The language mom used was inappropriate. Acknowledge that and that it came from a place of frustration while defending your family. Then calmly, rationally, politely light that b***h up. CC the principal, superintendent, school board, and anyone else you can think of. Always admit your mistakes, it throws off your enemies.

I've come to the resolution recently to try to avoid giving explanation to dumb people. It's not good for my heart and I would get on the "b****h" part pretty fast. So, I try to deal with a 3rd part. In kindergarden my son's teacher made a couple of comments about him needing an hair cut ( he keeps his hair long). It was totally sexist ( I checked with parents of girls with untied long hair ) and a power move (she's the type "look at me when I talk to you, don't you dare holding my gaze when I scream"). I tried to politely refused, pointing the sexist part but she was pissed and kept nagging my son about that. Before turning into a She Hulk and crushing her head for harassing my 5yo, I went to the headmaster and wrote to the Rectorat. So yeah, I went straight to her "managers" in a calm, respectful and factual kind of way. And I had to do that a couple of times again with her... But the problems were solved and I kept myself to call her a b****h 😋

Wow. Retired Teacher here. This is so messed up. Clearly that teacher has racial motivations going on. There is assignments from child development that teachers may have students do at the beginning of the year. They are in the draw a person group. Usually the first drawing is a person or themselves the second drawing is who they consider their family or who lives at their house. I qualified it that way because there are kids with split custody. I just say either or both however you want to draw it. Next is a house and last is a tree. Their skill level reveals a lot about their development. How big they are drawn on the the picture, how detailed, size in relation to other family members, colors-happy or scary, proportion on the house and size and detail of the tree. It would let me know right away if there were any problems going on. And I would take that into account when teaching and helping that child with lessons. I would talk to the principal and have them address the problem.

OP is NTA but the teacher was as she was called. It was very racist of the teacher to include other students' pets but exclude the black parents. I'm glad OP swore. I would've too.

The teacher is a massive a*****e. First of all, the kid rightfully considers his adoptive parents his actual family, and presenting a bunch of stranger who happen to be biologically related to him as "a real family" must be highly uncomfortable for him. Besides, it' may be a sensitive topic for him, whether his bio parents died, gave him up for adoption or lost their parental rights - it's hardly a story to reminisce. And finally, there is a good chance he doesn't actually know anything about his bio relatives. Or they expected him to start a full-blown investigation just for a silly school task?

My two daughters were adopted and have no knowledge of their biological relations. I dreaded the family tree assignments I knew they would encounter in school, but when it happened, the teacher made it clear to the parents that it wasn't about genetics; they were teaching how family relationships work, like grandparents, stepparents, great aunts, third cousins, etc. The kids were only graded on their effort, so they all did fine. The teacher in this story needs to get a clue.

The teacher was lucky she only got abuse.

My kid's school gave her a complex in kindergarten. They kept telling her she has 2 moms and 2 dads and asking her who she is staying with and questions about her step parents .... Me and her dad are her biological parents and we live a "nuclear" life, but we aren't legally married. They WOULD NOT STOP IT.

I don't think the mom's language was uncalled for at all. The fact that this teacher deliberately singled this child out by requiring him to complete a class assignment by one set of rules while holding the rest of his peers to a completely different set is, in fact, her being a b***h and an incredibly stupid one since civil rights violations are no longer being quietly swept under the rug.

even if the son knew all the family story of his bio family why would the teacher make him to share it with her or the rest of the class when obviously it could trigger something. like talking about your father going to prison in front of the class is not something you should do because your teacher said so. this is personal stuff and it should be up to you if you want to share

Teacher here- If this is the full story, then this teacher is in the wrong. Mom here royally screwed up by cussing out the teacher, though, which will likely lead to no real consequences for the teacher. It's clear the administration took the easy way out by removing the student from the class- now they're going to declare "problem solved" and leave a monster of a person in the classroom to hurt more kids. At this point, if OP wants to actually do something about it, you make your complaints to the admin and school board... and the local press. Alert the local newspaper or tv news about what's going on. Once they're involved, the school will have to take it seriously. It may even encourage other victims to come forward as they'll know they're not alone.

If a teacher who's literal job is to be supportive of children and care about them along with teaching them is a racist pos and is singling out kids she deserves every cuss word thrown at her. Everyone that thinks the mom was in the wrong has never had to deal with that. I think she got off easy. That poor baby has been through enough.

I find it very hard to believe that this was NOT racially motivated when the teacher allowed the rest of the class to include their pets in their family trees but OP's son was singled out because he is visibly not the biological offspring of his parents and teacher only knows this because she has eyes and has met them. Mom was right. This woman is a stupid b!tch.

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You do it their way. No swearing, no calling names. Ask them what the school's policy is regarding adopts children, as some will have no contact due to abuse. And then nail her with it. My daughter was being bullied, I used this to ensure it stopped.

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First of all, ya, you are the aH here. Don't swear at your child's teacher. Period. Second, the claim that only your child was required to include biological family doesn't sound real. Sorry but either you or the child is making it up. Kids do that, by the way, AAAAAAAAALLLL the time in order to avoid consequence. I'm not buying this one at all.