Reddit user u/BlueVariety was having dinner with her fiancé, his mom, and his little sister. Everything seemed fine, but the conversation took an unexpected turn.

The guy started “mansplaining” periods and birth control even though he obviously didn’t fully understand what he was talking about and put the entire table in an awkward situation.

u/BlueVariety couldn’t sit still and confronted him, but after everything was said and done, she started having doubts about how she handled the situation, so she turned to the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk]?’ to ask what they thought about the whole ordeal.

This family was having a nice dinner at a restaurant, but the guy started teaching his sister about menstruation

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And he clearly didn’t know what he was talking about

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According to Merriam-Webster, mansplaining is the act of explaining something to a woman in a condescending way that assumes she has no knowledge about the topic.

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Author Kim Goodwin thinks that the “-splaining” part comes down to three factors:

• Does the person want an explanation? Unsolicited explanations may be fine (within reason) if you’re, for example, someone’s teacher or manager, but explaining after they’ve declined your help is almost always disrespectful, and a normal conversation is a good place to start building the habit of consent.
• Are you making bad assumptions about competence? Explaining things to knowledgeable people isn’t just a waste of time. Regardless of your intentions, you may undermine them by implying you don’t trust their competence or intelligence. Plus, you run the risk of undermining yourself by looking like you have an inflated opinion of your own knowledge.
• How does bias affect your interpretation of the above? We are taught gender bias in behavior and communication from an early age, with boys and girls often being criticized and praised for different behaviors in school. We like to think we treat people fairly, but men often assume women are less competent, and white people are likely to assume darker skin equals lower intelligence.

When it comes to women’s bodies, men generally aren’t the best experts on the subject

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A 2019 YouGov survey reveals a widespread lack of anatomical knowledge about female genitalia.

Respondents were shown a diagram of that part of the body and were asked to label it to the best of their abilities. The researchers accepted misspelled but obviously correct answers, and even euphemistic or descriptive responses when appropriate (e.g. ‘wee hole’ for urethra or ‘lips’ for labia).

Even so, half of the people surveyed could not identify or describe the function of the urethra (58%), labia (47%), or vagina (52%).

The men did worse, but breaking those results down by gender, we see that women could refresh their knowledge too. While six in ten men (59%) could not even label the vagina, about half of women (45%) weren’t able to do it either. Slightly more didn’t know what the urethra was (61% of men and 55% of women), and around half of both genders failed to label the labia (52% of men and 43% of women).

YouGov also asked a more practical question: whether it’s necessary to take out a tampon to urinate.

Respondents had to choose which statement they thought was true in regards to whether a tampon: “used to soak up blood during a period” and “interferes with urination.”

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Six in ten men (57%) and eight in ten women (82%) correctly identified that a tampon does not interfere with how someone urinates (because the blood comes from a different hole), but a total of one in five women (18%) agreed with statements saying the tampon would need to be replaced, though none of the given statements were true, or said they did not know. This total rises to 43% of men.

So it sounds like a lot of us should open up a biology book before giving any lectures.

After the story went viral, the original poster (OP) answered a few questions

And people shared their take on the situation

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