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September is National Suicide Prevention Month, and throughout the last few weeks, Instagram has become flooded with empowering survival stories, raising social awareness on the illness. A new hashtag, #faceofdepression, is adding an essential layer of depth to the public conversation about hidden depression symptoms, and it's one we just can't ignore.
What do depressed people look like? What does someone with suicidal thoughts appear? What does depression feels like? Of course, many of us would probably picture a crumpled-up, crying shell of a person on a bathroom floor. However, the reality that #faceofdepression is trying to explain is that people who are struggling with feeling depressed often hide it in their everyday lives - meaning that they look like just about any other person you'd pass on the street.
One of the most touching contributions to the campaign was a video shared by Talinda Bentley, widow of Linkin Park singer Chester Bennington, showing him laughing and smiling just 36 hours before his tragic suicide. Don't take everything at 'face' value. If you think or know someone is showing the signs of depression, ask the hard questions before it's too late.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24/7 if you or someone you know needs urgent treatment of depression. Call 1-800-273-8255 or go to their official website to live chat with a counselor.
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#1
Sam Shabadoo 7 years ago
This is really powerful! I'm a nurse and I pinned this to my nursing board so I can show my fellow nurses. Thank you for sharing your story, just by ready this I know that the world would not be as bright without you in it ❤
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varwenea 7 years ago
Chester Bennington's suicide hit me incredibly hard. Whenever I was going through dark phases or sad times, I've always turned to Linkin Park music to get me through it. His raw intensity made me feel like someone understands darkness, and that I have someone to turn to. For many of his fans, his suicide has left a void that will not be filled anytime soon. I thank his bandmates for their heartfelt tribute. Their message was spot-on.
KK 7 years ago
Posts like these can hit very close to home for some of us. Please reach out for help if you feel suicidal. Suicide can be prevented. You absolutley deserve help. Here is a list of suicide hotlines. It is 100% okay to reach out: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html
Cat Meow 7 years ago
I did not expect to see this as the first picture. The feels hit right in the guts again. I can't even imagine how his family and the rest of the band feel like. Today also marks the first double-digit week of his passing. 10 weeks. In fact, in exactly an hour is when I first read the (then unconfirmed) news about his passing 10 weeks ago :(
Katy Oliver 3 years ago
This still literally hurts my heart.. such a beautiful soul who will be sadly missed forever xx
Amedeo Sandri 6 years ago
Depression is a s**t, i know, you seems happy when you are dying inside, nobody can undertand you and nobody can really help, you got to find the things that make you happy and throw away that things that make you bad, i know i've been depressed for so long time that my entire life lost any sense, i know is hard to continue but think that your parents and your friends love you and they want to see you happy, and they are your happiness, trust of me, happiness is only to believe that you can be happy, be strong. Sorry for my bad english.
Joyce Berman 7 years ago
Posts like this are helpful since we see so many other people who struggle with depression. It made me realize that probably a lot of people I know probably feel like these folks, and so I would want to be as kind as I can to them. It might not help, but it can't hurt.
Anna Kravchenko 7 years ago
Depression does have a face. It has a human face. A face with a full range of emotions and feelings.... Chester will be missed. Just like everyone else who has lost to this terrible illness...
Cloud Winters 7 years ago
This is the man who saved me with his voice and lyrics and got me into music. When people told me he died I did not believe it. I love Chester and my love goes to his family.
Kim Lorton 7 years ago
Then pass info on, and pay attention to behaviors that might indicate a suicide is going to happen. Verbally stating goood byes, giving away of treasured things, collecting pills, cancelling plans, there are educational papers that you can pick up that will help you identify depression in your friends or loved ones. Find out and learn.. you may save a life, or someone you know...
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Donna O 7 years ago
So everyone with tattoos must be secretly suicidal? I don't think that's the case. Also, if you're referring to self harm, people often self harm In order to stay alive; to make themselves feel better enough so that they aren't suicidal. Someone could self harm their entire life, and never once be suicidal. On the other hand, many people who have never self harmed, have committed suicide with zero warning signs.
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Barb Logan 7 years ago
What a stupid comment to make! That's all you have to say here?? You're pathetic.
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varwenea 7 years ago
What the f**k is wrong with you that you could be so cruel?!?
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You can't tell can you? You can't tell by the look in my eyes or the sound of my voice even. You're thinking "You're smiling though!"
Yes. Yes, I am smiling. I smiled for you. I smiled so I don't make you feel bad. I don't want you to feel like I do. I also don't want you to feel like there is something you can do to make me "feel better".
There isn't anything anyone can do. I have to work through it on my own. The worst part is that this bout snuck up on me. I recognize the familiarity of it all though.
Empty
Lonely
Heavy
Tired
So tired
Everything is loud
Everything is annoying
I have no patience
I want to be left alone
I want to stay in bed
I don't want to work out
I want to eat everything without cooking anything
The best part is that I haven't felt like this in a very long time AND that I recognize it for what is. I'm the one who bakes and does crafts. You see that on the outside but you don't see the darkness inside.
For those that are also suffering....PLEASE SEEK HELP. Treatment is different for each person. Do what is best for you. I'm doing what works for me while I get back to Monique. So for now - I smile, and let people know I'm struggling.
sh 7 years ago
THIS! She describes it so well... "The worst part is that this bout snuck up on me. I recognize the familiarity of it all though. Empty Lonely Heavy Tired So tired Everything is loud Everything is annoying I have no patience I want to be left alone I want to stay in bed I don't want to work out I want to eat everything without cooking anything "
#4
My daughter as well. The night before she ended up in the hospital they went to the daddy daughter dance and had an amazing time. Thankfully she's still alive today and learning to beat her illness. She was 8 at the time
Aurelia Grey 7 years ago
Mercy. Hurts to look at her, hurts to learn how young she was, I hope things are better.
#6
This is my son , right before going to his computer to look up how to properly hang himself. Two days later he followed through.
JillVille Child Care 7 years ago
I am so sorry :( I could not imagine the loss of a child this way. I have 4 teenagers. My heart is breaking for your family.
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#8
This is depression in our home. I tried to hang myself in my attic when the board broke and I broke thru the ceiling alerting my family. I fight every day. My husband tries his best but can't break through. I don't understand it. I don't know why I can't get rid of it. I have a wonderful family. I feel selfish, lost, sick and angry at myself. My brain has always been a little scrambled and I've fought just to make it thru school, I can't keep a job. I can't stay in task long enough or I take too long. I leave before I get fired. It's hard to feel worthless and I hate feeling like a burden to my family. I have so much pain inside. I'm in therapy I have meds. All I know is even though I feel like suicide would make life easier for my family, I also feel like if I could just get my head fixed and could be someone worthy, I really would like to stay around. I have been trying for so long I don't know if it's gonna happen for me. Today I am here. We will see how tomorrow goes tomorrow. I take it day for day and some times hour by hour. Sometimes i think If I can get through one more hour I'll go to bed and I'll sleep til tomorrow and see how it goes. Today has been ok. I'm trying to find something good today to give hope for tomorrow. Today I try.
Caroline Huot 7 years ago
Not just hour by hour honey... minute by minute, second by second!! I've been there... Take care xx
#9
My #faceofdepression and yes it is possible to be depressed with a child.
Hearing, "You don't have a reason to be depressed with her around" doesn't do shit but make me feel worse about myself
Being told, "All you need is exercise and a good diet" just makes me want to throat punch you even though you're coming from a good place
Depression keeps you from doing things you want to do because it's literally a chemical imbalance in your brain.
Elaine Van Zon 7 years ago
yes ,been there, well meaning people saying utterly stupid things. I hate " We've all been there" They are trying to make us feel they understand but succeed only in showing how little they understand. No you havn't been there - you have NO idea. Your daughter is adorable ,you are doing a great and brave job as her Mum. I pray you find something that will ease your pain and make your smile real on the inside too
#10
This is my boyfriend two weeks before hanging himself. Will never understand it...
#11
This is what depression looked like not long before we lost our beloved Luke. Depression is a SERIOUS illness. Don't dismiss people who are hurting.
Nini 7 years ago
Depression is like a worm, crawling under your skin and eating your flesh without anybody noticing. Because no one cares about what's inside of you. And everybody overreacts when something's seeable. But when "something" is noticeable is when you need people not to see, then you smile, every time for no reason, so they won't ask what you don't want to talk about. Because no matter what, when and whoever pretends to be here for you, everything looks fake, sounds wrong, and it hurts to realize how much you suck at life. And someday, it becomes too painful, you want to run away but everything's the same wherever you go. This is at that point that "suicide", "silence" and "darkness" start to look sweet, inspiring, necessary. Depression is a worm that deforms reality and makes "freedom" and "peace" rhyme with "death". I feel sorry for y'all, I wish your beloveds could have found a better way to relieve themselves from this pain.
#14
Bipolar disorder here,(with a heavy emphasis on the depression side)...I get up, put on a full face of makeup, wear a fun dress, all while struggling with depression, anxiety and sometimes suicidal thoughts..
#15
Currently at the doctor seeking help, most have no idea what I'm going through and that I cry in the shower or in the car on my way home from work or can't sleep at night because of panic attacks
#19
Major Depression & PPD here. 3 weeks pp with #2 & going to the doctor is helping. Most times I feel like I'm drowning but last couple of days it's been easier. Sometimes just talking about it can be cathartic. PLEASE seek help if you need it. It's not failure. Sometimes you just need a little more time to get your shit together and that's ok, because being a functional parent is hard fucking work.
Jenna Bois 7 years ago
You need to take care of you to be the best parent you can. I'm glad you're finding talk therapy helping. You got this :)
#22
Meagan Collette 7 years ago
I get you; I struggle with feeling like a failure every time I need to go back on medication.
#23
The face of depression. Sometimes it looks optimistic. Sometimes it doesn't. And having a smart, beautiful child doesn't mean those feelings don't exist or that they're not valid. She loves me on my good days and my bad days.
Jenna Bois 7 years ago
I identify with this so much. Even on the bad days I find a reason to go on in my daughter. Because she just sees her mom, not the depression.
#24
I suffer from fybromyalgia, arthritis and anxiety. The years have been a struggle.
Final score:
44points
JillVille Child Care 7 years ago
You are so beautiful! Love your eyes, definitely a caring emotional person in there :)
#25
Sarah Laurent 7 years ago
People need you, and love you, I promise. Even while crying, in bed, red wine or whatever ;)
#26
Alžběta Laurincová 7 years ago
I know it won't help you, but you are a very beuatiful woman! I love your eyes.
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#29
When people think about depression, they tend to have a very specific idea of how it manifests itself. I'm in the middle of a very real depressive episode and here I am at work with my plants and headphones
#30
I have been struggling with depression and anxiety for years and years. I started experiencing symptoms around 12 and wasn't diagnosed or treated until I was 25. (Early on docs told me I didn't seem depressed.) Once my kiddo was born, my postpartum depression fused with my everyday depression and I almost lost it. It was my dream to be a happy SAHP, and even though I stayed home for over a year, I felt worse and worse every day. It took all of my energy to make sure my baby was taken care of. I developed severe sleep apnea, gained a lot of weight, and couldn't function outside of my parental duties.
#31
Depressed since high'school, drop'out, one suicide attempt, severely agoraphobic. In my country having a mental illness means that "Your parents didn't beat you enough", or, "Your husband should throw you out of the house, maybe then you'll get a job". So I learned to smile even in my worst days.
Final score:
30points
Réka Viczián 7 years ago
It's not just your country, middle-and-east europe still has room for improvement in the field of mental illnesses. I hope you have more good days than bad and wish you strength to get to the good ones!
#32
Final score:
30points
Jess (Submission author) 7 years ago
Me, Two Days After A Failed Suicide Attempt. People Don’t “Look” Depressed, Because Depression Isn’t A Facial Expression.
#33
Final score:
28points
Steffi Klein (Submission author) 7 years ago
Stuck in a panic attack, yes, that's sweat running down my Face. Battling for 15 years now, the fearless good times in between two bad phases are the reason I'm still fighting. Nevertheless I'm tired to explain what a panic attack feels like or what the reasons are I'm suffering from this disease. It's not my fault and I don't want to feel guilty anymore.
#34
GAD and depression for probably two decades. My childhood nickname was "smiley". My positive attitude gets remarked on often. My brain still fires weird regardless.
#35
I have suffered from depression for more than 2 thirds of my life. Think about that. Most of my life has been in pain and misery. Most of my life has been spent fighting my demons of suicidal ideation and convincing myself to stay, to keep fighting. There are days, even now, that I can draft my goodbye note in my head. There are days I can almost convince myself that my son and my family could be better off without me. Yet, this is no way makes me an unfit mother. One thing I never fail at for my son is loving him. Showing him he is loved. I know some of you say "you shouldn't have children if you are mentally ill" and to you I say: Eat a bag of dicks. My son saved my life. My son saves my life every day. I will not keep from him that I am sick when he is old enough to understand. I'd rather he see me battle my mind, than think even a fraction of my pain was caused by him.
#36
Final score:
25points
Lieke Van Kinderen (Submission author) 7 years ago
Got diagnosed with borderline a few months ago. Hard to hear but all fell into place. The depressions are hard, very hard. Thankfully i've been diagnosed, got a great counselor and am attending group-therapy. Keep strong everyone and thank you all for sharing your stories.
#37
Final score:
23points
CelSlade (Submission author) 7 years ago
Two months after attempting suicide - while I was considering trying again daily. Everyone who meets me and who I tell I have depression say: 'You don't seem the type!' There is no type.
#38
The last images we have of my eldest son's father. Mother's day 2012. We felt he was making improvements, but Jesse completed suicide June 12, 2012.
Final score:
23points
#39
About three hours before a massive panic attack that ultimately ended in self harm.
Final score:
20points
#40
When you put on your war face but inside is where the battle happens.
Final score:
19points
#41
I never feel normal, accepted or accepted. I struggle always. I'm thankful for my support.
Final score:
19points
Ivelina Gancheva 7 years ago
Dude, you cool, you remind me of the singer Banks visually. Be strong!
#42
The guy in red was my dad, less than 2 months before he took his life. He was 60 years old. He told us as kids that he had to talk himself out of suicide every day. He succeeded, but not without letting every one of his loved ones know how much he loved us. I miss him terribly, he will never get to meet my kids or walk me down the isle.
Final score:
19points
#44
Taken few days ago... Face of depression, anxiety, ednos, bpd and suicidal thoughts. I'm ashmed
Final score:
17points
#45
Depressed for years, nobody noticed till last year, it’s amazing how depression can hide.
Final score:
15points
#46
Decided to get out of bed for the first time in months to look nice for a picture.
Final score:
13points
Chantelle Dixie 7 years ago
Scarlet Johannson is that you? (Don't know if I spelt her name correctly) you do remind me of her but I hope you can fight through this tough time I'm struggling atm
#47
This is what depression and anxiety looks like. I was in a bad place. I am fine now, but sometimes it comes back, and I hate it. Luckily I have got a support system around me that helps me through when out gets bad. But most people would never have guess when I struggle!
Final score:
12points
#48
"Depression? But you're young and smart" they say. And here I am with 11 suicide attempts.
Final score:
12points
awesome_sauce.71 7 years ago
you are very pretty! I want to grow up and be as pretty as you and maybe my moms.It will all be okay
#49
Anxiety and depression for many years, I put a mask on I guess at times and try to make out I'm the fun, smiling happy one, but what goes on inside is darker at times. Worry so much about things, its like the end of the world when changes happen. I get paniced by things, angry and distant or I breakdown and cry. Its not only mental but physical too, ibs and stress symptoms that make me feel weak and tired. My artistic part of my brain does help break things up time to time, a way of expressing something that I cant feel. I wish at times I could eventually feel more in control, but then I'd be scared of that feeling.
Final score:
12points
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Kjorn 7 years ago
my wife struggle with that for so many time and even after spend one month in psych ward still waiting to get so therapy. it's hard to see in what state she is and harder for me to realise i can't do more to help her. Since it's take a toll to me as well. she often criticise the fact that i didn't talk much of my hard day, but how can i even whining about my day when she can't even get out of bed. I try the best i can to make her happy to be supportive to do the much i can and even then i felt guilty of not doing enough. It's hard but each time i saw i smile at me it's Worth all the effort i put in. People must not forget that even if they feel alone they're not.
Elaine Van Zon 7 years ago
She is lucky to have you . I have depression but also have lived with depressed people. Both are hard. You are doing all you can and trying to understand and not walking away .Bless you both. I really hope she gets helpful therapy soon.
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Paladin of Shadows 7 years ago
This hits me hard, I'm a Sophomore in high school and I've been depressed since 6th grade.... nobody knew until last year, and it took a crappy outpatient hospital program for my parents to see
lazy panda 7 years ago
Whoever downvoted you is a d**k. I completely understand what you are going through though. My parents refused to believe I actually had depression until I went to a counselor in college one day and told her I wanted to die. Even then, my dad thought I just wanted to quit school. Listen, please know you are not alone and that you do not have to fight alone. There are so many resources including apps that offer a safe place for you to just talk without judgment or whatever may be on your mind. I am in no way religious, but the app "The Hope Line" actually saved my life once. Just do your research and continue fighting the good fight. You've got this!
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Cristina Dumitrescu 7 years ago
I have been dealing with depression and anxiety attacks for over 10 years and got medicated for it twice so far. It wasn't easy to come forward because I felt it was my fault, something was wrong with me for feeling that way, but I was so broken down that I didn't care if lived or not, and that was alarming even for my depressed mind. Didn't have thoughts of ending my life, but I sure wouldn't have minded if I went to bed and didn't wake up the next morning. I chose to seek help, I was so tired of being tired all the time, catatonic, angry, worried, irrational, have no energy or finding joy in anything. The meds alone weren't enough, so I went to a therapist as well. This is a stigma that needs to end for the sake of us all. It's an illness like any other illness, the fact that you can't see it all the time doesn't make it less dangerous. I hope everyone who's dealing with this can find their strength to ask for help - I promise you that you matter and people care about you <3
Rafaella Bueno 7 years ago
I'm glad the help you got actually seemed to have helped you. I've been to therapy many times, with a few different doctors, and tried a few meds a few times, nothing ever really helped me. I admit I'm somehow much better today than years ago, mostly thanks to a few friends, my dog, and focusing on things like work, but I can't see myself ever not being anxious and depressed. I hardly ever actually enjoy anything, I just don't feel anything anymore. I got a lot better at reacting and hiding the problem, but the feelings didn't really change much from back them - I'm just changing from the cliché depressed to these people in the photos that hide it well.
Load More Replies... KK 7 years ago
I know posts like these hit some people hard. Please remember that there are hotlines where you can reach someone you can talk to. Here is a list of different hotlines for different countires: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines
Vanessa Meyer 7 years ago
I feel so sorry for all the people not being understood because "they are so happy"... All the comments reflect it ... "I dont want you to feel bad too!" Thats it!!! Why cant people understand that you dont need to look like garbage to need help... Im left here with no help too, because after I finally managed to overcome my fears and ask for help the doctor answered... : You totally dont look depressed! Look at you, depressed people arent able to put on any makeup nor dress themselves in nice clothes. You dont need help, just do some sports and all will go away." ... yep totally. No idea if Ill ever be able to ask another doc for any help. I wish I could do anything to make these poor people feel better.
KK 7 years ago
That doctor was very ignorant - he or she should transfer you to a psychologist without much ado. Please take it serious if you feel bad. you can always reach out and get a second opinion. You absolutley deserve help.
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Stef 7 years ago
My best friend suffers thru some tough stuff. Over the years, or friends have left us, but I'll never leave her. She is never a burden and she is my person. I feel I'm the only one who can calm her down, make her laugh, and keep going. That is so empowering and I try to help her all the time without calling it "help". Depression is a serious illness and a lot of people do not know how to react to it. Being human can be extremely hard. We all need to take a moment before reacting negatively to each other and think, is this going to trigger another in a bad way or how much will this hurt them if I say anything. Be mindful. If you know someone is depressed, just be there for them. Bring them their favorite food, send their favorite song, something funny, or just do something. Every lil bit counts!
sosunlight 7 years ago
That's so true, Stef. You can never imagine how much those things mean. Just being there can make all the difference at the time. Your friend is incredibly blessed to have you <3
Load More Replies... lazy panda 7 years ago
No one's feelings should ever be invalidated. No one should ever be told that they "don't look depressed" or "don't look suicidal." No one should ever be told that their life is too great or that they are too young to be depressed. This illness can strike anyone just like lightning and tear you to shreds in ways you can't comprehend. The best thing you can do for those of us suffering from depression is to just BE with us. Do not tell us to "cheer up," "get some rest and everything will be fine again," or to "look on the bright side." WE HAVE TRIED. WE ARE NOT IDIOTS. The stigma needs to end!
Oscar Hanzély 7 years ago
Actually, depression is in face, but unfortunately most people cannot detect it or are ignorant to it. None of the smiles on photos are real, they are all fake and it all lies in micro expressions. If you live with that person, it is your fault not to spot the signs. The loneliness is what makes it way worse.
Elizabeth Malean 7 years ago
Depression is no ones fault. You can't just say, "oh, I'm despressed because I want to be." It IS AN ILLNESS. You can't always see the signs.
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Mark Fergel 7 years ago
So many of these break my heart. I went through depression (but fortunately never really felt suicidal). I remember feeling like I could fix this on my own. I couldn't. I couldn't fix it no matter how hard I tried and ended up on medication eventually because I was willing to see someone. I still remember the day I was able to smile about something without it being forced....watching my daughter swim in the pool. Never be ashamed to seek help.
erna sully 7 years ago
seeing people stories touches me, that i am not the only one who suffer. I couldn't talk properly with other person because of my anxiety disorder
로희 7 years ago
I know I suffer from depression. Unfortunately so far I've never tried to seek for help because I'm afraid I'll lose my job and hence embarrased my family - which I think would make me feel even more depressed. The majority of my country is still look down on mental illness. Therefore I feel like I have to just endure it for however long I can. Thank you for making this thread. Even if only through an anonymous identity, I feel a little relieved from sharing my feelings that I could never do in real life. :)
Anna Sheridan 7 years ago
I'm so sorry for how you are feeling and I wish you every happiness soon. If you feel you can't talk to those around you there are lots of great forums on the internet where you can talk to people just like you, maybe it may help in the meantime with not feeling so alone. I have found some of these really therapeutic. All the best.
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Cat Meow 7 years ago
Not even halfway through this post, I had to take a break. All those messages hit a little too close to home. I hope all of the people in this post, comments and everywhere else who are still with us are doing much better. You... we all deserve this! Life will always be a battle, but stay strong and keep on fighting! <3
MonsterMash 7 years ago
Thank you everyone for being strong and showing that depression and mental illness can affect anyone. You are all gorgeous and strong for sharing your stories.
HauntedForests 7 years ago
It's like depression possesses your body and alters your reality and makes everything so damn painful. It's not like you can reach out to anyone either, whether it's because they wouldn't understand, it's because you don't want to sound dramatic, or they say you're "Too Young" to have depression. Heck, some people don't even KNOW THEY HAVE DEPRESSION!!! It so easy to put on a pretty face and a happy smile for everyone around you. Imagine having depression AND anxiety!!! When you have both of them, it feels like you just don't have the energy or the state of mind to do that something, like your chest is being weighed down with emptiness, but then you start to think about the consequences that follow. Then comes the thoughts of "You're a failure" and "You're worthless", and before you know it, that cage bounds you even tighter within that small compartment of your mind, blocking out all real happiness. If this goes on long enough, it eventually makes you completely numb to the kind words
HauntedForests 7 years ago
-of others, that used to pull you out of the darkness temporarily.
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This is such a heart breaking post .So many hurting hopeless people and still so many who judge and don't understand , Both my husband and I suffer depression sometimes severe sometimes not. We do try not to put expectations on each other and make things worse. So far, thankfully, we've never been depressed at the same time
Sivi 7 years ago
Got epilepsy when I was 8 which deepen the depression already lurking due to becoming an outcast and mocked by my own class. Suicidal thoughts did not linger far, i dont remember how many attempts I tried to take my own life, but I was alway scared, started finding small things to keep me going like "who is gonna take care of my rabbits, what will my family think.." etc. I didn't tell my mom about those thought before at least 10+ years later. She never knew, she never saw signs of it. She told me never to be scared to tell her any of my bad thoughts.
Adriana E. Henricy 7 years ago
This sucks so sooo much. Doctors cant be this moronic "you dont look depressed" that doesnt help, that isnt professional
Maddie Myers 7 years ago
I can see it, it's not in their smile or their posture. It's in their eyes, you can see it, they're empty, devoid of emotion. But if you look close they're full of pain. They're full of sadness really. But you have to look close enough, look in their eyes and tell me they aren't suffering, look in their eyes and tell me they aren't faking it. I see you, I see your pain.
Norwin Munster 7 years ago
well, if the aim of this article is to convince that it is not writen on thier faces, it failed ! It is very visible , plain and obvious. I myself is in this group and i can tell.
Daniel R. 7 years ago
A teacher once told me that men and women are just as likely to contemplate suicide but men are more likely to go through with it. I'm wondering if that's true and why. Hope all these people get the help they need.
Anna Sheridan 7 years ago
It's not nice to say but I want to answer your question. The rate is higher in men as they are more likely to choose more violent ways to take their own life. Women are more likely to overdose and thankfully can be saved if caught in time. The attempts are pretty much similar but men are more likely to be successful in their attempt. I know this is not nice but it's important to to share the facts so we can't work towards stopping these tadegies
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We'llSee 6 years ago
Been fighting this so long I don't even remember when it all started, even as a child.I learned very early on to "hide", feelings, sadness, tears, sorrow, etc. litertally hide everything, paste on my smile, act carefree etc etc. Then in my case I hit a wall, had a horrible tragedy in my family happen. There was no coping with this alone, for the first time I HAD to seek help, and I did, well meaning Dr who put me on so many medicines I can't recall all the ones, we tried. Nothing ever worked that well, and some (paxil) damn near killed me! Years and years of this, has taught me (speaking for myself only) except yourself, and all of your flawed thinking, embrace it like its the best thing (because you are), do what you can on any given day, do not let others control what you can do, only you know this. I personally got off of all meds, I just take a very small dose for anxiety daily and thats it. I put tons of time into finding things that help me, sometimes I still fight rock bottom.
We'llSee 6 years ago
Sorry for the long post * adding to the above, the few times I've hit that rock bottom, I learned this, I take the 24 hour challenge, I give myself 24 hours to feel better before thinking of ending my life again. In all three instances I've done this in the past 5 - 7 yrs, I have not wanted to do it after the 24 hours. I don't know if this will help anyone else, but it could, like its helped me. My heart breaks for those who suffer with this. I will say for myself again, my faith also carries me through.
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Dawn VanHentenryck 7 years ago
I always felt like people who committed suicide were selfish. How could they do that to their family members? How could they leave them knowing how much pain it would cause them? But then, 2 yrs ago, I had a nervous breakdown. For months I thought of suicide on a daily basis. Two different times I was literally getting ready to kill myself when a family member and friend called me. I truly believe they saved my life. I love my family more then life itself and I would never do anything to cause them pain! But when you are so depressed and scared of life and hurting so badly, you don't think of others around you. All you think about is " I just want this feeling to go away"!! And unless you have been through it, you will never understand how overwhelming it feels. I still struggle everyday. But there is HOPE! There is medicines and there are very caring people out there willing to help! With Gods help, I chose to fight this and reached out for help and so can YOU! I PROMISE it will help!
Juliet Selvage 7 years ago
I have struggled with depression since 1997 and possibly earlier but undiagnosed. I was put on antidepressants in 2002 after seeking help and someone listened. I tried to throw myself out the car while my ex was driving, had suicidal thoughts but when I asked for help from him I just got abuse about being selfish. I am still on antidepressants and probably never come off them as I have two disabled children and I still have days I sit and cry but don't know why. I can't tell you why I am unhappy. I just am. I don't look depressed as so many tell me so it can't be true. I don't let anyone see that side. I get panic attacks and days I just want to run away from it all. The antidepressants keep me just so I can manage. I am on a very low dose and I do owe my life to them and a very understanding GP who was the only one who listened without judgement.
Shiranai Chan 7 years ago
Have been struggling for 23 years, since the age of 9. Been told I don't look depressed and that I am looking for attention many times. Wow, didn't know that I had to tattoo it on my forehead to look depressed.
Anuschka Van Der Veen Kramers 7 years ago
I worry about the children, I've only looked until page 4, but in the eyes of the children in #23, #30, #33, I see that they feel uncomfortable, to say the least. Of course you cannot help it, that the child will subconsiously feel/know what is going on, as a parent when you have depression/anxiety, but it is good to be aware that the children are suffering more than we/you/they know. In my opinion it would be good to stop pretending towards your own children without showing or telling them details of course, but admit that you are feeling sad and that it's ok, and they don't need to take care of you. This is where it all starts, acknowledging that it is ok to not feel ok. Be honest about it to your children.
Marriann Douglas 7 years ago
I love this post. I really do. It touches home in so many ways. Especially since I was told by a doctor, the first time I tried to get help for my depression, only to be told, that cause I'm overweight, it might be better to go to the gym and you'll get better. That was 7 years ago, and I still haven't forgotten those words. I never gave up in trying to get better and sadly I'm no further forward than I was at the beginning of those 7 years, but I'm still fighting daily. Still fighting to live and I am proud of everyone who is fighting to live and survive these monstrous demons in our heads, causing us to feel the hatred for ourselves. Only thing I wish for, well two things actually, is that it's taken more seriously and no one taunts and teases those that suffer. And for appointments for psychiatrists to not take like months to arrive. But, ultimately, keep fighting :)
Irene Walton 7 years ago
Excellent excellent. My son has tried suicide, been to phsych ward several times only to be turned away (no beds) this being in a huge city. Vancouver BC. Horrible sickness
Swapnil 7 years ago
The better you are at hiding your emotions the harder it is to even detect. I have struggled with depression for almost two years now. My family has no clue. Good part is I have been able to get over it to an extent, with help from experts and by focusing myself on fitness etc. However if something had happened in the meanwhile all anyone would know is that last they saw me I was smiling and making jokes.
Anna Sheridan 7 years ago
Wow this post has really helped me! Have been on leave for serious depression and anxiety and I feel guilty as everyone thinks I'm such a happy person and I'm sure they don't believe me.
Cindy Pelletier 7 years ago
Just because you look happy to others doesn't mean you aren't depressed. I am by nature a "happy" person: even on the days I don't get out of bed or don't have the energy to do basic hygiene. I get the medical help I need to function and most of the time I have my depression under control. Still, when I reveal to friends that I have depression I get the "what do you have to be depressed about" question. I tell them I have nothing to be depressed about because I don't. I have a good life, good friends and family and a good job with great benefits. They don't get it and I can see in their eyes that they don't understand. There is still a stigma about mental disease that is hard to overcome. Depending on who finds out it can affect your employment and ruin friendships. I am careful about who I tell about my depression because of the ignorance that surrounds mental illness. I think it scares people because they can't tell by looking who has a mental disease or how to treat "those" people.
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BREAK YOUr perceptions 7 years ago
depressed people are better actors than the highest paid Hollywood start. ask questions to those you care about whether or not they "show" to be at risk. I've lost 2 cousins to suicide.
Tasya hapsari 2 years ago
I understand about how people feeling and now how to help them yet, I don't know how to do it my self I know exactly what I'm supposed to do but it's not that easy and no one help me or lead me I have depression as well... Depression episode to be exactly I thought I would be better, yet I'm still going down hill I'm still trying my best. It's not easy at all
Anonymousplease 3 years ago
The first time I was depressed and suicidal was in 6th grade, I was 11. It has been two years and I have still not told my family. I have learned how to bury emotions. I am not suicidal anymore though. To everyone who had been depressed and suicidal at a young age, I am sorry, I know what it is like and I hope it gets better for you.
Ijeoma Adebanji 4 years ago
I'm in the same boat right now. Nobody seems to understand me. I put up a bright and agile look but deep inside I'm dying. I've been treated with medications twice and still undergoing treatment. But just when I think I'm getting better another relapse happens. . . I can't function well at work. I guess people are tired of me being sick all the time. They just can't understand me. . . I just want to take my life so I can sleep on forever without waking up. I feel useless and worthless. I feel like my life doesn't matter.
We'llSee 4 years ago
Reading this breaks my heart, I know.....I know these feelings, the darkness can't be explained, today was ok, I walked on, I had a lot to do, helped a love one, I don't know about tomorrow, will it feel over-whelming, will I spend more time crying, feeling pain, hurt, and all the other deepest pains, I don't know yet, everyday is a struggle, I pray its another good day... Even the ones who know me best, never understand how hard it is, every single day...... My heart breaks for those who face this, I know..........
Sara Davis 4 years ago
What does "you're so pretty" have to do with anything? Depression hits all ppl, pretty or not. Lovely to great someone's, but it doesn't help the depression. Sometimes it makes it worse, like oh great, another person not seeing ME.
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Kavita Kabra 4 years ago
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Sue Strauch 6 years ago
I have been depressed since the age of 6. I wasn’t diagnosed until my 40’s. no one understands who hasn’t experienced it. I hate when people say “just stop”! I would if I knew how. The only thing that has kept me going is my in God. He carries me through every minute of every day.
Ethan Slusser 6 years ago
If anyone needs someone to talk to, just ask me. Though you’ll need Instagram on an Amino.
Linda Burrows 7 years ago
I read the above. One sentence I saw in there is all that is needed: Depression Is Agony.
Carolyn Lerner 7 years ago
I am a high functioning depression. depression wears a mask of many faces and they are unique to the individual. https://themighty.com/2017/05/signs-of-high-functioning-depression-or-dysthymia/
Ann Abdelzaher 7 years ago
25 years ago we had a birthday party for my brother's then youngest, just two hours later my sister's husband killed himself... no note no idea why.
Diane Allen 7 years ago
depression can be caused by hormone and nutritional imbalances, there also has been connections to lymes disease and virus', keep educated and keep connected: I was depressed on and off for years....
MartinTheVlogger 7 years ago
Guys, ahhh.. so so sad to read all of those stories. People that had never went thru any serious mental condition, can just hardly understand how difficult it can be, to get over it. For me, even tho i dont have depressions, "just" Panic Attacks, what is super important, is that I have my close family and fiends knowing my condition, and it is very important that i can talk or stop by at them, when I do feel something is wrong. After the DGR2017 i have decided to fight as hard as possible for 2 things. #Fight4MentalHealth and #DontBeAfraid2 . I can see that there is much more people around me - closer than i tough, that after they did hear my story, they told me theirs, and what they went thru. My story is here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Rh4Q8ofW1o
Biju Johny 7 years ago
A person I know came out of depression by listening to same set of praise and worship songs repeatedly for few days. This person was in fact not responding to therapy. His wife started playing the songs repeatedly. Initially it did not seem to work. Then suddenly his mind got hooked on to the music then on to the lyrics and his negative thoughts changed.
Allie Cleaver 7 years ago
I have lost 3 friends to suicide in the last 2 and a half years. It is so painful, to think they felt so much pain in those moments they took their own life. If I let myself think about it too much it is unbearable.And there have been even more attempted suicides. It is an epidemic. I suffered for depression for about 6 years, anxiety all my life and in some of my darker places I wanted to die as well. But I am a very happy and stable person now and trying to look into the mind of my younger self sometimes perplexes me. I really miss my friends, and I really feel sad for everyone who is suffering, because it is not like a physical illness where you can see the cause and the antidote so much. Everything is different for each person which makes it hard to cure. Accept love and be there for other people when you get the chance. I feel so guilty for times I haven't and now I can never say I am sorry.
The Cube Cat 7 years ago
In middle school I was depressed and even though I wasn't a sobbing ball on the floor I acted that way because I felt that was the only way people would take my depression seriously
Carmi Miu 7 years ago
You know guys I've been depressed and think of suicidal. I was been broken and pressured like i don't have hope, like i don't have future. I wanted to die that time because i feel so lost that i don't want to live anymore. But instead of commiting suicide, I found myself to God. Someone said, "Go to God and he will help you" "Jesus answered prayers to those who believe" So i tried and He did! I seen verses from the bible unexpectedly and it feels kike God providing that verses for me. God gave miracles in my life that change me for who I am now. A new me! That no matter whats the problem in life, there is always a way to get through it. And thats by the grace of God almighty Jesus. Never been happier before. He will restore the broken life, relatioship, broken heart. Jesus is Life
Owers Maureen 7 years ago
You poor darlings, everyone of you. Depression runs through our family. I believe, having studied my family ancestry that it can be passed down. I had a son who hung himself at age 19, an adult daughter who tried to commit suicide 3 times and later was diagnosed with bipolar, another adult daughter who, like myself, suffered from post natal depression (as did the other daughter) and an adult son who.tends to go "down" in winter when there's little sun. Grandchildren haven't escaped either unfortunately. Anxiety disorders have been part of the course for us all. In closing and thank you for reading this, my love is extended to all of you and ld like you to know I understand! 💜
Lynnell Taylor 7 years ago
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Denise Wainscott 7 years ago
These stories are so true.it will be 5 years on oct.9 my dads birthday,that i tried to end my life.ive put on a happy face for so long i dont know any other.its hard to explain for me.i still fight those days when i want to end it all ,and scares me to death im going to loose this fight.
Dawn VanHentenryck 7 years ago
Please reach out to family and friends when you have those feelings.! Pray even, if you feel it might help. But please don't give up on yourself! You are stronger then you think!
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Anna Thouvenin 7 years ago
I love this post. It's very difficult to make people understand about depression. I stayed with my ex for 2.5 years and he couldn't understand my struggle. Eventually it lead to the end of our relationship and many suicidal thoughts all along this period. I hope there are more people willing to share their experience to improve awareness of children, parents, teachers, doctors, everyone. I hope we also see more men who assume their depression. Rarely even speak of it to a loved one because of stigma, and this is usually fatal. I hope men and women who posed here can find a way to win the battle <3
Nikki Maize 7 years ago
Happened to me, too. Went to my doctor to ask for antidepressants and she told me I didn’t look depressed. And demonstrated me a sad face of how she expects depressed patients to look like
Victoria Chifor 7 years ago
there are many types of depression: not to be good enough at the professional life, society, the lost of a dear one (this is more severe), illness of your body which make you reconsider all your values in life...but at the end depression is a way to break-through your old habits and evolve and unfortunately is done through pain and self discovery...and yes...peoples can not understand or detect it...all I can say praying to God is helping a lot for wisdom, patient and good physical and mental health, clear and peaceful mindsets...and this can happen through acceptance of what it is, give up to expectations and to be wanted to be accepted by others...and understand that every person is unique and has special skills and no competition is needed for nothing...you decrease anxiety with this thoughts and see life more relaxed...life is about enjoying your experiences and not to be stress out and try to survive...
William Anderson 7 years ago
After my wife passed, I went back to work at Target and working with public hoping it would distract me from being alone. Often it had the opposite feeling as people ask "how ya doing" & i had to say "fine" or at least "getting by" & they would smile & continue... Inside was think that life has no purpose and feeling so alone today is the 1st anniversary of her death & I've lost my job, my insurance, our house , but when strangers see me on the street I'll look like everyone else. It's the 1 year anniversary of her passing today and it's been a very hard week.
Melina Pothier 7 years ago
It irritates me to no end that most people take everything at face value. Most make no attempt to try and understand or learn the signs, because there are always signs, be it certain things said in a moment, ones energy, demeanor, etc, but one has to pay attention. I've struggled with suicidal thoughts all my life and it amazes me how much stigma this situation still carries
Richard Anderson 7 years ago
I suspect that everyone that is even moderately cognoscent knows someone or has themselves experienced suicidal imaginings. I wonder what or if there are evolutionary origins for what seems so contrary to mankind’s instinct to survive.
Anthone Sipin 7 years ago
Anyone see a pattern here? Most of them are White blue collar men and most are women.
Antony Lindner 7 years ago
Depression absolutely sucks...I wish it on no one. I never thought that I would be taken to the edge, but I was and I can now understand why someone would take their life. I looked at the edge...that abyss...almost! But somehow I knew it was a lie, something said don't believe that lie! Don't you do it! That still small voice said...you have to endure, you have to go through! And I did...believe me, it wasn't easy...but I did endure that daily battle...and after some time, it did start to get better. Took my focus off myself more and more and focused on others...that really helped! After some years of struggle I am so much better now, I can still see that old enemy, depression now and then, but I know better now. It doesn't define me. Do not believe that lie! All I can say is endure, go through that storm! I know, it sucks...it really sucks! That way out might seem like the way...but it is not...go through that storm to the land on the other side.
Donald Thomas 7 years ago
Think of this verse from Carly Simon's song "That's the Way I've Always Heard It Should Be": My friends from college they're all married now They have their houses and their lawns They have their silent noons Tearful nights, angry dawns Their children hate them for the things they're not They hate themselves for what they are And yet they drink, they laugh Close the wound, hide the scar ________ How many of them may be masking depression & suicidal thoughts?
awesome_sauce.71 7 years ago
aww, I feel so sorry for all these people :( I hope they can recover and overcome these obstacles. I am 12 and i have seen some depressed people. like my mom. she has depression and you really can't see it unless you look really hard. you could get lost in her pretty brown eyes
Dan Reillo 7 years ago
I think depression has a face that loved ones can recognize most of the time. They all have a spiritual challenge, but most of these challenges manifest themselves physically. They may have hardships because they're gay, overweight, a minority, agnostic, old, not attractive, etc. Others show their depression through hair-dos/drastic hair color, piercings, and or tattoos. Not everyone with any of these things listed is in risk of suicide, but those that are usually display one or more of these attributes. Yes, they all need help, but to spiritually sharp people it does have a face.
Dan Reillo 7 years ago
I think depression has a face that loved ones can recognize most of the time. They all have a spiritual challenge, but most of these challenges manifest themselves physically. They may have hardships because they're gay, overweight, a minority, agnostic, old, not attractive, etc. Others show their depression through hair-dos/drastic hair color, piercings, and or tattoos. Not everyone with any of these things listed is in risk of suicide, but those that are usually display one or more of these attributes. Yes, they all need help regardless, but to spiritually sharp people depression has a face.
Katrina Green 7 years ago
My grandpa killed himself a couple years before I was born. My mom told me the night before he shot himself he took her and my aunt out to dinner. Since he knew he was going to die, he gave my mom money for her next prescription (she is a serious asthmatic) and made sure my aunt was doing alright. Ironically, he was a psychiatrist, and no one really knew how depressed he really was. Even though I never met him, his suicide has affected my life because of how traumatic it was for my mother. She also suffered with depression and marital problems. My aunt struggles with anxiety and abandonment issues as she was only 16 when it happened. Suicide affects more people than you think. When people kill themselves, they are affecting people that haven't even been born yet.
Tony Snider 7 years ago
46,male,long time depression and anxiety,been on disability because of it for 4 years now. It takes A LOT to make me tear up and more so to cry. Looking through these pics I teared up. Every new pic I looked at I just said in my heart " No...no....no.." It hurt to see people broken in a way I'm all to familiar with. In a twisted way they are all my brothers and sisters. If you haven't suffered from it it's very difficult to understand what goes on in our minds. I am giving long,tight hugs to all of you. I'm crying now. I haven't cried in months.
Virgil Blue 7 years ago
This is all so fricking relatable. Depression is a monster and I do my best to hide it as not to hurt my family too much. But it is so hard sometimes...
Pam Wells 7 years ago
I attempted suicide in 2011. A few days before I was at a friends house for lunch and we were all laughing, having a good time. It was during that lunch that I made the firm decision to end my life. Months later my friend asked, "How did we miss it?" It's because I was wearing 'the mask' - the mask that we wear as we try to look normal while inside we are falling apart. I'm doing great now but it was a difficult battle that I fought for most of my life. I wrote a short book about depression and my experience. I interviewed others and their responses are in the book as well. This is NOT a sales pitch. It's on Amazon as an e-book only. If you want to buy it - great - if that's a problem let me know and I would be happy to send you a copy. Or I can post it free for a few days as a promotion. It's called, "How to Help Someone Who is Depressed" by Pamela Wells.
Linda Stith 7 years ago
I also have depression and Iam 67 years old. I have 4 children and the youngest daughter died in Feb and my oldest son in sept of this year. The problem is I did not know my son was very depressed,I talked to both my children just to days before they passed.I finely thought it best best to talk to someone. I have been depressed for years and never told anyone. It is hard to live in this world! I miss them very much and my heart is broken .
Lisa Greene 7 years ago
I have suffered from anxiety and depression since I was a kid. I've attempted suicide many times and feel lucky that I didn't succeed! I have lost 6 people to suicide, including my father. I feel like suicide follows me everywhere! Now I'm a mom of a wonderful kid, who also suffers from anxiety and depression. That in it's self makes me feel so guilty that I want to die. To all the brave people who posted their stores, and especially to those who have lost their loved ones to suicide, I am very sad for you! I also think you are all very brave... If you're feeling worthless, you're not, and please reach out and get help... Belive me taking your life is never the way. There is help for you and the world is better with you in it!
Pam Wells 7 years ago
I attempted suicide in 2011. A few days before I was at an Easter dinner at the home of friends. We had a good time but it was during that dinner that I made the firm decision to end my life. One of those friends asked me later, "How did we miss it?" Not their fault. I was wearing "the mask" - the mask that so many who are depressed wear when trying to look normal. I'm doing SO much better now. One saying I HATE is "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." I started having suicidal thoughts when I was about 9 - I attempted suicide in my 50's. There was nothing temporary about it! I wrote a small book about depression - interviewing others and sharing my story. It's only an e-book for now on Amazon. This is NOT a sales pitch - you can buy the book if you want - if that's a problem for you - let me know and I'll send you a copy. Or I can make the book free for a couple of days.
Danielle Botha 7 years ago
My heart breaks for anyone suffering! Please talk to someone. Ask for help. You're worthy. You deserve to live. You're loved. Always here to talk.
Chris Jos 7 years ago
My girlfriend is going through depression and it's the saddest thing for me to see her that way . She use to be extremely fun loving ,very bubbly , she knew how to make people around her laugh , but it took me a while to realize that behind every smile of her was a mask she would put on to cover what she really is going through . She is an amazing artist , but she doesn't paint anymore and our long distance relationship is making things even more hard for her . I hope everything will be alright .
Peter Smith 7 years ago
My wife was seriously depressed I tried to be nice, it did not work I was rough, it did not work One day I bought her a beautiful dress and told her to go to town herself She was not mentally at home for 2 months Then she started a completely new woman now we are happy :)
Ieva Midveryte 7 years ago
Did anyone of people suffering from depression ever tried Vipassana Meditation? If not, try because it will change your life. Lots of love <3
JoSta Urban 7 years ago
Yup, going back to meds because I can't handle it any more right now...
Gayathri Jayaraman 7 years ago
Although some people try to understand depression, It's very hard to explain what the other person is going through. The best you could do is be with them, listen and not criticize them. Support their talent. And simply let them be at peace. To all the ones that's going through depression, I just wanna say, you are special. You are beautiful the way you are. Your life is special, don't take it away. And help everyone wear the smile. Cheers.
Gayathri Jayaraman 7 years ago
Although some people try to understand, it is very difficult to explain what depression is. One can never understand. The best thing you could do is be with them, not critizise and support them with whatever talent they have got. They may have over come it, but even the very idea of depression or of the past scares them. To all the people going through depression, just want to say say this, you are beautiful the way you are. You are special. Rock on with your life.
Rhon 7 years ago
I work in a PND centre as a child care worker caring for bubs while their mums are getting help. I see women from all walks of life, I see mums obsessed with their children/ child, I see mums who arrive and just hand over their child without saying a word. I see mums sobbing, I see mums laughing. THEY ALL HAVE PND! Some will come out the other end others it will never leave them. What do I get out of this? I get a better understanding of our gorgeous daughter, I get an insight into how best to talk with her, how to listen to her, how to help. Then i sit down and sob myself because my beautiful girl has to go through this. What does my daughter get out of this? An understanding of she too can help other people with depression.
Elizabeth Malean 7 years ago
I want to say to everyone who posted a photo, BRAVO for doing so. It shows that depression has no face, no race, no gender, no age.
Johnny Slapstick 7 years ago
Depression and suicide suck. However, I will also say that the medication to treat it sucks, as well. The human mind is an amazing thing. It likes to think. Medicating it is the worst thing you can do. Instead, when you have any kind of depressing thoughts, pick up a book (not your smart phone or video game controller) and read it. This has worked for me and several people I know.
David Arctor 7 years ago
Hopelessness and an inability to imagine a future are not always the same thing as sadness. Happiness is a funny thing; sometimes it's fleeting and self-destructive. We want to find the sorrow hidden in the faces of these seemingly happy people. We want to help. We want to try. But what if they weren't unhappy? What if the math simply didn't check out? What if it was all downhill from here? What would compassion and a moral compass demand of us then?
Shauday Smith 7 years ago
It's interesting that the ones that are speaking out are largely all women. The posts involving men are from the women that they left behind. Definitely NOT discounting the struggles these amazing women are battling, but it's amazing how the stigma treats men. It takes a lot of courage to announce a need for help or lay bare a vulnerability. I pray for their continued courage and outreach to build bonds and bridges with their loved ones and one another and bring better awareness to this very personal illness.
Bobbi Newell 7 years ago
To all those posting that these people aren't truly depressed: It is possible to have happy moments within the depression, a brief respite from the pain. The interludes are bittersweet, because they are so fleeting. I doubly know this: I battle against my own depression, and I saw the aftermath from my daughter's boyfriend's suicide 3 years ago. And to everyone who is in pain: I'm sorry your fish are dead. I still like you though. (Allie Brosh, blog Hyperbole and a Half, Depression Part Two, May 2013) http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2013/05/
Kurtz Frausun 7 years ago
Depression is hanging out with friends and being the life of the party, while inside, you are screaming not to lose it. It's working hard, accomplishing great things at your job, and stepping into the bathroom to burst into tears. It's watching the clock, waiting with anticipation for lunch. Not because you are hungry, but so you can get in your car, drive somewhere quiet and hold yourself as you work through the panic. Suicide is NOT the answer. You're just transferring your pain to the ones you love.
Lauren Kaufmann 7 years ago
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Glacon 7 years ago
well, I guess, if u feel fcked up in your brain, prob u r right... just a waste of space, genetic dead end. Its called natural selection. there is nothing wrong, just dont spread it, and reproduce, thx. oh, and also dont fck up others life with yourself. how dare u to make others suffer cuz your s**t?!
Brian Fox 7 years ago
You should try shrooms. I suffer from depression as part of my ptsd and taking shrooms for the first time opened up my world to me. It was literally a life changer. Studies have shown to help cure depression, anxiety and many other mental conditions. I try to do it once a month to allow myself to think with my friend and open up our world to inspiration.
Rioca William 7 years ago
Seems like depression happen mostly to people who r having a good or better life then others, f*****g wake up ur ideas, be grateful of what u have and know how to share good to others, f*****g people living in the slums r trying hard to survive n there r dumbass being depressed and wanna die, for those really go thru hardship i can sympathise but not to those who r having s**t thinking and wanna commit suicide, like i say find something worthy to do and make yourself worthy to live dont just sit there and get Depression.
lazy panda 7 years ago
You're a goddamn idiot and you obviously have NO idea how depression works. Just because people may have worse lives does not invalidate the depressed. And you don't just "sit there and get depression." A bad episode may hit at any time and will last for as long as it wants. You can try to be happy and chipper but it does nothing. People like YOU are the f*****g problem. YOU are the reason why the stigma against mental illnesses still exits in 2017. All I can recommend is this: NEVER speak to anyone with depression because they do not deserve to hear your b******t and subsequently feel worse and EDUCATE YOURSELF before you ever speak on this discussion again.
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Anna Sheridan 7 years ago
You can help depressed people but who you can't help is a sociopath and that my friend is what you are. I feel sorry for you that you can't feel empathy or love no wonder you need to take out your envious frustration trolling people. I know this won't make you regret your post as you probably don't feel shame either, but sort yourself out.
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lazy panda 7 years ago
This is so incredibly ignorant. You obviously have no idea how depression works or else you would have said something far less idiotic.
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Kjorn 7 years ago
my wife struggle with that for so many time and even after spend one month in psych ward still waiting to get so therapy. it's hard to see in what state she is and harder for me to realise i can't do more to help her. Since it's take a toll to me as well. she often criticise the fact that i didn't talk much of my hard day, but how can i even whining about my day when she can't even get out of bed. I try the best i can to make her happy to be supportive to do the much i can and even then i felt guilty of not doing enough. It's hard but each time i saw i smile at me it's Worth all the effort i put in. People must not forget that even if they feel alone they're not.
Elaine Van Zon 7 years ago
She is lucky to have you . I have depression but also have lived with depressed people. Both are hard. You are doing all you can and trying to understand and not walking away .Bless you both. I really hope she gets helpful therapy soon.
Load More Replies... Paladin of Shadows 7 years ago
This hits me hard, I'm a Sophomore in high school and I've been depressed since 6th grade.... nobody knew until last year, and it took a crappy outpatient hospital program for my parents to see
lazy panda 7 years ago
Whoever downvoted you is a d**k. I completely understand what you are going through though. My parents refused to believe I actually had depression until I went to a counselor in college one day and told her I wanted to die. Even then, my dad thought I just wanted to quit school. Listen, please know you are not alone and that you do not have to fight alone. There are so many resources including apps that offer a safe place for you to just talk without judgment or whatever may be on your mind. I am in no way religious, but the app "The Hope Line" actually saved my life once. Just do your research and continue fighting the good fight. You've got this!
Load More Replies... Cristina Dumitrescu 7 years ago
I have been dealing with depression and anxiety attacks for over 10 years and got medicated for it twice so far. It wasn't easy to come forward because I felt it was my fault, something was wrong with me for feeling that way, but I was so broken down that I didn't care if lived or not, and that was alarming even for my depressed mind. Didn't have thoughts of ending my life, but I sure wouldn't have minded if I went to bed and didn't wake up the next morning. I chose to seek help, I was so tired of being tired all the time, catatonic, angry, worried, irrational, have no energy or finding joy in anything. The meds alone weren't enough, so I went to a therapist as well. This is a stigma that needs to end for the sake of us all. It's an illness like any other illness, the fact that you can't see it all the time doesn't make it less dangerous. I hope everyone who's dealing with this can find their strength to ask for help - I promise you that you matter and people care about you <3
Rafaella Bueno 7 years ago
I'm glad the help you got actually seemed to have helped you. I've been to therapy many times, with a few different doctors, and tried a few meds a few times, nothing ever really helped me. I admit I'm somehow much better today than years ago, mostly thanks to a few friends, my dog, and focusing on things like work, but I can't see myself ever not being anxious and depressed. I hardly ever actually enjoy anything, I just don't feel anything anymore. I got a lot better at reacting and hiding the problem, but the feelings didn't really change much from back them - I'm just changing from the cliché depressed to these people in the photos that hide it well.
Load More Replies... KK 7 years ago
I know posts like these hit some people hard. Please remember that there are hotlines where you can reach someone you can talk to. Here is a list of different hotlines for different countires: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines
Vanessa Meyer 7 years ago
I feel so sorry for all the people not being understood because "they are so happy"... All the comments reflect it ... "I dont want you to feel bad too!" Thats it!!! Why cant people understand that you dont need to look like garbage to need help... Im left here with no help too, because after I finally managed to overcome my fears and ask for help the doctor answered... : You totally dont look depressed! Look at you, depressed people arent able to put on any makeup nor dress themselves in nice clothes. You dont need help, just do some sports and all will go away." ... yep totally. No idea if Ill ever be able to ask another doc for any help. I wish I could do anything to make these poor people feel better.
KK 7 years ago
That doctor was very ignorant - he or she should transfer you to a psychologist without much ado. Please take it serious if you feel bad. you can always reach out and get a second opinion. You absolutley deserve help.
Load More Replies... Stef 7 years ago
My best friend suffers thru some tough stuff. Over the years, or friends have left us, but I'll never leave her. She is never a burden and she is my person. I feel I'm the only one who can calm her down, make her laugh, and keep going. That is so empowering and I try to help her all the time without calling it "help". Depression is a serious illness and a lot of people do not know how to react to it. Being human can be extremely hard. We all need to take a moment before reacting negatively to each other and think, is this going to trigger another in a bad way or how much will this hurt them if I say anything. Be mindful. If you know someone is depressed, just be there for them. Bring them their favorite food, send their favorite song, something funny, or just do something. Every lil bit counts!
sosunlight 7 years ago
That's so true, Stef. You can never imagine how much those things mean. Just being there can make all the difference at the time. Your friend is incredibly blessed to have you <3
Load More Replies... lazy panda 7 years ago
No one's feelings should ever be invalidated. No one should ever be told that they "don't look depressed" or "don't look suicidal." No one should ever be told that their life is too great or that they are too young to be depressed. This illness can strike anyone just like lightning and tear you to shreds in ways you can't comprehend. The best thing you can do for those of us suffering from depression is to just BE with us. Do not tell us to "cheer up," "get some rest and everything will be fine again," or to "look on the bright side." WE HAVE TRIED. WE ARE NOT IDIOTS. The stigma needs to end!
Oscar Hanzély 7 years ago
Actually, depression is in face, but unfortunately most people cannot detect it or are ignorant to it. None of the smiles on photos are real, they are all fake and it all lies in micro expressions. If you live with that person, it is your fault not to spot the signs. The loneliness is what makes it way worse.
Elizabeth Malean 7 years ago
Depression is no ones fault. You can't just say, "oh, I'm despressed because I want to be." It IS AN ILLNESS. You can't always see the signs.
Load More Replies... Mark Fergel 7 years ago
So many of these break my heart. I went through depression (but fortunately never really felt suicidal). I remember feeling like I could fix this on my own. I couldn't. I couldn't fix it no matter how hard I tried and ended up on medication eventually because I was willing to see someone. I still remember the day I was able to smile about something without it being forced....watching my daughter swim in the pool. Never be ashamed to seek help.
erna sully 7 years ago
seeing people stories touches me, that i am not the only one who suffer. I couldn't talk properly with other person because of my anxiety disorder
로희 7 years ago
I know I suffer from depression. Unfortunately so far I've never tried to seek for help because I'm afraid I'll lose my job and hence embarrased my family - which I think would make me feel even more depressed. The majority of my country is still look down on mental illness. Therefore I feel like I have to just endure it for however long I can. Thank you for making this thread. Even if only through an anonymous identity, I feel a little relieved from sharing my feelings that I could never do in real life. :)
Anna Sheridan 7 years ago
I'm so sorry for how you are feeling and I wish you every happiness soon. If you feel you can't talk to those around you there are lots of great forums on the internet where you can talk to people just like you, maybe it may help in the meantime with not feeling so alone. I have found some of these really therapeutic. All the best.
Load More Replies... Cat Meow 7 years ago
Not even halfway through this post, I had to take a break. All those messages hit a little too close to home. I hope all of the people in this post, comments and everywhere else who are still with us are doing much better. You... we all deserve this! Life will always be a battle, but stay strong and keep on fighting! <3
MonsterMash 7 years ago
Thank you everyone for being strong and showing that depression and mental illness can affect anyone. You are all gorgeous and strong for sharing your stories.
HauntedForests 7 years ago
It's like depression possesses your body and alters your reality and makes everything so damn painful. It's not like you can reach out to anyone either, whether it's because they wouldn't understand, it's because you don't want to sound dramatic, or they say you're "Too Young" to have depression. Heck, some people don't even KNOW THEY HAVE DEPRESSION!!! It so easy to put on a pretty face and a happy smile for everyone around you. Imagine having depression AND anxiety!!! When you have both of them, it feels like you just don't have the energy or the state of mind to do that something, like your chest is being weighed down with emptiness, but then you start to think about the consequences that follow. Then comes the thoughts of "You're a failure" and "You're worthless", and before you know it, that cage bounds you even tighter within that small compartment of your mind, blocking out all real happiness. If this goes on long enough, it eventually makes you completely numb to the kind words
HauntedForests 7 years ago
-of others, that used to pull you out of the darkness temporarily.
Load More Replies... Elaine Van Zon 7 years ago
This is such a heart breaking post .So many hurting hopeless people and still so many who judge and don't understand , Both my husband and I suffer depression sometimes severe sometimes not. We do try not to put expectations on each other and make things worse. So far, thankfully, we've never been depressed at the same time
Sivi 7 years ago
Got epilepsy when I was 8 which deepen the depression already lurking due to becoming an outcast and mocked by my own class. Suicidal thoughts did not linger far, i dont remember how many attempts I tried to take my own life, but I was alway scared, started finding small things to keep me going like "who is gonna take care of my rabbits, what will my family think.." etc. I didn't tell my mom about those thought before at least 10+ years later. She never knew, she never saw signs of it. She told me never to be scared to tell her any of my bad thoughts.
Adriana E. Henricy 7 years ago
This sucks so sooo much. Doctors cant be this moronic "you dont look depressed" that doesnt help, that isnt professional
Maddie Myers 7 years ago
I can see it, it's not in their smile or their posture. It's in their eyes, you can see it, they're empty, devoid of emotion. But if you look close they're full of pain. They're full of sadness really. But you have to look close enough, look in their eyes and tell me they aren't suffering, look in their eyes and tell me they aren't faking it. I see you, I see your pain.
Norwin Munster 7 years ago
well, if the aim of this article is to convince that it is not writen on thier faces, it failed ! It is very visible , plain and obvious. I myself is in this group and i can tell.
Daniel R. 7 years ago
A teacher once told me that men and women are just as likely to contemplate suicide but men are more likely to go through with it. I'm wondering if that's true and why. Hope all these people get the help they need.
Anna Sheridan 7 years ago
It's not nice to say but I want to answer your question. The rate is higher in men as they are more likely to choose more violent ways to take their own life. Women are more likely to overdose and thankfully can be saved if caught in time. The attempts are pretty much similar but men are more likely to be successful in their attempt. I know this is not nice but it's important to to share the facts so we can't work towards stopping these tadegies
Load More Replies... We'llSee 6 years ago
Been fighting this so long I don't even remember when it all started, even as a child.I learned very early on to "hide", feelings, sadness, tears, sorrow, etc. litertally hide everything, paste on my smile, act carefree etc etc. Then in my case I hit a wall, had a horrible tragedy in my family happen. There was no coping with this alone, for the first time I HAD to seek help, and I did, well meaning Dr who put me on so many medicines I can't recall all the ones, we tried. Nothing ever worked that well, and some (paxil) damn near killed me! Years and years of this, has taught me (speaking for myself only) except yourself, and all of your flawed thinking, embrace it like its the best thing (because you are), do what you can on any given day, do not let others control what you can do, only you know this. I personally got off of all meds, I just take a very small dose for anxiety daily and thats it. I put tons of time into finding things that help me, sometimes I still fight rock bottom.
We'llSee 6 years ago
Sorry for the long post * adding to the above, the few times I've hit that rock bottom, I learned this, I take the 24 hour challenge, I give myself 24 hours to feel better before thinking of ending my life again. In all three instances I've done this in the past 5 - 7 yrs, I have not wanted to do it after the 24 hours. I don't know if this will help anyone else, but it could, like its helped me. My heart breaks for those who suffer with this. I will say for myself again, my faith also carries me through.
Load More Replies... Dawn VanHentenryck 7 years ago
I always felt like people who committed suicide were selfish. How could they do that to their family members? How could they leave them knowing how much pain it would cause them? But then, 2 yrs ago, I had a nervous breakdown. For months I thought of suicide on a daily basis. Two different times I was literally getting ready to kill myself when a family member and friend called me. I truly believe they saved my life. I love my family more then life itself and I would never do anything to cause them pain! But when you are so depressed and scared of life and hurting so badly, you don't think of others around you. All you think about is " I just want this feeling to go away"!! And unless you have been through it, you will never understand how overwhelming it feels. I still struggle everyday. But there is HOPE! There is medicines and there are very caring people out there willing to help! With Gods help, I chose to fight this and reached out for help and so can YOU! I PROMISE it will help!
Juliet Selvage 7 years ago
I have struggled with depression since 1997 and possibly earlier but undiagnosed. I was put on antidepressants in 2002 after seeking help and someone listened. I tried to throw myself out the car while my ex was driving, had suicidal thoughts but when I asked for help from him I just got abuse about being selfish. I am still on antidepressants and probably never come off them as I have two disabled children and I still have days I sit and cry but don't know why. I can't tell you why I am unhappy. I just am. I don't look depressed as so many tell me so it can't be true. I don't let anyone see that side. I get panic attacks and days I just want to run away from it all. The antidepressants keep me just so I can manage. I am on a very low dose and I do owe my life to them and a very understanding GP who was the only one who listened without judgement.
Shiranai Chan 7 years ago
Have been struggling for 23 years, since the age of 9. Been told I don't look depressed and that I am looking for attention many times. Wow, didn't know that I had to tattoo it on my forehead to look depressed.
Anuschka Van Der Veen Kramers 7 years ago
I worry about the children, I've only looked until page 4, but in the eyes of the children in #23, #30, #33, I see that they feel uncomfortable, to say the least. Of course you cannot help it, that the child will subconsiously feel/know what is going on, as a parent when you have depression/anxiety, but it is good to be aware that the children are suffering more than we/you/they know. In my opinion it would be good to stop pretending towards your own children without showing or telling them details of course, but admit that you are feeling sad and that it's ok, and they don't need to take care of you. This is where it all starts, acknowledging that it is ok to not feel ok. Be honest about it to your children.
Marriann Douglas 7 years ago
I love this post. I really do. It touches home in so many ways. Especially since I was told by a doctor, the first time I tried to get help for my depression, only to be told, that cause I'm overweight, it might be better to go to the gym and you'll get better. That was 7 years ago, and I still haven't forgotten those words. I never gave up in trying to get better and sadly I'm no further forward than I was at the beginning of those 7 years, but I'm still fighting daily. Still fighting to live and I am proud of everyone who is fighting to live and survive these monstrous demons in our heads, causing us to feel the hatred for ourselves. Only thing I wish for, well two things actually, is that it's taken more seriously and no one taunts and teases those that suffer. And for appointments for psychiatrists to not take like months to arrive. But, ultimately, keep fighting :)
Irene Walton 7 years ago
Excellent excellent. My son has tried suicide, been to phsych ward several times only to be turned away (no beds) this being in a huge city. Vancouver BC. Horrible sickness
Swapnil 7 years ago
The better you are at hiding your emotions the harder it is to even detect. I have struggled with depression for almost two years now. My family has no clue. Good part is I have been able to get over it to an extent, with help from experts and by focusing myself on fitness etc. However if something had happened in the meanwhile all anyone would know is that last they saw me I was smiling and making jokes.
Anna Sheridan 7 years ago
Wow this post has really helped me! Have been on leave for serious depression and anxiety and I feel guilty as everyone thinks I'm such a happy person and I'm sure they don't believe me.
Cindy Pelletier 7 years ago
Just because you look happy to others doesn't mean you aren't depressed. I am by nature a "happy" person: even on the days I don't get out of bed or don't have the energy to do basic hygiene. I get the medical help I need to function and most of the time I have my depression under control. Still, when I reveal to friends that I have depression I get the "what do you have to be depressed about" question. I tell them I have nothing to be depressed about because I don't. I have a good life, good friends and family and a good job with great benefits. They don't get it and I can see in their eyes that they don't understand. There is still a stigma about mental disease that is hard to overcome. Depending on who finds out it can affect your employment and ruin friendships. I am careful about who I tell about my depression because of the ignorance that surrounds mental illness. I think it scares people because they can't tell by looking who has a mental disease or how to treat "those" people.
Load More Replies... BREAK YOUr perceptions 7 years ago
depressed people are better actors than the highest paid Hollywood start. ask questions to those you care about whether or not they "show" to be at risk. I've lost 2 cousins to suicide.
Tasya hapsari 2 years ago
I understand about how people feeling and now how to help them yet, I don't know how to do it my self I know exactly what I'm supposed to do but it's not that easy and no one help me or lead me I have depression as well... Depression episode to be exactly I thought I would be better, yet I'm still going down hill I'm still trying my best. It's not easy at all
Anonymousplease 3 years ago
The first time I was depressed and suicidal was in 6th grade, I was 11. It has been two years and I have still not told my family. I have learned how to bury emotions. I am not suicidal anymore though. To everyone who had been depressed and suicidal at a young age, I am sorry, I know what it is like and I hope it gets better for you.
Ijeoma Adebanji 4 years ago
I'm in the same boat right now. Nobody seems to understand me. I put up a bright and agile look but deep inside I'm dying. I've been treated with medications twice and still undergoing treatment. But just when I think I'm getting better another relapse happens. . . I can't function well at work. I guess people are tired of me being sick all the time. They just can't understand me. . . I just want to take my life so I can sleep on forever without waking up. I feel useless and worthless. I feel like my life doesn't matter.
We'llSee 4 years ago
Reading this breaks my heart, I know.....I know these feelings, the darkness can't be explained, today was ok, I walked on, I had a lot to do, helped a love one, I don't know about tomorrow, will it feel over-whelming, will I spend more time crying, feeling pain, hurt, and all the other deepest pains, I don't know yet, everyday is a struggle, I pray its another good day... Even the ones who know me best, never understand how hard it is, every single day...... My heart breaks for those who face this, I know..........
Sara Davis 4 years ago
What does "you're so pretty" have to do with anything? Depression hits all ppl, pretty or not. Lovely to great someone's, but it doesn't help the depression. Sometimes it makes it worse, like oh great, another person not seeing ME.
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Sue Strauch 6 years ago
I have been depressed since the age of 6. I wasn’t diagnosed until my 40’s. no one understands who hasn’t experienced it. I hate when people say “just stop”! I would if I knew how. The only thing that has kept me going is my in God. He carries me through every minute of every day.
Ethan Slusser 6 years ago
If anyone needs someone to talk to, just ask me. Though you’ll need Instagram on an Amino.
Linda Burrows 7 years ago
I read the above. One sentence I saw in there is all that is needed: Depression Is Agony.
Carolyn Lerner 7 years ago
I am a high functioning depression. depression wears a mask of many faces and they are unique to the individual. https://themighty.com/2017/05/signs-of-high-functioning-depression-or-dysthymia/
Ann Abdelzaher 7 years ago
25 years ago we had a birthday party for my brother's then youngest, just two hours later my sister's husband killed himself... no note no idea why.
Diane Allen 7 years ago
depression can be caused by hormone and nutritional imbalances, there also has been connections to lymes disease and virus', keep educated and keep connected: I was depressed on and off for years....
MartinTheVlogger 7 years ago
Guys, ahhh.. so so sad to read all of those stories. People that had never went thru any serious mental condition, can just hardly understand how difficult it can be, to get over it. For me, even tho i dont have depressions, "just" Panic Attacks, what is super important, is that I have my close family and fiends knowing my condition, and it is very important that i can talk or stop by at them, when I do feel something is wrong. After the DGR2017 i have decided to fight as hard as possible for 2 things. #Fight4MentalHealth and #DontBeAfraid2 . I can see that there is much more people around me - closer than i tough, that after they did hear my story, they told me theirs, and what they went thru. My story is here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Rh4Q8ofW1o
Biju Johny 7 years ago
A person I know came out of depression by listening to same set of praise and worship songs repeatedly for few days. This person was in fact not responding to therapy. His wife started playing the songs repeatedly. Initially it did not seem to work. Then suddenly his mind got hooked on to the music then on to the lyrics and his negative thoughts changed.
Allie Cleaver 7 years ago
I have lost 3 friends to suicide in the last 2 and a half years. It is so painful, to think they felt so much pain in those moments they took their own life. If I let myself think about it too much it is unbearable.And there have been even more attempted suicides. It is an epidemic. I suffered for depression for about 6 years, anxiety all my life and in some of my darker places I wanted to die as well. But I am a very happy and stable person now and trying to look into the mind of my younger self sometimes perplexes me. I really miss my friends, and I really feel sad for everyone who is suffering, because it is not like a physical illness where you can see the cause and the antidote so much. Everything is different for each person which makes it hard to cure. Accept love and be there for other people when you get the chance. I feel so guilty for times I haven't and now I can never say I am sorry.
The Cube Cat 7 years ago
In middle school I was depressed and even though I wasn't a sobbing ball on the floor I acted that way because I felt that was the only way people would take my depression seriously
Carmi Miu 7 years ago
You know guys I've been depressed and think of suicidal. I was been broken and pressured like i don't have hope, like i don't have future. I wanted to die that time because i feel so lost that i don't want to live anymore. But instead of commiting suicide, I found myself to God. Someone said, "Go to God and he will help you" "Jesus answered prayers to those who believe" So i tried and He did! I seen verses from the bible unexpectedly and it feels kike God providing that verses for me. God gave miracles in my life that change me for who I am now. A new me! That no matter whats the problem in life, there is always a way to get through it. And thats by the grace of God almighty Jesus. Never been happier before. He will restore the broken life, relatioship, broken heart. Jesus is Life
Owers Maureen 7 years ago
You poor darlings, everyone of you. Depression runs through our family. I believe, having studied my family ancestry that it can be passed down. I had a son who hung himself at age 19, an adult daughter who tried to commit suicide 3 times and later was diagnosed with bipolar, another adult daughter who, like myself, suffered from post natal depression (as did the other daughter) and an adult son who.tends to go "down" in winter when there's little sun. Grandchildren haven't escaped either unfortunately. Anxiety disorders have been part of the course for us all. In closing and thank you for reading this, my love is extended to all of you and ld like you to know I understand! 💜
Lynnell Taylor 7 years ago
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Denise Wainscott 7 years ago
These stories are so true.it will be 5 years on oct.9 my dads birthday,that i tried to end my life.ive put on a happy face for so long i dont know any other.its hard to explain for me.i still fight those days when i want to end it all ,and scares me to death im going to loose this fight.
Dawn VanHentenryck 7 years ago
Please reach out to family and friends when you have those feelings.! Pray even, if you feel it might help. But please don't give up on yourself! You are stronger then you think!
Load More Replies... Anna Thouvenin 7 years ago
I love this post. It's very difficult to make people understand about depression. I stayed with my ex for 2.5 years and he couldn't understand my struggle. Eventually it lead to the end of our relationship and many suicidal thoughts all along this period. I hope there are more people willing to share their experience to improve awareness of children, parents, teachers, doctors, everyone. I hope we also see more men who assume their depression. Rarely even speak of it to a loved one because of stigma, and this is usually fatal. I hope men and women who posed here can find a way to win the battle <3
Nikki Maize 7 years ago
Happened to me, too. Went to my doctor to ask for antidepressants and she told me I didn’t look depressed. And demonstrated me a sad face of how she expects depressed patients to look like
Victoria Chifor 7 years ago
there are many types of depression: not to be good enough at the professional life, society, the lost of a dear one (this is more severe), illness of your body which make you reconsider all your values in life...but at the end depression is a way to break-through your old habits and evolve and unfortunately is done through pain and self discovery...and yes...peoples can not understand or detect it...all I can say praying to God is helping a lot for wisdom, patient and good physical and mental health, clear and peaceful mindsets...and this can happen through acceptance of what it is, give up to expectations and to be wanted to be accepted by others...and understand that every person is unique and has special skills and no competition is needed for nothing...you decrease anxiety with this thoughts and see life more relaxed...life is about enjoying your experiences and not to be stress out and try to survive...
William Anderson 7 years ago
After my wife passed, I went back to work at Target and working with public hoping it would distract me from being alone. Often it had the opposite feeling as people ask "how ya doing" & i had to say "fine" or at least "getting by" & they would smile & continue... Inside was think that life has no purpose and feeling so alone today is the 1st anniversary of her death & I've lost my job, my insurance, our house , but when strangers see me on the street I'll look like everyone else. It's the 1 year anniversary of her passing today and it's been a very hard week.
Melina Pothier 7 years ago
It irritates me to no end that most people take everything at face value. Most make no attempt to try and understand or learn the signs, because there are always signs, be it certain things said in a moment, ones energy, demeanor, etc, but one has to pay attention. I've struggled with suicidal thoughts all my life and it amazes me how much stigma this situation still carries
Richard Anderson 7 years ago
I suspect that everyone that is even moderately cognoscent knows someone or has themselves experienced suicidal imaginings. I wonder what or if there are evolutionary origins for what seems so contrary to mankind’s instinct to survive.
Anthone Sipin 7 years ago
Anyone see a pattern here? Most of them are White blue collar men and most are women.
Antony Lindner 7 years ago
Depression absolutely sucks...I wish it on no one. I never thought that I would be taken to the edge, but I was and I can now understand why someone would take their life. I looked at the edge...that abyss...almost! But somehow I knew it was a lie, something said don't believe that lie! Don't you do it! That still small voice said...you have to endure, you have to go through! And I did...believe me, it wasn't easy...but I did endure that daily battle...and after some time, it did start to get better. Took my focus off myself more and more and focused on others...that really helped! After some years of struggle I am so much better now, I can still see that old enemy, depression now and then, but I know better now. It doesn't define me. Do not believe that lie! All I can say is endure, go through that storm! I know, it sucks...it really sucks! That way out might seem like the way...but it is not...go through that storm to the land on the other side.
Donald Thomas 7 years ago
Think of this verse from Carly Simon's song "That's the Way I've Always Heard It Should Be": My friends from college they're all married now They have their houses and their lawns They have their silent noons Tearful nights, angry dawns Their children hate them for the things they're not They hate themselves for what they are And yet they drink, they laugh Close the wound, hide the scar ________ How many of them may be masking depression & suicidal thoughts?
awesome_sauce.71 7 years ago
aww, I feel so sorry for all these people :( I hope they can recover and overcome these obstacles. I am 12 and i have seen some depressed people. like my mom. she has depression and you really can't see it unless you look really hard. you could get lost in her pretty brown eyes
Dan Reillo 7 years ago
I think depression has a face that loved ones can recognize most of the time. They all have a spiritual challenge, but most of these challenges manifest themselves physically. They may have hardships because they're gay, overweight, a minority, agnostic, old, not attractive, etc. Others show their depression through hair-dos/drastic hair color, piercings, and or tattoos. Not everyone with any of these things listed is in risk of suicide, but those that are usually display one or more of these attributes. Yes, they all need help, but to spiritually sharp people it does have a face.
Dan Reillo 7 years ago
I think depression has a face that loved ones can recognize most of the time. They all have a spiritual challenge, but most of these challenges manifest themselves physically. They may have hardships because they're gay, overweight, a minority, agnostic, old, not attractive, etc. Others show their depression through hair-dos/drastic hair color, piercings, and or tattoos. Not everyone with any of these things listed is in risk of suicide, but those that are usually display one or more of these attributes. Yes, they all need help regardless, but to spiritually sharp people depression has a face.
Katrina Green 7 years ago
My grandpa killed himself a couple years before I was born. My mom told me the night before he shot himself he took her and my aunt out to dinner. Since he knew he was going to die, he gave my mom money for her next prescription (she is a serious asthmatic) and made sure my aunt was doing alright. Ironically, he was a psychiatrist, and no one really knew how depressed he really was. Even though I never met him, his suicide has affected my life because of how traumatic it was for my mother. She also suffered with depression and marital problems. My aunt struggles with anxiety and abandonment issues as she was only 16 when it happened. Suicide affects more people than you think. When people kill themselves, they are affecting people that haven't even been born yet.
Tony Snider 7 years ago
46,male,long time depression and anxiety,been on disability because of it for 4 years now. It takes A LOT to make me tear up and more so to cry. Looking through these pics I teared up. Every new pic I looked at I just said in my heart " No...no....no.." It hurt to see people broken in a way I'm all to familiar with. In a twisted way they are all my brothers and sisters. If you haven't suffered from it it's very difficult to understand what goes on in our minds. I am giving long,tight hugs to all of you. I'm crying now. I haven't cried in months.
Virgil Blue 7 years ago
This is all so fricking relatable. Depression is a monster and I do my best to hide it as not to hurt my family too much. But it is so hard sometimes...
Pam Wells 7 years ago
I attempted suicide in 2011. A few days before I was at a friends house for lunch and we were all laughing, having a good time. It was during that lunch that I made the firm decision to end my life. Months later my friend asked, "How did we miss it?" It's because I was wearing 'the mask' - the mask that we wear as we try to look normal while inside we are falling apart. I'm doing great now but it was a difficult battle that I fought for most of my life. I wrote a short book about depression and my experience. I interviewed others and their responses are in the book as well. This is NOT a sales pitch. It's on Amazon as an e-book only. If you want to buy it - great - if that's a problem let me know and I would be happy to send you a copy. Or I can post it free for a few days as a promotion. It's called, "How to Help Someone Who is Depressed" by Pamela Wells.
Linda Stith 7 years ago
I also have depression and Iam 67 years old. I have 4 children and the youngest daughter died in Feb and my oldest son in sept of this year. The problem is I did not know my son was very depressed,I talked to both my children just to days before they passed.I finely thought it best best to talk to someone. I have been depressed for years and never told anyone. It is hard to live in this world! I miss them very much and my heart is broken .
Lisa Greene 7 years ago
I have suffered from anxiety and depression since I was a kid. I've attempted suicide many times and feel lucky that I didn't succeed! I have lost 6 people to suicide, including my father. I feel like suicide follows me everywhere! Now I'm a mom of a wonderful kid, who also suffers from anxiety and depression. That in it's self makes me feel so guilty that I want to die. To all the brave people who posted their stores, and especially to those who have lost their loved ones to suicide, I am very sad for you! I also think you are all very brave... If you're feeling worthless, you're not, and please reach out and get help... Belive me taking your life is never the way. There is help for you and the world is better with you in it!
Pam Wells 7 years ago
I attempted suicide in 2011. A few days before I was at an Easter dinner at the home of friends. We had a good time but it was during that dinner that I made the firm decision to end my life. One of those friends asked me later, "How did we miss it?" Not their fault. I was wearing "the mask" - the mask that so many who are depressed wear when trying to look normal. I'm doing SO much better now. One saying I HATE is "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." I started having suicidal thoughts when I was about 9 - I attempted suicide in my 50's. There was nothing temporary about it! I wrote a small book about depression - interviewing others and sharing my story. It's only an e-book for now on Amazon. This is NOT a sales pitch - you can buy the book if you want - if that's a problem for you - let me know and I'll send you a copy. Or I can make the book free for a couple of days.
Danielle Botha 7 years ago
My heart breaks for anyone suffering! Please talk to someone. Ask for help. You're worthy. You deserve to live. You're loved. Always here to talk.
Chris Jos 7 years ago
My girlfriend is going through depression and it's the saddest thing for me to see her that way . She use to be extremely fun loving ,very bubbly , she knew how to make people around her laugh , but it took me a while to realize that behind every smile of her was a mask she would put on to cover what she really is going through . She is an amazing artist , but she doesn't paint anymore and our long distance relationship is making things even more hard for her . I hope everything will be alright .
Peter Smith 7 years ago
My wife was seriously depressed I tried to be nice, it did not work I was rough, it did not work One day I bought her a beautiful dress and told her to go to town herself She was not mentally at home for 2 months Then she started a completely new woman now we are happy :)
Ieva Midveryte 7 years ago
Did anyone of people suffering from depression ever tried Vipassana Meditation? If not, try because it will change your life. Lots of love <3
JoSta Urban 7 years ago
Yup, going back to meds because I can't handle it any more right now...
Gayathri Jayaraman 7 years ago
Although some people try to understand depression, It's very hard to explain what the other person is going through. The best you could do is be with them, listen and not criticize them. Support their talent. And simply let them be at peace. To all the ones that's going through depression, I just wanna say, you are special. You are beautiful the way you are. Your life is special, don't take it away. And help everyone wear the smile. Cheers.
Gayathri Jayaraman 7 years ago
Although some people try to understand, it is very difficult to explain what depression is. One can never understand. The best thing you could do is be with them, not critizise and support them with whatever talent they have got. They may have over come it, but even the very idea of depression or of the past scares them. To all the people going through depression, just want to say say this, you are beautiful the way you are. You are special. Rock on with your life.
Rhon 7 years ago
I work in a PND centre as a child care worker caring for bubs while their mums are getting help. I see women from all walks of life, I see mums obsessed with their children/ child, I see mums who arrive and just hand over their child without saying a word. I see mums sobbing, I see mums laughing. THEY ALL HAVE PND! Some will come out the other end others it will never leave them. What do I get out of this? I get a better understanding of our gorgeous daughter, I get an insight into how best to talk with her, how to listen to her, how to help. Then i sit down and sob myself because my beautiful girl has to go through this. What does my daughter get out of this? An understanding of she too can help other people with depression.
Elizabeth Malean 7 years ago
I want to say to everyone who posted a photo, BRAVO for doing so. It shows that depression has no face, no race, no gender, no age.
Johnny Slapstick 7 years ago
Depression and suicide suck. However, I will also say that the medication to treat it sucks, as well. The human mind is an amazing thing. It likes to think. Medicating it is the worst thing you can do. Instead, when you have any kind of depressing thoughts, pick up a book (not your smart phone or video game controller) and read it. This has worked for me and several people I know.
David Arctor 7 years ago
Hopelessness and an inability to imagine a future are not always the same thing as sadness. Happiness is a funny thing; sometimes it's fleeting and self-destructive. We want to find the sorrow hidden in the faces of these seemingly happy people. We want to help. We want to try. But what if they weren't unhappy? What if the math simply didn't check out? What if it was all downhill from here? What would compassion and a moral compass demand of us then?
Shauday Smith 7 years ago
It's interesting that the ones that are speaking out are largely all women. The posts involving men are from the women that they left behind. Definitely NOT discounting the struggles these amazing women are battling, but it's amazing how the stigma treats men. It takes a lot of courage to announce a need for help or lay bare a vulnerability. I pray for their continued courage and outreach to build bonds and bridges with their loved ones and one another and bring better awareness to this very personal illness.
Bobbi Newell 7 years ago
To all those posting that these people aren't truly depressed: It is possible to have happy moments within the depression, a brief respite from the pain. The interludes are bittersweet, because they are so fleeting. I doubly know this: I battle against my own depression, and I saw the aftermath from my daughter's boyfriend's suicide 3 years ago. And to everyone who is in pain: I'm sorry your fish are dead. I still like you though. (Allie Brosh, blog Hyperbole and a Half, Depression Part Two, May 2013) http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2013/05/
Kurtz Frausun 7 years ago
Depression is hanging out with friends and being the life of the party, while inside, you are screaming not to lose it. It's working hard, accomplishing great things at your job, and stepping into the bathroom to burst into tears. It's watching the clock, waiting with anticipation for lunch. Not because you are hungry, but so you can get in your car, drive somewhere quiet and hold yourself as you work through the panic. Suicide is NOT the answer. You're just transferring your pain to the ones you love.
Lauren Kaufmann 7 years ago
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Glacon 7 years ago
well, I guess, if u feel fcked up in your brain, prob u r right... just a waste of space, genetic dead end. Its called natural selection. there is nothing wrong, just dont spread it, and reproduce, thx. oh, and also dont fck up others life with yourself. how dare u to make others suffer cuz your s**t?!
Brian Fox 7 years ago
You should try shrooms. I suffer from depression as part of my ptsd and taking shrooms for the first time opened up my world to me. It was literally a life changer. Studies have shown to help cure depression, anxiety and many other mental conditions. I try to do it once a month to allow myself to think with my friend and open up our world to inspiration.
Rioca William 7 years ago
Seems like depression happen mostly to people who r having a good or better life then others, f*****g wake up ur ideas, be grateful of what u have and know how to share good to others, f*****g people living in the slums r trying hard to survive n there r dumbass being depressed and wanna die, for those really go thru hardship i can sympathise but not to those who r having s**t thinking and wanna commit suicide, like i say find something worthy to do and make yourself worthy to live dont just sit there and get Depression.
lazy panda 7 years ago
You're a goddamn idiot and you obviously have NO idea how depression works. Just because people may have worse lives does not invalidate the depressed. And you don't just "sit there and get depression." A bad episode may hit at any time and will last for as long as it wants. You can try to be happy and chipper but it does nothing. People like YOU are the f*****g problem. YOU are the reason why the stigma against mental illnesses still exits in 2017. All I can recommend is this: NEVER speak to anyone with depression because they do not deserve to hear your b******t and subsequently feel worse and EDUCATE YOURSELF before you ever speak on this discussion again.
Load More Replies... Anna Sheridan 7 years ago
You can help depressed people but who you can't help is a sociopath and that my friend is what you are. I feel sorry for you that you can't feel empathy or love no wonder you need to take out your envious frustration trolling people. I know this won't make you regret your post as you probably don't feel shame either, but sort yourself out.
Load More Replies... lazy panda 7 years ago
This is so incredibly ignorant. You obviously have no idea how depression works or else you would have said something far less idiotic.
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