Long term vegetarian here. What other people eat is none of my business. But at the same time, they don't get to make comments on what I eat. I wouldn't kiss someone who just ate a meaty burger though.

He should have suggested a vegan restaurant if he really couldn't stand her choosing a meat option.

NTA. I'm also of the opinion that if you date a vegan, you should order and eat meat in front of them, very early in the relationship. Not to be mean, but to test your compatibility. If they're going to expect to control your diet, and you don't intend to let them, best to get the boundries established before either of you is emotionally invested in the relationship.

NTA. He has no right to judge your choice of food, and if he can't put up with people making food choices he doesn't agree with around him, that must be a hassle to eat at restaurants. My wife has gone through various diets pescatarian/Vegan/currently vegetarian, while I have remained an omnivore the whole time, but I do enjoy meatless meals mixed in too, it can work, but not with his current mindset.

Another vegan psycho wanting to control what other people eat. He might have chosen a vegan restaurant and he should restrict his dating pool to hardcore vegans.

I can’t eat gluten or I get sick. My husband has no such dietary restriction. I absolutely do NOT expect him to forego bread and cake just because I can’t share it with him, ffs. He also doesn’t try to make me eat anything with gluten in it because it’s more convenient, because guess who it was who held my hair back while I was sick as a dog outing my guts out before we found out gluten was the culprit? Yeah, that really got the message through to him. When we go out for a meal, I just pick out what I can eat and let him eat what he wants. At home we have some gluten free items for shared food that he swears taste just like the ones with gluten, and we make meals that include them in the ingredients. An example is gluten free cream of mushroom soup that I use as a base for casseroles and crockpot meals. No difference in taste or consistency from the version with gluten. Anything else that really tastes different has two versions made. A good example is turkey stuffing, as the gluten free version is definitely not the same as his favorite Stove Top. Gluten free breads have an annoying tendency to be really crumbly, and my stuffing might taste good, but it definitely doesn’t hold together like his. So we make smaller amounts of both. If we didn’t compromise on this, we wouldn’t still be together after almost 24 years. So this guy trying to guilt trip OP for eating meat on a date with him is never going to have a successful relationship with anyone—-except maybe another militant vegan control freak like himself—-if he can’t learn to compromise, and let people have their choice instead of forcing them to change. No one is going to put up with that horseshit for long, especially if he keeps springing new pieces of rather important information like that on them at inconvenient times. Not to mention he seems to expect everyone else to read his f*****g mind and “just know” what’s rolling around in there. Anyone who is like that is going to have a very unhappy life, because people are NOT mind readers and will not put up with that horseshit for long either. OP is well out of it.

I would say she is NTA because if he uncomfortable seeing someone eat meat in front of him then he should only be dating vegans. It all depends on his reason for being vegan -if it's for health then sure date a non vegan. If it's for moral reasons then why the heck would you even consider dating a nonvegan? They don't share your beliefs and it's wrong to expect another person to change their beliefs for you. Sounds more to me like he is entitled, thinking whatever women he dates have to be submissive to his wants always.

Lets just reverse the headline from the main page... "Woman Orders Vegan Burger On A Date With A Meat Eater, Gets Labeled “Tactless”". OK?

Unless a sensitive allergy is involved, I am going to eat what I want in front of others. If they do politely ask otherwise, I might be game on going with it, though.

F**k all of the YTAs, ESPECIALLY the one who said she "made" him pay for meat. Bahahahahahahahaha... no.

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OP dodged a bullet. He can date vegans from now on.

Why is it "senseless" for me not to base my food on my date's diet? Why am I expected to respect their diet by eating what they eat, but they don't do the same for me?

When someone tells you they're a Vegan, ask them if they hit the casinos much.

She should have ordered a rare steak and slowly eaten it while staring him in the eyes.

Here shows he is one of those bloody vegans so up their own a**e. , I’d be telling hi, to do one sorry no one tells me what I can and can’t eat no way in hell I don’t like processed foods and I won’t cook any lol. It I don’t stop my kids eating it long as they buy it now they working I’m a home cook from scratch he had no right what to ever to be so mean about it vegan food is vile and tasteless lol and last time I looked we are human not rabbits that said his choice to be one and that does not give him the right to force it on her or make her not eat meat n I would be the one eating a lovey blue steak lol cos that’s my choice n it’s allowed ! NTA And I assume all the yea idiots are also vegans lol

It very much depends on what he said during "explained his convictions, etc." Weird that zero details are shared for that part. That could mean just about anything. If, for example, he mentioned how the smell of cooked meat, or seeing bloody runoff repulses and disgusts him -- yeah, that might seem a bit dramatic in-your-face to chow down on a juicy burger not long after hearing that. Without know what he said during "his convinctions, etc" we don't have context for his reaction.

If you were with an asian person who regularly ate dog meat. You explained that you didn't like it, even tho it was their traditional food. Would you be offended if they ate it whilst dining together?

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ESH - him for deciding she was a b***h for eating the burger and disrespecting him, and her for eating a juicy burger right after a conversation about it. Vegans need to remember that they don't get to tell everyone else what to eat. Same way carnies need to stop lumping on the vegans. This world has lost mutual respect. Chalk it up to experience and move on.