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Lady Goes Ballistic Over BF’s Advice On Her Daughter’s Kayaking Outfit, Gets Upset When He’s Right
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When you love someone, you accept them for who they are and everything that comes with them, whether it be their children or their history. There have also been instances when step-children became so close to their step-parents that their relationship was indistinguishable from their real parents.
Even the original poster (OP) loves his step-daughter, so it hurt him when his fiancee ignored his clothing advice for a kayaking trip, and said that she’s her child, not his. When things went south, she demanded that he fix it, but he gave her a taste of her own medicine!
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The poster has a son and his fiancee has a daughter, and the couple has been together for almost 4 years, without facing any parental issues
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When his fiancee let her daughter wear a dress for kayaking, he objected, but she replied with the parent card, saying that she is her daughter, not his
Image credits: Embarrassed_Basis160
When things went south, she asked him to fix it, but he replied that she is not his daughter, and as the couple stopped talking, he vented online, but folks backed him
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Later, the couple tried to talk things through but his fiancee admitted that she didn’t love his son, which saddened him as he loves her daughter almost like his own
Image credits: Embarrassed_Basis160
The woman threw a fit and even told her daughter that he didn’t want them anymore, then left in tears, leaving the kid behind
In today’s story, we dive into the world of a couple who got caught in a conflict that caused a rift in their relationship. Reddit user Embarrassed_Basis160 tells us that he has a 6-year-old son while his fiancee has an 11-year-old daughter, and the couple has been together for nearly 4 years.
Well, they had never before faced any parenting issues until recently, when the mom let her daughter wear a dress to go kayaking for a friend’s birthday. Anyone who has or has not been kayaking knows how inappropriate that is, so OP pointed it out to her. This offended the woman, who said, “She’s my daughter, not yours.”
It’s apparent that the poster must be hurt by this, because he loves the kid just like his own. To understand more about it, Bored Panda reached out to Muskan Sharma—who has previous experience working as a counselor—for an interview. She mentioned that when someone is left out of parenting just because they’re a stepparent, it can be very painful.
“They might feel like an unimportant part of the family. When couples argue over who gets to make decisions for their kids and stepkids, it can create a lot of stress and tension. This can even lead to a divide between the kids in the family,” she added.
Looks like it indeed heavily impacted the poster. When he got a call from his fiancee asking him to take their daughter to the activity center as she wasn’t allowed to go kayaking because of the dress, he downright refused. In fact, he gave his fiancee a taste of her own medicine and said that the kid is not his daughter and he was at a match with his son.
Well, the conversation ended there, but he admitted that he felt bad for his “daughter”. In an update later, he explained that he tried talking it out with his partner, but things just worsened. When she asked him whether he loved her daughter as much as his son he said “almost as much”, but when he asked her whether she loved his son, she replied a straight “no”.
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What’s more, she even threw a fit by crying, waking up her daughter in the middle of the night, telling her that he didn’t want them, and then abandoning her with him and leaving. Whew, must be quite a dramatic night! Folks were highly concerned about the impact this would have on the child.
Muskan noted, “When parents and stepparents work together respectfully, it shows kids that they’re surrounded by people who care for them, even in a blended family. However, seeing their parent argue with a stepparent can be very upsetting for kids.”
“It can make them feel worried, sad, or even like they’re somehow at fault. This can create tension in what should feel like a safe and happy home,” she explained.
The poster clearly told the woman repeatedly that he was not forcing them out and tried to reassure them both that they were welcome to stay, but it all fell on deaf ears. After his fiancee left, he informed Redditors that he had contacted CPS, who spoke with the child, and after talking to her biological father, she is still living with the poster.
Folks online were really glad to hear this as they were so concerned for her because, after all, the kid was not at fault and must have been terrified by how the night turned out. People online opened up and also shared similar stories about how they were glad to have a good stepparent in their lives.
Concluding her interview, Muskan gave some insightful advice for blended families. She mentioned, “Blended families do well when there’s open communication, patience, and flexibility. Taking time to understand each other’s feelings and adapting to changes helps create trust and closeness. Celebrating small moments together also builds a strong family bond, helping everyone feel supported and resilient, even when challenges arise.”
“Sharing parenting duties together, with clear communication, helps everyone feel like a team. This makes the stepparent feel like a true part of the family, which strengthens all their relationships. Working together and finding a fair balance is essential. When both parents feel respected and involved, it helps create a happier, stronger family for everyone,” she concluded.
Well, what did you think about that? Also, what would you have done in the poster’s shoes? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section!
Folks online didn’t shy away from calling his fiancee deranged because of her actions and said that the poster dodged a bullet
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Sand Ers 1 month ago (edited)
There's a more recent follow-up post where he says he'll adopt her "if needed". But the "if needed" is just a pro forma declaration. Neither of the girl's parents give a shít, and he will by far be the best parent out of the three. It'll probably come down to figuring out how to get them to sign off their parental rights without them using it as a way to extort something out of him for it.
Janelle Collard 1 month ago (edited)
Holy buckets! That women is 10 lbs of crazy in a 5 lb sack! Luckily she showed her *exact* level of crazy before the wedding. OP didn't just dodge a bullet, he dodged a nuke! It's great he's willing to keep the daughter away from the crazy mom. Hope it worked out for everyone.
Sand Ers 1 month ago (edited)
There's a more recent follow-up post where he says he'll adopt her "if needed". But the "if needed" is just a pro forma declaration. Neither of the girl's parents give a shít, and he will by far be the best parent out of the three. It'll probably come down to figuring out how to get them to sign off their parental rights without them using it as a way to extort something out of him for it.
Janelle Collard 1 month ago (edited)
Holy buckets! That women is 10 lbs of crazy in a 5 lb sack! Luckily she showed her *exact* level of crazy before the wedding. OP didn't just dodge a bullet, he dodged a nuke! It's great he's willing to keep the daughter away from the crazy mom. Hope it worked out for everyone.
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