Bored Panda works better on our iPhone app
Continue in app Continue in browser

Add post form topAdd Post
Tooltip close

The Bored Panda iOS app is live! Fight boredom with iPhones and iPads here.

Guy Ghosts Girlfriend For 3 Years, Reappears Like Nothing Happened Once She Has A House
3.3K

Guy Ghosts Girlfriend For 3 Years, Reappears Like Nothing Happened Once She Has A House

ADVERTISEMENT

Breakups suck. Especially when someone disappears without a trace. But you know what can equally disturb you? Them coming back.

A woman who goes on Reddit by the nickname Lrhun just submitted a story to the platform’s community ‘Entitled People‘ that illustrates just how demanding these situations can be.

After she and her best friend bought a house together, her bestie’s ex suddenly ended the three-year-old radio silence and contacted her, saying they were somehow still together and making claims on the property.

RELATED:

    One thirty-year-old has just been contacted by her ex who she hasn’t heard from in years

    Image credits: cottonbro studio (not the actual photo)

    And the guy is obsessed with the idea that they’re still a couple

    ADVERTISEMENT

    Image credits: Aliaksei Lepik (not the actual photo)

    ADVERTISEMENT

    Image credits: KoolShooters (not the actual photo)

    ADVERTISEMENT

    After the story went viral, its author released an update on the situation

    Image credits: Karolina Grabowska (not the actual photo)

    ADVERTISEMENT

    Image credits: cottonbro studio (not the actual photo)

    Image credits: lrhun

    Even if neither of them is a bona fide “nutcase,” exes getting back together often isn’t a good idea

    “People often return to their previous romantic partners,” says social psychologist and professor of psychology at Loyola University Maryland, Theresa E. DiDonato, Ph.D.

    “They might get back together after a few months of separation, but other times, partners move on and live completely separate lives for years before finding a way back to each other.”

    In fact, according to some estimates, as much as 40-50 percent of people have reunited with an ex to start a new relationship.

    ADVERTISEMENT

    (Former) couples give themselves another chance for a variety of reasons, but the main one is lingering feelings. “Love, it seems, doesn’t stop when a breakup happens, and it can spur people to get back together,” DiDonato explains.

    Other causes usually are:

    • Familiarity;
    • Companionship;
    • Insight;
    • The ex is still better than other partners;
    • Regret;
    • For the ex’s sake.

    However, even if neither of them is a well-established “nutcase,” their future looks hazy, to say the least.

    “Concerns about reuniting with an ex-partner have some basis in research,” DiDonato adds. “Evidence suggests that on-again relationships are qualitatively different from only-on relationships.”

    Compared to relationships that have never experienced a breakup, on-again partners tend to report:

    • lower satisfaction;
    • less felt validation;
    • less love;
    • lower sexual satisfaction;
    • less need fulfillment.

    Image credits: Ron Lach (not the actual photo)

    People have had plenty of different reactions to this whole ordeal

    ADVERTISEMENT
    ADVERTISEMENT
    Share on Facebook
    Rokas Laurinavičius

    Rokas Laurinavičius

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Read more »

    Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

    Read less »
    Rokas Laurinavičius

    Rokas Laurinavičius

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

    Gabija Saveiskyte

    Gabija Saveiskyte

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    Read more »

    Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

    Read less »

    Gabija Saveiskyte

    Gabija Saveiskyte

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

    What do you think ?
    Add photo comments
    POST
    Marcellus II
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder who would hear "They're evil lesbian satanists, and I demand to move in with them" and go "yes, the second follows logically from the first, of course you're dating at least one of them"?

    Mike Fitzpatrick
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ..."evil lesbian satanists", if it was me, I wouldn't want to poke that bear. Might make the goods shrink up and fall off! 😂😂

    Load More Replies...
    Lama
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah... I find this one incredibly hard to believe. But it's a cute story about friendship I guess. Would totally move in with my best friend and be all Grace and Frankie :D

    Fun Fan
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Than you have a lucky life. I think, it's a cultural thing, since OPmentioned Latin America. In some remote parts of Larin America, men can be really so entitled and delusional, as described. Moving to US, doesn't change their mommy's-precious-little.boy attitude, resulting in creepy manchildren.

    Load More Replies...
    Ghostsauce
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've slept with someone once, and I'd like to know how long it would take to kick him out of his own house. Also, how many times can I do this? Because I've never specifically said I've stopped seeing them AND I've also used a fair amounts of their bathrooms. Help?

    Ghostsauce
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t know if you’d read this, but I just realized my username was Ghostsauce but it’s after the actual, incredible, incomparable ghost pepper. Though I ghost people like most people, that’s way too spicy for me.

    Load More Replies...
    Load More Comments
    Marcellus II
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder who would hear "They're evil lesbian satanists, and I demand to move in with them" and go "yes, the second follows logically from the first, of course you're dating at least one of them"?

    Mike Fitzpatrick
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ..."evil lesbian satanists", if it was me, I wouldn't want to poke that bear. Might make the goods shrink up and fall off! 😂😂

    Load More Replies...
    Lama
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah... I find this one incredibly hard to believe. But it's a cute story about friendship I guess. Would totally move in with my best friend and be all Grace and Frankie :D

    Fun Fan
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Than you have a lucky life. I think, it's a cultural thing, since OPmentioned Latin America. In some remote parts of Larin America, men can be really so entitled and delusional, as described. Moving to US, doesn't change their mommy's-precious-little.boy attitude, resulting in creepy manchildren.

    Load More Replies...
    Ghostsauce
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've slept with someone once, and I'd like to know how long it would take to kick him out of his own house. Also, how many times can I do this? Because I've never specifically said I've stopped seeing them AND I've also used a fair amounts of their bathrooms. Help?

    Ghostsauce
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t know if you’d read this, but I just realized my username was Ghostsauce but it’s after the actual, incredible, incomparable ghost pepper. Though I ghost people like most people, that’s way too spicy for me.

    Load More Replies...
    Load More Comments
    You May Like
    Related on Bored Panda
    Related on Bored Panda
    Trending on Bored Panda
    Also on Bored Panda