I didn't have a lot of money as I was a single mom and I was doing the best I could. This grown man lived with his mother and had nothing of his own and had the audacity to say to me "At least all my stuff doesn't come from goodwill". Like what stuff do you even have, oh yeah none, it's all your mom's! My stuff might have been second hand but it was MY stuff. I never talked to him again.

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Psshh, who doesn't love Goodwill?! I get board games there particularly, you can find some really cool games, and sometimes even new in the package for $2-$5!

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My ex falsely accused me of raping him. This was after I spent a year chasing him to terminate the mobile phone contract he'd taken out in my name without my permission, and kept stringing me along saying he'd deal with it.

After I hadn't heard from him for months I contacted some mutual friends to see if they would ask him to contact me. He went off and sent me the most disgusting and abusive email including the false allegations.

I blocked him on all media, and the mobile phone company agreed to terminate the contract immediately for me. He'd been emotionally abusive during the relationship and this gaslighting was another way of trying to retain control.

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Ugh, sorry you had to deal with such an abusive, pain-inflicting person 😞 sucks having to have those memories. Glad the phone company understood the situation, and I hope this guy is loooong gone out of your life!

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Ahhh, got a little list ;p
- I'l kill you when I see you two walking
- You think anyone would want to have sex with a fat pig like you? (My SO likes my body, which is actually just a bit over the voluptuous side)
-You have to get yourself tested for an STD because you could have given it to me. (I never cheated, she however did and never got tested, I should just shut up.)
- If you don't (too many things to specifie) I'll come over with some friends and we'll beat you up. (Never happened, my SO is an ex police-officer and very not impressed by anybody)
- If I kill myself it's your fault (Yeah, not)
- I'll beat up your son! I'm at your house now and you're not home (Called the cops on her then who were there very quick) and also contacted my neighbours to check my house please.
- I order you to break of all contact with my family (with pleasure)
- You have to let me in when I come over to visit you, but only if you send "him" away while I'm there (Like what? You're not that important to me that I even want you to come visit me.)
- I have those things that I took with me when I moved, I'm in the neighbourhood and can bring them by. My response that I didn't need it anymore was not acceptable, I got an email full of hatred yet again...

I'm so happy she's somebody elses problem now, but the most happy I am for the fact that I had the guts to break up and choose for my own happyness finally ;)

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"You'll never be more than a curiosity sh*g." This was 10 years ago.

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Hmmm…. Didn’t realise it when my life turn to about hell on earth 9 years ago.. but I became an OBJECT, not a woman.. I have actually been told by quite a number of scumbags that I am a “Bucket list item”… 😡

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After I split with my child's mother, on Christmas before are custody arrangements, she said she had left the state and that I would never see my child again. She then said I amount to nothing and I should k*ll myself because it would be better for my child to never know me, and she would make sure to tell my child good things about me so they wouldn't know how pathetic I was.

I was a stay at home dad, so at the time I didn't have any money or a job. The house was under her name. I was living in my car that Christmas, but I had a trunk full of presents to give after selling a few things I had. She sent that message after I sat in a parking lot 3 hours waiting for them to show up.

After some time, I well established myself, have a wonderful relationship with my child.

The words she said on that Christmas broke me as a person, but that allowed me to rebuild myself into much more of a father then I would have become without leaving.

...I have a lot of petty things to say 😅 I won't say them, but man I really wanna 😂

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I was honest. "I just don't feel the butterflies for you anymore. I'm sorry."

He responded, "I haven't felt ANYTHING for you but I didn't just end things."

Well, I did and he should have sooner if that was the truth.

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Better sooner than later in that kind of situation!

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"Come catch a bullet." Was together over 20 years, been divorced about 12 years, separated several years before that. This was a text I received last year along with a lot more (I stopped counting after 65) one night while he was obviously drunk and mad at me. Drunker than usual. We hadn't even recently spoken to each other before the barage of texts. And he wonders why his son (30) and ex-wife won't talk to him. He's now blocked.

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What is wrong with some people 🤦🏻‍♀️🙏🏻

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Technically she dumped me, but what she said still hurt.

We were supposed to go out on Valentine's Day, but she came home and said she had other plans. After arguing a bit, she said she had plans with another guy.

So I asked her if she was breaking up with me on Valentine's Day, and her response was "It's rude to cancel plans with someone once you've made them".

Yeah, that stung.

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This will get buried, but still ... my ex-husband (father of my son) told me I was being too kind and nice. Was freakingly disturbing.

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I decided to end things with a guy named Al after he showed some extremely scary red flags. I didn’t think there was a need to have a big discussion about the end of the “relationship” because we’d only been dating for about a month and had only seen each other about 6 times during that month. So I sent him a text saying I didn’t think we were a good match and wishing him a great future. (While it’s usually considered bad form to end things over a text, I was afraid of this guy and didn’t want to ever see him again.)

He sent back a text demanding an explanation, so I replied that the last time we were together he had shown himself to be manipulative, condescending, narcissistic, and controlling. I texted that I didn’t see the need for further communication and asked him to please not contact me again.

He left a 2-page, typed, single-space letter on my door step threatening to sue me for slander if I didn’t agree to talk to him about the “real reason” I broke up with him. In the letter, he said I’d made “serous accusations about his character” that could affect his future job possibilities. He said there must be someone in my life who had decided we shouldn’t be together, and that person must have run a background check on him and decided to only share “the worst parts” with me. He said the person who must have run a background check on him (whoever it might have been) didn’t love me. He told me he missed me and still wanted to be with me, but that if I didn’t agree to talk to him he would “let the lawyers handle it.”

He was the scariest, most unhinged person I’ve ever met, let alone dated. Thank god I saw him for what he was after a short amount of time. He’s the reason I have 3 locks on my door and a home security system.

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Dodged a freakin bullet for sure!!! The fact that he came to your doorstep is sooo creepy and violating 😬 good call on the security system.

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I was with a deadbeat drug addict for way too long in my early 20s. I also have severe lupus and my health had just started going seriously downhill. I had a lung collapse out of nowhere and found out that he was sleeping around while I was in the hospital. I broke up with him over the phone while still in the hospital. He proceeded to call my phone repeatedly. I handed it to my sis and told her to take it home with her. My family could call the hospital to speak to me if they needed and my other sister was sleeping beside my bed because I was scared and didn't know any of this was lupus related at the time. The next day, older sister shows up to visit.

Me: Can I see my phone?

Older sister: Not until I clear *insert jerk's name here* texts. And if I see MF again, I'm catching a felony. (She's a half hippy/half Christian woman that seems to love everyone regardless of anything. So this let me know it was bad. I had never heard her use MF before and I didn't think she knew what catching a felony meant until that day.)

Eventually, I got the phone as a new text came in. Actual wording is below with some censoring.

"Of course I cheated on you you disease ridden c-word. Who would actually want your pig a-word?! I hope you die in that hospital."

That was only one of about thirty texts he had sent. Long story short, they got more threatening. Ended in a permanent restraining order after he kept driving by my dad's house pointing his finger like it was a gun every time he saw someone in my family.

Still ended happily for though. He's now in his mid-40s and living with his mommy and I ended up testifying in another restraining order case brought by another woman who found my order and her lawyer called me. That order was granted too and I'm actually still friends with that woman. I'm eleven years married to a man who treats me so respectfully that the first six months I dated him I thought he had to be playing me somehow. Nope. He's just a decent human being and partner. Apparently I wasn't used to that. Health still isn't great but at least I have someone actually willing to be supportive and take care of me when issues arise.

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He told me I'm nothing without him, he said he was going to commit suicide to try and get me back.

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My ex-wife about a few years after I divorced her and went through an very contentious divorce process stated she was so disappointed/angry that she could have had me arrested. She stated she knew purposely that she was blocking my exit from even leaving the toilet room in our bathroom, or forcing me to use the back door to get to my car, or even taking the remote for the garage door when i would leave for work. She told me she wanted me to just touch her so she could have me arrested, and take everything from me, especially all three of our kids. I never touched her when she would start arguments and did what my lawyer told me to do, just leave the house and stay at my parents' near by second home. My ex even stated this in front of our eldest child's therapist in a parent/counselor check in meeting.

Plus she was so narcistic that she tried to make me pay more then the state would allow by knowingly filing a false lease from a friend she rented from (through never paid rent it was later found out) with over stated rent values. Well five years later, our eldest finally grew up and unfortunately sees their mother for the type of person their mother is, and just moved in to my house full time. The other two younger kiddos are also asking to move into my house full time (technically is 50/50) since they are not comfortable with mom. I just made sure the last five years i was the rock the kids needed and always there as a parent should be.

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I'm so very glad that you were what your children needed and focused on them. Don't forget to take care of yourself too so you can continue to be what they need. It's very sad that she's pushing her children away. Sending thoughts of strength and courage to you.

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He tried to spread lies that I was a p*dophile and posted revenge porn of me with a summary of how I liked young boys.

This, this from the 30 year old that went on and on abput how he wanted to "deflower" a virgin, forced me to dress up as a schoolgirl as much as possible, previously had *been* with a younger girl and stole underwear from lost and founds so he could do nasty things with them (trust me... nasty).

I was young myself (21), had moved out to be with him, had a mental illness and couldn't support myself. Luckily I got away after several years and what I know now was at least one rape, but it took 3 or 4 years.

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Wtf I would have slapped the poop out of that guy

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“You’re not my girlfriend anymore so I can finally beat the s**t out of you.” I was young and dumb, he was an emotional and sexual abuser. That was the last straw and I finally left him for good after that.

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I am so glad you got out.

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When I was 17, I dumped my physically / emotionally abusive BF of 2 years (+ added a restraining order)... and he wouldn't quit calling... around 50 times a day... for about 4 or 5 months (obviously, I never picked up).

Eventually, it would only happen when he seemed to be really drunk and - of course - there would be some nasty voice message when I didn't answer... many of which were some version of "I'll f*****g kill you b***h."

On one such night, I received another one of these voice messages when my new boyfriend happened to be around to hear it. Shortly afterward, my boyfriend and I were on our way to somewhere and had to drive past my ex's house to get there (as he was only 2 miles or so away). My ex happened to be out in his driveway drinking when - unexpectedly - my new boyfriend slammed on the brakes, jumped out of the car, and ran toward my ex shouting "Are you the b***h-a*s m**********r who keeps threatening my girlfriend?" My new boyfriend was much larger and much more confident (he had grown up a bit rough and was a fairly seasoned fighter)... and - as a result - my ex merely ran into his house when confronted. (Funny how abusive men always always seem to shy away from physical altercations with people who aren't smaller than them, isn't it?).

Anyhow, we haven't heard from him since.

The "new boyfriend" is now my husband and best friend. We have been together for almost 19 years.

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Awww love the happy ending! So glad you ended up with the partner you deserve 😊

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man I'd regret recalling this, but here we go:
fyi i have a speech problem, mainly stuttering (improving tho) but it was rlly rlly bad last yr especially after lockdown. Sooo when things kinda broke of he said bullshits like 'your novel is a waste of time' 'we can date again once you learn how to speak English *wink emoji' this s**t lowkey hurt bc its not that i cant speak english properly i just have a speech problem that happens regardless of what language I speak. He harassed me way too f*****g much afterward, using his friend's accounts to send hateful messages and even to the extend of personal and school emails. He was a pathological liar and left me scarred for a long time. I'm all g now tho.

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What a douchebag. Glad you've come out of the other side, hopefully stronger

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"Were we even dating?"

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I actually almost said that to somebody...we were theoretically exclusive, proper gf/bf (his idea) but then he was so wishy-washy with everything, he'd ghost for days, sometimes a longer...turns out he was living with his ex/non-ex the whole time, i was just his exclusive, shameful secret. If i'd had more self-respect I'd have been gone at the first ghost. But, ya know ... codependency is a hell of a drug. 💩

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My ex stole my dog, then he would call me and tell me, "you're a f##king selfish b##ch and I'm going to beat her and then send her to the pound and they'll put her down". Then he would get her to bark and say, "how does it feel to know you're never going to hear that again?"

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That’s a sick sick person. This breaks my heart.

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Her last text message: "You're a joke. I'm going to destroy you...ruin your life like you did mine. Be afraid. VERY AFRAID. Your life won't end well for you. Goodbye. lol!"

I didn't know it at the time we were dating, but she became an addict, which only made her mental health conditions worse. The night I received this, she told her family she was coming to my place to kill herself in front of me. Woke up at 3am with 4 cops banging on my door trying to find her. They stopped her before she showed up carrying a large chef's knife.

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Wow, that sounds really scary. I'm glad they stopped her before she got to your house, that could have turned out very badly. I hope she got the help she needed and that you have support as well. That's a lot to go through. Gentle hugs.

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Not exactly something she said to me, so if it doesn't qualify, feel free to delete or downvote.

I had a relationship with a girl in the USA, but we were both Italian. She returned to italy at some point and I made it clear that our relationship was over.

It was never that much "on" for me. In fact, we wouldn’t have had a relationship at all if I had more of a spine at the time, but I was young and foolish and more concerned about her feelings than mine.
She was also a bit stalky and she was always popping up at the same places I was.
At the time I didn't think it weird as all the Italians congregated at a few specific places, but she always managed to find me regardless of where I was staying at any given time or where I went.

Once she was back in Italy, I get a call from my mother, upset that I got engaged and I never told them.

She actually went to my parent's house, a good 300Km from her home, barged in and told them she was my fiancée and we had decided to get married as soon as she graduated college.

At that time international phone calls were expensive and I didn't have a phone they could call me at because I was moving around quite a bit, so she was able to stay at my parent's house for quite a few days before I could clarify the situation.

It was a nightmare. My parents didn't know what to make of it. She was in their house telling them fantastical stories of our romance and our future plans, while all I could contribute to the discussion were intermittent, staticky denials at $5 a minute (I don't remember the actual cost, but it was expensive).

She had pretty much our entire lives planned, with a job in her father's company, a house on her parents property and the two of us married with kids.

I hate to think what she told her own parents and I probably didn't have a good reputation with them after I finally managed to convince her to go back home and stop harassing my parents.

For a while I was afraid to go back to Italy, lest I'd find her at the airport waiting for me.

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Hope you made it back to Italy safely and happily after all!

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He said a *lot* of things to me after I ended it, even that he wish I died, but the one that hurt the most was after our last big argument when I said I was breaking things off

"Finally"

As if he was just waiting for me to hate him enough to turn away

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Wow, I'm glad it broke off before he could continue to hurt you, and I hope it's getting easier and easier to detach from the hurt of those words 🙏🏻

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After I broke up with him he tried to kill himself and blamed it on me. Said I was a terrible person that doesn't have emotions(I do, just sometimes I don't show them) and then somehow got his little friend group and some of the mutual friend group we shared to believe that I sexually assaulted him when he tried to do that to me. He also said that I'm worthless and that he's right in trying to get with another girl almost as soon as I broke up with him. I really hate him, and I'm so glad I moved away. Sorry that it's a bit long and not as good (bad?) as the others.

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It's bad enough. He was still unkind, manipulative, etc and your experience sounds pretty traumatic anyway. You definitely deserve/ed better!

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Ex-broke up with me for a fraternity brother of mine Senior year in college. Probably cheated on me with him but I’ll never know nor do I care. I started dating someone else, who she knew. Ex started asking my fraternity brothers about the new girl. That’s when I lost it. At an internal but formal seniors graduating event, I handed down to my fraternity brother the chair on which me and the ex last had sex on in the locker-room style shower of the fraternity house…which was already a notable event because it took place the day after finals the semester before when we had mistakenly thought the house was empty and we were both quite loud. 2 hours after the fraternity event, I get a call from the fraternity brother which I didn’t answer. 30 minutes later was the ex, which I did. She was barking up a storm about how that I was ruining her image, that I was destroying her good memories…blah blah blah. I didn’t say a word but laughed so hard and hung up the phone. Last I ever heard from her…I married the woman I had started dating and she gets a kick out of the story every time.

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Years after my divorce, my ex-wife told me I was never a bad husband and was a very caring and attentive father.

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I'm so sorry...my ex wife did the same (telling a mutual friend). She cheated on me with my best friend and said I didn't deserve the pain she put me through because I was a good man. I think that hurt me just as much.

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He said that his "professional help" said that it wasn't healthy for me to go no contact, and that is a flaw of mine. I reminded him that #1 I made it clear that I had no desire to get back together, and #2 his IMAGINARY therapist told him the exact opposite of what a therapist would say.

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My ex's therapist actually told her that I was no good for her and she should end our relationship. Looking back I wish she had ended it then because I wouldn't have had to deal with her drunken antics nor would I have got into so much debt, because of her drinking. The final straw was being cheated on. I still wonder what she said to that therapist, call it morbid curiosity.

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Well, there was the time that I got home after him trying to force himself on me for a “one last time” to have my five year old announce that according to Daddy my name is actually “F**king, lying b***h”.

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Mine called me an evil adulteress to our 8 y/o daughter.

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They didn't say it to me, but they tried to convince the entire school that I was racist...

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I can one up this, my ex husband who is French and Polish called me the N-word because I wouldn't take him back. The outcome? Kicked him so hard that I broke three of his ribs. Neeeever spoke to me again happened 20yrs ago.

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They broke up with me, but they wouldn’t stop misgendering me and they called my brother a p*do. My brother just dated someone two years younger than them, that was the whole excuse. I was trying to stay friends with them but my brother comes before anyone else. Now I have a wonderful partner. :3

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Who are they, them? I am confused.

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He called me an ungrateful slvtty b!tch. I haven’t even looked in his direction since

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"dumb, slvtty c**t" He was a raging alcoholic, living in a bedbug-filled basement, with a job from me because of previous felonies. (No offense against felons... sometimes things happen.) Said this in front of my mom. to be fair, he reached out years later to apologize, but I very politely declined.

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FU, F your Mom and BS cancer. I hope she dies.

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I hope you and your mom are doing okay, wherever you both are 🙏🏻

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So, she cheated on me, not only hit on my best friend five minutes later, but also said “You’re a fat f@ggot and I hope you die” She was…not the best.

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WOAH what a foul thing for her to say!! "Not the best" - far from it, sounds like

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We can still be friends.

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