Must have been fun growing up in that house. Dad thinking he knows it all and mom enabling him so he won't feel "disrespected".

A******s don’t typically like being put in their place. Glad she spoke up for herself

Another good comeback to "well I don't know about that:" "Apparently." It's a little different, but once, my sister called me to complain about our mother saying her family was musical because they sang and played instruments for fun. This call was while I was running an errand for the instrument repair shop I owned, near Times Square. Sis insisted her sons were the first musicians in the family. I said, "You know I got my associate's degree in music, right?" She said, "You DID?!" If you're not an MD, family have no respect for your education

If I was continually being met with, "Hmm, I don't know about that." The reply would have been, "Just as well I'm here, because I *do* know about it. It is my area of specialism. Is there anything you would like me to explain again?" If he continued, he would be asked to explain exactly his academic credentials, and to cite his sources for the information he was disputing." ... The father's words were so incredibly disrespectful.

That is so sad. Our parents never pushed us to get big money-making jobs - they just wanted us to be happy. That being said, they bragged about all of our accomplishments, even if they didn't understand them (computer industry). I miss them.

It's the "don't talk back" that gets me. She's 28, not a child. As an adult, disagreeing with your parent is NOT talking back, it's standing up for yourself.

It'd be one thing if her dad tried to contribute to the conversation by offering a differing view/opinion and actually have an open discussion, but he didn't. He just wanted to undermine his daughter for no reason. The mom really shouldn't have called to tell her daughter off, if anything she should have switched topics or told her husband to stop. This reminds me of the post about the astro or theoretical physicist (or something like that) whose father and brother tried to insist that they knew more about physics than she did. Only to be greatly embarrassed when she started to question them during dinner.

When you are the expert and someone says "I don't know about that", the answer is "luckily I do, as I studied it". Take it that they are admitting lack of knowledge, not disagreement. It disarms a lot of people.

My father blocked me from higher education as he didn't think girls needed university education. I didn't get to sixth form either but had my A levels planned from about 8 😔 I wanted History and Latin A Level. I wanted to be an archaeologist. He thought girls wasted education as we'd have children. I'm 50 never had or wanted children and changed my surname from his by Deed Poll in 2022 ❤️ He never listened to a word I said either 😞

Welcome to the world of parents. I had identical experiences with my father- who was a very educated man. My education had roots in a different world though- and he just couldn't get comfortable with the idea that his kid- who he knew from years of being a kid- suddenly knew so much. I learned - just smile- and nod. He did get a little better over the years, you can hope for that. But peace - is infinitely more precious than being right.

Your dad was being truthful. He kept saying "I don't know about that", and yes - he doesn't.

Sounds like my MIL.

Good to know dads character, not that he was just being a turkey to his daughter.

I had the opposite "problem" with my dad. He used to do a lot of handyman stuff around the house, but once I got into the home improvement field and did quite a few bathroom renovations he suddenly didn't know how to do anything.

My dad is the same way. Somehow, without going to college, he got a degree in everything! We're at the point now where we ignore him.

I think, having had a dad in the military, and as the oldest of 4 girls, know how hard it is for dads like that, to admit they don’t know. My big difference is that my dad always asked questions to learn more about something. . She was not the ASP, BUT a better way to help that kind of situation, and as he is retired, to say to him, what are you unsure about Dad? Can I help explain something better? And then have the “ bright” idea and say, hey dad! I bet you would really enjoy seeing exactly what it is I do. What about you coming with me, and we could do some field research about one of your thoughts you weren’t sure of, and we can see if something changes or, we get a different finding! So, let’s pick a day, and one of the questions you were not sure of in my response, and let’s go do that field research! I think it would be. A lot of fun to have my dad see what I do, and what he paid for! ( LOL here at this point so he knows you really would love it!). And then go do it!

Sounds like the dad’s foolishness and ego is a problem and wants to prove he is the wise one and authority in the family. (Although I doubt it is the case here “I don’t know about that…” could possibly be meant to be something similar to “I didn’t know that” but would be a funny way of saying it. Just playing Devils Advocate.) At some point after the child is an adult parents and their children need to come to understand their relationship needs to be adjusted to reflect that the children are now adults. They can see each other as friends, as landlord and tenant in some circumstances, while retaining a relationship as family of course. As a child becomes an adult, they are in a relationship by choice not by force of law and circumstance. Sure respect should be given to wisdom parents and those older, but not necessarily to authority unless one is in the other’s home. It can be hard to make this switch to let go of authority one see each differently.

Both my parents worked at low level jobs in the textiles trade. My mum all but forced me to go to university (something I regret to this day) and I picked a textile technology degree. It was funny how it appeared I learnt nothing at uni and my mum knew better. In the end I told her she was talking absolute bollocks, explained why, and told her that, in future, unless she knew precisely what she was going on about, to stfu. Peace reigned after that. Oh, and I never worked in textiles, her attitude turned me right off.

Another preaching to the choir AITA choice by BP. 1% in the poll said the daughter was out of line. Please BP, if you insist on re-posting AITA stories, choose ones where its closer to 50-50 so there's a real discussion instead of 99% agreeing with each other.

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Petty conversations between family should not be fodder for anybody's entertainment.

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I have to wonder what was so outlandish he couldn't accept it. There are some pretty strange ideas they are testing right now. Notice how the topic is not mentioned at all. It is almost like she didn't want to admit to it.