This is sadly not a cultural thing, most people who comment on other people's bodies pretending to be concerned for their health are often just straight up bullies who hide behind "health concern".

About 20 yrs ago, mainly due to medicine side effects, I gained about 120 lbs pretty quick, less than a yr, & it stuck. Tried the LapBand in 2014, but had complications, so had to loosen it completely but left it in to avoid more surgery. About 3 yrs ago, I realized 1 medication was specifically causing me to overeat, & once I got off that med, the weight fell off over @ 1.5 years, down to 150. In Oct 2023 I had my gallbladder & Lapband both removed. Saw my OB/GYN about a week later & my weight was 160. His 1st question was to ask if I was going to get another kind of weight loss surgery. Because I gained 10 lbs, the week before Halloween?! I stared at his giant muffin top silently for almost a minute before looking him straight in the eye & saying, "Nah, I'm good." Three months later I had lost 20 more lbs.

My husband's aunt said to me (at his mum's funeral, no less) "You've lost a lot of weight since I saw you last" people who overheard kinda chuckled and I said "Yeahhhh diabetes will do that to you". She moved away quickly after that. Don't start no shït....won't be no shït.

Menopause was definitely not my friend. Like most women, the hormone changes put some weight on me, but it didn’t stop. Got myself checked out, and turns out menopause epigenetically triggered hypothyroidism. Got put on the proper meds for it, and now I’m at my normal correct weight for my height. Sometimes it’s not as simple as burn more calories than you consume. Especially when you have no metabolism to do the burning.

It's projection!! People project their own insecurities and self esteem onto others. "People who feel good about themselves don't criticize and say negativities towards others." Also people's weight is Nobody's business. Your weight doesn't make you less worthy or diminish it. This just shows how unhealthy people are emotionally.

If the body experiences fast weight gain/loss for no logic reason, it´s time to see a doctor.

I need to learn how to bother the NHS into taking hypthyroidism into account. I have all the symptoms (as per my GP) and got medication in Germany for 20 years, but here all of a sudden my blood tests are "negative" but the weight problems still continue. I provided a 3 month excel sheet with all the food I've been eating and the exercise I'd done and all they offered me was a "talk therapy" with other people who tried to lose weight (but no therapist or other expert). It's f****d up.

I think it's pretty extreme how many places trest being anything but rail thin. I can gain or lose weight for many reasons over my lifetime completely unrelated to my diet. It's much more difficult to open a narrowed mind or soften a hardened heart.

I am also from eastern Europe and older people like to have comments like this all the time. First thing my aunt used to tell me every time she saw me was that I am so fat, even tho I was like 139 lbs at 5 ft 5. Also extended family you see once in three years just dropping things like, oh, you gain weight in the middle of converstation, and then just carry on. I don´t understand why they do that, especially when they are often overweight themselves. It was really hurtful to me as teenager, even led me to ED, but now I just always tell them something really stupid as answer and have fun with it. I am sad that I didn´t come up with this earlier, I feel like I would be way more happier and confident during my teenage years.

I had a lot of people comment on how great I looked when I went from 15% body fat, 150 lbs to 125 lbs, skeletal(could see my ribs below my collar bone and see each backbone). So many people told me I looked good when I had pancreatic failure. Thank God I recovered.

Why wasn't there an involuntary leg/foot-reflex-to-crotch involved? She could always have blamed it on "London-Culture".

Even if it is a "cultural" thing it is not acceptable. I don't mind if you are young or old, if you are offensive you'll get what you deserve. The old man was lucky. I wouldn't have explained anything. I would have slapped him. No comments. No warnings. If you think you can do what you want, the same applies to me. After dealing with hurtful comments for many years, I learnt I don't have to put up with nonsense from anyone.

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God knows where she thinks that 22kg of extra mass came from.