Everyone is aware of how hard it is to raise a child, especially if you’re doing it for the first time. Not that long ago, you were running around the streets, feeling all carefree, knowing that there was a whole world ahead of you – yet, here you are, already taking care of another human being.

No matter how prepared you think you are, parenthood is challenging, and not that many people can proudly say that they’ve managed to master this tricky process. Folks have developed all sorts of traumas related to their parents or upbringing. A toxic environment, berating atmosphere and constant criticism – all these things are only a tiny portion of what some children happened to go through due to the lack of compassion their parents were able to offer.

However, this particular story is very different and is based on a parent who raised his kid in an exceptionally wholesome and understanding environment. This online user took it to Twitter to celebrate her late father and, perhaps, offer some advice to those who are struggling. The thread received over 127.6K likes and was showered with comments that praised the woman for being so open about the connection she had with her dad.

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Parenthood is a tough thing, and sometimes all we need is a little advice

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Bored Panda has managed to reach out to Tasha, the author of this heartwarming thread: “my name is Tasha Kaminsky. I live in St. Louis, MO with my husband, dog, and two cats. I’m a non-profit fundraiser. I’m the youngest of four children. I have an older sister and two older brothers (though one of them passed away in 2018). I have loads of nieces and nephews and I’m very grateful for that.”

Woman shares her late father’s healthy parenting choices and goes viral on Twitter

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Despite the fact that most of us have this love-hate relationship with people giving unsolicited advice, sometimes hearing things out could greatly impact our life – especially if someone’s looking to better their parenting techniques. The author began her thread by addressing the current and future fathers. She revealed that her dad was a wonderful parent and that she would like to share some of the parenting choices he made throughout his life.

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The very first thing she mentioned was that her father never “policed” her sexuality. He never commented on her appearance, never demanded that she change clothes or take her makeup off. Moreover, he never interfered with her dating life, nor did he like to joke about having to use violence against her boyfriends like many overprotective dads do. The author’s dad also recognized how tough and dangerous it is to be a woman, and even helped her to understand what sexualization is when she was too young to notice it.

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The man was also a proud feminist and a LGBTQ+ supporter, which essentially allowed the OP to understand that she’d be accepted and adored no matter what. He made sure to travel with her when he was working, he encouraged and supported her academic performance, yet he never scolded or pushed her into doing it well. Besides, her beloved father also stood by her when she was diagnosed with a learning disability.

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Image credits: tashakaminsky

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BP asked Tasha to reveal what inspired her to make this thread, to which she said: “honestly, I was looking at pictures of a Purity Ball, like one of those Christian gatherings where fathers give their daughters promise rings, and daughters swear they won’t have sex before marriage and I thought to myself, wow, I am very lucky I never had to do anything like that. And then I thought that I was very lucky my dad never bought into any of that purity culture stuff. And then I decided to share a bit about how great my dad is.”

Image credits: tashakaminsky

Image credits: tashakaminsky

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We then asked the author to share her opinion on why so many fathers struggle to find that connection with their daughters: “I think patriarchal society sets men and women up to have unhealthy expectations of one another. Part of the patriarchy is this idea of what it means to be a man and what masculinity is but unfortunately the masculinity that many men are aiming for is toxic. What I mean by that is men are told that in order to be men they must position themselves in a certain way with women and their families. So much of masculinity is scripted and performative. Real relationships are nimble, flexible, and rooted in respect, not performance. I think many fathers and daughters feel beholden to the script society has written for them but it leaves no room for them to express themselves to one another in a meaningful way and that places stress on the relationship.”

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And lastly, we wondered whether there is something that Tasha would like to say to men that don’t have such a strong and healthy bond with their daughters, to which the woman replied with: “I will never know what it’s like to be the father of a daughter however, I do know what it’s like to be the daughter of an excellent father. I recommend that fathers emphasize trust and safety in their relationships with their daughters. That means no violence or threats of violence.”

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“That means keeping your word when you tell your daughter you are going to do something. That means truly seeing your daughter as her own person deserving of respect and an existence independent of her father. Recognizing your daughter’s personhood as opposed to considering her an extension of yourself is mandatory.”

Fellow Twitter users found this thread to be helpful and even emotional

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