the blame. My mom worked in one of those fancy expensive restaurants and they may have been too polite to intercede. Maybe he's one of those people who can't read a room. She should have just dealt with it in private instead of announcing it it the restaurant. As for him wanting to spend time with his son, I'm glad to see it. Too many fathers don't take any responsibility. So the OP is 90% AH and maybe should be examining how she feels about the kid. 'Cause he's not going anywhere.

To be honest, I understand her, at least saying from a perspective of restaurant's guest. When I go out to the nice place (according to her, the restaurant was rather fancy), I expect to spend my time in good atmosphere, in quiet and peace, without disruptions. Hyperactive kid and loudly singing parent definitely ARE disruptions and they would sour my mood. But on the other hand, I firmly believe that one shouldn't rake their children to "adult" places until they're old enough to behave. 5 y.o. would definitely be happier spending his birthday in a child-friendly restaurant with playing corner or something (I'm not saying that it has to be fast food, just a place accomodated to kids needs) than in a tip shelf restaurant where *adults* want to spend their time in peace and relaxing atmosphere. (Also, I'd be terrified if my company would start publicly singing as I hate people staring at me.)

Well, if I am ever a single parent, this would be an awsome test for any potential partner!

Evil Stepmother in the making.

Yep, YTA. If you are going to date men with children you better change your attitude. It's not about you, it's about the child. Did you think about joining in and celebrating this joyful moment? Suck it up buttercup!

I'd let someone down faster than a hot potato pulling that on me and the birthday kid!

Yes, YTA, huuuuge YTA and I hope yuo understand to break up with him, he and his son deserves so much more than you.

Once I read some people came over to help record, I knew it was solidified for OP. People didnt f*****g care like you said they did.

Almost every time someone asks “AITA”, the answer is at BEST they are being small and at worst yes they are the a*****e. When did people decide to allow their feelings to dictate their behavior?

Clearly you never had children How can you feel embarased because of a father si ging a song to his child YTA I would have broken up with you if I was the father

If you have social anxiety…not him…not his kid…then you are the one who needs to adjust. Why does a 5 year old and his father have to “prepare” you to be embarrassed. Kids will do far far worse than sing in public place. PS. Why did you not know about the birthday cake? Are you so insufferable that you can’t even be included into the planning of his party? I will bet $ that she didn’t have a present for the kid either.

YTA. Don't date a man with a kid if you feel threatened by them. Get over yourself and please don't subject this single dad and his son to your toxicity.

What exactly is embarrassing, all the people who matter and that you're supposed to care about are signing and having birthdays. The rest are background characters in this story and have no impact on your life. Never understood telling people you care about that they are embarrassing you in front of strangers or other irrelevant individuals. And anyone that would be against a happy birthday song is someone who will always be a stranger to me. Because like wtf, yta and a big one. He should dump you.

I guess I must be one of the only people on here, but I don't think that she's the a*****e. There's a time and a place for certain activities, and belting out happy birthday at the top of your lungs to a hyperactive child in a fancy restaurant is not one of those.