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Family Therapist Starts Asking For $20 Tips, Leaves A Bad Taste In Her Client’s Mouth
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Family Therapist Starts Asking For $20 Tips, Leaves A Bad Taste In Her Client’s Mouth

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Depending on where you are from, every time you look at a restaurant menu, you might be doing some mental back-of-the-napkin math to calculate the tip at the end. For others, what you see is what you get, unless the service is above and beyond. But what happens when you get a request for a tip from someone like a therapist?

This is the situation one netizen found themselves in when their kid’s therapist asked them to give a little extra at the end of every session. They turned to the internet for advice after deciding to fire their therapist, and people debated the expansion and ethics of tipping culture in the comments.

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    In some places, a tip is almost universally expected

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    But one parent was shocked when a family therapist asked them to give $20 on top of their regular payments

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    Tipping culture is greatly varied

    One issue that complicates the question of tipping is the fact that opinions on it can greatly differ depending on where you are. Americans, for better or worse, tend to expect 10-20% every single time, while in Japan, giving a tip is seen as insulting to the server. However, it’s worth noting that in Japan, one can actually give a tip, but there is a whole rigmarole around how it’s presented.

    So if you are eating out in Japan, which you should, it’s a food culture without parallel, it’s good to include the cash in a specially marked envelope first, which is a non-verbal way to let the staff know that it’s a tip. It’s also more discreet than waving around cash, which is generally considered a plus in Japan. Of course, if this all seems too complicated, you will be absolutely fine if you don’t tip at all.

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    But in the US, it’s actually becoming more common

    Of course, the common factor here is that one only expects tipping in a food or beverage service environment, so even if one lives in a country where tips are socially mandatory, you tend to not expect it from every single transaction. In a few countries, you might also tip other workers, like hotel staff, hairdressers, guides, or drivers, but it’s shockingly rare to hear about anyone even thinking about tipping a doctor, for example, or a therapist.

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    However, a therapist asking for a tip is still not acceptable

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    On the other hand, service workers have reported that tips, even if they aren’t a major part of their salary, do actually help them mentally, as service jobs can feel demeaning, even before one factor in the worst customers taking out their anger issues on you. Of course, there are just as many service staff who have mastered the long pauses and smiles necessary to pressure people pleasers into handing over their money.

    However, a therapist is a licensed, specialist job that is often covered by insurance, such as in OP’s case. While getting a tip, as a therapist is in a sort of gray area, directly asking for it, particularly after a client talked about money is an ethical breach. While a waiter using social pressure to get a tip is annoying, a therapist doing it is a bridge too far.

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    Most readers thought OP was absolutely in the right

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    Others thought they should still look for another one

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    neytjie
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What's next? Tipping the nurses on your hospital stay. Therapists are alrdy crazy expensive anyway. What bs is this about not making enough

    Powerful Katrinka
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What the heck? Sounds like she's a self-proclaimed "therapist" with absolutely no credentials. What this person was asking for violates the ethics code of just about every professional mental health organization I can think of. OP should not only run, but report this person to their state's licensing board.

    Tamra
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Highly, highly unprofessional, not to mention unethical! If the therapist isn't happy with the insurance payments, then she needs to not contract with them and just charge the patient the full amount. And good f*****g luck with that.

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    neytjie
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What's next? Tipping the nurses on your hospital stay. Therapists are alrdy crazy expensive anyway. What bs is this about not making enough

    Powerful Katrinka
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What the heck? Sounds like she's a self-proclaimed "therapist" with absolutely no credentials. What this person was asking for violates the ethics code of just about every professional mental health organization I can think of. OP should not only run, but report this person to their state's licensing board.

    Tamra
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Highly, highly unprofessional, not to mention unethical! If the therapist isn't happy with the insurance payments, then she needs to not contract with them and just charge the patient the full amount. And good f*****g luck with that.

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